Ladies: Do Validations Actually Affect Your Impression?

Ladies: Do Validations Actually Affect Your Impression?

    | Jun 20, 2019
Enmorian   Man 36yrs
(Ok, so there's 9853 topics that have been raised just in this forum, so probably a good chance this has been asked before, so apologies in advance...)

So this topic is directed at the ladies, as I feel fairly confident that the vast majority of guys struggle to read past line 1 of people's profiles, let alone actually delving into the supporting materials...

Recently I got an offer from a lovely friend to write me a Validation here (yeah, sweet backdoor brag dickhead), and it got me thinking: Do these actually impact people's (ladies) impression of someone such that it could turn a nil or negative response into actually instead thinking "yeah fuck it I might actually meet this person"?

In short, has a Validation ever actually induced you to reply/meet up with someone - and if so, why do you think that was? If not, why not?
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Kokoflamingo   Woman 56yrs

Yes




When I first started on here, many moons ago, they put me off a bit. But they were mostly the ones talking about his thick meaty cock and how many times it made her squirt before she flew off the bed into the sunset. Now I do read someones validations as a lot are more about the guys character which is good to know. And yes, Ive met someone because he had nice validations.
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DynamicCouple36   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 40yrs

Yes

They are like notches on a bed post . Instant turn off
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Enmorian   Man 36yrs

what a line

"how many times it made her squirt before she flew off the bed into the sunset."


hahahahaha holy shit that's genius.
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Enmorian   Man 36yrs

yeah i can see that




Quoting 'DynamicCouple36'

Yes

They are like notches on a bed post . Instant turn off
yeah totally valid call. interesting.
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Eiliethiya   Woman 41yrs

...

A heap of validations about how great you are in bed...definitely a turn off. That gives me the impression you're just fucking your way though as many women as possible, and then bragging about it (or they are on your behalf) 😂
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Freaky_Fun   Woman 49yrs

Bahahaha Koko 😂😂
Shouldn't have read that on the train.

I was the same at first l was like wtaf but now not so much. Although , if there's 50 made me squirt, great cock, best I've ever had etc then l will generally swipe left.

I have 9 validations between here and my couples profile. I have only played with two of those validators.
As an event planner people like to know I'm real and it's nice to know people think I'm a decent human.

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SuperFoxxxy   Woman 47yrs

Hilarious how people just assume you've slept with people who have written validations

I have received emails (just recently from a couple), wanting informatiin about validations people have written me and I have written them, wanting to know about details etc. I am not a pimp nor is that information up for discussion. I must admit I do have a giggle at their assumptions, which to me is a red flag. Yes, like Koko, I have met people who have had nice character validations rather than those who make a woman squirt that they fly off the bed into the sunset. 😂

Ms Foxy
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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 56yrs

Depends

For me they validate that they are real and remove suspicion of fake profiles so yes it may help a decision to meet. Several are a turn off if they give TMI.


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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 56yrs

DC




Quoting 'DynamicCouple36'

Yes

They are like notches on a bed post . Instant turn off

This isn't the school committee.
I would have thought with your constant banging on about fake profiles, that a validation or 2 would assist in that regard.
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Readyfors0mefun   Couple Man 38yrs Woman 36yrs

As a bloke in a couple id say yes we do take validations into account.
I immediately cuts down the chances of dealing with the fake profiles.
If it's a single guy we're looking at for a bit of threesome fun and he has a couple of validations saying he has played with couples and was respectful of the couple ect it goes a long way.
It not a must but it's worked for us in our short time here.

What works best is a well written profile that catches our attention or a message the same instead of the generic crap we seem to read or get sent in messages.
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UsPlusUno   Couple Man 56yrs Woman 55yrs

Yes very much so...I enjoy reading validations.
Everyone on here is looking for their sexual compatibilities. It gives you an insight to the persons character. Also who this particular RHP member enjoys spending his or her time with in their validations & friends 🌸
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DynamicCouple36   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 40yrs

Annie

There is a difference between validation & verification. The latter is something that Admin does - they verify your profile by asking you to upload a coded selfie. Does verification make you a genuine profile ? We think it helps but of course the fakes still find ways to bypass this.

Validation is in essence “word of mouth”. Like restaurant reviews. One can get anyone to bad mouth ones competition, just as one can get anyone to write a good review.

The OP asked a question, they asked for an opinion. We gave ours. Most of the validation that we have seen are, in our opinion, advertisements of the sexual prowess of the person being validated. For us we find them off putting, an opinion that we are entitled to have. But then we prefer ones conquests and playmates to remain private. We don’t allow validations on our profile nor do we validate others that we have met / played with . We prefer to keep what happens in the bedroom, in the bedroom, as opposed to using it as “advertising “ material to attract playmates. Not all validations boast of sexual prowess, but many do.

Is it off putting for us ? Yes

Are we entitled to feel this way ? Yes
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Enmorian   Man 36yrs

There are no wrong opinions here

Just to echo what 'DynamicCouple' have said - I'm just looking for some opinions here and some discussion on something I find a little... well, odd isn't the right word, but certainly something worth thinking about. Different people's experiences are all equally valid.

I certainly hadn't considered facets like party planning endorsements or 'notches on the bedpost' so it's already been educational :)
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Ms_silk   Woman 49yrs

Validations

With so many fake profiles or just keyboard warriors. I think validations go a long way to at least proving they are active users whom actually meet people. In saying that Foxy has given me a validation as we are friends. That doesn't mean u should assume I'm a notch on her bedpost. 😆
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windows_spent   Woman 34yrs

I see validations as an extension of safety in heavier kink - tacitly endorsing safe people vs those who can’t manage boundaries.

Verification certainly ensures some put a little effort in - even as a guest, is definitely a plus.
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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 56yrs

Dc

Thanks for explaining. Who would have thought.....

I give equal cred to validations and verification. Verification doesn't give any indication that they turn up and or perform. They are all tools that help. Easy enough to weed out the fakes and the timewasters by using all the tools and ones know how. To dismiss 1 of those tools as notches is a bit naive. The reason they are there is for that precise reason.

You'd certainly need all the ducks in a row to play with you 2. Gawd, imagine the chances of a non verified stud with several validations and having "If required" in the safe sex box.....

yeah it's ok.... let's not go down that track. We know...

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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 56yrs

Let's digress.....

Thinking over a red wine ( only one, so need to brace yourself....)lets say

couple A, has been with B,C,D,E,F,G,H,J,K,L,M,N,O,P,Q,R,S, and Z but had 0 validations.

Does that make them safer/more appealing than couple X who has been with B, C, D and M and has 2 validations?
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mango69er   Couple Man 52yrs Woman 62yrs

Saw a profile with 62 validations. To many one thinks
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thecatsmeowaus   Couple Man 35yrs Woman 31yrs

Validations are some what important to us. Actually means the profile has had some real life meet ups and the other party was willing to write them a validation. That goes a long way with us. Increases our preference to actually meet them.
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SuperFoxxxy   Woman 47yrs

Ms_silk

But wait! You do make a good accessory tied to a bedpost, as well as an adorable inclusion to any bedroom. 😁

Ms Foxt

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