Much needed advice

Much needed advice

    | Sep 16, 2019
bang4u  

Man 24yrs
Hey all, I have been an active member on RHP for a few months now and have a decent journey so far. On good days, I get number of flirts and messages from people; and on quite days, I don’t even get views on my profile. But I am sure a lot of people go through this and that’s not the point of discussion today. But what I wanna ask you guys out is that I get messages from people who either contact me or have been approached by me earlier and they seem to be very much interested. After giving them access to my pg and even get compliments from them, they tend to disappear for a few days and upon asking about it later on, I usually get the reply that ‘Sorry but you are not who we are looking for’. I have tried to put as much info out there in my profile description as I could including my background, my likings and everything. But every now and then, I get these replies and they make me think that either my profile is lacking something very important or the words I have used to provide info are not simple enough so that others can read and understand it. But what pisses me off is after getting positive feedback or reviews about my pics and all, I get such replies in the end.
What u guys think of it?

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HappyGoLucky70   Woman 49yrs

It's not you, it's them.
Lots of people are just photo collectors.
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justjess99   Woman 30yrs

It's definitely not you or your profile. As a lady on here I am picky about who I play with. But I've also had people disappear after messaging for a bit ofr when you're supposed to meet.
It's best not to take things to heart too much.
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MaenadandCentaur   Couple Man 41yrs Woman 40yrs

It has nothing to do with you.

We get lot of these “I don’t know what I want” or “I am too scared to act on my fantasies” crowd.
First ones are just indecisive and the latter cowards.

RHP looks like a Wild West of sex to many people and attracts all kinds of enthusiasts who feel like they are on a mission to live their own sexual revolution.

Then they start contacting people and the reality kicks in.
Do they really want to meet total strangers?
Probably not.
My suggestion is that give people reasonable time to respond to you once you share your albums, like 24 hours.
If they don’t respond they are not interested, block them and erase the messages.
Move on to next.
We decided to do this after bunch of couples who initially didn’t respond back to our messages to their messages, started to try booty calls on us, just out from shed16, had few drinks, scored nothing so they decided to try us.
Block and erase.
Yes we all get busy but someone who really wants to meet you will make time for you.
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The_Antichrist   Man 40yrs

I don’t really understand what you’re pissed off about...

You say you’ve had a reasonable journey so far, but you’re pissed off that you get rejected by some people but not all??

Is it me or do you think you might just need to suck it up and face the fact that no one can possibly be successful at EVERY interaction they engage in??

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sweetnsensual  

Couple Man 47yrs Woman 45yrs

Just because you have sent your pg people can change their mind. It happens to us as well. Like anti not sure what you are complaining about?
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FatFunFiesty  

Woman 39yrs

Just pic collectors. Its common. Simply dont share your intimate albums when requested. I only share mine if they haven't requested AND were planning to meet.
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OkeyDoke45   Man 49yrs

Confident, much?

I tend to agree with Antichrist, you come off as sounding a little entitled to me OP. You have a ''chiselled'' profile pic, you appear to have a fantastic body, your private galleries probably contain more of the same and you are still getting some disinterest. Welcome to the world OP, you are not everybody's cup of tea. There are some regulars on the forums here who are quite vocal in not liking supermodel-types, preferring dad bods and the like instead.

Some people might entertain the idea of you, thus approach or message you (or you them). They are allowed to consider your profile, your approach and responses and decide whether you are what they actually want. Surprise, surprise - some of them decide you aren't.


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usebi   Man 60yrs

Maybe

They just feel paled by your magnificence ?

Seriously though, most men here get nothing, no contact, no replies, the occasional view, that’s tough.

Be grateful for small mercies, your doing ok.
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Sawadee   Man 56yrs

Pardon ?

My advice is to enjoy whatever you have while you still have youth on your side ? We're not all everyones cup of tea.. Some women like muscles , some dont ? Just the way it is..
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TheQuiet1  

Man 46yrs

Maybe




It's the brag that put you in the top .01% of the male population.
Do you you back that up in your PG?
Forget about Linx you'll take down Rexona with that bad boy.
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bang4u  

Man 24yrs

Thanks everyone for your valuable feedback.
And to those who think that I shouldn’t be pissed off or can’t take the rejection, perhaps u should read the post carefully again. I never said that I want everyone to like me. But telling someone that they look amazing and interested and then suddenly stop responding for days and come up with that lame reply is not cool and appreciatable. Perhaps people should be a bit more careful and sensible before replying to other people’s texts and also before commenting on others’ posts here in forums.
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Dragon_Phoenix  

Couple Man 40yrs Woman 37yrs

My bad...

You’re not upset by rejection, you’re just upset at the fact someone changed their mind and informed you that you were no longer what they were seeking ....

Assuming of course they were actually the gender of which they advertised on their profile....

I should feel so ashamed of myself....my only wish is that I did 😘

Mr Dragon_phoenix
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OkeyDoke45   Man 49yrs

Amazingly and interestingly...

Sorry to say OP, but your reply just reinforces what I stated previously. People are just being honest with you by the sounds and yet you seem to think that because they have responded to you or approached you that it's a done deal. You do look amazing, at least from your main profile pic (I haven't checked your whole profile) and were I a woman and I received a message from you I would most likely be interested and I would most likely convey that to you via a message or a reply. I would still be under no obligation whatsoever to take it further than that though, which is definitely what you are implying (''telling someone that they look amazing and interested and then suddenly stop responding for days and come up with that lame reply is not cool and appreciable'').

Here's another option for you; they may like the look of you and express interest, but they may also be looking at others and interested also in them. After a few days they make their decision and that decision is not you. They advise you of such (or not) - and that really should be that. You still look amazing, they were indeed interested - but interest is not commitment.

Suppose you go looking to buy a car, you go to this dealer and you see a car you like. It may not be the best car for you, there could be better cars that are more suited elsewhere. You convey to the salesperson that you are interested but you will have to consider. After a few days you decide you don't want the car, you've picked another one you like better or whatever. The salesman rings you up and asks you if you decided, you tell them that actually the car you looked at is not really for you. Salesman gets shirty with you down the phone, saying things like ''but you said you were interested and you liked the car''. You respond that yes you were and yes you did - then but not now. Salesperson tells you that what you have done is ''not cool'' and ''not appreciated''. What would your reply be to that salesperson?


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newyboy70   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 49yrs

pic



People can make a decision based on a PIC. They are either interested or not. They may reply and say they like your PICS etc as a way of being polite. But do not want to take it further.
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FatFunFiesty  

Woman 39yrs

I've said "thanks, I enjoyed your pics" just to be polite. Id take it with a grain of salt amd not always think compliments are 100% genuine and heartfelt..... Your pics are fine... but let's be honest; no one here is a supermodel. Just be realistic and don't take this site too seriously.
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Evie666  

Woman 43yrs

I actually do that often. I see their main pics which may look attractive but then when they open their face pics I lose the attraction so then respond politely that I'm not interested in anything further.
For me personally I instantly think do I want to kiss that face of not? If it's a no then I move on.
Yes I judge a book by its cover initially because the reason I'm on here is for satisfaction not a relationship. Each to their own.
If the attraction is there then the banter begins :)
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LittleGiant   Couple Man 34yrs Woman 31yrs

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Quoting 'Evie666'

I actually do that often. I see their main pics which may look attractive but then when they open their face pics I lose the attraction so then respond politely that I'm not interested in anything further.

For me personally I instantly think do I want to kiss that face of not? If it's a no then I move on.

Yes I judge a book by its cover initially because the reason I'm on here is for satisfaction not a relationship. Each to their own.

If the attraction is there then the banter begins :)
Yep, guilty of this also. I have had people open their face pics and it kills the interest right away. If I'm not physically attracted to their face then that's that really.

Bang4u, it might sound harsh but they may be seeing your PGs and something in them isn't grabbing them. So they compliment you, then wait a little while before fading out, rather than doing it directly after (which is super obvious). It may also be as others have said - they're simply pic collectors and wanted to fantasise about a hot young thing wanting them, so once you gave them the tools to visualise it they were done.

I've been on here for longer than I care to admit as a single and couple and been ghosted many times, i've stopped trying to guess people's intentions/reasons. Just move on and try not give them a second though, it'll just give you a headache trying to make sense of it all.

Miss Little

xx
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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 55yrs

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Evie and LittleGiant summed it up.

After time you'll harden up a bit in here and not take things personally......or......as Okey exposed.....Maybe you could consider being a car salesman and crack it with peeps that loved your cars but bought elsewhere....
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bang4u  

Man 24yrs

Thanks everyone for sharing your views. I have definitely taken some useful notes from this post and will bring them into practice from now on.
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Dragon_Phoenix  

Couple Man 40yrs Woman 37yrs

Annie...

Lol I met a car salesman once that did get snippy at me for buying a car of similar nature somewhere else 😂😂

Mr dragon

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