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Are my expections to high!!!!!!
May 01 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well cazgt, your partner needs to improve his stamina!!!!! How can he keep up with extras ...????? Tell him that PADI says so .... Hugs xxxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
We have met people that can go on for a long time but only once and its all over with no chance of anything more on the same session. Others not so long but are keen for round two or three or more in the one night. both are normal and fine with us.For us as a couple. life and work hrs some times gets in the way of how often you are at each other. Although its rare for us not to have fun each night of the weekdays and quite a several times on the weekends including the mornings.I do understand some of your partners tactics though. Some times the buildup can be 1/2 the fun and perhaps this your once a day play more intense. Just depends how long you can both control your desires for I guess.We find just after we have played with others that we tend to have a cooling off period were we are like rabbits for the following week or so.Tim
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RHP User
14 years ago
Seems like you eat well..or at least want too..!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
......is my phone number.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think daily from a bloke 45 is pretty good, especially if you've been together for a long time. Of course it's nice to get it always when you want it - but I'd suggest the discrepency in your libido's isn't too great to cause too much difficulty. I'm reading a book at the moment (Memoirs of an Addicted Mind) which explains the brain chemical action that occurs with wanting, and getting, and sexual release (amongst a whole bunch of other stuff about the effects of drugs on the brain etc). It explains a lot (to me anyway) or what goes on in my cycles of attraction. Maybe your hubby really does need some time to build up those brain chemicals so he's feeling randy again for you the next night.What I do know is that constant pressure to fuck is off-putting and can cause serious long term damage to a relationship.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hey Caz....leave the poor fella alone.........you,ll wear him out ..then he ,s no good to anyone..........ummmm..Maybe you had better cum to our house for breakfast..............Juggsandme
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RHP User
14 years ago
Love love love your post. I'm very much into self-reflection and self-responsibility and looking at what drives your own needs, wants and cravings. I'm fascinated by the book you mention and loved your last comment about pressure being off-putting. To the OP, I obviously can't speak for men, or for other relationships, but broadly here's what I think. It's unlikely that your hubby is playing hard to get for the thrill of it every single day. It's more likely that he doesn't want sex of a morning and the pressure is getting to him. Maybe he wants to avoid an out right argument about it and so turns saying no into a bit of a game. It sounds to me like you both might be stuck in a pattern - sex at night, tension around sex in the morning. Maybe you could change it up a little. Have you considered getting an array of toys and pleasuring yourself in the mornings, while he gets to watch or join in if he wants to? It might take the pressure off him, you still get to share some intimacy, and you're taking responsibility for you. Have you thought about asking him what he's not getting sexually or whether there's anything he wishes was different? Have you considered that maybe he's wondering if his libido is declining or will decline in years to come, and he's struggling with the thought. I know a man who had a massive decline in his libido, stopped having sex with his wife and has refused to talk about it - for years! It seems to me that saying I want sex and he won't give it to me might just be scratching at the surface of what's really going on between you and hubby :) P.S. all typos are the responsibility of iPhone :D
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sometimes people do have mismatched libidos, and yours op seems very high.If your husband is thinking about his working day and all the pressures that may entail he is less likely to want to have sex. Most people in your age group,both male and female would be thrilled to be having sex at least once a day.Not sure about statistics but I think the average is three times a week. PBG and lil_bit_angelic both give good advice,pressure certainly is not going to help the situation. The taking responsibility for your own pleasure suggestion is an excellent one .Another thing you may wish to think about, is why you feel you need to have sex in the mornings.Is there something else going on?Does it provide you with a reassurance you are not getting in other areas of your relationship.Sometimes the need for sex is about the need for something else.x Hugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
But as I currently have my hands :D on a hot lil 24 year old, it's currently a competition to see who can wear who out first! Or occasionally who gives in and puts out first ;D lol. I'd say, work on the assumption that he is trying to communicate a need to you, and you are doing both him and your relationship a disservice if you choose not to listen. If the words he chooses make no sense to you, it might just be that he can't find better ones. Or his reasoning makes no sense to you. Either way, I agree with PBG in that it has a negatory effect to push. Unless its part of a game. There are still lines, though, and you should respect those :) as I imagine he respects yours :) good luck finding your middle ground ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
i think morning/wakeup sex is the best. if i had to choose, let's face it choosing from sex or sex is a lovely thought, i'd curl up in the evening and get up in the morning...but then evening play is usually slower and more sensual.. hmmm..fuck it.. i don't know. too hard to choose really :-Pthough lil_bit_angelics ideas sound like a good plan. along with some chatter.
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RHP User
14 years ago
One of my girlfriends has to push her boy to have sex with her just once a month.... Over the last three years she's gotten tired of always pushing.... So now its been three months and counting, and they're healthy 22 year olds :/ I reckon a good once a day sesh is better than two half-hearted runs... You dont want to give the poor guy a heart attack haha ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Come over my way you will not get knocked back!! I would love to have that problem of every night play..... Sucks to be me right now lol.
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RHP User
14 years ago
i'd really love to sympathise with you here, but you're getting sex every day, so it's kind of hard to feel sorry for you. just kidding...actually i'm not kidding at all. . seriously though, perhaps if he woke up with his cock in your mouth, and he felt that a quickie was all that was expected of him, he might see his way clear to gracing you with a few strokes. god, that sounds crass...sorry, i'm not a very sophisticated guy. . i guess what i'm trying to say is, if you were to get him going a bit, and he didn't feel like he was expected to produce a medal winning performance, he might be a bit more inclined to have the occaisional morning tumble. . i don't really know. you guys do alot more shagging than i do, so my advice is probably worth about as much as a thimble full of monkey piss.
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m3bmw
14 years ago
There are a few peptides that could cure your guy, and one of them will make your skin tanned as well. If you dont want to go to the drug route, get him to the gym, his libido will shoot through the roof, and will be nagging you for sex. I know after a big leg workout, I want to go home and absolutely destory the missus ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Guess what I was trying to say, is that I've been both pusher and pushee, and found both positions to be demoralising. In an ideal world, one's partner likes to have sex as often and when we do ;) and where... And how... And just as rough... Pardon me, I need to go find my boyfriend... bbl ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Geeze. My guy is over 50 and he can go morning noon and night!They just don't make 'em like they used to.
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RHP User
14 years ago
He's getting to much sex, yet you are both on here seeking more sex. Is this a very recent hiccup?Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
Oh hell Cazgt... but I guess unfulfilled libido is one of the main reasons sex sites came into existence - makes it easier to balance the equations :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'feloniusfossil' He's getting to much sex, yet you are both on here seeking more sex. Is this a very recent hiccup?Felonius Were you referring to the OP or to me?
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RHP User
14 years ago
...and sometimes M tries to look like F.When its the other way round its easier to manage cos F can get as much as she needs more easily than M, if he allows.
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RHP User
14 years ago
The OP's hubby. Cheers Felonius
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