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Am I the only one?

October 21 2019

Hi Everyone, so this is a bit awkward and I don't know how to start, but I just want everyones opinion. I'm still really new to this, buy my boyfriend isn't. We've never played with a female yet but we've played with a few males. How do you get rid of those initial feelings of jealousy and uncertainty? When I think about him playing with a female, I feel off about it. But at the same time, I usually feel that way about him sexting people, except for when he's actually doing it. So, I guess I'm wondering if it's normal to like this sort of stuff when you're in the moment but not when you're out of it? And also how do you get over worrying about stuff? You know, what if he likes her more, What if she's better, What if I don't look good enough. Are they just young people things?

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FeistyFatty

6 years ago

Its him you should be discussing this with, not us..... doesn't matter what we say...... at the end of the day you guys need to communciate openly, honestly, frankly and do NOT go into anything you're BOTH not 100 percent comfortable with. Communication is paramount for couples who swing or play together or are Open.

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FeistyFatty

6 years ago

After reading your profile and seeing such a significant age gap, id be hoping your partner is supporting you fully and taking it slow into the lifestyle since he's been there done that and youre so so young. Just baby step it and fingers crossed he doesn't rush you before you're ready.

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RHP User

6 years ago

Got a bad feeling about this one

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RHP User

6 years ago

He's very supportive of me and is happy not to be part of this lifestyle if I'm reluctant at all. I was mostly just wondering if it's normal to have those concerns going into this sort of stuff. We've talked about it a lot, I mostly just wanted an outsiders perspective

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SSExplorer

6 years ago

The beautiful moments are those when you look at your partner in ecstasy with another person and you feel all warm and fussy that you can share the moment and there’s not an ounce of jealousy. Of course it can’t be like that 100% of the time but you should have an idea that it’s really what you want. If you’re secure enough together then find a girl YOU like and jump in and try.

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FeistyFatty

6 years ago

Thats good to hear OP👍🏻. And no, it wasnt the norm for my hubby and myself when we started playing 10 years ago. Google Compersion. Might give you some more "academic" insight into your processing/ feelings and those of others. Best of luck x

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thiccgirlowner

6 years ago

.Its far less about them than how you feel about yourself and whether you bring enough to the relationship. Change that internal dialogue and you’ll never feel jealous again

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RHP User

6 years ago

If you feel jealous or 'off' then maybe you are not ready to introduce a second female into your couples play. Talk with your partner about your feelings and try to work out where they are coming from, and what you can both do to try and ease the misgivings. The only time I've had feelings of jealousy when sharing a partner is when I was in love or insecure (and sometimes both!) and we didn't play with others when I was feeling that way.

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nightingale8

6 years ago

You know, sometimes people are jealous for good reason. They know deep down they are at risk of losing someone or aren't getting the love and attention they deserve. Only you can know that. The only problem about being young is you may not have had enough time to learn that being young doesn't diminish your right to claim what you want/need and you know pretty damn well what's going on. Good luck 😁

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CoastCouple2018

6 years ago

Did you ask him how he felt when you played with another man? It goes both ways. You shouldn’t play with another man if you feel off with him getting to experience the same thing you want. It’s always mutual, or it’s suppose to be

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RHP User

6 years ago

Quoting 'CoastCouple2018' Did you ask him how he felt when you played with another man? It goes both ways. You shouldn’t play with another man if you feel off with him getting to experience the same thing you want. It’s always mutual, or it’s suppose to be um, totally disagree with this. Your opinion is fine, but there are many who love it one sided, Cucks etc get off on this type of one sided play. If you allow another man into your play and then hold that as some kind of bargaining chip, then i think you shouldn't have started in the first place. If the OP's partner was comfortable introducing another guy, but she has reservations about bringing in another woman, there is NOTHING wrong with thisMr Rough for the record!

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