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Am I wasting my time hoping for a relationship with a sexually compatible man?.
July 16 2025
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seekandplay
10 months ago
Firstly, I think your profile could use a wonderful makeover! Your bio is less than 10 words - show the people reading it who you are. Don’t be afraid to clearly articulate what you want either. Pop some lovely photos up there. They don’t need to be of a sexual nature if it doesn’t make you comfortable. Secondly, I’m not sure RHP is quite the place for a proper relationship. The majority of men are either looking for a quick hookup, or something casual with no strings attached. Others will be in open marriages looking for a FWB/Situationship. I do know of a handful of people who have attended private parties, met someone and ended up in beautiful, lasting relationships - so perhaps broaden your scope to more places (face to face) rather than just online? This RHP world is a beast, you’re allowed to feel everything you’re feeling… but make sure it’s not just the only place you are looking for that special someone. Good luck xox
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Notice_Me
10 months ago
Being single, never married & child-free is practically a RHP superpower! Perhaps be open to exploring casually as you determine what is most important to you. The app can be a useful starting point to screen for intentional dating & to connect ahead of time. Then let life will do its thing. You are worthy of every experience you seek.
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RHP User
10 months ago
So i basically have to be either sexless in a vanilla relationship from another site. Or be relationshipless and alone but sexed on here. Such a pity.
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nightingale8
10 months ago
Dating with intent is a bit soul destroying. So I’ve been told but I have no reason to doubt that. Not much advice other than commiserations and suspicion that you’re probably a good egg. Don’t let the game wear you down 🙂 I reckon I’d struggle if I’d have to start over looking for someone sexually explorative, a great person, and also ready for commitment, plus all the other must haves. Though I would say that there will almost always be sexual incompatibility at some point in a long term relationship. It’s not a death knell if it shows up
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HotWifeUnicorn
10 months ago
I think there's a growing number of people looking for a relationship as well as sex here...
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Brian_Breynolds
10 months ago
Can you tell us a bit about how you’re going about finding this relationship? We could maybe give some better advice then….
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RHP User
10 months ago
I don't think you need be anyone but yourself and being here as well as the "normal" dating sites just broadens your selection and chances of being noticed. I do not check out mens profiles but I have seen many women's profiles seeking relationships, so I am presuming some men out there are seeking that too. A lot of emphasis is put on sex here but there are depths to that not just thanks for the shag (i hope to think so anyway). At least you are going to get many messages but you will have to wade through some crap to find some gems. Try searching in an advanced search within the parameters you are seeking. If you see a profile that attracts you reach out, find then too instead of them just finding you Wishing you all the best in your search.
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RHP User
10 months ago
Can I just say my long term marriage ended because of opposite reasons. My wife and I had a very compatible high libido sex life. But our personal relationship deteriorated ending the marriage. Since then, like you, I have dated and been in a few relationships with wonderful women and been on spicy and experimental sexual experiences. Although none of those resulted in living together, for various reasons, mainly around one of the two of us moving on to different stages of life, including simple things like moving towns. Like you, I would happily commit to a permanent relationship if the match happened. I also know wonderful couples who have that life now. For you, and me, it just has not happened … yet :-)
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Ex007
10 months ago
Embrace being single and love your life 🫶🏾. I've met many wonderful men here who wanted a relationship with me at the time. Pre covid. I was not looking for a relationship then and passed on all of them. I've been ready for a relationship for the last 2 years but nothing has eventuated. I'm not exactly actively looking and I find men don't chase anymore post covid. I assume porn cooked their brains during covid. I also do not use regular dating apps. I'm just busy loving my life and living it. “Do it lady” IYKYK 🫶🏾
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55SexyandSingle
10 months ago
I don’t think you are wasting your time … I have had two relationships with wonderful guys I met on here. One lasted 6 years and the other just under 1 year. I have found myself single again, so am dipping my toes back in and hope to connect with someone who is also wanting something with a bit of substance but can match me sexually. I think being open and honest in your communication and staying true to yourself is important but also be open to the possibility of meeting some great people along the journey. I have made some amazing friends on here as well over the years, even though it has not developed into something sexual. Stay positive and keep smiling x
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MsSuperFoxy
10 months ago
Being single in your situation, you have the most choice and control. You decide and choose, not them! Take your time- there's no hurry. It does get frustrating at times and other times it's liberating! A person also does not have to be in a "committed coupled relationship" to have the same sexual libido. If single people kept comparing themselves to couples thinking they have the "perfect" relationship including same libido, then something is wrong because a lot don't! There are many couples on here who are a complete mess, no communication style and mainly all one sided. There are some amazing men on here. I know as I have met them. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
10 months ago
Have you tried attending an Adult Club or social event?? I've met a few lovely people that way. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
10 months ago
I have no advice as I've never succeeded myself, but I will say that the site is only a very, very small pool of people (like most of these sites) and it's governed by many systems which don't exist in the same form as real life. I mean things like algorithms that govern who sees whom, payment tiers and all sorts of things that might make one feel like they're not seen. I think that's a big part of discouragement. Someone mentioned Adult Clubs or dating which I think makes a lot of sense - it's an additional pool of like minded people to look into without the slower rituals of a website, and allows you to express the sexuality in a less inhibited way than standard dating. Wish you all the best!
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AnnieWhichway
10 months ago
Its a bit like tattslotto. You get frequent division 5's. Ok, a quick release. Play again. Division 4 Thats better. But not quite right... Division 3. Mmmm. Nice times. What the fuck! he's attached! Division 2. Wow. He's a catch. When's he gonna call again...? Division 1. What you reckon l'd be here if l won the big one!
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RHP User
10 months ago
I would like to talk to you. Im new here so not sure how to message you. I would consider a relationship with the right person and have a high sex drive.
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mytimetoplay6969
10 months ago
RHP is not a dating site honey. Especially if you want a monogamous relationship. Fine if you want to share, but if you dont, this site is not for that
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RHP User
10 months ago
Hardly think you are unlovable. Fill in your profile properly with what you want - but its not easy here or anywhere - a lot of very confused people - and then theres the scammers and knobs who think they are a gift to humanity. Be patient - im sure what youre looking for will come. (single as well btw lol)
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missedbythatmuch
9 months ago
Maybe what you are looking for is ethical non monogamy... being partnered and being allowed to play with or without your guy. Look for more mature with emotional intelligence so he wont get jealous, and the way to never make your guy jealous is allow him to be with you whenever he wants it. No sense going out every night with 30 yearold and coming home and say "not tonight I'm tired". If he is up for it you should allow him to seduce you. I have been dating a long time and there is nothing more sure than a woman who has been without sex for 12 months, but 5 weeks later she is not as horny anymore. That's the danger zone. Good fun though!!
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He4shemikie7676
8 months ago
It’s an up hill battle but surely you can
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Dave690
8 months ago
If only you were in Victoria, I'd be interested. I'm single and would like a relationship myself. Don't give up looking, there are guys out there, you just need to be patient, the right guy will come along. As mentioned in another comment, add a bit more about yourself and what you're looking for in a partner in your bio. It will help you in the long term, and the fellas know what you're looking for, so you get the right man
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