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Am I being a "nice guy" (and finishing last)?
March 31 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
...at least not in the long run. Mr IAT is 'a nice guy', follows the rules and makes the right choices always and easily. He can resist temptation unlike any other person I know. He too believes 'good guys come last' but I dispute that! I think it depends on how you define 'last'. So I think carry on as you are and doing the right thing - I'm sure good things are just around the corner for you. Personally, when we get contacted by people who don't meet our criteria, they don't get 'bonus points' for 'having a go' anyway. Quite the contrary. We just say 'no thanks' with mild irritation and move on assuming they can't read or worse, don't care! You sound like a lovely person and since I'm married to a lovely person, I reckon the right ladies/experienced are just ones that haven't found you yet! No one likes a cocky, ballsy, egotistical person - at least, not in the long run! (IMO) Mrs IAT- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
If they dropped by and had a look without at least sending a flirt, I'm guessing they were just window shopping... I get dozens of them a day. Did they just like my posts? Or did they see my profile and changed their minds because I'm not for them? Again today my profile was viewed by the 19 year-old girl from Syndey (but really Brisbane) that is only looking for men. Again she (he) sent me a flirt, saying I was excatly what she (he) is looking for. Sure, honey. People are strange.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Titally differet imput here from OP ... to his recent coment in Deal Breaker posting ... can some one have it both ways ( and im not talking about ac/dc or dp ) .... is thrre an age respect or do yiu go outside the artificial boundary. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've got good things in my past, present, and future, so perhaps "finishing last" was a tad melodramatic... Maybe, "nice guy not getting to have all his own cake and other people's too" ;-) And, of course, I've not *always* respected the letter of the law on boundaries, but one does wonder if one should should just toss the rule book out the window. As for people, Ms D, aren't they. Anyone collective that makes me feel normal must be truly fruity! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
If I get a view from someone I like, and I'm within cooee of their demographic, I'll usually send a polite hello asking if they're interested in knowing more..... I do remember when I first signed up to one of these places, the messages I received were SO intimidating....... So many nice, polite, sweet and gentle girls join here to meet someone, only to get bombarded by pics of 12" ramrods ! 3/4 of them never return to the site !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Actually, totally consistent, I think. *My* limits are wide. I'm concerned here about other people's stated limits... Although, I do have a penchant for double standards ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't think it matters too much.... what have you got to lose?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ok Ok so I`ve viewed more than once...but baby your profile pic is dam HWAAAAT! FOXY xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
And I think you are too on this one. Just relax, and enjoy it, without losing your assertiveness to what you want, and by that I mean if someone piques your interest, and vice versa, be prepared to tell them what you want, as I'm sure you do. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I looked at a guy's profile once, and almost immediately received the "I noticed you noticed me" flirt from him. It worked, I wrote him. And was glad I did. Maybe something to try?
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RHP User
13 years ago
You're in NSW.
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RHP User
13 years ago
nailed the way I feel also. I don't pay any attention to who has viewed my profile, unless of course they view it a gazillion times in 10 mins - then I just hit block to spoil their funQuoting 'Ms_Devious' If they dropped by and had a look without at least sending a flirt, I'm guessing they were just window shopping... I get dozens of them a day. Did they just like my posts? Or did they see my profile and changed their minds because I'm not for them?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Messo I have visited your profile a number of times. But alas you are in Sydney & I don't fit your criteria😉- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
but those eyes Messo...welllllllllllllllll
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RHP User
13 years ago
I almost always disregard preferences. If I have an interest in a woman I let her know.Preferences are often outdated or are justvague guidelines...not absolute rules....- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have looked you up too in response to,some of your posts. Just lookin'......
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RHP User
13 years ago
I meant Messo lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
You can't tell how many times I've looked at your profile ... I've checked the "Do not let members know that I have viewed their profile" box.
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RHP User
13 years ago
...'cause I get a little throbbing every single time. Someone very kind pointed out I might sound like a whiney sod with this thread. Not my intent... just trying to learn. And have my cake and eat it! Thanks for the help/advice! Particularly to *stop thinking so damn much*! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Keep on being the nice guy i think it shows women that u respect them.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Before I comment, take note of this. I'm an honest man, I wright what I'm thinking and feeling. Only continue reading if you can handle some honesty. If my words make you think or rethink, great. If you think there is an angle that I have missed, then by all means, show me where I'm wrong. Teach me, I will listen. But if your going to behave like a child, and belittle or degrade me for being honest, then keep walking. I won't respond to you. Good guys always finish last for a simple reason. Good guys have morals, which means they attach unwritten rules around themselves to keep these morals in check. Rules offer one thing, restriction. Where as a bad boy, who has no respect and does what ever he has to do to achieve the task at hand has an advantage of no rules. It's like running a marathon with 10 kilo weights on either shoe, how can you ever win like that against someone with out the weights? You are obviously frustrated over your luck or lack there of and the women of RHP are too kind. I'm going to leave you with a quote that was told to me. When I very first joined I posted "ladies, what am I doing wrong". I got a private message from a man who gave me some tips, but what he said at the end, stuck with me. He wrote "I'm the one on here that all the women on the forums hate. I'm cheating on my wife on here and I bullshit women to get into their pants, and I don't do too bad either. Then here you are, being honest and respectful, and look what your getting!" I'm not telling you to be a bad boy or lie, I'm not. Just giving my opinion on the matter. Cantbefucked
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RHP User
13 years ago
Mr Cant.Sure, there are some guys with NO moral compass whatsoever. So I agree with your point there.But this list of men is NOT the ONLY list of men who attract, seduce and enjoy a life of abundance when it comes to women.IE.... simply because someone has no moral compass, this does not automatically make him a magnet to women. Indeed, these guys live a live devoid of longer term satisfaction.Similarly, just because a man has a strong selse of morality, does not automatically make him the archetype "nice guy" who women only see as a friend.Attraction is a more complex process that exists, for the most part, in the middle ground between those two options.And to prove that principle...... the bad boy usually throws out thoughtful behaviour to counter his bad traits, to draw women back into him after he has pushed them away....... and the 'nice guy' can easily learn what it is about the bad boy that is alluring to women, and incorporate those personality traits into his own, without altering his moral compass in the slightest.The latter.... is Win/Win for he and the women in his life, while the bad boy will never attain this.DG
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