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    | Jul 08, 2020
LittleMissSTFU   Woman 29yrs
It's been a while since been on the forums ❤️

Anyway... ANAL! Let's talk about Anal!

So I've recently been interested in anal... if you had told me a year ago i would end up considering getting pounded by the back door I would of told you, you were crazy!

But...recently.. I've been curious! What makes anal so good? So far I've tried a small anal plug during sex with my current partner and to say it was a sensory overload is an understatement.

I'm not ready for anything further than the above. How do I prepare myself to go further?

back story: My first time doing anal was when I was 19 with a different partner and it was horrible, so I believe I may have a psychological block from allowing me to move forward?
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Rlee552   Man 44yrs

Welcome to the first post in the new format. Anal is one of those amazing sensations when done right is incredibly powerful. When done wrong though ... eek. It is one where particularly if new to it - slow is best, and with lube which is more than I have used a little saliva.

The other part of it is mental. As you mentioned you had a bad experience and that took some time to get over. If you don’t have the right mindset you won’t relax into it. Porn hasn’t helped in that regard portraying it as either something you go to extremes or something where there is joy in causing pain.

Final point. At some stage as well you also may want to experience DP with people you really trust. Enjoy the new journey.
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KissesAndCream   Woman 31yrs

I think its so good because its very primal.

I personally find plugs dont help me get ready.

I have a pink dildo that helps. Lots of lube too. I will lie around with it in for a good 20min to half an hour playing with it in my butt.

Then im very ready!

If you are trying to find an anal position that isnt too deep, you might find it easiest to be on all fours in doggy. Then once hes in, slowly lie down on your front.

Happy butt play! X

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SpicyKale  

Couple Man 46yrs Woman 40yrs

Preparation is the key! Buy yourself an anal douche, 500ml works great, any more and you're into enema territory. Get used to it by yourself before you do some self loving, rinse, repeat, body temp water, nothing else required. If you can get over the yuk factor, the prep alone feels awesome. If you're trying to push things back up there it's going to be uncomfortable, maybe painful, so prep first.

Try different toys, glass and stainless ones come to body temp and the extra weight works a treat, try stepping up a size at a time. Massaging, even a general massage helps relax everything. Get your partner to start with one finger first, take your time, then take some more time and step up to two. Remember what you're trying to push through is effectively a muscle, so the more relaxed it is the easier things are going to be. Oh and cut your nails and lots of lube! Clenching contracts the muscle, pushing does the opposite, play around with toys by yourself and find what feels comfortable for you!

Get to know what feels good when you're alone to get comfortable and maybe then go to pound town with your significant other😊 If it hurts, stop and try again another time, it's not something to push through. Never use numbing lube, you want to feel what's happening, if it's hurting you want to know about it! Have fun!
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FiestyFatty  

Woman 40yrs

Following for an update AA (After Anal)😋
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SpicyKale  

Couple Man 46yrs Woman 40yrs

@FiestyFatty Planning an AA support group for the traumatised FF? 😳
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FiestyFatty  

Woman 40yrs

@Spicy.... there's only 2 ways this path can go...... pleasure OR pain...... at least with these AA Meetings, you can grab a few beers afterwards and make some bad decisions 🤣
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teamaj2  

Couple Man 39yrs Woman 58yrs

Spicy kale
Are you a sex therapist ?? Wise words . I’ve no more to add .
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curiousnhorny05   Couple Man 38yrs Woman 40yrs

take your time and go slow

at first for me it was a total no go zone. Then after over a decade of marriage we run out of things to try. Take your time, plenty of lube. It is a pretty amazing experience. Always best with people you trust that little bit more. You can't get too much lube. Using a butt plug beforehand can help get things prepared beforehand. Best of luck and enjoy.
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SpicyKale  

Couple Man 46yrs Woman 40yrs

@teamaj2 lol 😂 let's just say there was quite a bit of trial and error involved in coming up with that!
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LittleMissSTFU   Woman 29yrs

No AA just yet! I'll explore myself as suggested first :) I dodge the parts in porn with anal as it's off putting 😂 definitely psychological 100 percent
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SpicyKale  

Couple Man 46yrs Woman 40yrs

@LittleMissSTFU AA still counts for toys if you ask me! Definitely do it at your own pace, you'll work out what works for you and hopefully have some fun along the way. Don't stress if you don't enjoy it either, it's still a hard no on this end for Mrs Spicy and on the other hand I've managed to break one of her vibrators 🤷🏻‍♂️ She makes me buy my own sex toys these days 😂Different strokes....
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zzzyyyxxx  

Couple Man 51yrs Woman 47yrs

yes

regular practitioners here, both love it. adds whole new dimension to relationship. lots of lube & go slow lol
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verago250  

Man 60yrs

anal

Question please . I know for guys the prostate is just inside but what is it for ladies ? Is it all mental ? please be nice I just want to educate myself . Thank you
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wildcrazyloving   Woman 35yrs

Small vibrating booty toys can be great intro to anal- Use it simultaneously while ridding him.

'Cowgirl' position allows female to control depth and tempo.

As per vaginal sex, alot of females require clitoral stimulation with fingers or toys to orgasm with anal.

Personally I prefer not to douche, I prepare by maintaining a healthy diet.

Black coloured condoms and keeping a box of tissues close by for quick clean up can reduce the stress of mess- If there is any.
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sweetnyorkshire   Couple Man 36yrs Woman 30yrs

I found it easier with butt plugs with increasing sizes

The first experience I had was really painful even though my partner was very slow with lots of lube. Because I've literately never inserted anything in that area , it was too much challenge having a full size cock in my ass.
He bought a butt plug set with 3 sizes and I started to practice with fingering before putting the butt plug in. I realised the more horny I am the more I can relax the anus. Try to get really horny and relax your ass when trying to put anything in. Keep playing your clit if it makes you feel relax. LOTS OF LUBE! All the time. And now I really enjoy anal!
Hope it helps you and you can enjoy it too :)
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gdevil   Man 54yrs

Can anyone auto anal
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GCKinkk   Group 30yrs

I have nothing but good things to say about anal but I love the initial pain as it stretches around a big thick cock and then the intense pleasure that follows with orgasm after orgasm...
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SpicyKale  

Couple Man 46yrs Woman 40yrs

@GoldCoastKink So true! When I was saying stop off it hurts, I didn't mean that initial twang, you'll always get that..... I'm so with you there though, it's one of those awesome moments, either with a partner or solo😉
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like2watchNplay  

Couple Man 50yrs Woman 44yrs

One of the products my wife sells in her business is an anal cream that helps to relax the muscles, works extremely well... 😉
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SpicyKale  

Couple Man 46yrs Woman 40yrs

@SpicyKale *if

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