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Age is but a number but is it?
August 14 2025
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RHP User
9 months ago
As I am someone who enjoys and basically needs and seeks connection in the form of conversation and doing things in the real world. I find that women not much more than ten years either side of my age match up thought wise and seeing the world similar. As far as just sex goes I don't see anything wrong with any age seeing any age. It seems to me that sex, experienced or not is just as enjoyable with any ages, not that I have experienced much younger or older than myself. But the physical will always be just that, where as the mental side can be miles apart generally because of generational differences. Mind you I understand the seeking younger, not just making one feel younger in themselves but because it takes us back to fond memories of who we were. It kills me when I read that people who are older hold more experience or younger people are more physical and toned. On the question about finding younger or older I think I could say without doubt that it is much easier for a women to go young than for a man. But sugar dating has brought the odds up for the males if you have cash to throw about. I feel dirty old man and milf/cougar will never change
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NeoAndTrin
9 months ago
I think the person is more important than the number. If you have chemistry and like them then why not act on it. That said when it comes to actually having a full time partner I did have age limits in place no younger or older than 6 years either side so we can grow old together and not lose or be lost by time and the aging process while the other still has plenty of life left to live. That was important for me.
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MrandMrsEss
9 months ago
We have a pretty decent age gap between us and MrsS can easily pass for a decade younger than she is whereas I definitely look my age. We think this is the biggest issue with finding play partners that match all round. What I have noticed is people very much look for ages they are used to so if a couple are of similar age they won’t look for much older (but younger does seem to be ok). We find much more genuine interest from couples with similar age gaps which really reduces the pool to pick from. Personally we like to explore new vibes so are open to different ages so long as there’s sparks there
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Onehunglow
9 months ago
Great question, from my experience it’s been a connection rather than age, someone with whom you have a synergy, easy flowing conversation, yet comfortable enough with touch and feel.
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Nightglider
9 months ago
The biggest age gap I’ve had was with someone 17 years older, but that was back in my twenties. Since joining this space, the oldest has been my own age, and the youngest was 21 years younger. I tend to prefer younger men, though I definitely have a limit. I’ve had offers from men as young as 18, but if they’re close in age to my kids, it’s an automatic no. I’m often surprised by how many in that bracket try to convince me that “age is just a number.” At the end of the day, we all have our own preferences, and as long as everyone involved is of legal age and those preferences align, there’s nothing wrong with that.
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HotWifeUnicorn
9 months ago
For years my type was 15+ years younger. Then I fell for a guy 3 years older than me who was an exceptional lover. The problem with guys over 50 IMO is that they start having health issues! Otherwise I've lost my bias and happy to accept a guy for who he is in whatever stage of life that is except really young (under 25) and much older...
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nightingale8
9 months ago
Some time ago I connected with one wonderful man who started reminiscing about events he attended in the 70s during a date and remember at some point having to interrupt him saying, I’m sorry I don’t remember that time because I wasn’t even born yet! It was a bit of a laugh but definitely highlighted the distance in experiences and life stage. I think because of that connection I had been more open to older (say 15 years) and that changed my preferences. I find my tastes are fairly fluid though and while I haven’t been active lately I’ve been visually appreciating much younger more than ever (like my hot intern who I think has the hots for me. God no I wouldn’t go there but it sure does make work entertaining lol). My theory on me is I’m starting to get somewhat insecure about age and having lost my peak attractiveness. I didn’t appreciate it at the time but at 25 I had a rocking hot body by today’s body standards (sadly for me curvy and muscular wasn’t admired as much back then!) Similarly I look at other younger men and think, gee whiz you’re beautiful you may as well be glowing lol
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boobsandbusted
9 months ago
Def not worried about age up or downwards ,if they want It ,that’s good ,we heard a saying many years ago , dontt want to know ,don’t ask,,makes it pretty simple ,lol,
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Sawadee
9 months ago
For me ' its always been about the person not thier number.. Women l attract are usually younger . Mrs Sawadee is younger and apart from the normal upsets in a relationship, we get along just fine. My preference these days are 40 plus but l dont stick solidly to that.. lf the chemistry is there and its a mutual attraction , l dont see a problem with age as long as theres a maturity and not too young...
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ppiffle3934
9 months ago
It has been my experience that men in their 30’s and 40’s seem to be still attracted to me. This hasn’t changed since I was in my 40’s! I must admit I do enjoy most of the experiences I have had with men in these age groups. Although their physicality and looks do play a part in my attraction to them, I find intelligence, wit, maturity and the ability to have decent conversations will often win me over. Of course, the age gap is rather limiting in many ways. It’s rare for me to find a man closer to my own age that I find physically/sexually attractive and although we may have many things in common otherwise, it’s not enough to keep my interest. I do find it’s more about the person, the connection and chemistry more than the age tho.
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RHP User
9 months ago
I think women are more particular in their age preferences whereas a lot of men ( not all ) seem to be happy with any age between 18 and 99.
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couplelooking
9 months ago
Coming from a couple in our very early 50,s we can understand your thoughts , and admit we thought the same when younger .. but now to us age is just a number and it all goes on personality and connection .. but I do have to add .. we now get more action than we ever did from all ages , we have found a lot of people prefer our age because we are passed playing games and messing people around. No one has ever walked away and not wanted to connect again .
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Peachykean
9 months ago
Each to their own, personally I find it gives me the ick when guys in their 20s to early 30s proposition me….. again I repeat, that’s just my preference. What annoys me is when they don’t respect the age preference and get abusive when you politely decline .
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TheMinx
9 months ago
I'm an ageist. My pleasure comes from touching, running my hands over their body, feeling their skin on mine. Unfortunately the older one gets the skin reflects this so my turn on then becomes my biggest ick. Sagging skin 😬 Pass on the young dumb and full of 💦 generally not engaging enough with my brain to keep me interested.
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MsSuperFoxy
9 months ago
My parents had a big age gap, but it never really bothered me or shaped my choices. In my 20s I went for same-age, by my mid-30s I leaned towards younger. These days, if we click, I’m in, though if the “Netflix” is still playing after 10 minutes, someone’s not pressing the right buttons. 😉😏 Ms Foxy
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Thesunlovingsub
9 months ago
Anecdotally I find younger men (for me that means early to mid 30s) can have less hangups and are a bit more playful and fun outside the bedroom, but I find often what I’m asking for in terms of friendship and reciprocal effort is more than they can offer. Low effort and non-committal men are not for me. I find men closer to my age or older are far more better communicators, usually with higher sexual intelligence, but often come with the baggage of insecure masculinity. Across the board the biggest piss-off for me is men who just want to talk at me, and often over me, and have no interest in knowing me as either an intelligent woman or a sexual being with individual needs and desires. This phenomenon unfortunately not age specific, so I remain open-minded on age. Side note - does anyone else use the half + 7 rule? IYKYK
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Exxxploringcpl
9 months ago
For no particular reason, most of my partners have been older than me (I'm the guy of the couple). Thats maybe because I'm looking at attraction a bit more holistically. Conversely, almost all of my partner's told me that I don't look my age, more like 5-10 years younger 😇 which is nice. Now, fiance happens to be 4 years younger, and on top of that, she really doesn't look her age, easily 10 years younger 🔥🔥🔥🔥 We both don't mind older/younger as long as it is a match and mutual attraction. Some people out there are taking very good care of themselves and look outstanding for being in their 40's, 50's or even 60's. That can be very attractive to us (as in, they look after themselves). So, a lot of the time, age is just a number.
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NIRVANA123
9 months ago
Ever since I was a young girl all my partners have been older than me. Sheesh. At aged 16 the biggest gap, 46 but as I grow older that gap is demishing and I am actually considering for the first time in my life a younger man. For me there has to be both a physical and a psycological connection. Face it. Intelligence and emotional maturity especially, is sexy as all fuck. I don't think there are many woman that dont connect to some extent within her mind as well physically to get off and become aroused. Hence it makes sense to seek a smart man or woman who you are attracted to, no matter the age (within reason 😉)
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Fuckyousweetness
9 months ago
Attention from the young must be sending the egos into hyperdrive
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Gialia
9 months ago
I would prefer an older man. The oldest man I have a relationship with is 36 years older with great personality. So different in personality and sexual desire with a 20 years old guy I dated. Older man is easier to find and all the older men I met are extremely respectful and know the boundaries.
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RHP User
9 months ago
I prefer men in the late twenties to early forties age range :)
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Hollyxox
9 months ago
It really depends on the individual, for me anyway ☺️
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RHP User
9 months ago
I’m older. My view it is the platform. We are attracted to another through all the senses and chat and photos are just not enough information to gauge another. I have met lovers initially at airports, cycling, rock climbing and yes some on platforms like this. I chatted with a lover for three months before we met. We ended up flying overseas together. Ten years still friends. And the age thing? Well I was hit on a lot when in my teens - from older women - expectations were always different. But I still don’t know a lot about women. I know a lot about horses. A horse you have to feed and groom. You have to spend time with a horse way before you try to saddle and mount. When I’ve done that - well it seems to work for me.
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RHP User
8 months ago
Hi, no I don't think it matters in my opinion. I've had great experience with humans in their 20's and 50's. If you got common ground in some toppics, there is no hurdle. It's more the environment and society around us that looks a bit funny and judges, but I don't care :) Has it changed over time? Yes, I would only date people my age when I was in my 20's, nowadays I don't restrict myself. Are different sexes more open to age difference? I think its got more to do about where are you in life, values, preferences, common ground like hobbies, how were having sex, like compatibility etc. Sawa.
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55SexyandSingle
8 months ago
I receive a lot of messages from guys in their 20’s, and honestly have no desire at all to have sex with someone 30 years younger than me … Before I connect with someone sexually, I very much like to connect on an intellectual level, and personally I find that men in their 40’s and early 50’s often offer the best of both worlds … with the ability to stimulate my mind by engaging in interesting conversation, as well as amazing sex. One often leads to the other in my experience ! But as with everything in life, each to their own and no judgement on people’s choices or preferences
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RHP User
7 months ago
I have always had a thing for ladies older than me. Just get on better eith them and can converse so much more easier. Younger girls for me are impossible to connect with. And also I am a big fan of curvy ladies and bbw so that also kinda goes with the older women category. Not shaming anyone or being a dick just being straight up. Not intended to offend anyone :)
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Lustie
7 months ago
When I was in my early forties , I was fortunate enough to be invited on a sexy weekend away by 2 couples , 1 in their early 20's , the other in there late 20's , was a wonderful sexy weekend and I continued to see both for sometime till I had to move away for work . Around the same time I also met a lady in her early 60's who was alot of fun to be with. it was interesting to see the differences in play. The difference in pace , intimacy, and willingness to explore. I am now in my mid 50's and have only recently returned to the lifestyle after a extended absence, I have yet to actually meet anyone here, I am however currently chatting with a couple of ladies. Like many here I to have a preferred age range, mostly as I feel I would have a much better chance to actually meet with this range , but have been contacted a few times by some much younger , and also much older , I don't mind, as having played with some both 20 years younger and 20 years older , I have found that age is not a barrier to find great people or great times , if your willing to reach out.
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Generousgent
6 months ago
From a male perspective, you don't think about age. I'm looking out the same windows I've always looked out from, and unless I look in the mirror, I don't feel old. Men will always perv at the younger women because, yes, they ARE attractive. Realistically, though, I'm never going to pull a younger woman. It's not just age it's the whole package, and the Ladies have the choice.
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