Being watched, and watching pornstar sex, mastectomy, asymmetric swinging.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I think it is just something your wife is going to have to come to terms with. Women have all sorts of body image issues at any time and that is quite a difference to what she is used to and others also. It could be a bit of a shock to others to come across a woman with one/no breasts if they don't know and don't expect it, it is probably that reaction that she fears. I sympathise with your situation but maybe you should turn your attention to her in support for a while until she gets her self esteem back. If you both want to continue the lifestyle, maybe stay away from water where she can remain partially dressed and feel a little less self conscious. Short skirts, crotchless stockings, a loose top where if she still has one breast, she can pop that one out and still look sexy. Good luck

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I agree with Ralf OP...I can only imagine how your partner must feel....not just about the changes to her body ,body image and confidence but to be on the outside watching you having a great sexy time.....very brave of her and a bit selfish of you Q

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I agree, I am concered about being selfish, but my wife does enjoy the experience and she has swung since and does enjoy the company and sex with of other friends of both sexes.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  It is a shame, if you can not love your self you will not be loved by others. The perfect porn star is the one that is not hung on self conciseness, can forget there is a camera, forget others are watching and be nothing but self. Easy to say, but with conviction, and daring, you can quickly learn to forget you are naked, love your self and you become sexy.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Some very good points in her post. And I'd like to add I recently saw a picture of a woman that had an ornate design done as a crop top on her chest after a double mastectomy. It looked unbelievably sexy. It wouldn't be for everyone but perhaps if your wife likes tattoos she could have a sexy bra or lingerie done. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Thanks rhp101 great suggestions do you have a link to the tattoo pics? Xxx rod

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  We can't post links, but just Google "Mastectomy tattoo photos", and you'll find tons of amazing ones.

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  Seachange73

  11 years ago

  Quite insightful and empathetic. Well said.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Many great ideas here from the others OP. I saw just the other day on Facebook a lady with a tattoo covering her double mastectomy and she looked farkin hot!!! But I'd also suggest a course of forgiveness. 2 tablets 3 times a day. Many amputees I think would be in your wife's domain too; and I think it's pretty easy for me to write something here about how she should wear it like badge of honor. Sadly though the reality is harder than that... So I'd suggest forgiveness. Forgiveness starts with herself for not having a choice in being struck with shit of a disease. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  We've had much discussion and although we've swung since the mastectomy with couples we've both not done it in "public". Fear of rejection is a big problem so finding the right couple is hard or at a party is hard but it would be a big boost to self asteeme if my wife was found to be desirable to a lady or a nice couple with a nice guy. She would like to feel the way she used too. So if you like us at a party or whatever don't be shy! ( we go to debauchery) .

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