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A tough one
October 18 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Over regular dating sites :) While I'm not interested in NSA hook ups or casual sex (FWB etc), I do have some criteria when it comes to sex and I do appreciate knowing a bit about a man's criteria before I talk with or meet him. Saves a lot of disappointment. I don't think a man has an obligation to tell anyone he has a small penis, just as a women wouldn't have an obligation to tell anyone if she had one breast hugely bigger than the other, or similar. I would appreciate knowing in advance though, as it would be a deal-breaker for me and it would save me from letting things progress when there was chance sex or dating would last. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I meant to say. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
does not mean he can't have sex Ralf...and how many men here are going to admit to a Tom Thumb penis....If size does matter,get him to play that old drinking game....Dick On the table...if his appendage is tiny then it won't reach the table...situation disaster then averted:-) xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
doesn't matter, so I keep hearing. However, if it is so small that it can't penetrate or do the job, give him a strap on as I understand a lot of woman use them, any reason why a man can't if required ? Is there not a solution to every problem ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love your work single guy! Great can do attitude.
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madotara69
11 years ago
I have only got an average sized.... I must say though, laying it out along side of a jelly bean, it looks like a monster. And no! not a tiny gourmet jelly bean, one of those glucose big ones from the chemist. (like a horse pill, they are) Saw a program recently where a woman's vagina grew shut. She had surgery and it had closed way back inside too. Maybe there is some super tiny vagina's amongst a few women to even out the odds. The jelly bean could go both ways. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
That certainly is a tricky one Ralf. I think that the topic of his penis, or anything affecting a sexual life, should come up, at whatever point in the 'getting-to-know' you, that sex comes up in conversation. So that is varying. There are many aspects to sex, and penetrative sex with a penis into a vagina, is but a part and doesn't necessarily negate at healthy sexual relationship. Oral and sex toys can be delish.
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
For 6 inches it could be me. It would be as you say A tough one. How I, as a male, would be if that was me I'm glad I haven't had to find out. It depends firstly on how he is in himself. Secondly find someone who is understanding & to whom sex is not that important. As Single guy says, there are options.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If we're strictly talking about a sexual partner, I'd like to know. Since our conversation would undoubtedly revolve around sex in detail, leaving that bit out might feel a bit like lying by omission for me I think. However if I started dating someone and the topic didn't come up before we slept together, I'd be ok with that. I wouldn't point out my saggy belly to someone either. We're all different shapes and sizes, it's normal. It would be different if someone had an abnormality (which a tiny penis is not), like for example a big hernia. In that case I'd appreciate to know in advance.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Learn to like your belly button fucked..... lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
so a lot of these responses are similar to my first reaction talking to this guy. I was thinking small, anyone with under 5 inches probably considers themselves small. I initially thought he was fucking with me and wanking on the other end of the phone as a lot do. He was not game to come and see me initially and had been calling sex shops trying to get help only to be laughed off...until he found me. Doing what I do, I have solutions to just about anything and I have been an integral part of this guys sex life without actually being a part of it. I have been dealing with him for a few years now. He is actually married but his wife is talking about leaving him as she wants what is lacking, what he cannot provide so of course now he is freaking out about being single. They have tried a lot of different things but unfortunately they are not the same as having a healthy natural, sex life long term. This guy may possibly have the smallest penis in the world and is only the size of an enlarged clitoris.
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6exxy
11 years ago
This is actually really sad, kisses and hugs 😘😘😘😘😘
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' This guy may possibly have the smallest penis in the world and is only the size of an enlarged clitoris. Is is possible he has ambiguous genetalia?
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RHP User
11 years ago
and was never big but he shrunk away from having to be on steroid medication. He hasn't told me what he is being treated for but has to be careful what he takes in conjunction with it and it is something he has to be on for life. He sees doctors and specialists and now because of me, he sees a sex therapist. He says I am way better than her though and says that she has been asking what I suggest because I have been on the money with everything so far. He did gain an inch from using a nipple pump I talked him into but unfortunately he lost it when it shrunk away again when the therapist told him he should stop for a bit. He also cums in 10 seconds because he has the same amount of nerve endings in his cock as a normal size penis which is still an issue. It did all start from him looking for a cock ring that would fit when I sent him to Bunnings to buy o rings which he said worked and has all escalated from there. It is indeed a very sad tale which has included bursting blood vessels, dislocating his cock, male escorts and a very helpful mother in law.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am concerned for him as he seems like the relationship sort. He is a nice guy, has a great job, must be a good son in law seeing his mother in law has been hell bent on helping him also. I can help him with getting sex short term and have already come up with a few strategies to help both overcome the embarrassment and help him get some sexual gratification but as far as meeting someone new for something more long term, I am just not sure what to tell him. I know that I would want to know about his predicament but I also know there are people out there that are a lot less shallow than I am and have relationships with people in wheelchairs or other conditions that most of us would take for granted. Even his wife is cutting and running, well she is still undecided at this point but it is probably inevitable seeing she has been seeing escorts and even someone else has come into her life now that she has been seeing. He loves dealing with me because I just say it like it is and don't patronise him and I do help him find solutions. I don't tip toe around the fact that we are dealing with something very unusual and I am direct and frank. I just don't know how to help him on this occasion. I don't even know if this is a good place to bring it up seeing sex is in the forefront here but maybe it is if you know if you could settle down with someone with this issue. I think my best option is to maybe have him discuss an open relationship with his wife or enter the swinging scene for now as she is already seeing others anyway and he can too then maybe they can all have the best of both worlds. I think he would be quite the novelty at swingers parties.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It is sad, on so many levels but its also something that can be solved. Lesbians do not have a penis and do very well. If he is up front to start with then no suprises for anyone. He can look for a polyamarous relationship where is partner can get the best of both worlds Some men with huge dicks are just as hopeless in satisfying a women as as ones with small dicks so penis size is not the issue. Perceptions are the issue. He just needs to find a person who feels that penis size is not that big a deal, that kissing and seduction and all the other things are just as great. I do not care if a guy does not have a big dick, if it fits nice or if he is so good at other things then I get my pleasure and then that's fine. If a guy cums in ten seconds I don't care so long as he is up for giving me mine. its about how you share the joy and not about the equipment.
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6exxy
11 years ago
RALF God bless you😘 Not sure that swinging would be good. It could be soul destroying watching someone else doing what you simply can't. I'm no therapist but from a coaching perspective his emotional well being is everything. I'm sure you know that already but I really feel for this guy. I hope you can come up,with something. 😘 Oh and KEEP up the good work! Pun intended 😘
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RHP User
11 years ago
done it :) He thought it was a great idea, she did not. I think she feels rather guilty and confused about having sex with other people. She has also been embarrassed about other people knowing about it. That is why she was initially with escorts, he never met them or had anything to do with it. That is why I am not sure the swinging will work. The therapist was working with them on my cuckold suggestion, he even got some cuckold porn so she knew what it was all about but she was still not open to the idea.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do you think it's shallow of people to not be interested in someone because of a physical characteristic? I'm not sure if maybe I read your earlier post incorrectly? I think we all have our physical likes and dislikes, and a range of variations we're happy with. That seems a pretty normal thing to me. Aside from that, in was also thinking that plenty of relationships flourish without a penis eg lesbian sex, people with particular disabilities. The Sessions is an interesting movie to that effect. While it would be a deal-breaker for me I'm sure it wouldn't for some women. I wonder if there'd be value in him seeing a well-recommended prostitute for some ongoing visits, specifically to build up his other sexual skills to a really high standard. By skills I mean intuition, confidence etc. There's a lot to be gained from experiencing the thrill of deeply satisfying a partner and if he can learn to do that in other ways perhaps it will give him some real confidence. I also wonder if there'd be value in him having a profile on here and being really clear about his situation, what he's offering, what he's looking for etc, and seeing what comes of it. I'd think there would be some women who'd happily get to know him and date him regardless of his penis size. Rejection happens to all of us for all sorts of reasons. I'm frequently (prob 80% of the time) rejected on regular dating sites. Ouch! But we all just have to dig deep and focus on what we do have to offer. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
that's why Im here, it actually assists me to stay with him. yes, I have his blessing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I mean shallow in the fact that he would hardly be given a chance knowing his circumstances up front. I think if something like this happened in an already established relationship then the love could hold them together and they can work together. You don't usually walk out on someone you love...in sickness and in health and all that. This is much less likely in meeting someone new. For me it would be a deal breaker also and although I find men with smaller penises much better at oral (with a few exceptions), I love to have sex also with something that is going to touch the sides. The fact that he also blows so quickly is also an issue. I have built this guys confidence up and I feel it is about to be shattered by his wife and although it isn't exactly in my job description and I have absolutely no qualifications as a therapist, he is going to turn to me because I have been helping him all this time. I have felt it coming and he said that also because I was always asking how his marriage was coping and telling him to try to maintain as much sexual activity with his wife as he could but it seems she has been withdrawing and I know from the appointments and suggestions she has been refusing to attend or not wanting to try things to help his progress. There is still a lot more to this story that I have not divulged but it isn't in keeping with my original post but he has a way better sex life without having sex than any man I know currently due to my suggestions.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'YoungAndMarried' that's why Im here, it actually assists me to stay with him. yes, I have his blessing. love to know more :) Only if you care to share. You can pm me if you would rather not share on here.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sadly, hubby's penis is literally just the head sticking out, no shaft or anything. It does seem to be getting smaller over the last couple of years since being married too :(He doesn't have any testicles as he wasn't born with them descended, or something like that, and there was complications when he was a teen so they removed them. I'm not being rude or anything, but it pretty much looks like a large clit sticking out unfortunately and does go inside sometimes if pushed on or if its too cold. Its a medical condition that I was unaware of pre-marriage as he was afraid I wouldn't have married him if I knew. He also has another emotional/brain issue, but apart from that we are great together and he is a good man.
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6exxy
11 years ago
That is much better name. Love and strength to you and your hubby ✊
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
You didn't have to share your story publicly but you chose to do so. Your honesty is touching, brave and the your empathy shines through. Hugs.K
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RHP User
11 years ago
Puppetry of the penis??? Let's face it those guys aren't entirely a Trojans warrior are they?? Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
In this case where talking about Thumbelinas little brother...... not a sock puppet
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RHP User
11 years ago
I hardly think this is something to be made fun of.
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Plain280
11 years ago
Ralf I think you done all you can with this gentleman, I suspect that his determination to get on with life as normally as possible depends on his willpower to succeed and keep a perspective of what he has been dealt in his genes will get him through. The only other way unfortunately involves money and lots of it for a fully functioning enlarged penis, it is sad that for this aberration he sounds like a normal bloke but even the most dogged determined individual have their bad emotional days and therein lies issues beyond.As to Y and M so tragic yet so moving, one thing springs to mind about your relationship, he must be pretty strong to give permission as it almost sounds too debilitating for him to function in mixed company. There would be subjects and hazing that you would stay away from to stop unintended emotional pain, as getting the injured person back is a pretty intense and energy sapping journey. Best of luck to both of you and you young lady utmost respect, explained the situation very well.
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RHP User
11 years ago
as Kiss said, so brave of you to say and I appreciate the input and support on the topic. I have learnt a lot from being on this site which has also helped me to help him. I couldn't imagine what it would be like to have his manhood taken away. I see guys with small penises a lot at work but nothing like this. He has showed me photos both soft and erect and when soft, he actually looks inverted with a small pile of foreskin, when erect, it looks like an outty bellybutton.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The thing I feel duped about is that I fell in love and he didn't tell me until it was too late, but I don't tell him that. I also greatly dislike stupid guys on this site saying things like "your a slut and causing your hubby pain, why not leave him." or similar comments from jerks on here. For those who think its funny on this thread, that is really sad :(
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6exxy
11 years ago
Stay strong and ignore the negative comments. I admire and respect your position.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The vehicle I used for my very subtle point was probably not the best; so I feel as though I should clarify. The guys in puppetry of the penis make the most of what they DO possess; and it's quite a successful entity that I believe had grown to more than that of the original founders. YandM your situation I'm most saddened by. However; I'm as sure as I'm typing this out on the trusty iPhone convinced that while you and your husband may not engage in the typical mainstream type of sex play; I'm not convinced that there's not a FORM of sexual interaction between you. Henceforth; and adding the support of your husband that BOTH of you are doing the same thing..... Making the most of what you DO possess. It wasn't my intention to be a prick about it. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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