M45
Age difference, does it
November 23 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
The dating formula = half your age + 7 years is socially acceptable Or for rich men.... age = $$$ / pussy^[squared]
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hmm, .... If it comes to swinging I don’t really care as long as they are clean, nice to talk to and have some humour. It’s probably harder for a women to be much older then for a man in a relationship. Cliché but true in my opinion. XXX
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RHP User
8 years ago
If I'm happy and the other person is happy....fuck everyone else and their opinion if its a negative judgemental one!
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't even bother looking at women below a certain age these days. I would say that I would be uncomfortable, me being 47 now, with a woman in her 20's or even early-mid thirties. I had an interested party a few years back, she was in her early twenties and I was quite attracted to her (and I believe she to me), but then I discovered that I was older than her father by a couple of years. I almost vomited, completely lost interest in her from that point (she turned out to be a bit of a wolf in sheeps' clothing so no regrets there). But really, if a couple are both happy with one being in their 50's and one in their 20's - who's to stop them? *** Debate will erupt probably here though along the lines of young women being taken advantage of by older men, yet young men with older women is okay apparently. Just a prediction. ***
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RHP User
8 years ago
I’m 15 years older than my partner. And when I was younger I had a partner 15 years older. It’s only a big deal if you make it one.
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HotNightsGC
8 years ago
The only person you have to please in this life is yourself and, of you have one, your partner. We’re only bound by what standards mainstream community expects and how much of it we allow in our lives. LIVE AND BE HAPPY! Ms HNP. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
there was a post on this subject before. Well I guess it might be that I am not on here ALL the time. Okay okay most of the time
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RHP User
8 years ago
not remotely interested in what is socially acceptable. Big eye roll at that, particularly on here where we should be able to explore/nagigate this path by whatever rules are mutually acceptable between two consenting adults. I would have a relationship with any age 18 or over, shocking to some or not, I couldn't care less. There it is 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
Navigate I meant
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RHP User
8 years ago
...our first breath and our last. Hopefully much closer to the first than the last. It's all mind over matter...if you don't mind, it doesn't really matter. Note to you would-be perverts: Check your local statutory laws before you start trolling at your nearby park weighted down with chocolate candy bars!
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Ever since I can remember ' I've dated younger than myself ?. Not that I'm a age snob , far from it. It's just the way it's always happened.. If I click with someone , young or older.. Happy days..
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RHP User
8 years ago
For Anna Nichole-Smith - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We don't walk around with an age badge, not even at the pub. Online it does become a disproportionate issue.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Doesn't bother me...and it doesn't matter in the real world. People can be any age and be immature fruit-loops. Or just not get along. Or not. My sister is a year older than me, and her husband is 13 years older than her, I think.They've been married since her early 20's, have 2 awesome teenage kids and seem to live a vibrant, passionate life. My brother is 2 years older than me, and in his early 20's, married his high school sweetheart of the same age as him. His marriage lasted 10 unhappy years and one of his( now adult ) 2 kids has grown with anger issues. My only proper relationship was with a woman 12 years younger than me, and it ended amicably about 3 years ago.In the beginning, when we worked together, she was 26...and I remember thinking at the time, "she's really nice, I like her....but too young. I'm not going there...that would be a mistake."But I'm naive, she chased me...and the rest was history. She's one of the most mature people I know. All that's taught me is that some of "The rules" aren't really rules.But some are. Particularly the one about relationships needing work. Always. Can't get complacent. Everything's flexible, I believe...especially the age difference. But people are who they are.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Or clise to my age aren't interested. And for me..the older men I've met just seem TOO old (personal experience). I have a smart and wise friend here (smartass mostly) ;-) who explained her reasoning for meeting younger guys...and I think it makes perfect sense. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Beyond 18, to me age is just a number.... That said, there are definitely some patterns when it comes to what ages of people I get involved with. When it comes to my more "proper" ongoing relationships, they're all with women in their 40s. It's rare for me to click that way with women much younger than 40ish. I don't discount the possibility though. When it comes to more casual interest, age is really totally irrelevant to me.
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Freaky_Fun
8 years ago
Felt my ears burning 😝😂😘
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
The smart and wise bit threw me but then it became much clearer very quickly......
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Freaky_Fun
8 years ago
Enough from the peanut gallery 😂😝
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RHP User
8 years ago
If they look hot, dig you and can hold a decent conversation..... Older younger doesn’t really matter, I need stimulation of my male brain, and no, not the one between my legs. Wow, I know right 😝 For me I need to feel some real attraction and a healthy click. Makes for much better dialogue and trust. The brain easily overrides anything to do with numbers. Life experience can be sexy. There’s a definite social stigma attached to the older guy young girl, “ oh look at that dirty old man “ Hardly anyone bats an eyelid if it’s older woman young guy. Young guys should go read the cougars topic, you’ll be prey in no time.... BB - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Who gives a fuck? But for a relationship, the meeting of 2 minds need to be on the same level. That narrows the allowable age difference. If you are going out for physical attraction then it's a question of how much money you will gain/lose when that wears out.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Interestingly some of the stronger advocates for "age is no barrier" only would date younger. So some suggest that a 36 year age difference is no issue. So for me that means dating a 67 year old man? Well, he is thinking of retirement just as my career is ramping up. What about children? Will I eventually become his full time carer? And to go out with an 18 year old. Yeah some guys look older but others still look like kids. Believe me I aint' interested in listening to how pissed they got over the weekend or the fact all their interesting stories start with..."when I was in high school" haha. :P For party hookups you don't ask, but for a relationship. Surely having things other than sex in common is important.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I suppose I should mention that my partner is 9 years older than me.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Re losing money, relationships can be non live in? Surely no marriage or live in defacto, or joint assets, would protect both? Not ideal long term I suppose but it would take me a long time, years probably, to consider making that move
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Who gives a fuck? But for a relationship, the meeting of 2 minds need to be on the same level. That narrows the allowable age difference. If you are going out for physical attraction then it's a question of how much money you will gain/lose when that wears out. Yup. Depends a bit on how you define "relationship" (my own definition is quite lightweight and high-independence for instance). But at any rate, the meeting of minds needs to be on the same wavelength. As someone who's never wanted kids, and never wanted to follow the path of the traditional "relationship escalator", my 30s were a bit of a headfuck for me. Which is why it's a bit of a relief to be past all that, and why I tend to gravitate towards older women who are past all that stuff.
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RHP User
8 years ago
as minds being on the same level, quite frankly minds my age bore me and I'm used to being around young people. I'm also amused with how this gets people uptight? All comes downs to judgement really doesn't, and given some out of chosen fetishes here, for them to judge? lmao And where did the op say life partner? A relationship doesn't have to be fuckin growing old and sitting on the porch together. Katurdai, thank you for outlining so well how we don't fit a certain mould. I don't either, never have for that matter, my whole life was a head fuck 😀 and find the judgement predictable and offensive. The meeting of two minds? I happen to like talking about uni lol music, cars, parties, friends and crazy things they do, but more often you hear about the struggles, the ambition, I'm around arty people a lot and they're far more intelligent than the majority, they look deeper, I learn from them. What do old people talk about? How much their husband/wife cheated on them or the weather because they have nothing interesting to talk about?
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RHP User
8 years ago
😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
If your having sex, well that dose not matter a bit, although if it is a relationship this is a different story. They have different interest, you cant walk down the anywhere in public as it is embarrassing when they say is that your father. In my eyes, the younger persons like is ruined. Let him/her live their life to the fullest as everyone else does. I REALLY feel sorry for persons in that type of relationship. At times they are in it because of mental abuse.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Works for us! :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
younger ,older ,what ever , it's just a matter of attraction ,if it's there ,end of story ,that simple and that goes for either way and that's for both of us ,why complicate thing more than needs be mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Read your post with some interest... Your reference to a older male being perhaps 67 years of age , ready for retirement and you becoming a full time career seems a little bit out of whack to me ? For a start, dating doesn't automatically mean a full on relationship with all the trappings as you mentioned ? I'd say the majority of men in that age group would not be interested in anything else but the date . Do you see every man you date as a possible long term relationship ? If so ' , then I'd suggest E Harmony would be a better choice than this ....
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have a partner already as I've stated. Sometimes relationships get serious and others don't. Not sure why you would have an issue with that? Its my opinion, but yes, I get your're sticking up for your GF. Well done. :)
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Sawadee
8 years ago
No issue , just a opinion .. When a man or woman dates someone younger ' there always seems to be someone who goes looking for something sinister ? That peeves me abit but not a issue.. Now ' sticking up for my GF ' really ? News to me ? I have girls that are friends here on RHP , and friends that are girlfriends in real life. So which are you talking about ? If you mean Touch ' you're wrong. Ive joked around and bounced off her for ages ' that's just the way we are , but that it ..
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RHP User
8 years ago
Actually it's a molehill😟
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RHP User
8 years ago
only people who seem to care about age difference in relationships are those not in the relationship, which is of course unimportant
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RHP User
8 years ago
Please tell us how you came to that conclusion? Is it a of you not being in a relationship and caring about difference?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Is it a case...
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RHP User
8 years ago
OOOOPS my bad!!!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Like your reference to my thread!!I am the same!! Good conversation, mental stimulation and a healthy click as you called it over rides any age barrier for me.I am stalking you my prey right now!!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Your age does not make you any more or less of a person than the next person does it?! We are all human beings, and human beings will interact with other human beings no matter what the age difference! It's just nature happening as it also does in animals species! What's the big deal?! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
..there's all those daddy / daughter dates? Schoolgirl / headmaster? It just goes on and on... lol :-)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think it's easier for the younger person to get there head around it than the older. Was in a FWB deal for around 2 years up until recently. She's 33 I'm 25. Was a little awkward at first but as we got to know each other it became less weird. I actually like talking and spending time with her and wouldn't have minded if it developed into more than friends but for her the age gap was to big of a deal and couldn't just go with the flow as I could. I find it easier to get along with older people, there's less drama and immaturity with older women.
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RHP User
8 years ago
When it comes to a full relationship the best way I find is half +7, although I still feel anything over 10 years is pushing it. 15+ starts pushing the "old enough to be their parent" in my eyes. But outside dating, pfft, age is a number. A 18 year old may be better than a 50 year old in bed for certain people, or vice versa. As mentioned, it's not like we go around with a "age badge."
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RHP User
8 years ago
Who cares about age difference if you love somebody - i for my part give a hoot about socially acceptable. It’s not society I marry! I have to admit that physical appearance is the initial attention perhaps, but even the most gorgeous woman will be boring after two weeks (being generous) if there’s no real conversation possible (that applies to guys of course as well). Having said this ...my wife is twenty years younger and any problems we had were not age related.
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guilty_cpl
8 years ago
At the end of the day, age is only a number, when swinging it is more about the time, place and person,, there has to be a meeting of the minds but ultimately it is all about sexual gratification,,, for us age is but a number, it has more to do with personality and a meeting of the minds and sexual aptitude
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RHP User
8 years ago
No fucks given on what other people think. =) Usually people who dont even know you who judge - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Age is exactly that , a number Experience counts doesn't it lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Why do so many people on RHP lie about their age? It's one of my pet hates. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
hmmmm....well, seems to us attraction can be physical, emotional or intellectual or simply inexplicable...or some ill defined almalgm of all of them....we have found the younger ones and we dont even look below 30 tend to lack sincerity..and seem quite unaware of it themselves though it seems quite transparent to us...is it ridiculous to expect a degree of sincerity on here? Maybe, try being attracted to someone you think is lying to you though....As usual "I touch myself" is refreshingly candid
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RHP User
8 years ago
Very good point. IMO a large amount of people do, some by up to 20 years which is a complete joke. So a 42 yr old woman wants to use that stupid formula lol what is it, half your age add 7. That would be 28 or above. Sounds pretty reasonable I suppose. The dude maybe isn't used to being with an older woman, is stretching it with his comfort level seeing a 42 yr old. But the pictures of her shoes look sexy so off he toddles to meet her. Turns out she's older than me, she's 55. There lies the problem, non disclosure. Same if a guy is considering a relationship, he might not want to meet a woman too much older, his choice, again what if he was 35, went off to meet a woman he thought was 42, then found out she was 55? I agree with you completely, lying about age shits me, particularly when the liars are on here giving their worldly advice to me lol Shits me too. Age gaps matter to them, lying to people doesn't apparently 😉 It's a joke
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Dirtyandfriendly
8 years ago
I've dated older, younger and had casual sex with mixed ages. I guess what it comes down to is their personality and attitude. I have found my age or older generally look for a relationship and want more, where the younger women just want to have fun so the perks vary. Sadly though I do wish I was older as a few friends of mine go crazy for men over 40 grey haired and fit. I. Hoping to be that guy someday too. But then women my age and older are looking for a spark and casual fun too which I like. I feel I need both younger and older in my life. Is that possible?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm screwed if it does... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I left my rather successful life with my partner of 16 years to be with a girl 17 years younger than me. She's 33 with children, whereas I had no children. It is difficult sometimes and with my greying hair I feel older sometimes. She persists that she loves me older than her or not. The sex is fantastic and her attitude on life is happy now as she has been abused most of her life, so I was a calming release too. Been together three years. Rocky sometimes and yes have been called her dad once which she laughed off to calm my shock. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think the age difference becomes less the older you are. For instances when you are growing up 2 years is a huge difference and like you said. 25 and 33 was too big a gap 4 you guys even tho it’s only 7 years. When you are older 7 years doesnt seem so much. The age difference shrinks because you have experienced a lot so there are more common factors. Of course, being early 20’s there is still lots to do and discover. :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Oh dear! Haha. I love my daddies. ;-) xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
I adore my silver foxes. Totally sexy. Grrrrr
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LissnJules
8 years ago
Well we have 15 years between us. I'm 46 Mrs and he is 31. We have been together for 4 years. Live together hang together. We have had some issues but nothing to do wth age. I hang with his friends. We are traveling together next year wth his 2 best mates. Him not wanting kids means that is not an issue. So no it doesn't bother us. But its amazing how our relationship has bothered others. No one close to us but people who feel they have the right to an opinion. And no offence but usually younger woman. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
If you click, you click I have a great lady now that is 13 Year’s older than 51. We talk everyday for an hour on the phone, have the same taste in food, drink, humour and music. It just feels great. That’s all the bad stuff, haha When it comes to the sex, it is incredible! She has a bit of a hang up about the age gap and being older. We just tick each other’s boxes. Instant chemistry across a dance floor, I knew the moment I saw her. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MrsPlayful78
8 years ago
Age is just a number. At the end of the day it is about the initial connection and people involved that matters. People are individuals and some more mature than others at certain ages with different life experiences. As long as everyone is happy with the situation then no need to over think it with numbers.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Candy Delicious, I was so disappointed with my first grey hair. Now, I just go with the flow. Be cool if more thought along your lines. Do they have a helicopter landing pad in Coogee? Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Really who cares - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Bet you their parents will care, particularly if they are younger than the lover! Lol.
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couplecourious
8 years ago
Doesn't bother me. What other people do is there business. For myself I would quite happily hook up with someone 15 years older but not 15 years younger as this is too close to the age of my kids and it just feels wrong. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
lol I'm not getting the approval of parents 😂 that's enough to put anyone off their mojo
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's just a number right? Have fun, have fun doing it! - Posted from rhpmobile
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bonefide
8 years ago
Her body is in full-body orgasmic state, so who worries about age whilst 2 consenting adults engage in cardiovascular work out. Healthy apparently??? Is a good cardio workout. 😎
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RHP User
8 years ago
Everyone is ok with age difference it seems unless the female of the couple is asian and the guy is much older. Then they're treated differently. On here it's assumed she's being forced into swinging. But if they're both Caucasians.........? On another note It's flattering getting flirts from younger couples but agree with couplecourious 'not 15 years younger as this is too close to the age of my kids and it just feels wrong'. - Posted from rhpmobile
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bonefide
8 years ago
lol I'm not getting the approval of parents 😂 that's enough to put anyone off their mojo. yep cant shagodilic with gusto if parents haven't approved it. LOL
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RHP User
8 years ago
Your post reminded me of when I was in my early thirties, I asked a girl out. When I went in to pick her up I realised that I was closer to her parents age than hers. Fortunately Dad was cool about it, he looked me in the eye and told me to get her home safely.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well as the female in our relationship and having a younger partner ( me 44 and him 26) seemes to be frowned upon more than the other way. Not a cougar as I was not "seeking" a younger man. It works for us and were very happy however we do get looks. There is also a cultural difference so double whammy of judgement. You know what though we love each other so who cares what everyone thinks.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I love daddies! Older the better. Such a naughty boy when I’m with them - Posted from rhpmobile
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bonefide
8 years ago
He was a trusting soul, while double barrel duck terminator, was tucked behind the door. 😎
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RHP User
8 years ago
Mine is a Westley Richards, first Saturday in May was opening day... Boom boom 😱
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RHP User
8 years ago
When I was 20 I dated an Asian Muslim women who was in her mid 30s in a polyamory married relationship. I don't think it's an issue if you have an open mind. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
My personal rule is 10 years up and 3 years down. Everyone is different in their preferences and as long as all parties involved are happy (and legal) then who gives a sh*t 😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You_have_male....17 year age gap? She's 33 and your profile says you're 44.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
49 stated in profile. Also says rhp won't update the age thing. News to me, the way ages on here change daily 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
17 yr age gap would make him 50, and not single? 😉
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Freaky_Fun
8 years ago
My FWB of two years just turned 22. Ooo gasp from the peanut gallery. But then l don't give a toss what anyone thinks and l certainly don't care what other people do. Would we get married and have kids, no. Is he fun to be around, hell yes. He is an old soul and we rarely speak about our age gap especially when it counts. He's respectful, well mannered, a great conversationalist, we have a lot in common sports wise, he's hot as fuck and great in bed. Think l can live with that 😝. I have been with one oooold guy in his 50s but he's a little unique to say the least 😜😂😘
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
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RHP User
8 years ago
I love my Daddies too! But the oldest is probably in his mid 50’s. how old do you go? Wonder how many Mummies are on here .... 😆
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Sawadee
8 years ago
?..then there's a good chance we happy to share our bodies... younger or mature... The minute you start adding specified numbers, you stuff it for yourself and the person you miss out on...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Dusting's been done 😀 Jay, yes my calculator broke a long time ago 😉 never was any good at Maths 😄
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Dryphuz
8 years ago
I dont give a damn when its other people, but if its me I would be really self conscious if my partner was either much older or younger than me.But thats thinking specifically about relationships. If we're just talking FWB or similar, then... No wait i'd still be self conscious because I'd think younger should be having fun with people their own age before they've missed that time of their life, and i find older women intimidating. But i'm mostly embarrassed for anyone who is seen with me anyway regardless of age. On reflection then the problem is me and my hang ups not others. Pretty standard for me really.
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RHP User
8 years ago
What others do is none of my business and I'd love to sound all open minded and cool but the truth is, I'm just judging silently. The hypocrisy here is that I do have a fantasy about being dominated by someone or sometwo much younger. I also fantasise about being dominated by someone much older. Both excite me for different reasons but I think both are about power play. The advantage to being 38 is that someone much younger can still be in their 20's and there's plenty of fish still in the playing pool that are much older. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
What I'm saying is if I was considering a lifetime commitment ( which I'm not ) then I might think about it a lil deeper. Otherwise seeing everyone as a living breathing person first and not the number of years they've been around, is the only way as far as I'm concerned.. I've meet younger females who I'm just as comfortable with as much as I am with older some older ladies. Then again I've meet some stunning immature younger females who I'd avoid like the plague simply because we have nothing in common ? In saying that , I never intentionally go out looking for any age in particular . It's who i happen to meet at the time..
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Hottie1
8 years ago
Hubby is 4 years younger than me and my BF is 13 years younger than me ... Why? I’m generalising but IMO Younger men are the only ones able keep up with my sexual appetite and needs :) I do have friends who are a little older than me and that’s ok but I don’t choose older men as a rule :) Mary xx
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Leave your options open... Otherwise you never know what you could be missing..
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RHP User
8 years ago
Nothing wrong with an age difference doesn't matter how much apart it is if it works and you happy why fucking not - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
can't approach/hit on young guys in RL, after one fail lol can't bring myself to do it, not unless there's a definite show of intetest from them. There were two today who appeared to be flirting with me, but it's a big step for me to make the move. I would have happily had fun with both together 😊 had they just asked 😇
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RHP User
8 years ago
Forgive typos
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RHP User
8 years ago
When it comes to friendships with or without sex age really doesn't matter. I would go with any age for sex as long as over 18. I don't really care about size either as it is all about the fun. When it comes to a relationship I think the age needs to be closer for most couples to enjoy similar interests and abilities.( I did say most, not all) In the end life is all about having fun and enjoying yourself so be happy in your decision and all the critics can go get stuffed.
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RHP User
8 years ago
age is a big thing to me i want and need a guy to be over 45 or in they 50 for me to think about loving thenif i was open to have a bf or a parten
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RHP User
8 years ago
One thing I wanted to highlight is no matter what the age or preference of each person, we are all individuals and need to be treated as such. Received a message saying I need a cougar. Ooookay instant turn off. That would be like me taking any guy just because he's young? No just no
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RHP User
4 years ago
As they say - Age is just a number and it is not the size that matter. (I am just checking out the site and testing to see if the forum work for free membership 😁)
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