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Are no shows becoming a new online sport?
November 28 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
I know how you feel. I wrote a post about the no show people. For me its a pain n the bum, especially when they say they want a photo shoot. Rule No1. If they text you to death with all the sexy things they want to do to you and keep asking for and then what text. As in keep it going so I can keep hard/wet. Then I do not bother after about three messages. Rule 2. Ring me, so I know its a grown up, and also not some guy who is terrified of his wife finding out he is having a toss in the cupboard and trying to stay quiet. Don’t care if a guy is married if he wants a shoot all he has to do is turn up. Rule3. If a person does not ring a day in advance or at least a hour with a reasonable excuse to either re schedule or to say sorry changed my mind. then there is no second appointment. How hard is it to text to say sorry no can turn up. I never ever see a person if they screw me over twice, not unless its a real screw me to the floor thing. Just take each meeting with a grain of salt and expect them not to turn up, and be surprised when they do. After all your fishing in cyber land where most are an avatar of what they would like to be. Be suspicious of the person with the garantee, as in " I am not meeting you unless you garantee me a good time" nor the ones that say I know you will not be disapointed, and I know I can make you cum from sunday to friday. I am human I do not come with a garantee,as a matter of fact I may not cum at all, but then again I just might. After a while I think we all develope a way to sort the wheat from the chaff. Saves a lot of wasted time. good luck with it.
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RHP User
14 years ago
indi76 I agree with you 100% and I hear what you are saying. Having participated in the forums for a while now, and having seen quite a few of these posts with similar subjects, I am of the opinion that people get shit scared at the last minute and back out. It is not as easy as you would think, trying to meet someone on an adult dating site. No one really knows who they are communicating with as all they see is a profile and some pics which may be fake. Unless you tick all the boxes, people just don't want to know. Even if they agree to meet, last minute nerves get the better of them and they can't go through with it. I have not been able to meet anyone on adult dating sites privately. I started attending parties in the last couple of months and I am fucking my brains out with women who would never meet me privately. I think when people can see and here you, especially in a group where they feel safe, they are more likely to get involved. Good luck and keep searching.
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RHP User
14 years ago
That's a terrible run you've had Especially after you say you've had considerable contact prior, getting to know someone. Could they perhaps be getting a last minute dose of self conciousness? I mean you're a pretty fit bit of gear (if that's not too crass lol) and it may be daunting for someone who isn't as confident about their physical appearance......or as you say, are they perhaps hiding something? I certainly hope it's not becoming a sport, sheesh stop moving the goalposts people!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Lolz DGT. You're a dirty flirt and with that drivel there can be only one reason you answered this question. :) I see you Bebe shakin that arse! No shows... Well, what works are events. If you show up and the person purporting to meet you doesn't, then you've gained the opportunity to meet others. RHP gives you an opportunity but it's not a matter of setting up a profile and hanging back. Really I wouldn't bother with all the nonsense. You know that well enough so it was not advice directed at you Indi. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
Stalky stop cramping my style !!! You know damn well why it's shakin' today . Seriously though, Indi's a good lookin sort, why the hell aren't they showing up?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ah, Indi...I feel for you, babe, you really have had the shittest run.Personally, I've only ever had one last-minute cancellation (and to be fair it was probably as much my bad as his) and no no-shows, so my opinion here is a bit "educated guess" but damn I'd be pissed! My time is precious to me, sometimes I do get a bit abrupt I guess but hey, if I like ya, I like ya. I'm not going to bandy about the bush... I really don't have the time or patience. I don't know if that has had any bearing on my success rates? but any hint of time wasting and seeeeeeya!You're a good-looking lad with a really good profile (nice to see, like most here I'm sick to the teeth of the bland, the boring, and the bullshit) so perhaps you've just had a bad dose of Karma? Run over any little old ladies lately? I know my luck is always somewhat shit after a granny hit'n'run :PLook on the bright side.2012, Year of the Gold Dragon, damn lucky year, particuarly for Fire Dragons so all that sex you shoulda got this year will be had next year instead, twice over ;) :P :D
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RHP User
14 years ago
I havent actualy had any no shows. Especially after that amount of effort. I have had two last minute cancellations youknow, with in a day or two of meeting. That for me is a big enough deal....especially if I have arranged travel, accommodation, places for the kids yada yada. Maybe it is as DGT suggests and an attack of conscience. You do look like a pretty fit fella. Do you cam with these women at all? Maybe they are misrepresenting themselves a little and that is why they back out. All I know is I dont think I would leave you sitting all alone in a bar or coffee shop for some other woman to drool al over.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I must admit, dude .. You're pretty dang fit. And I mean that in a purely heterosexual way -- Like, "Damn, that Harrison Ford would get ALL the ladies!" -- I'm talking Star Wars days here, not the latest Indiana Jones. I do imagine a lot of girls must show up and last minute freak out and think they aren't good enough / pretty enough / whatever enough to meet you "for real". I don't think you should take it as a personal attack on yourself or anything, though. Just that the girls probably get scared or "chicken out", for lack of a better term.Alas, that probably doesn't soothe the proverbial pain in the ass of a no-show. So, not really sure what to tell you. Have you tried talking on the phone with them before meeting? I find girls you build an off-line relationship with (Even if it's a few 5 minute conversations), seem to have more follow-through / less awkward-ness when it comes to the real world. I think when it is all text and no "realness" behind it, it can be very daunting for anyone. I think any interaction outside of the internet helps. If you're already trying this ... I don't know what to tell you, man. Maybe sink a few cartons in place of the gym sessions and maybe scale down that set of rock hard abs? Ha!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thanks all for taking the time respond to the post. Some wise words shared by most. Although, without having tickets on myself a few of you have me feeling just a little self-conscious about my outward appearances. As for the Karma thing?... No old ladies with my car's logo embossed on them... Well not lately? Winks! Not huge for too many rules in life but given this poor run of late, I may start to adopt those pointed out in Tuscan's response. They all make perfectly good sense. As for ChrisJM's response, you're probably right regarding events. But I don't see myself as a player or someone looking for multiple encounters to 'sow my royal oats'. I think I'd rather start by learning more about someone over time and then, if there's chemistry act on it. Old fashioned?... I guess?... But regardless of the nature of the site, I still see people as people, not sexual objects. So I'll just have to my smarts about me before any meet ups in the future... Me thinks?!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Krissy_G' Yes. Ill be waiting at Perth domestic terminal for you. Yes in that outfit. Yes we will do what I said. pushes Krissy aside..pick me pick me I promise my walker is a sex aid , my teeth are my own ...nahhh my heart might give out and I could break a hip mutter mutter mutter
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RHP User
14 years ago
I've actually never had a no show.....EVER.... and I have never just not showed...... yeah cancelled a couple of times because of work commitments but I always give them plenty of notice and reschedule asap and make a point not to cancel again. ... so maybe I have just had a good run on this site? Still doesn't mean everyones a gem but I have defintiely found a few of them ;) xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
I don't see myself as a player either and I don't see women as sex objects as I treat them with respect at all times as no doubt some of the ladies that I have met at parties would say. I have met some nice ladies at parties and I will continue to do so as I don't have much choice. You seem to have achieved your am by this post as women seem to be falling at your feet and good luck to you. A person will only sow their "royal oats" by not using a condom which would be just plain stupid and irresponsible.
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RHP User
14 years ago
well, i would say you've been unlucky. i wish i could get to stage of a no-show, i know i'm not exactly brd pitt, but i don't seem to be getting anywhere fast, aprt from one lady (you know who you are!) with whom i had a great few dates. not sure if i should give up or what.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting 'Krissy_G' Yes. Ill be waiting at Perth domestic terminal for you. Yes in that outfit. Yes we will do what I said. Quoting both Krissy G and Tuscan Red.... I live in Belmont ...so Ive got dibs on Perth Domestic.... race you to Terminal One !!!pushes Krissy aside..pick me pick me I promise my walker is a sex aid , my teeth are my own ...nahhh my heart might give out and I could break a hip mutter mutter mutter
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RHP User
14 years ago
Chris,Nothing indirectly suggested towards yourself in the last comment. I think that the arrangements you're working within are mature and consensual. No I was suggesting towards those who see the site as a glorified brothel. I get the impression the events your attending are very different to that.As for agendas here regarding an alternative means of attracting attention... Remember, I'm the no show king... if you're gonna talk the talk... are you gonna walk the walk? I think it's just healthy banter here. Nothing more. Nothing less.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Got nothing to do with indi's or anyone else's looks. People have just become bloody rude and inconsiderate.
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RHP User
14 years ago
in my opinion is the Meet and Greet.Check the events and see if there's one in your area...and if there isnt...put one on!!Easier to get peeps to show up if it doesnt seem so daunting!The last one I had attracted about 20 people...which is a good number for a M&G.Worth a shot anyway.Very shabby though to have so many no shows...women are spoilt for choice here...and some are more than happy to hedge their bets.Either that or they're nothing like you expect them to be..and dont wanna get found out!Good luck!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hey Pomguy, Please don't let me and experiences so far discourage any progress you may have with another member. I do believe they're (that is the genuine and decent members) out there. If you had multiple meetings something must be working. Good luck!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Krissy_G' By the looks of Indi Im sure he will wear both of us out. Just looking at the pictures of sweet things like him. as I check blood pressure and have a nana nap.
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RHP User
14 years ago
indi76, point taken and I offer my humble apologies. You also make another good point in saying that some people treat adult dating sites as glorified brothels. They are the one's who whinge the most about not meeting anyone and they wonder why. I'm sure things will turn around for you. Good luck.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Like me they know that your pics are old pics and not recent? I cottoned on to that as soon as you messaged me! Sorry but you say that you are not here to get "notches in your belt" but you say that you have had 5 no shows in as many weeks...bit of a contridiction me thinks!! > I have never had a no show from any Site...and neither have I not shown up...so I can't say what is going on in the girls minds before meeting you! Sorry Indi, but unless you put up recent pics...I am hard pressed in feeling sorry for you! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
... must be a Karma bill from way back that you never paid finally caught up with you & took a bite out of your pert arse Like I said, hang on for a few weeks and I'm sure there is like a rule somewhere that Dragons get a clean slate every time their Year rocks around... right...? (I freakin hope so!)Brace yourself, 2012, I'm ready for you (remember, for every closed door, another opens )
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RHP User
14 years ago
If it's women you've been liasing with and they don't show. Perhaps Their fantasy world ends at the net server. The Net is a safe place to play with it's remote safe connection from reality. Just maybe for some, however there may be other parameters such as something hidden from your view and I guess you'll never get to the bottom of that one. And then there's you and your style or method of approach...you may move too fast without establishing security of who you are and remain an axe murderer as you go to meet. Perhaps more time may be needed to acquaint? I could be off the mark and you may be honkey dorey on the approach. But if it's happening that regularly you'd have to address yourself and your agenda/intentions. Women can be fickle when it comes to cold meets with a stranger. And with good cause.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Indi - we know exactly how you feel both as a couple and singly. It is for that reason we only attend parties and the odd club function now, we meet new people at parties and if couples can't make that arrangement then we haven't missed out. We generally can be found at a party most weekends so a no show isn't going to impact at all It's going to be hard for single guys because single guys at parties are a PITA but as far as couples go it fits our requirements perfectly. Occasionally we meet couples at some pre-arranged meet but generally only if they are close by or we have established some prior relationship and/or trust and we haven't been let downnow in a long time.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Krissy_G' By the looks of Indi Im sure he will wear both of us out. and i think sKL27 so its a tripple decker is it then?
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RHP User
14 years ago
tyandeb you have made the point that I was trying to make in the first place. I am with you as I am not that interested in private meets either. I obviouly go to different parties to you as I have never had or been at a party where single guys have been a PITA. As long as you treat everyone with respect, there should not be a problem. I always ask first before joining in the action. I have had the most fantastic time at every party that I have attended, and when a lady has said "no" then I have accepted her decision and moved on.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hmmmmm? So I should be putting up photos every few weeks is that the deal? Really?... that's a Karma thing? How odd is that? Hmmmm? Well for the record, the drought was broken this week and had a face-to-face with a member here. Great time catching up and learning more about them. No I'm not one to notch up another conquest despite what some members may think or imply. Actually take offence to how a member can drawer such a long bow without meeting me, or even exchanging messages for that matter, unless they're a player themselves... In which case it's more a transfer of guilt than anything. No my meet and greet was just that... Meet and greet. Like any regular well-adjusted member here it was an opportunity to meet and learn more about the other person, without any hidden agendas. Not that I should have to even dignify such assumptions. Sighs! Ok, my turn. I find it strange and a little disturbing how one member in this forum would comment about how recent the images when they don't have one of their face. They should read back over the forum subject about members not posting images of their face. I mean really? As if people are going to take you seriously with anything you say regarding other member's images? Seriously? Pretty cheap, gutless shot really... Yes, I take offence. Forums are not places to take cheap shots at individuals. Lift your game. I don't like giving things out like this, but to just sit by and read what I did... A little too much self respect thank you.
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RHP User
14 years ago
You know it never ceases to amaze me how members here believe they have some kind of extraordinary sense of knowing people without even meeting them, yet alone exchanging messages with them. Sighs.I've just enjoyed reading through all the recent posts and got to one and couldn't help but feel a little annoyed with Funloving's comments. I don't see forums as opportunities to hurl abuse at another member. That's a little too schoolyard for me. But when a member makes a comment about my pictures not being recent and suggest I'm a player, without any even knowing me; no meaningful prior conversations?... I mean really? And to top it off they use the term hypocracy?... Commenting on how recent my images are and yet they don't even have an image of their face? Really?... I mean come on? You've never corresponded with me on a meaningful level. We've never met... I mean how can you really know someone? Oh, sorry, you must be one of those armchair experts on everything. Of course! Pfffft!I remember reading through a previous post about members not prepared to show their face and the consensus was that those members have the most to hide. It just seems like such a cheap swipe in the context of this forum and if I sound annoyed... I am. I don't mind a little healthy debate. Knowingly cheap swipes at others, to fuel your own insecurities. Please?!!! And for the record, the drought was broken this week. I caught up with a member and enjoyed a very pleasant face-to-face. No, I didn't notch another one up either Funloving. Sighs. That's just so narrow minded and probably fits your stereotypes, but not mine. Members can meet up here and keep things from developing on a physical level. If you need names and addresses as references that's even more sad.
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RHP User
14 years ago
The message you sent me Indi was uncalled for. You are the biggest coward for not putting it up in here on the Forums and hiding behind messaging that noone else can see. Learn to take rejection...obviously it happens alot to you! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Umm you need to read back on your history between you and I on both this site and another site! If you like I could cut and paste! No I never have met you...if you remember rightly I told you that I was not interested in someone with old pics! My pics are always updated every 6 months..why don't I have my face pic up? Firstly because of my job and secondly I have children to protect and don't want to be out shopping with them and someone coming up and recognising me! I do however have a face pic in my PG and if I have interest in someone they get access to it easily! I also go in the chatrooms and show my face on cam...Just another example of a guy that cannot handle rejection! . Can you cut and paste my Forum where I was "abusive"? I keep reading it back over and over and can't see me being abusive at all...just honest! You are the coward who had to send me a private message calling me names and going off at me over my Post on here! . You have messaged me for quite a while now on here and another site...and never ONCE have you changed your pics and also on the other site you kept making up excuses about not going on cam so I could see what you look like in the now! I don't meet anyone without seeing them on cam first and them seeing me...it's a 2 way street! You have just made a total fool of yourself! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thta in past forum topics about people putting up face pics it was not about people having the most to hide at all. I consider it a privacy issue as do many others on here. If you want others to take you seriously then verify your profile. Then we know the pics are of you. Too easy.
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RHP User
14 years ago
We had our last no show just this Saturday. We have had a few over our years of playing but thankfully nothing like your run of bad luck. We hadnt travelled and it was supposed to be a initial meet for coffee and a chat so real harm done but as we have 2 busy careers and 2 teenage children to organise to find time for a meet no-shows are generally more than mildly annoying. We try to have a back plan like will go to a club or party to avoid the night being a waste of our time. What we dont understand is why they arrange to meet in the first place if they dont intend to show. can only assume its as you suggest and some kind of sport. But in the end its their loss as always had a wonderful time with those we do meet. Well worth the risk of a no show or 2. (5 in a month would annoy us though). MR SRFUN
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RHP User
14 years ago
Indi's pics certainly are neoteric (recent)...I can attest to that...I did show up.....Provocatively intoxicating.....
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