Asking About STI Tests at sex clubs & parties

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  RHP User

  10 months ago

  At a sex club I (and my partner) would not have unprotected sex. At parties where we know others yes - except if others say they prefer protected sex. I can also say, in all my years of playing, I have never contracted an STI. I have checks about once a year. Also 2 times I was contacted by a woman who said she had chlamydia and I should get checked . Both times I took the tablet and had the test which both times came back negative. They both later worked out they had sex with someone after me that gave it to them. So dodged a couple of bullets.

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  Alex_Lover

  10 months ago

  Thanks for the info, much appreciated. We would have protected intercourse even if they have a recent STI test. We could still pick up or transfer STIs via oral etc, even from kissing. - Alex

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  RHP User

  10 months ago

  Not at a party no. With new playmates it’s part of the process to share results but parties you have a chat and experience gives you a sense of if it’s a good idea or not. I think it would be odd checking each others phones or sending copies of results to someone else’s phone. But depends on your kink and / or risk tolerance.

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  nightingale8

  10 months ago

  He he it’s one of those things I’ve never asked at a party because the question is so inconsequential, or at best an awkward first meet conversation. Who is going to admit they have an STI that wouldn’t already be dealing with it and skipping the party if they did? If the person is floating around with an STI it’s much more likely the case they simply decided that they are “clean” and didn’t check, in which case they would say they’re fine. I also don’t know how you do parties to never have sex with randos 😜 It’s pretty much only sex with randos at private parties I’ve been to, with maybe a couple exceptions. So, maybe 7-10 men and women in one night? That’s my guess of most ladies’ experience at private parties. It’s a fair amount of risk to wear and probably why I’ve never seen anyone go barrier free. I guess I can only control what I can or don’t go at all. Things like drinking much more water than usual, ensuring good dental hygiene, ensuring good lubrication, getting checked, condoms, not shaving/waxing right beforehand. In 15 years with the odd party every couple years, have never caught a single one, testing regularly. Phew. So yeah if you’re considering a party, don’t be gross get yourself tested!

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  RHP User

  10 months ago

  Never been to a party but in normal hook ups people just dont even think about condoms these days.

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  Pineapple_Events

  10 months ago

  As a party organizer I don't ask for STI status, I wouldn't exclude people from an event based on if they have been STI tested or not, it is up to the individuals to make their own decisions about safe sex, a selection of condoms are provided at every event, I myself am tested monthly and am happy to share my results with anyone who asks!

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  Mermann

  9 months ago

  I’ve always wondered why don’t party organisers insist on STI tests? This would be a great way to increase safety and trust in the community… I noticed that some events on “we are x” app, popular in Europe enforce this. Thoughts everyone?

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  TheMinx

  9 months ago

  I remember few years ago people had to prove they we're vaccinated before attending in covid times 😆

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