Being a bi guy in a small town

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Being from Newie I can understand that Toronto or "rrrono" as the bogans put it ..... lol can be challenging. That being said Newcastle is a fairly big city and Sydney is not too far away for either for weekends so finding the right person who you can click with still has a hell of a lot of options. Just curious Op if your out about being pan to your family, friends colleagues etc ? Cheers,W

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Well, due to my work, and the attitudes of my family, it is still something that I haven't come out about, although I have a few friends, all female, who know.I find that part of what attracts me to others who enjoy the 'lifestyle' is the openness and acceptance, les judgemental, although there are always a few, but also just the ability to be able to be honest about things.Personally, I find it frustrating that the double standard still applies, but I do think it is down to ignorance and misinformation.Regardless, I know my sexuality is fluid, and like it that way.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  best way to see who truly accepts you as you.... Tell em..... I don't mean take out an ad....I mean don't be afraid to see people's true colours by hiding it. A little story for ya.... I took a girlfriend home to meet the folks. At the end of that meeting and after the gf at the time left, my mother turned to me and said "I don't like her!!" My reply...."you don't have to :)" - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Quoting 'Stirry' best way to see who truly accepts you as you.... Tell em..... I don't mean take out an ad....I mean don't be afraid to see people's true colours by hiding it. A little story for ya.... I took a girlfriend home to meet the folks. At the end of that meeting and after the gf at the time left, my mother turned to me and said "I don't like her!!" My reply...."you don't have to :)" - Posted from rhpmobile Just curious, you list your sexuality as straight, so you would have nothing to worry about.Unfortunately, my profession is not very open to bi guys and my family is extremely old fashioned.For me, I know it will come out one day, but more interested in how those who live in the small communities, or small minded places connect and meet others.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  are identifying in the LGBTQ community in big cities and small towns, churches and pubs....be open and honest. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  "Tronno" is close to Newcastle, and not to far from Central Coast. So you arent stuck in the sticks. I have some bi guy friends at Gosford and going by their antics, there is a fair amount of bi action. Have you tried the Grinder site? Its like Tinder. Very productive site that my bi friends use.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  My penchant is for bi action with couple or in group situations, but I will take a look.And yes, the central coast is just a quick trip away, I get down there a bit to attend a club, but it is straight action only there..

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  but....but...I'm straight??? Lol Are you judging me craigums??? I surely hope not.... But you're probably right....us straight folk aren't exposed to jusgement, small town attitudes at all right?? :) Hope you find a way to sort out what you seek.... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Quoting 'Stirry' but....but...I'm straight??? Lol Are you judging me craigums??? I surely hope not.... But you're probably right....us straight folk aren't exposed to jusgement, small town attitudes at all right?? :) Hope you find a way to sort out what you seek.... - Posted from rhpmobile Not a judgement of any sort, but simple noticing that you list yourself as straight, so it would appear that while you may be accepting and open about others sexuality, it isn't as if you were struggling with the attitudes of others, that may not be conducive to being open and honest about it..

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  AnnieWhichway

  10 years ago

  but also suburbs of major cities. For instance, there are many areas in Melbourne i wont go as Annie. Because people people will judge, point and stare. Yet the inner suburbs very little of that occurs and one can blend and fit in easily. So i would presume sexuality acceptance would be a similar reaction.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  If its only mmf or group you are interested in for bi play, Grinder will only work for you if you already have a lady to 3way with. Its only singles on there, but you will get a lot of interest. BiAustralia has bi couples on there. Maybe give that one a look.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  It's frustrating to see people complaining when they list themselves as "straight". When it comes to relationships it's the same as with work - those in the city expect everyone else to travel to them.

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