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Are single guys- all pidgeon holed?
February 24 2009
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RHP User
17 years ago
Wow.... Your male friend actually GETS responses from females when he sends a message? Not just viewed then ignored? Maybe I'm TOO polite with my messages..... ;-) M_S
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RHP User
17 years ago
No fukkin way !!! ~~~Horrible~~~
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RHP User
17 years ago
Ok I'm with muppet slapper on this i send out numerous flirts that are viewed and then either ignored or not even read! The problem being I suppose that women are bombarded by multiple flirts and or emails, and the tedious process of filtering those you may want to see and those you don't. I put a lot of information on but i leave some stuff out because I like to have something to chat about when I finally get to meet over coffee. Maybe we do come across as dicks on legs but if I don't find a person stimulating in conversation i certainly won't find them stimulating in bed. I had hoped that my profile set out to bring out the fact that i find a sense of humour sexy and interesting but....
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RHP User
17 years ago
Well said bike mike
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RHP User
17 years ago
Nah they not pigeon holed seems the women are just being as fussy as the men have been...So seems they are starting to pick and choose who they want to acknowledge..So seems goes both ways yet again lube anyone going to be a long fingering and wanking session alone... TIT
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RHP User
17 years ago
hey there someone posted a comment along this line earlier today, but its really the fact that yeah, we do get bombarded. and i barely have enough hours in the day for uni and work and everything else i need to do, so that by the time i get on rhp for 5 minutes or so, unless a guy stands out in their message, im not going to reply to them. i just dont have enough hours in the day. having said that, there are some really decent guys out there. i know that and ive met a few of them and i know they find it hard to find girls on here. unfort there seems to be a few problems in regards to why they arent getting the women. so sorry youre friends finding it hard to find a woman, but yeah, i just thought id tell it how i see it... :p
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RHP User
17 years ago
I just put the lack of responses down to me not being overly attractive. And in all honesty, we live in a society that for the most part judges a book by it's cover. Add to that how difficult it can be to express yourself through written word, impressing someone over the internet in your first (and probably only) shot is a fairly big task! And then of course there's the small group of guys who no doubt go "heeeey, look at my big dick, you wanna ride it?" which would be enough for a woman to start generalising the whole lot of us.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Yes, I definitely agree it is rather frustrating when you spend the time writing a message only to have it completely ignored. Maybe I'm just a bit nieve but whenever I get a msg I make a point to reply, even if I'm not interested. I'm sure a lot of women get a lot of emails, but I don't know, it's rude. So yeah, a lot of the time I put it down to them thinking that the second they reply to your message you're going to bombard them with messages begging to jump into bed with them. I have no idea how true that is, but what else can I do but make up my own theories when only a fraction of girls reply? The only other point I guess I have to consider is what a (female) friend of mine told me recently - a lot of girls are probably on here just for the attention, not for any purposeful intent. Sure, you don't have to sleep with everyone who messages you, but maybe a "flattered, but not interested" would do? I guess the evidence I would show is the number of profiles I click on with photos of boobs, butts and bare bodies, only to read the profile: OnLEE On Here 4 friends, K?!?!?!? Don't msg if ur fat, over 22 or fat or old. BYEEE!
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RHP User
17 years ago
no way!! never do that!! write stuff for you the writer. then hit send reply so it has some where to go. who cares if people read it. it was never ever meant to be read. sniffed and scratched maybe.. but read? come on.. we all know no one is here for the articles.. LRE (sick of putting his monitor on his side to see the pictures properly)
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RHP User
17 years ago
yeah Im hearing you on this one, sure i have chatted to two chicks on cam, who i have had good convo's with etc, but apart from that i have sent atleast 20 msg's and have heard back from 1 thats it. Im a decent guy just looking for abit of fun, but i agree, we are all pidgeon holed into looking like sex addicts with no regard for chicks,which sucks. I guess the ratio from women to men doesnt help either. The only thing i have got out redhotpie, is a bill :(
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RHP User
17 years ago
The thing we keep getting told is that they are looking for more than just sex. They'd like someone with a brain, a mind of their own, who is also good in bed. They'll get around to the right guys, just as soon as they finished their messages... lol.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I think guys are discriminated against by society standards... take the cams thread in 'guys ask'... how do you think a similar question about the possibility of viewing women playing with themselves would go... very differently I imagine! Re: replying to messages... I really don't get why it is said so often that it is just too hard to answer messages, we all have the option to set our profile to not receive incoming messages. And the option to set up an auto-reply if we really are too busy. And the option to set up a template for a quick reply. If we find time to read the message, and some are incredibly short and don't lead me to even want to look at their profile, it only takes a moment to click and reply. Women's profile have an extra option to auto-reply to flirts, a simple matter of ticking a couple of boxes. If profiles don't match, we can set our filter on the message and flirt pages to only show those from matching profiles. It could help to put a note on our profile that we aren't going to answer flirts, at least we'll know we did our best and it's now up to them. It is possible to cut down on the number of views, thus contacts, by thinking about what we put up as our main profile picture and what we write. Some people do read them... Running two profiles is bound to create a lot more incoming messages, if it is still too much after setting up options to make life easier for us, it makes sense to me to power one of them down, which we did. We make sure our looking for preferences are accurate, saves wasting others time if we are not currently looking, for whatever reason. We invite people to make contact with us and if they have done the right thing by reading our profile and responding appropriately, I think it is only the decent thing to show respect in return by sending a reasonable response. Think how many less frustrated people we might have if we all did that. I thought what madetomunch had to say made a lot of sense overall. Something that interested me about this thread was that 4 of the guys who commented on the lack of replies to messages have friends lists that add up to less than 10 altogether leaving me believing they might actually be having trouble, compared to the one with the friends list of over a 100. I'm wondering if he has a secret weapon that he's not letting you guys in on considering he is also well known in SWB with many positive comments from the ladies on his prowess and what a great guy he is. Mrs
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RHP User
17 years ago
Ok ppl I've read all the posts and everything but my two cents in the matter is, It personally has gotten to the point with me that i have just stopped trying. I've sent out more E-mails and flirts than you can shake a stick at and believe it or not only 4 were ever replied to... The rest were ignored or deleted, idk to be honest but the point is i wrote a very personal message to each and every woman and I know they will be bombarded with e-mails and flirts left, right and center but it just gets to me that you don't get a reply... I'll be the first to admit i do not have superstar good looks or anything like that and i'm not everyone's cup of tea but at least i've been totally honest on my profile and i'm not just lookin for something quick, I'm also looking for something deeper and find someone out there who is like me and also interested in exploring in and out of the bedroom. I won't lie about some guys out there that are looking to cheat on there partners on this or just lookin for a quick one nighter but it's also wrong of most women out there to just say he's scum and ignore ppl or pass them by without replying even if your not interested, the same applys for us guys, most of us shouldn't do that either but we do. The point is we should all be kind enough not to just be rude about it maybe take a very quick look at either the message or their profile and make judgement on that, and atleast say yes or no to them to be kind... Sorry thats just the way i see it, hope you all don't mind me sayin. I apologise if i have offended anyone or anything like that but it needed to be said Matty XoXoXoXo
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RHP User
17 years ago
Al in the numbers game....play the percentage!! Take a chance but don't hope for too much.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Strider, very accurate post. Lusty, well since you aren't even after guys and aren't a single guy yourself I think your comment holds no weight, short as it is. But let's explore it, you say its just a numbers game..well in some ways you are correct. SO what do guys do. Well unfortunately the real answer is there is nothing you can do. You have to hope and I mean really hope that a female that is actually interested in meeting a guy will actually bother to look at your profile and then take interest. Then and only then do you stand a chance, possibly about a 30% chance because she is still likely to be weighing up other offers. Can you improve your chances...yes. Participate in everything, try to be noticed. But do nothing and you are even further behind. Does the profile matter...only a small amount. Most women don't even bother looking. They decide based on your profile pic and age, then they might glance at the profile if you are lucky. Having said that I am almost of the belief now that someone with hardly anything on their profile has as much chance as someone with a good profile with plenty of information. Dare to prove me wrong...I've looked at profiles and some guys with hardly anything have 100 friends and others with great looking profiles have none. Why? I cant explain it. Kissmetenderly - if the guy is getting responses he is doing better than most. Then again if the responses are all reasonably negative that is normal. I haven't had any really bad ones but most are sorry not interested and of the couple that were more positive one, who I talked to on messenger, stated she would never meet anyone from online. Waste of time there, and the others just seem to disappear. You say you rewrote his profile, well I guess the fact there was no change proves my point that the profile is not as influential for a single guy as I stated above. The mind is made up before it is looked at if at all.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I got eyestrain reading all this lol. You all have a point and its all relative to someone here. I look at names people pick for themselves. There are some pretty unoriginal ones. And yes, I get neck strain trying to work out which ways up in some pics lol. And I'm sorry guys/girls..........those generic descriptions of yourselves drive me to distraction. I'm horny and in need etc etc etc. I reckon if you cant take time to write something then taking you to bed is gonna be something real special NOT!!!! And dont think you guys get a hard time.......... we girls cop it as well. I dont have a lot of time to spend with someone/s but that doesnt mean I dont want SOME time with someone/s. I'm not normally into one night stands but occasionally............well, a woman has needs. I've been on here for a long time (no snide comments needed either you lot) and if some of you guys havent worked out how to either put up a pic or put a CURRENT one on here then I just ignore the flirts. Spose while I'm here having a quickie I should apologise to all of you who've contacted me and I havent had time to meet up. Things are a bit hectic. Yeah I know........this wasnt a quickie...........or maybe it was lol
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RHP User
17 years ago
Lusty is more right than you realise after all she is after the same women you are. You should always know how your competition thinks. Even a beautiful woman has to play a numbers game when she is the hunter. Every attractive girl/women - whether here - or in the real world - has more choice in partners than any guy can dream of - single guys, girls, couples, groups. The guys need to play peacock. A bit of flash, an offer to share an exciting life, a hint at the ability to have a conversation, a lot of salesmanship to separate bull from bullsh!te. And that is all before they even see the profile. Assuming you are after one of the few attractive young women on this site be aware she is going to be bombarded with flirts, messages and views from attractive eloquent men the moment she logs in. How do you stand out from amongst the competition? Firstly - have a distinctive name that reflects humor, intelligence or is just soo bad it is memorable ie TantricSalsaMaster, SexyGolfProBMWSalesman, 23cmofBliss. Secondly - Have a main pic that shows enough of you in a good light. Active, social, fun - interesting enough that a glance in a crowded list will stand out. A pic of you stacking it in a sporting activity is a good one, a good facial pic smiling and laughing in a social setting is also good. If you have the body for it - shirtless, oiled abs - but try and make it different to the 100 others you will be up against - maybe "call me" in sunscreen or blood on the chest. Thirdly - be active - check out the profiles you are interested in. Add and remove people from hotlists, be active on forums, chat, write stories, go to events, leave comments on hot pics. Show who you are - let them taste your personality - don't worry - some people like sour and bitter. Then your profile might - just might - get a sniff once in a while. Oh - if you are serious get a platinum membership and then play the numbers game - lots of messages - never expect a reply - appreciate the ones you do get. Laugh a lot it will fill in the weeks/months of waiting for a response. Remember just having a profile on here indicates that the woman/girl has (at least at the moment of creating the profile) some sort of positive view on sexual activity - this is a fantastic filter of all the women that consider sex to be a horrible burden to be endured. Before anyone comments - as i have always been a guest - I am obviously not serious.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Single Males are pigdeon hole and with good reason. 3 out of 10 bloke will get contact with a lady and expect her to open her legs on first meet well this is caused a bit of reluctance for women to contact someone. We need to spend time to get know someone before we engage in sex which makes the experience more satisfying than wham bam thankyou mam attitude. Don't get me wrong i like to get jiggy but under the right circumstances. Most women here like males to be a bit laidback and not be pushy and they can determine if they want to have sex with that male cheerio
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RHP User
17 years ago
ABSOLUTELY! I totally agree with you! I am single by CHOICE...I have too much adventuring to do, to be in a full on considerate relationship. That said we are ALL painted as desperate sleaze bags, a double standard as femaales pick and choose, and yet on this site they advertise themselves as seeking, men women and couples. Guaranteed they will always answer ladies , maybe a couple and then scoff at the singel guys, like its a competition as to how many messages and flirts they get! I have absolutely NO problem meeting ladies in day to day life...in fact its usually me saying NO...I personally seek couples who know what they are looking for, a friend and part-time lover and extra! In fact because of the general attitude I have let my membership lapse.....I hope you are not upset with my frankness, just tired of the bullshit! How come when I receive a flirt, I reply with a message , I dont EVER get a reply from something they initiated? Mind you with all of this I have still manged to meet a few wonderful people, percentage wise approx 2%....best regards "ssminnow"
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