New messages from men

New messages from men

    | Jul 26, 2019
awomanwithneeds   Woman 35yrs
Ladies, I get a lot of messages from men, and some go like this:
"Wanna Fuck?"
"Wanna hook up?"
"Here's my number, let's chat"
"You're exactly what I am looking for"

When you get a message from someone, what would you like to see?

Me personally, I'd love to get messages like "Hey, your gorgeous/beautiful. I really related to your profile, and I am also looking for one person to get to know their body and have some kinky fun with. I also live close by south of the river. Please have a look at my pics, I've opened up my gallery, I'd love to hear from you.. x"

Let's help the guys out here.



- Posted from rhpmobile
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horneycouplewa  

Couple Man 51yrs Woman 50yrs

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Somehow I think you'll be getting a lot of cut and pate messages exactly like that now :)
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horneycouplewa  

Couple Man 51yrs Woman 50yrs

Darn nails




paste :/
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usebi   Man 60yrs

Your Premium

Do you send that letter to guys you like ?
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softcpl

Fantastic reply,Guys copy and paste this one.
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britandtaiwan   Couple Man 35yrs Woman 25yrs

I was once a single guy on here

I can remember a number of times I took the time to write a long message taking into account the fondness I had for the profile I had just read and detailing my own likes, dislikes and intentions.

I'd say 19 times out of 20 my message would be read with no reply and in some cases I'd be blocked even though I always made sure the profile had "looking for men" and there was no line like "no single males allowed"

If you can imagine writing 20 letters and getting no response it's incredibly time consuming and demoralising!

As unfortunate as it sounds as a single male on here you have to play a numbers game, plant enough acorns and eventually you'll get an oak tree, I can understand why some guys write short messages especially those who are not familiar with the website and I can also Understand (because I've been there!) Why they get incredibly frustrated!

In an ideal world redhotpie should include an option so that couples can limit who can search for them to just other couples and single women but of course redhotpie would never do that!

It would mean that a single guy using the site would get a very small number of results from a search and it's very unlikely that they would pay for membership.

Redhotpie needs to keep that cash cow going by giving the single guys hope.
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Qefenta4   Woman 100yrs

If

Men are sending those sorts of messages then use it as part of your filtering system..A message like that surely communicates volumes.It tells you about their mindset .

Hugs Q
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awomanwithneeds   Woman 35yrs

Hmm good replies. I'll know if they cut and paste lol.
With references to replying to all 100 or so messages I get daily that's another can of worms and is being discussed on a different post.
I guess I'll just have to wait for the right one to come along.
Why do I think I'll be a bag of bones by the time that happens lol!
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MaenadandCentaur   Couple Man 41yrs Woman 40yrs

Never interfere an idiot when he acts like one

It’s not our job to teach people how to interact with others, if someone lacks simple manners the chances are, you’ll never be able to fix the actual problem; the character. You can teach them how to try and not look like an idiot by masquerading as somewhat decent person but that’s as far as it’ll go.
And then someone else will suffer because they thought the brute with no manners was a nice guy.

Leave them be.

We arese those messages, and if someone took the time to write a proper message we let them know whether we are interested or not.

People don’t change, at best they evolve but that has to come from them, not you.

Otherwise they’ll just copy paste your suggestions.
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usebi   Man 60yrs

What they said

Britandtaiwan nailed it.

I appreciate not replying to one liners or people who clearly haven’t read your profile, but when you do read a profile and address it’s needs and wants and politely discuss your own and how it could work and you still get ignored or blocked then .......

Fuck it !
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The_Antichrist   Man 40yrs

Those that need the advice, won’t be reading here....

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usebi   Man 60yrs

Bag of bones

Your premium, use it.

Or is the fear of rejection all a bit much ?

I can guarantee you will receive more consideration than men do. 😃
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Lover_Boytoy   Man 34yrs

Positive reinforcement

One way to encourage males to start writing polite message is to reply to all polite messages that you receive positively, and block the unpolite ones. Reply even if you are not interested. This is a positive reinforcement, and men in general will start writing polite messages because they are the ones that get response.

Like mentioned above, I have written many polite messages that ended up being ignored, blocked, or rude reply. It can also be time consuming for us males, so sometimes- 'Hello, how are you? I like your profile' is just as good ice breakers than 2-3 paragraphs without receiving any response.
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Mask_007   Man 43yrs

I do agree with MaenadandCentaur up to a extent. And also believe that people have too much eyes for the looks and forget about personality/character.

I also understand how can extremely frustrating spending long time writing something and not even have the dignity of " no thank you, not interested " is just a block of and end of history.

Me in particular, don't care. Is not my lost, they lost a opportunity to meet someone really nice(me).
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awomanwithneeds   Woman 35yrs

Lol well as I'm still on here, I can't say I agree, in retrospect yes I receive a lot of messages, but almost all of them are one of the lines in the OP, either that or no offence intended but they are from men who are old enough to be my Dad (and and could well be my Dad 😮) or they are couples.

I guess you are right those men either won't read this or will just pretend to be someone I'm looking for.

And yes I fear rejection of course I think we all do. The first person I shared my face pictures with ghosted me so I am by no means an Aphrodite.
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britandtaiwan   Couple Man 35yrs Woman 25yrs

I could show you a list

From all the women who have messaged me on sites like tinder and bumble and 99% of the women have opened with "hi how are you?" Or something to those words, It's not a phenomenon exclusive to just single men in fact quite a few couples who message us have a similar opener but its men who tend to get criticized as being uncreative.

Let's be fair to everyone, it's difficult to make small talk with someone who you only know from a brief bio, have never met and are trying to be polite to when there's an underlying desire to at some point have sex with them.
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awomanwithneeds   Woman 35yrs

Mr Norti!!!
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SuperFoxxxy   Woman 47yrs

If i got a message like that

Nah, move onto the next one. It is too generic, same ol same ol, cut sand paste. If in a first message there's pet names like "hey, beautiful" "sexy" etc it turns me off. I have a name, use it.

Give me some spunk out of the box creative messages. Lately I have been receiving a few of them. I'm liking it.

Ms Foxy
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MaenadandCentaur   Couple Man 41yrs Woman 40yrs

awomanwithneeds

“I guess I'll just have to wait for the right one to come along.”

Waiting may not be the right course of action...
Some aggression is actually useful when it comes to these things.

I always considered myself to be a confident, dominant male who was always the one that made the first moves, until I met my other half. She contacted me first, gave me very little to go with, limited info, few photos and she was not talkative much. Then I got a date with her as she asked me out after few messages, and it pretty much took one date for her to get me under her spell. At second date I was hers : )
Fast forward a year after that we are living together and planning a family. I can’t think living the rest of my life without her.
But she followed her gut instinct when she came across me and she was not wrong.
Women are gifted with kind of intuition us men do not possess, if you recognize what you seek in someone, you should go for it.

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Challenge123   Man 38yrs

interested

hi, where do you live
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usebi   Man 60yrs

Centaur

Nailed it yet again !

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