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All talk and no show?
November 12 2017
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Curioustwo88
8 years ago
We have only been stood up once very early on but the talking for ages and pic swapping thing is very common. What we like to do now is swap a couple of messages, then face pics and if we like what we see organise to meet for a drink to get to know them. In our experience people who want to see lots of pics or want to chat a lot before meeting are never going to go through with actually meeting. After we started to do it this way we have spent less time talking with people who have no intention of meeting/pic collectors and more time chatting to people who we are likely to meet. In saying this we still find it a challenge to actually meet people that we both find attractive, that find us attractive and that we click with but that's the nature of this I guess. Mrs C Xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
... as I have had similar experiences within the realm of single-hood. No that does not mean I'm a bad guy and like you don't have the time for time-waters. To that end, I prefer to go directly to the phone and will not venture in to P2P nonsense like Messenger and KIK, Not only are these vacuous alternatives but also have more security leaks that you can imagine. Even baby-hackers can pop these open without breaking a sweat! The phone also gives you a chance to put names and voices together...bonus! Sure you'll get some that will arch up and some that will drop out but that's just part of the filtering process! Best luck in your travels....... CM
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RHP User
8 years ago
The more they want the less they show. If they ask a million questions. Ask to chat on different social media..facestalk..kik..what app. Keep making excuses for possible no shows. And the classic tell tale.. show me more pics...do you have any more new ones... After a while you learn to catch out people with "no showitis". Some of the best places to meet pepole are at swinger house parties and swinger clubs. If they make it there they make it anywhere.
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RHP User
8 years ago
They also have similar actions character and traits
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HotNightsGC
8 years ago
The more you show, the less they need from you. Interest decreases if there’s not level of intrigue or mystery. We don’t use kik or other messaging platforms anymore. The more you talk, the less chance there is of a commitment to a meet up. If they really want to meet you then they’ll set a date with you fairly soon after the initial RHP messaging. Good luck 👍🏻 Ms HNP xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
is likely true, you might also consider balancing the possibility you could take the time, make the effort, and spend the money to go out and meet quickly, only to find you're left entirely disappointed because you're not on the same wavelength. The other party may not be how/what they seemed to be in your brief exchanges prior. What's the bigger waste? (Of course, it does really depend what you want/expect of an encounter...)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree. I have experienced the same. The longer online chatting occurs the less likelihood of meeting and it happens on all sites. I have spoken with women for a few weeks and interest has been shown in meeting and then silence or occasionally an I'm not interested anymore. Very disheartening at this recurring time and again. I'd rather meet for a drink and a chat in person sooner. At least then you know quickly if there is a mutual connection. If not then you haven't wasted endless weeks of messaging.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Had that a few times too, we think it’s single guys perking on our pictures who pretend to be couples. It is extremely annoying when it happens though. Xxx
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RHP User
8 years ago
I never ask to see peoples private photos. I only ask for face shot if it's not on their profile. I think there are a lot of guys out there that are just looking to get pics of women though. I find it sad really.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I Hav experienced Same.
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RHP User
8 years ago
In part it’s my mind space, part screening process....and also lastly part respecting and displaying my willingness to be that one in a hundred guy.... We all want someone we click with. So my way displaying that is to take my time getting to know them over some message ping pong...when I see someone trying to rush to an outcome, it sets my warning will Robinson alarm off as to me they wanna rush to the outcome so that they can rush into the next liaison....besides I like to read what they claim to be and be able to verify it and you can’t verify diddly squat after 3 or 4 messages....least of all be able to know if you’re gonna be a good match in the bedroom.... I also like to test how genuine they really are by seeing how patient and understanding they are....again I do this by seeing how thy handle my lack of speed...if they become aggressive or lack respect in how they deal with things you lose....I’m incredibly patient and others also need to have some as well.... Helps me deal with my mind...it’s an over thinker...and often I get caught off guard when someone suggests a meet before I have even thought about it....and again I’ll walk away, because then my mind will go haywire and I end up mentally exhausted from wondering why it is they know what they want from me, and I’m still at the start gate.... Lastly... I’m in no rush....I take my time when I’m with my lover/s so if you are in a hurry to get ya clothes off, chances are, you’re not going to give a shit about anything else except your own pleasure.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I always imagine they are just playing games to entertain themselves. Who's got time for that shit? Get a life.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm someone who likes to see a lot of pictures, I just think it's fun and it usually keeps me entertained! But I like to meet people face to face and I would never arrange a meet and then let someone down unless I had a damn good excuse! I like to think my validations reflect this
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Great_vibes
8 years ago
It is a common story I hear from couples where single guys dont show up. I call it the masturbation theory, where a guy is all in when it comes to the fantasy but then after jacking off in front of the computer never follows through with the reality. The cycle is then repeated lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi . I don't mind talking as I,ll stop any misconceptions pretty quick by tell them about myself as that's importaint in my case , I,m not a hot sexy chic I,m not that sexy and have little to no expreance sexualy with guys so I can be ether rejected or looked over so I don't get time wasters for all that a few guys have come to see me and a short talk has been good ,I,v meet a few and they live 1/2 an hour away . one couple did meet with me for a cupper and I knew nothing would come of it I think they had expections that would have been out of my reach, any way I had other detail to attend so was not a wasted time . I know 3 guys who would like to be with me sexually ,I just know and from my account that I would not be able to handle them and I,ll tell them , so its importaint to talk about issues and detail . as for photos apart form not having any they would wish to see my avatar is as close a look any one will see boring yes just no sexy photos yes been stood up on a meeting I knew I would and did not care had other things to do. So from that youll see wont be many knocking on my door .If I say I,ll be meeting some one I,ll attend , ...noeleena...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Even just a quick message to say 'sorry, we won't be coming tonight' would have been appreciated. I do agree that we should talk less online and send less photos. Very annoying! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi Guys, just read your experience here on rhp. Sorry to hear that. We have same experience but what some people say we don't agreed such as not to show/swap pics... everyone wants to see the other party before meeting which is normal, as attraction plays a big role and time is precious. Why wasting time and meet someone who you do not feel comfortable with or attracted to? So swapping a few pics worked for us well and saves a lot of time. Not sure if it works out for other couples tough. You guys look gorgeous and don't let that turn you off. As said we experience the same... getting sent heaps of nudes and then sudden they go quiet out of nowhere. We won't hold our breath because of that. We know there will be some decent couples in between which we most likely also develop a friendship with 😃 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
After some long text exchanges it was disappointing to discover the chemistry wasn't there in person. Conversely, some people who are great in person have their awesomeness hidden through text. So we veer towards meeting earlier rather later, particularly as we both have a soft spot for people who can write well. Being clear about moving towards a meet up as quickly as practical has really helped weed out the keyboard players, and kept us from investing huge amounts of time in people who are great to chat with but with whom we have no chemistry in person. It is tricky when distance or scheduling are issues - we turned out to be happy that we were patient to meet people from out of town, for instance, and we've also had legitimate scheduling things that have come up that we've been grateful for people being flexible about. But in those instances we had had enough interactions (including phone/video) that everyone was fairly confident that everyone was legit, so it was worth taking that risk.
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RHP User
8 years ago
middle-aged male couple, pretending they were an early-twenties girl. A very ballsy attempted switcharoo, not what I'd call a high percentage play.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Its all a game to many, We find that a phone call instead of endless messages and photo requests usually eliminates the timewasters. After a few messages to determine if there is a connection we give them our number and so we can all chat and prove we are all who we say we are. 9 times out of 10 we wont hear from them yet they still message us???? Photos! Usually we will only send face pics after the phone call and we have arranged to meet. Still gives time for both couples to opt out.
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Freaky_Fun
8 years ago
Did someone hack your account or are you getting all mushy on us in your old age 😜 I'll remember to take my time with you next time l see you 😘 OP I have heard that from a lot of couples. I haven't had it happen to me yet and l dare not do it to other people unless it was absolutely necessary l think it's just rude but that's me. As a single parent l don't have the opportunity to go out very often and really enjoy meeting new people regardless of the outcome. I guess some people have too much time on their hands 🤔😏
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Haleakala
8 years ago
Contrary to what a lot of you are saying I'm always a bit hesitant about handing out my phone number, so many things seem to link through to social media, work contacts etc through a phone number that I like to keep it separate until I know the person i'm talking to is for real. I like Kik for the get to know you chat, you can send live pictures to verify, it's still text based so initially you can answer at your own pace and you can video chat as well if you so desire. Nothing beats a phone number for when you do meet: running late, misunderstanding about location, not sure where the person is in the bar, not sure if the person you're looking at and about to approach is the person you've been talking to. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Never bitch tits....get em out 😘😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'temp_territorian' Contrary to what a lot of you are saying I'm always a bit hesitant about handing out my phone number, so many things seem to link through to social media, work contacts etc through a phone number that I like to keep it separate until I know the person i'm talking to is for real. I don't give my phone number to someone I haven't met. I message on here or kik until the meet, and I don't send any pics (there's plenty on my profile for them to perve at) or engage in any sex talk before meeting. That weeds out the people who are just here for online gratification. I'm also not into endless messaging and prefer to meet sooner rather than later. If someone did keep making excuses or go silent at the suggestion of meeting then I would move on immediately as it means they're either never intending to meet, or we aren't compatible in what we're looking for.I have a pretty good bullshit radar and that together with the strategies above has meant I haven't had any issues so far with no shows etc.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Don't share other pics, you have PG's for a reason. That's enough. I tell people I don't share any other pics until I've met in person. I don't waste my time with endless messages. After a few, if I want to meet someone then I'll ask them out for a drink. Easy 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Catfish , I see catfish everywhere . - Posted from rhpmobile
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sugarnsplice
8 years ago
This is so us 9/10 of the people we have meet on here are all talk or just want nude photos to be honest we stopped our membership due to the amount of time wasters and thought if anyone is that keen they will msg us We just want to enjoy ourselves without the rubbishs so if you are out there we are not time wasters - Posted from rhpmobile
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