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Am I wasting my time?
November 12 2018
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bonefide
7 years ago
Why are u asking, 1. is it taking too long, 2. Negative responses Patience grasshopper, all good things come to those that wait.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Is 3 years a long time?
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RHP User
7 years ago
I wouldn't say responses are negative, just rare. We seem to meet plenty of interested women though.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Are you looking for experiences with your partner or are you in an open relationship and will be meeting by yourself? (Curious..) That aside lots of frogs must be kissed before finding a prince. There are men who will seek a fwb arrangements but like most scenarios on here it can be hard to get everyone on the same page at the same time. It can be quite frustrating when you look at copious profiles and none seem to match with what you want but then everyone is talking about their great experiences etc and you’re left wondering where are my experiences... but keep looking.... persistence is key to most things in life
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yes. Men only ever send flirts , its very boring. I only ever bother looking on here once a month ,maybe. Best go out in the real world and meet real men.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Always had 3somes with hubby by choice, but he is happy for me to have an open arrangement. Just haven't found the right person willing to go down that road. There's lots of effort for little reward, so I'm thinking I'm flogging a dead horse and should give up. Yes, it is hard reading about others awesome adventures, when you're having none.
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
I would rule myself out at the description of "sexy" guy :P You will have to elaborate on whether that means sexy in attitude or sexy in physique, or both.
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bonefide
7 years ago
Yes 3 yrs is along time, best of luck in your endeavours together.
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RHP User
7 years ago
With all the men on this site. Egar and randy. And you cant find one after three years. . Think its time to look else where.
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Smilingwithfun
7 years ago
You say you are after a guy for a FWB situation yet on your profile you say you only play together with your husband.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Suggest that you consider creating your own profile just in your name outlining exactly what you want, maybe then you might actually attract what you are looking for.
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teejaylongsword
7 years ago
It does take some time to find the right person. I assume you have had interest because there are loads of males out there. I do agree though that your profile could be fine tuned. For example, saying that Mrs is under 50 when she is over 50 is unnecessary. Perhaps you could show her youthfulness in a photo. If Mrs wants to play alone, then state that on the profile. I will say however, that you should only take that step if you really want to. A threesome can be a beautiful experience and many men would jump at the chance to play with you two. Its just a matter of finding an available man who is genuine and not an obnoxious wanker. I would offer to meet you, but I am too far away
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RHP User
7 years ago
Plenty of doodle here in Perth. Hell bring hubby along he can watch too. All jokes aside. 3 years is a long time. Either you are to very very veryx3 picky or your profile needs A lil tweekin. Something is not right. But keep on plodding along. Guess 3somes work. Yes it does take time and effort for an open relationship some are experienced in that and others are not. You and hubby are happy to share But there are non sharers out there. Just keep looking. There is always someone for someone, just gotta find them.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I would step up but you unfortunately too far away. I may also not meet your definition of sexy. But hang in there. Im sure it will happen!
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Andremmo
7 years ago
Using the wrong bait Men often get canned here for not reading the profile but yours says you're looking for couples or women so is it any wonder that men don't come running. Make your own profile and actually state what you are looking for and I'm sure the gods will smile on you.
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nightingale8
7 years ago
Try making your own profile? Plenty of beautiful men out there, a handful you will get along with, and one who will sweep you away.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Maybe you’ve not found what you’re looking for because you’re too focussed on finding it....
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks for all of your kind and helpful responses Just to clarify... 1. I do prefer 3sums, hence I'm not keen to go solo, but I'm not ruling it out. MMF with hubby is my preference2. Yes I am picky. Hubby sets the bar high. He turns ladies heads everywhere we go. However, I am realistic and all the men we have been with have been less handsome than him. I do prefer guys who take care of their bodies. I work hard to keep in shape, so that is a turn on for me.3. I don't think the age thing is an issue, we get interest from all age groups, but the couples seem to set their searches for less that 50, so that is why I've done that.4. I've had 3 good FWB connections with guys in the past, however the first wouldn't tell us his real name (trust issues), the 2nd we didn't even get to play before he found a relationship with a single girl and the 3rd we played with twice before he also found a relationship.5. Two of those guys were not found on this site, so I have tried elsewhere, even tried polyamory groups. Meet and greets in Adelaide are few and far between and unfortunately the men are usually in couples, and generally don't look after themselves. Just not my type.6. Most guys just want to eat and run, so to speak and I enjoy a deeper connection than that.7. Adelaide is too small! There's lots of horny women and there's just not enough sexy guys to go around...it's easy pickings for them. Update...thanks to this forum post, I seem to have a bit of interest, so fingers crossed! Lol
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Andremmo' Using the wrong bait Men often get canned here for not reading the profile but yours says you're looking for couples or women so is it any wonder that men don't come running. Make your own profile and actually state what you are looking for and I'm sure the gods will smile on you. We do have looking for single men on the profile, but had brackets around they type of guy we were looking for, so I've removed the brackets. I wonder if they'll come running now?
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RHP User
7 years ago
My suggestion is to have your own profile, I would never look at at couples profile to find a woman who wants to play alone.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'countrytouch82' I would rule myself out at the description of "sexy" guy :P You will have to elaborate on whether that means sexy in attitude or sexy in physique, or both. I certainly wouldn't rule you out, but yes I mean both. I am looking for someone local though
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Roxy007' Yes. Men only ever send flirts , its very boring. I only ever bother looking on here once a month ,maybe. Best go out in the real world and meet real men. Exactly my thoughts Roxy.Hard to meet single guys in the real world when you're married. It kinda scares them off. Lol
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RHP User
7 years ago
I don't want to play alone. Just want fwb connection. They should not be mutually exclusive. Maybe men don't see it that way and that's the problem. Women on the other hand don't seem to have an issue with fwb with a couple.
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
You've made three possible connections. That's infinitely better than 0 connections. So So assuming a new connection will take approximately a year to find, you have to decide how much of your time you are prepared to "waste". Considering my distance in general, I could also consider a waste of time trying to meet single women, but if you look on the bright side, you can view it as an investment of time that one day will perhaps pay off. At least if you are the type of person that is prepared to spend that amount of time looking, without giving up, then it sounds like you are also the type of person to put significant effort into a connection when it occurs. Other people who may be more successful at meeting new folks very quickly, might take their current date for granted quite quickly, considering a new person could be just around the corner anyway. So the fact that you have kept up the effort shows a quality of character in you, resilience and dedication are perhaps some words for it. If you can hang on to those, it will serve you well with a new connection. But you likely know all this as you already have a long term partner. How long did you spend looking for him initially?
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
When we had the national meet and greet in Adelaide the interstates outnumbered the locals so there appears a lot of hesitation in the city. I'm not bagging Adelaide as it is the city outside of my own that l have spent the most time in and e joy it each time. The meet and greet weekend was the best of all that l have been too but the local support was disappointing. It's a numbers game in finding the right people and unfortunately the numbers are down compared to the other majors. Good luck you 2.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks Annie and Country I wish we had been at that meet Annie! You are spot on though. Country...I met hubby online. We were both only looking for fwb. Technically we weren't looking for relationships, just sex as we were both escaping from long-term sexless relationships. Things just evolved quickly from there. We were just lucky I guess....and you're right we both invest considerable time and effort for the right people. This seems to be lacking from the men I've chatted to on these kinds of sites. I'm lucky to get a 2 line msg most of the time...and that generally involves discussing some kind of sex act, which I don't have a problem with, but doesn't really stimulate me mentally.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hey, I’m interested but I’m finding the site limiting as a free member - although we have showed interest in one another, I cannot message you. Feel free to hit me up if you want a genuine guy who may fit what you are seeking
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hey Ryan, I am really looking for someone a little older. I'm more than twice your age...and you have no pics on your profile. Why is that? You don't need to show your face in your pics.
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Forus1234
7 years ago
We know a lovely guy in Adelaide, I’m not sure if you have made contact previously, we will pm you details.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hey, no worries - I totally understand. If you’re ever interested or curious for a chat, I’m here. I’ve got a few pics up in a private galleries now. - if not good luck for your searching. I hope you find what you’re looking for eventually 😉
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RHP User
7 years ago
It is a shame you're not in Sydney as we would be interested too!
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RHP User
7 years ago
fuk me
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RHP User
7 years ago
Would luv to find that sort of connection here in Mackay 😉😉
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