About Ideal match....are we missing out a lot?

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  If you ask for little, then you wont be surprizes when you get very little in return. Set your sights and your standards high to begin with. A lower standard can always be negotiated but a higher one? Unlikely!

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  rupamohan

  14 years ago

  The point is to tell what is the minimum expectation not to minimize the expectation...one can always choose any standard Hi/lo as a minimum expectation...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  The problem with having a minimum standard you'd be willing to consider is that people will read that, think "Well, I'm just short a couple of items, I'll have a crack". When you have your ideal listed, people will contact you who don't quite fit the criteria, and you can decide based on the quality of that contact, whether it's something you'd like to pursue.Also, the joy of dating sites, is that when you feel like roughing it, or having a taste of something different, you can do your own search and contact people who normally woulnd't be your ideal.

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  rupamohan

  14 years ago

  I guess your this comment applies to any format..lol Ideal or minimum..the point is telling minimum is more useful info..unless offcourse your ideal and minimum is same...lol Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Girl' The problem with having a minimum standard you'd be willing to consider is that people will read that, think "Well, I'm just short a couple of items, I'll have a crack".

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  rupamohan

  14 years ago

  I was working with a big company with a big ego..it was common for us to advert for new employees with an impossible wish list of requirements. The idea was to make ppl feel well short of what is expected and settle for less salary. I am not sure similar ego drives these formats? Anyway it needs more effort to set a minimum standard...nd I guess most members not interested to put that effort...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I took a quick look at your profile and in all honesty...I was quite confused by it all. That happens...I am easy to confuse at times. | That said...why not just start with who you are, what you have to offer and request that people that send you messages be of equal calibre? I think in a way, we are all our own baseline...a walking version of our own minimum acceptable standard? | Other than that...there is a lot to be said for the unexpected and getting there is half the fun. | | Looks like the server nailed another one...might need an upgrade.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  What was behind that scruffly tab and name up there that was broken... | Quoting 'rupamohan' I guess your this comment applies to any format..lol Ideal or minimum..the point is telling minimum is more useful info..unless offcourse your ideal and minimum is same...lol Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Girl' The problem with having a minimum standard you'd be willing to consider is that people will read that, think "Well, I'm just short a couple of items, I'll have a crack". There...we now return you to our regular programming after this brief non-commercial break. I know who broke it... | ...just ain't sayin'.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Put a higer price on. You can negotiate down but you cannot negotiate up. Hmmmm think maybe I should put the classic ONO on the bottom of my looking for list so that men know I am open to negotiation. ........Making this site sound more about business and less about fun.

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