New to this and struggling

New to this and struggling

    | Dec 04, 2018
funguy30   Man 35yrs
New on this site I am a kind and nice guy I send out a lot of messages but To no replies is there something I am doing wrong or is my Profile week or something please help

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Xenaesque

its a numbers game and have a look at the competition you are up against

Im a PT and a gym instructor and love women and couples and i cant meet anyone so take a ticket and stand in line lol
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Freaky_Fun  

Woman 49yrs

That's untrue.
I replied.
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Terry3z5   Man 55yrs

Forum response

Yeah mate I don’t even send messages out just on here for the adult forums and places to go cunt of a site if you want meet someone I reckon just stay home and flog your cock you will get more satisfaction I think half are cock teasers or chicks with dicks I would hit them up for a refund it’s fucked
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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 55yrs

A popcorn moment.....

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smilin_assasin   Man 63yrs

New to this and struggling

Hey bro, this site is hit and miss. Don't expect anything from any woman on here. Depending on which side of the fucking bed she crawled out of depends on whether they are total bitches or not.

And then, omg if you hit them at the wrong time of the month, look out and duck for cover.

At least half the women on here don't want anything but a boost to their depleted ego's. I won't ever bother paying a membership fee again on this site. It's a waste of time and money. Fake profiles, and fake women are the norm
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DynamicCouple36  

Couple Man 49yrs Woman 41yrs

Perhaps

It is best that you carefully read through their profile wording ( instead of just “lookin at dem pwetty pictures”) making sure that you actually meet the criteria that they find atttactive / are looking for, before sending them an unsolicited message?

Also bear in mind that no one on here owes you anything. Not even the courtesy of a response.

And whilst this may be an adult dating / swingers sex site, this does not mean that the women on here are sluts who will jump into bed with every guy that messsges them. Not that the women in here enjoy receiving disrespectful, testosterone laden , dick pic filled messages.

There are some who feel entitled ( the 2 male responses to you post ,so far, are fine examples of this), who when they don’t get the instant gratification that they are expecting / demanding (for the $$ they have paid) then become nasty and disrespectful towards the women in this site. The very women ,we add , that are the sole reasons that guys like that are in this site . Take away the women and you remove the bait, that attracts them like flies.

Due to skewed ratios not everyone will even get a glimpse of a piece of that shiny cherry pie.

And then the frustration, bitterness and anger sets in , and they show their true colours and intentions .
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Gr8distraction   Man 47yrs

Nice work

Smilin & Terry.

Maybe you attitudes, need a little re-work.
Maybe, your initial messages are fucking boring. How was your today/ You look hot/ You free tonight?
Or just lower your expectations.......That is, the expectation of getting a fuck at your first message/meet.
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Eiliethiya   Woman 42yrs

Smilin_assasin if your forum posts are any indication of the way you speak to and about women all the time, and in how you message them...there's the reason you're having no luck. Yoy think women are bitchy and here for ego boosts? Your attitude comes across as bitter and spiteful.

And trust me...the kinds of messages some men send...that's no ego boost! To be treated and spoken to like you're a free whore...yeah nah, no boost to my ego.
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funguy30   Man 35yrs

I send a message asking them how they are and I like the profile and compliment them on how they look and tell them a little bit about myself I am nice and genuine I expect to be treated that way and I treat others wait toAre usually put someone else’s feelings before mine I like to make them happy and in return I will be too
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Freaky_Fun  

Woman 49yrs

And you all sound so delightful to be around 😂
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sweetnsensual  

Couple Man 47yrs Woman 46yrs

RHP

We have met some beautiful people of here unicorns and gorgeous couples. We have made some friendships and ongoing relatiojnships. It took a while to work out how to utilise the site and yes we have to send out lots of messages and sort through the fake people on here.
We have enjoyed the journey
xxxx
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Freaky_Fun  

Woman 49yrs

Thanks Gr8
Can always count on the gentlemen that have met us to stand up for us.

Well said DC.

I'm one of those people that will stand up for single men every day of the week and well you two numpties just made it a shitload harder for all the other lovely men on here.

Well done. I'm sure they'll be thanking you for your wonderful insight.

Midlife crisis springs to mind.
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MarkandCherise   Couple Man 58yrs Woman 56yrs

Well said.




Quoting 'Freaky_Fun'

Thanks Gr8

Can always count on the gentlemen that have met us to stand up for us.



Well said DC.



I'm one of those people that will stand up for single men every day of the week and well you two numpties just made it a shitload harder for all the other lovely men on here.



Well done. I'm sure they'll be thanking you for your wonderful insight.



Midlife crisis springs to mind.

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sensualcple2play  

Couple Man 53yrs Woman 50yrs

Agree with Redmustang
It's a numbers game! Check out how many single guys to single women are online at any 1 time and give u an indication.
But wow Terry, laid back and easy profile says but that rant says differently and normally a better pic would help
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deepestpurple   Man 37yrs

Shocked




I'm shocked that the greasy middle age spread man with crude language approach and the ugly, angry even older dude with stupid tatt approach doesn't seem too successful on here. I really thought they would get more traction.

Well OP, some considerate replies there demonstrating what doesn't work here. Your nice, genuine guy approach is better but it's uninspiring and sadly very common. But there's some hope it could be successful if you're really a genuine and nice guy and can maintain it through congruence testing.

I suggest you spend some time thinking about something(s) that is unique or uncommon about yourself and personalise your profile/approach to include it so as to create a point of difference about yourself in this marketplace.
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The_Antichrist   Man 40yrs

I have no idea how you message...but your profile lacks your personality....

There’s no jokes or humour, it’s just blahhh....sure it tells people that you’re nice, genuine, and what you’re into....but go see other male profiles and see exactly how it is you’re just blending in...

Over the few thousand or so profiles I’ve read they all seem to have same factor in common....it shows that you’ve been brainwashed into thinking you can sign up and just start hooking up at will everynight without much effort...

So...show you, be you, and don’t forget the important bit...fuck you 😂😂😘
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Mon_Doctuer4

Join A Real RHP Social Group

That’s the only way to meet genuine peeps after what you need/want/deserve.

For instant relief pay for it, it’s easier and more fulfilling.

Getting a person on your wavelength is very very difficult, I’ve messaged thousands, Met a few and indulged with 2 or 3, but not the connection I crave.

I’d say check Lo Can To (run the letters together to get what I mean, Big Bruvver is monitoring!) and you’ll be happy inside a day!

M_D4
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Chare78

There are a multitude of reasons why women or shall I say I do not end up showing up. I'll speak for myself. Number one for me is that I'm a full time shift worker who works every second weekend.number two, I'm a full time mother to one who receives no respite or assistance. Number three, women get their period. Number four, I personally don't hang off my phone like a sad teenager who has no life. The problem isn't the site or women in general. The problem lays with people taking it personal & presuming. The more profiles we read, the more judgemental we become. Therefore if you find yourself doing this, then get off the site. Instead of urgently swiping & searching for the instant. Take a step back & question their profile & images in the photos. Do you really want this person & will you get on? Instead of internalizing the process, just go with it, it's life in general, whether it be in a website or a nightclub.
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pietoshare   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 45yrs

New to this and struggling

Hi,

You look like an attractive guy but my tip would be to take another profile shot not looking quite so laid back and casual. It looks like you "cant be bothered" to spruce up and first impressions are everything when the numbers are so against you. In my experience when looking for men (I am the female part of my profile, just in case you were wondering) I only look at the first profile pic and then something needs to intrigue me enough to click on it out of a sea of other male profile pics.

Every woman has their own preference but I like to see someone who is upright, attractive, which I think you are. Good luck and I think it is great that you asked for advice
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Mischeviouslad   Man 48yrs

2c plus GST

I’ve not read your profile..... but if it is similar to your topic, I’ve determined an idea of it.



Now, I don’t care if I incur the wrath of those who will call me a spelling/grammar nazi, but..... HOW you present in writing..... flat out absolutely matters.

I’ve found your posts difficult to read purely because of the lack of correct grammar and structure.

And if I don’t feel like reading it, and I’m not even your target audience, imagine how the women you’ve messaged will feel when your message and profile is inevitably compared to the catalogue of other messages she will have to filter through, and then reflect to your profile.



That’s just the reality if it.



But that’s not the primary reply I’m here to make.



There are only 3 reasons why someone doesn’t reply to your message (assuming theyre read it)



Busy

Not interested

Not really who the profile claims to be



So if they don’t reply, THAT is their reply.... unless they reply without being prompted later





Now there ARE ways to cut through, even if they don’t reply the first time.... but unless you represent yourself through correct “advertising” in a very crowded market, and that includes grammar, then really, you’re just wasting your time.

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