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A question for those who have NSA on their profiles
August 10 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I will say this If I see this on a profile of a man who has messaged me, instant dismissal with a polite no thankyou I am not judging, I am not interested. I have done my time of this and no longer going to I will watch this forum with interest as maybe what you say is that men may want this to develop but in my experience they say it as it is. They don't. This is a good forum question OP - thank you for asking this.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You come up with some good questions Burning_love. So for me as a married guy apart from having married on my profile as well, nsa does mean I'm not looking for a committed relationship outside of the bedroom. Having said that I'm happy to chat on here, I'm not a take off as soon as we've had our fun kind of guy, and ideally having a sexual relationship with a regular lady would be perfect.I guess my main point is to express I'm already in a relationship so If a lady is looking for that clearly I'm not right for her....
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't understand this term NSA I know what it means, I just don't understand it. How can people just have sex and walk away?If I meet a woman I meet a woman with the intention of building something strong with them, if you go into a relationship any other way it definitely will not work out, come to think about it Its probably why I end up hurting the most when women end up saying you are a nice guy but, I don’t want a relationship I want a FWB. I’m not closed to the idea of a FWB situation if I think there is a chance of something more. I’m an upfront guy I have mentioned in my profile what I’m looking for.To me NSA is a term used by cheaters.FWB is a term used by members that are lonely and don’t want commitment. FB is a term used cheaters and / or those that aren’t happy with what they have. Just my thoughts on the post and a good one at that Cheers OP
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Velvet darlink, love your new profile pic. Tres chic, mon petit chou. J'aime beaucoup!!! Lol,. anyway, like you have my reservations with re to NSA but am open for discussion as it can mean different things to anyone, men or women. I, too, will watch this will interest specially the Men's views. Xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't think it means no dinners or anything else. I think it means no emotional attachment. No expectations. Its not my preferred option but I can understand that for those who know they are not ready for anything more ongoing or committed, its being honest about their intentions. I also wonder how many attached guys who aren't admitting they are attached use this. To me its annoying when it means "I'll ring you when I want sex but don't bother ringing me" because what that really means is "I'm the one with all the control here and I'm using you as an unpaid sex worker."
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had NSA on my profile. I was looking for no emotional connection and just a quick hook-up. It was a new and an experimental phase of my life. But after a while, it became monotonous and the sex was just that, sex. And there was no satisfaction. I suppose it's different for men but for me, I just couldn't do it anymore. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'VelvetNoir' But I will say this If I see this on a profile of a man who has messaged me, instant dismissal with a polite no thankyou I am not judging, I am not interested. I have done my time of this and no longer going to I will watch this forum with interest as maybe what you say is that men may want this to develop but in my experience they say it as it is. They don't. This is a good forum question OP - thank you for asking this. If I see this on a profile I'm not interested
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RHP User
11 years ago
Perhaps it's abit grey,depends on your own personal circumstances, In my case it's not as blunt as sex only,more negotiable on wanting to experience Lovely ladies in general (wine,dine have fun) without the constraints of relationship! That said will give everything to the one,if found in my journey, Always get emotionally invested in lady I'm seeing,we all want satisfaction! Exploring is why I'm on rhp,sex is not the priority!
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RHP User
11 years ago
To say NSA means you won't be anyone's Puppet . Although many NSA people can't stop their nose from growing ... GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
that you will probably get many varied responses to this one. Pretty much the same as when asking most people here on any question - it tends to boil down to personal interpretation. What will be black and white to one, will be hotly disputed by another, and you will still not end up with a definitive answer. So, for my personal interpretation, (even though I don't have NSA in my profile), is that should I have had this listed, it would mean that I would enjoy the company of a lady for sex and companionship, as to me that is the general purpose of this site. However, that would not be the only limiting factors, and should someone happen to come along who strikes the right chords, well, lets follow the path for a while and see where it leads. I see it as that we a are all here on this site as an occasion to enjoy others, both sexually and otherwise if that is agreeable. For some this may be a more permanent arrangement as they may not wish to move on to full relationships, and for others just a waiting time until we meet someone who may fulfil our more relationship desires. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
and a HUGE generalisation here....lazy, self indulgent fuckers, its all about them. As a few other have stated, I dont even bother reading any further.
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RHP User
11 years ago
NSA is empty, emotionless sex, there has to be some sort of connection for great sex. It's just not about doing the deed.....for me it's about their desires, wants and the more you get to know someone the more relaxed and open you become....and a greater connection means more fulfilling sex. I don't want to be with someone who's not willing to take the time to connect so I generally am not interested in someone with NSA in their profile:)
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HedonicGent
11 years ago
Great op Burning Note. As you say I think there's a variety of opinions on what NSA means and I suppose it didn't occur to me until now that I may have missed out on meeting some fun people for this fact as I've stated it on my profile. While I haven't been looking for a relationship per se this past year that's not to say I haven't considered one. I suppose I agree with some of your points that I wanted anything to start slow with no expectations and then see. With all of my playmates it has NEVER been a simple case of wham-bam now get out my door and I'll call you when I next need you! With all of my playmates I have chatted regularly - about normal things as well as sex. I love building up the anticipation, the flirts, the naughty thoughts, etc. All have been welcome to stay the night with me, I've gone out to dinner or bars or for a coffee with them, had lengthy discussions about life/work decisions and just generally hung out at times. I suppose they've been almost 'relationship-lite' but it difficult to draw a line and say where fuck-buddy or, more appropriately for me, friends w/ benefits, begins and ends. What I most want is that whomever I'm with is enjoying the experience just as much as I am because otherwise you get into an unequal relationship which is never fair. I regularly think about having another relationship and it may be something that evolves from this, but will just have to see! So to answer your question I suppose NSA is not really NSA for me - I have to enjoy a woman's mind to enjoy her and there's always strings out there (in both directions)!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wow I thought this was RHP not RSVP. If I was to look for a serious relationship with a lady I believe it would be a relationship you build on, not kick it off from a sex based site, but maybe I'm a bit old fashion lol If I was looking to expand my sexual desires and in a great relationship but my partner was not interested, then I would look for likeminded people on RHP not RSVP. People that enjoyed sex for all it's pleasures and various types.For those that are looking for "the one" that's fine, and for the individuals, couples, samesex couples, transgender people etc that want to enjoy "nsa" sexual fulfilment have fun. Like any profile if it doesn't match what you are looking for just move on, don't judge people when your on a sex based site lol I look forward to more banter on the subject
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RHP User
11 years ago
I want some string, I'm not expecting to meet the family or anything, although I'm open to that if it happens but I do want more than a fwb/fb situation. I want someone to hang out with outside of the bedroom, go to dinner, pub, movies or just lay on the lounge watching a movie or footy. Even go away for the weekend occasionally. Someone who I can call on when I've had a crappy day and need a hug. So for those with NSA on their profile, do you consider the above SA?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'passion8_l' I want some string, I'm not expecting to meet the family or anything, although I'm open to that if it happens but I do want more than a fwb/fb situation. I want someone to hang out with outside of the bedroom, go to dinner, pub, movies or just lay on the lounge watching a movie or footy. Even go away for the weekend occasionally. Someone who I can call on when I've had a crappy day and need a hug. So for those with NSA on their profile, do you consider the above SA?Yes, and if that's what your seeking that's OK
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RHP User
11 years ago
There are definitely strings involved with that scenario. You are after a boyfriend by the sound of it. That comes with expectations and many strings. I think. To be NSA would be no emotional involvement at all, probably a booty call situation.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Strings imply emotional involvement, even is it just friendship, strings imply expectations on where things may lead. Strings imply some form of commitment - even is it is a casual commitment. :-) Scary words for lots of people.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That was just what I thought but wanted clarification because a number of men with NSA on their profile message me and when I tell them what I'm looking for, which I think is quite clear in my profile anyway, say they want that as well. Gets kinda confusing sometimes, it seems everyone has a different idea of what NSA means.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's the point of my OP. Meeka's description certainly applies for some people who put NSA on their profile, but not for all - as evidenced by things some men have said to you and to me. Looking forward to hearing the views of more people who are specifically looking for NSA ... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Strings implies obligation. NSA in that case wouldn't mean you can't have all of those other things, such as dinner and walks on the beach and hugs when you need them, it just means those are available only if it works for the other party at the time, and there's no recourse to feeling slighted if they're not available.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe those men are just telling you want you want to hear. Sorry. If someone has NSA on their profile then trys to tell you they would consider a relationship then I simply wouldn't believe them. They are just saying whatever it takes to get in your pants.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your attitude is exactly the type of bloke I would avoid at all costs. So RHP women are not relationship material just free sex is what I get from your answer. Not something I agree with it. Obviously.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Maybe those men are just telling you want you want to hear. Sorry. If someone has NSA on their profile then trys to tell you they would consider a relationship then I simply wouldn't believe them. They are just saying whatever it takes to get in your pants. You can't know that Meeka and you can't speak for all men and all experiences. In reference to my OP, you don't know the men I've mentioned and you don't know the conversations we've had. The men I refer to are all long term friends who I've never had sex with and who I have had many discussions with. Some of these friends put NSA on their profile when they were shattered by heartbreak and thought it would be good for them to fuck around. But they didn't mean it ... in their hearts they wanted love but just didn't trust they'd find it. Others really did just want to fuck around and blow the cobwebs out, so to speak. It's exactly this variation in intentions and motivations that I'm interested to understand. NSA means different things to different people, as evidenced by my experience and by some of the other posts.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Meeka, I apologise to the ladies I have offended looking for a relationship through the site. That was not my plan. I guess for every single lady looking here for a relationship there are also those already in a relationship looking for that something extra, and that's where nsa is convenient for both parties involved. You may note many couples on here have similar wording. They are looking to enhance their own relationship. They don't want new best mates.......It's not about looking for free sex Meeka. Any type of relationship be it nsa or long term is by mutual agreement between consenting adults. It obviously comes down to interpretation and the individuals involved........
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I still would have serious reservations and I personally feel you are doing yourself a disservice if don't. Call me cynically but.... They didn't mean it in their hearts?? Come on. If they don't mean it why is it on their profile?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Cynical not cynically. Lol. Many have called me cynical before. :-D
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' But I still would have serious reservations and I personally feel you are doing yourself a disservice if don't. Call me cynically but.... They didn't mean it in their hearts?? Come on. If they don't mean it why is it on their profile? They're not emotionally intelligent.They're private.They've been fucked-over by a woman and are gun-shy.They're concerned if they offer more women will get grabby and clingy and try to rush things (as we've been known to do). Any number of reasons, really. A few years ago I was convinced I wanted a few FWBs and definitely didn't want a relationship. That was until a man asked me questions and really sought to understand where I was it. In those discussions I realised I did want something more long term and committed, and I was just scared and lacking confidence. Asking and seeking to understand can reveal whole new sides of people :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'GypsyWildNT' I don't think it means no dinners or anything else. I think it means no emotional attachment. No expectations. Its not my preferred option but I can understand that for those who know they are not ready for anything more ongoing or committed, its being honest about their intentions. I also wonder how many attached guys who aren't admitting they are attached use this. To me its annoying when it means "I'll ring you when I want sex but don't bother ringing me" because what that really means is "I'm the one with all the control here and I'm using you as an unpaid sex worker." this resonates with me
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bj62oz' Hi Meeka, I apologise to the ladies I have offended looking for a relationship through the site. That was not my plan. I guess for every single lady looking here for a relationship there are also those already in a relationship looking for that something extra, and that's where nsa is convenient for both parties involved. You may note many couples on here have similar wording. They are looking to enhance their own relationship. They don't want new best mates.......It's not about looking for free sex Meeka. Any type of relationship be it nsa or long term is by mutual agreement between consenting adults. It obviously comes down to interpretation and the individuals involved........ That is why a lot of couples find it difficult to find women to join them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think you are on a dangerous slippery slope there. One thing I have learned is that women don't give men enough credit. They know what they want and if the say NSA that is what they mean. I have learnt that if they say is it casual, that it is NSA, that they don't want commitment that is exactly what they mean........ doesn't matter if they like to kiss and cuddle you all night, or they have told you all their deep dark secrets or you have met their friends, or you go out every Saturday night together, etc. If they say it is NSA then that is what it is... for them. Women have a tendency to romanticise situations and try to find hidden meanings in what a man does without really listening to his words. This is why lots of men are wary of meeting women more than a few times in a row. In my opinion. In my mind, you are just asking to be hurt.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Burning_Love' That's the point of my OP. Meeka's description certainly applies for some people who put NSA on their profile, but not for all - as evidenced by things some men have said to you and to me. Looking forward to hearing the views of more people who are specifically looking for NSA ... - Posted from rhpmobile they call us women confusing! I have exactly what I want on my profile also but I still get asked but nobody really seems to give a shit about what I want anyway.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I think you are on a dangerous slippery slope there. One thing I have learned is that women don't give men enough credit. They know what they want and if the say NSA that is what they mean. I have learnt that if they say is it casual, that it is NSA, that they don't want commitment that is exactly what they mean........ doesn't matter if they like to kiss and cuddle you all night, or they have told you all their deep dark secrets or you have met their friends, or you go out every Saturday night together, etc. If they say it is NSA then that is what it is... for them. Women have a tendency to romanticise situations and try to find hidden meanings in what a man does without really listening to his words. This is why lots of men are wary of meeting women more than a few times in a row. In my opinion. In my mind, you are just asking to be hurt. I'm not asking for anything other than to understand what the acronym NSA means to people who put it on their profile. It's a question based on my natural curiosity, not on any particular man in my life now or in the past or future. There's no risk of me being hurt. I'm not on a slippery slope. There's no danger, I promise. I'm not a fan of absolutism or people speaking on behalf of others. I get that your experience has taught you things about certain men but that's quite a leap from applying your experience to all men. I agree that the vast majority of people who put NSA on their profile mean exactly what I described in my OP (see, I don't have blinkers on) BUT I also know that some of them don't mean exactly that. Some of them mean something a little more grey rather than black and white. I simply want to hear from people (men and women) who have it on their profiles - what does it mean to THEM?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ok so maybe Im going to get slammed for this, that's ok I have broad shoulders.I have NSA because I want No Strings Attached. I have lots of reasons for that. Mostly my emotional state and my work prevents me from being in a relationship at this point in my life. Things may change as someone else has already indicated. I am single but I just can't "do" relationship right now.I am at a point where I am happy to just have the sex, yes I still have fun with them and talk and even spend the night. I have been out to dinner and had great weekends away. At the end of the session, day, weekend we go our separate ways. Yes we stay in contact, yes we talk about lots of other stuff but it is clear from the beginning that I am not here for a relationship. Quoting Bj6 "Any type of relationship be it nsa or long term is by mutual agreement between consenting adults. It obviously comes down to interpretation and the individuals involved..." My partners always know where I stand and through mutual agreement we agree to the parameters. Sorry if I disappoint anyone or that it makes me unattractive in anyway, it is how it needs to be for me right now. I am genuinely not interested in being in a relationship and often the men I meet up with ask why and I tell them openly and honestly. I'm ok with where I'm at and I make a point of not judging anyone because we are all on our own journeys
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RHP User
11 years ago
So many opinions and all probably correct, is there really a definitive answer ? When I first joined RHP I had it on my profile, my choice was to take it off, not for fear off knockbacks but I couldn't really achieve what I wanted in one night, yes a one off sex rendezvous is awesome, but it really does fall short in my bigger picture. Another opinion in this rhetorical question. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bj62oz' Hi Meeka, I apologise to the ladies I have offended looking for a relationship through the site. That was not my plan. I guess for every single lady looking here for a relationship there are also those already in a relationship looking for that something extra, and that's where nsa is convenient for both parties involved. You may note many couples on here have similar wording. They are looking to enhance their own relationship. They don't want new best mates.......It's not about looking for free sex Meeka. Any type of relationship be it nsa or long term is by mutual agreement between consenting adults. It obviously comes down to interpretation and the individuals involved........ that is exactly what it is, looking for free sex with no recourse and to be honest, mostly with no care, no consideration, plenty don't even need any real desire for the person they are fucking. That is why so many women are sick of NSA.
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RHP User
11 years ago
No strong advice
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry ralf74, but I beg to differ..... In your eyes it might be free sex , but to me it two consenting adults enjoy some fun and passion that might otherwise be missing in there lives. We seem to had forgotten that men are not the only ones with NSA in their profiles, it works both ways. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Maybe those men are just telling you want you want to hear. Sorry. If someone has NSA on their profile then trys to tell you they would consider a relationship then I simply wouldn't believe them. They are just saying whatever it takes to get in your pants. and I'm not going to fall for that shit, just needed clarification as I thought that maybe I had the NSA definition wrong
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RHP User
11 years ago
Largely because it seems it relates most closely to what I'm looking for while I'm still thinking through the particulars of what I want. By that I mean it covers my desires and experiences with couples where I'm mostly a sexual guest as well as letting women know I'm not initially after a relationship and prefer a companionship based mostly around sexual chemistry and animal magnetism rather than calculating a potential life together. This is where most peoples ideas of it differ. This kind of relationship/friendship, I feel, isn't always mindless and soulless. In fact my experiences of having someone outside everything and to share a reprieve with is energising and lovely. It's never been just a fuck and go. No expectations or obligations outside of the time spent together. No judgements, no criticism. Sometimes it's very nice to just focus on the moment together at hand and enjoy it. But only works with the right people and it does involve getting to know each other and understanding personalities and temperaments. Which is a big part of the pleasure. Again, I've had some beautiful times with this arrangement. I wouldn't say fuck buddy either. I don't mean to be disrespectful with the term NSA. Rhp brought it up! I went with it! I value my solitude and struggle with relationships and the control and manipulations which usually tend to occur. I'm more suited and make more of my time with a person under these circumstances. Even ended, deeper relationships have continued for me based around sex after emotional attachments have faded. I'm just being honest. Would I be a cad?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bj62oz' Wow I thought this was RHP not RSVP. If I was to look for a serious relationship with a lady I believe it would be a relationship you build on, not kick it off from a sex based site, but maybe I'm a bit old fashion lol If I was looking to expand my sexual desires and in a great relationship but my partner was not interested, then I would look for likeminded people on RHP not RSVP. People that enjoyed sex for all it's pleasures and various types.For those that are looking for "the one" that's fine, and for the individuals, couples, samesex couples, transgender people etc that want to enjoy "nsa" sexual fulfilment have fun. Like any profile if it doesn't match what you are looking for just move on, don't judge people when your on a sex based site lol I look forward to more banter on the subject Many men on RSVP and similar "vanilla" sites are also on rhp and those that aren't are generally after the same thing, they're just not as transparent and this is the very reason I joined rhp because I like the honesty. As my profile suggests, if a long term relationship was to develop I am open to it but I have no expectations. It pays to keep in mind that everyone has a past, whether it's an rhp past is irrelevant so I have trouble understanding why one would not consider developing a serious relationship with someone from rhp, no offence or judgement intended just don't quite understand where you're coming from
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RHP User
11 years ago
I might weigh in here, for what it's worth. I think Meeka's right, in that men are quite straightforward with what they consciously want, and if they say they want NSA then that should be taken at face value. And that women often read more into a man than he warrants, sometimes to their detriment. Burning_Love may well be right that underneath we actually want something more, but aren't fully conscious of the fact and have a whole raft of emotional blocks and defences in the way. However, if you're in a casual relationship with a man and he says he wants to keep it NSA, and you suspect he really wants something more, you could be right. But chances are very high that, for whatever reason, he doesn't want more with you. This shouldn't be taken personally, the person he wants something more with might not even exist, but for your own sake you should assume it's not you. Otherwise you're on Meeka's slippery slope. If you want to challenge this with him, you should sit him down and say this:"I really like you, and I really like what we have. I think we're really good together, but I want something more than this. So I can't see you any more." If he says "I understand", then you know. and you follow through with not seeing him any more. If he says "sure, but can't we keep hanging out/fucking/whatever while you look for something more?" then you know. And you follow through with not seeing him any more. In fact, whatever he says, you follow through. And if it turns out you're right, and he does want something more with you, then he will pursue you. But whatever happens, you have to be prepared to follow through, because that's probably what's going to be needed.
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hardnslow
11 years ago
Quoting 'bj62oz' Wow I thought this was RHP not RSVP. If I was to look for a serious relationship with a lady I believe it would be a relationship you build on, not kick it off from a sex based site, but maybe I'm a bit old fashion lol If I was looking to expand my sexual desires and in a great relationship but my partner was not interested, then I would look for likeminded people on RHP not RSVP. People that enjoyed sex for all it's pleasures and various types.For those that are looking for "the one" that's fine, and for the individuals, couples, samesex couples, transgender people etc that want to enjoy "nsa" sexual fulfilment have fun. Like any profile if it doesn't match what you are looking for just move on, don't judge people when your on a sex based site lol I look forward to more banter on the subject All I can say bj is if you go out to buy a red car and they try to sell you a white one do you buy it? Same same just different ,some people want NSA some don't, whatever rocks their boat I say. Some people come here for sex others are here for the forums you are getting bagged by which group lol. Anyhow back to the bedroom xoxo
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bj62oz' Sorry ralf74, but I beg to differ..... In your eyes it might be free sex , but to me it two consenting adults enjoy some fun and passion that might otherwise be missing in there lives. We seem to had forgotten that men are not the only ones with NSA in their profiles, it works both ways. :) - Posted from rhpmobile The way I see it is and I know it is the same for many women is that you guys talk yourselves up about how wonderful you are in the sack...that is what I signed up for :) but sadly that is not what I receive on most occasions :( Most of you guys tell us women anything to get us in the sack, that is not what I consented to. I can't speak for women who have NSA on their profiles because I am not a lesbian. I am not against NSA sex, I am just sick of it, I am worth more than being a vessel for you to shoot your cum in. If you guys picked up your act in the pleasing department I would be all over it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Rick, no-one is right or wrong. Your assumption about what other men mean is interesting, but it's still only an assumption. A small few people on this thread have explained what NSA means on their profile. Already you can see it can mean different things for different people. I agree wholeheartedly with you and Meeka that it's sensible to take what people say at face value. If they say NSA, they mean NSA. If you (often the woman) then try to twist NSA into something more meaningful then more fool you. I do take NSA at face value. In my OP I said what I think it means, and given I'm not looking for that, I give those men a wide berth. What I'm still curious about is what does it really mean to individuals who use the term. It's a bit silly to think there won't be any variance in what people mean, and posts so far show there is variance. I think it's fairly common to mean something like - I just want sex, no obligations, but if I find someone who rocks my world I'm completely open to seeing where that leads. I know that some people definitely only see no strings sex in their long term future, but I think for many people it's actually a short term thing - a way to get laid until something more meaningful finds them. While I think it's a short term goal for many, if I see NSA on someone's profile I still treat is as a long term approach for them and happily dodge them. There seems to be an underlying message in this thread that women are foolish and only hear what they want to hear. In my experience that can absolutely happen. I agree it's an area where a lot of women need to be careful otherwise they'll end up hurting themselves when that could have been avoided. There also seems to be an underlying message that men don't get enough credit for meaning what they say. That's been true in my experience too, but more so I don't think men get enough credit for their emotional complexity. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
No :) Despite attempts on this thread to put all NSAers into one box, there is no definitive answer. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nope, not a cad, providing you say what you mean and mean what you say. After that, it's up to the other person to accept it or not. But you know that already :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not looking for NSA one night stands, so if someone has "looking for NSA fun with people who seek the same " I tend to skip over their profiles. I'm not looking for a full time committed relationship, although it could happen, but I do expect more than a once off. I don't meet as many people as I used to since I updated my profile, but I'm hoping that those who I do meet are looking for the same thing. Then again, as already said, some people do lie just to get into your pants.
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Plain280
11 years ago
I just went and wiped NSA off my profile as I realised I dont need it not that it is going to make much difference as I am fairly specific in my situation so it is superflous. Also at another time in the recent past had a NSA encounter and DID not enjoy it, as funny enough I miss the sheer intimacy of sexual situations and there has to be an investment on both participants. I am probably a bit wiser knowing this now. I think NSA has become shorthand for multiple situations genuine or otherwise and is a reflection of what society supposedly tolerates and is a product of the instant gratification rather than communicating reasons for needing or wanting and thats another topic that has been done on other posts.
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threesixty
11 years ago
Fellow Forum, I use it as a means to protect myself and to alert potential partner(s) that playing and using each other is what is on offer at the time. This is not to say a random hook up could lead to something more meaningful? Being guarded and protecting yourself is an inbuilt measure we all posses, but in the heat of the moment, throwing caution to the wind can get you in all manners of strife.... This is only an opinion. And in no way a statement that I speak for all parties... Each person has a different interpretation of NSA!!!! You thoughts.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me I don't bother with guys who say nsa! (their profiles usually have a long list of cleverly worded requirements without any mention of what they can do for you!)I know I'm worth more than that.....and I know I need more than just being a 'vessel' for someone.
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