So close... Yet not quite there!

So close... Yet not quite there!

    | May 24, 2019
JT_team   Couple Man 30yrs Woman 30yrs
So know this is common topic on RHP, where you get so close to a meet or play but then it doesn't happen - as one poster put it "it's a matter of seeing what sticks".

We've had another one that's failed to come through tonight so instead of play, sharing my RHP experiences of so close, yet didn't quite get there and of course would love to hear yours too!

1) Had great chat and really open to my newbie questions as he was a long time player in the swinger scene. The guy was in an open relationship (relatively new at 7 months together) where they played together and alone. The female wanted a pic so sent Mr's over and she said no attraction sorry, all cool so we decided he would play alone with us. Arranged date/time and we got ready in the hours leading up i.e. grooming, bought some wine, cleaned the house haha. The guy then said he actually didnt have a face pic of me (mrs) but didn't mind a surprise, to play it safe sent him some standard face + full body pics. An hour out of meet the guy advises his GF is blowing him and now does want to come and watch and will decide if she joins in. Quite a change of plans for us newbies but we were open to it. Then apparently GF gets stomach issue and has to visit hospital and says plans are all maybe now. Kills the buzz for us and we suggest postpone. Then he gets very pushy that he'd still like to come alone because GF is fine now - definitely kills the mood and we call it a night.

2) Chatted to a guy who had great couples and bi experience, one of the few to click over chat. However he's got a full schedule of partners so we leave it as that so we're not pushy but keep it open we're keen. He msgs a few weeks later saying if we're still keen to lock in a date in 3 weeks time. Like the fact it's planned rather than just a booty call. He checks in once a week in the lead up just to make sure date still works, really appreciate his constant communication without overdoing it. Last check in from him was day before of meet and i sent a quick reply day of meet all good from our end and we're excited. He's read the message but it's now 1.5 hrs past meet time and no msg or update from him - so I guess another one bites the dust!

Quite a few others like most, but the above were definitely the two with most time invested and that we were most disappointed that we didn't end up meeting/playing with!



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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 55yrs

Common

Is the upside to cancellations is the house is given a clean.

Sitting back a bit deflated, the realisation the house is habitable again immediately puffs up the tyres and all is forgotten as you put your feet up with a movie......
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Qefenta4   Woman 100yrs

It's

All about timing and inclination,also hope for everything but expect nothing.

Hugs Q
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JT_team   Couple Man 30yrs Woman 30yrs

True!

Haha so true Annie. At least from the failed meets the Mr always comes out satisfied with the cleaning :)
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DynamicCouple36   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 40yrs

Probably not a couple

The couple in scenario 1, were more than likely not a couple at all, but rather a guy posing as one.



Happens a lot on this site .
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sweat

Would love a chance to prove not everyone is unreliable JT 😉
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OkeyDoke45   Man 49yrs

Hell hath frozen over...

I am loath to admit it, but I am with DC in regard to your first example OP, it was my impression also that this one is just single guy getting his jollies with all the dirty chat.

The second example I have had, but with the roles obviously reversed - me being the single guy getting dicked around in pretty much the same way by a couple (who I verified via their friends were indeed a couple, and prone to this behavior).

Online dating is like fishing - sitting and waiting, your line jiggles every now and then, you haul it in only to find it's not something you can take to the table so you throw it back. Other times you haul it in only to find nothing on the hook. Other times again you spend hours wrestling with something that you can't see but feels like the real deal, only to have it spit the hook at the last minute, just when you think you are home and hosed.
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EarthQueen   Woman 48yrs

First scenario sounds totally dodgy

What type of guy leaves his GF sick at home after being to hospital to go and play? Sound like he's talking shit but even if it was real (which I highly doubt) who would want to be with him anyway?

It's hard when you first get on here. You assume people are up front but you quickly learn you have to be very discerning and take a lot of things with a grain of salt. Ghosting sucks but is very common. Just try not to read too much into it. You might be better off going to events to meet others, although the clean house is a bonus.


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SuperFoxxxy   Woman 47yrs

Rule #1 Do not ever invest in anyone until you have met them. No expectations, no pressure.

Sounds like you got Catfished and benched. Not real good situations. Total Red Flags. Piss them both off.

Ms Foxy
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JT_team   Couple Man 30yrs Woman 30yrs

Thanks for the responses

Has given me a totally new view on number 1! The way he described his relationship did sound too good to be true, although he never expected sexual chat or photos from us.

Even though some of these scenarios have had more impact that I'd like to admit, it's all part of the learning experience as we get in to this scene - the bad with the good!
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MsJonesy   Woman 53yrs

I agree

With Foxxxy.



Until you meet someone its best to have no expectations. Also...rethink your policy of inviting them to your home without having met them out in a public place to make sure you do get on in person. Some dodgy folk lurk in the pie corridors, personal (and home) safety should be one of your first considerations.
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The_Envoy   Man 55yrs

.

I had a guy hit me up today.

He had history with Annie and on the first meet cancelled last minute and left her with the hotel bill for the room

So l messaged him back and told him he was on the Timewaster black list, put there by AnnieWhichway, thanks but no thanks.
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JT_team   Couple Man 30yrs Woman 30yrs

Location

Do a lot of people meet in public first and play outside of home as a general rule of thumb? That was my biggest concern, having a stranger know our address but the Mr played it out that way for our first meet and it was fine... but we should remain cautious it might not always be that way.


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