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Blind love or just blind !

June 22 2014

Enchantress! Deity ! Worship ! Lover! Are you ? Will you ? Do you ? Have you ? I know you will know of or know some one that has had a complete head over heals love for some one or a love like worship on you ? Or you an utter worship and love you cannot shake towards another be it knowingly or unwittingly have you had another man or woman in your power ? To What, manipulate ? Plunder ? Control ? Why ? to make you feel secure ? Or did it make them feel secure to have power or control of you, or of someone you know ? And how why is this so is it magic ? Is it love ? Is it a lie ? Is it a dream ? Or are they just evil in the manipulation of another's good faith and caring nature ? As it is those who may be the targets of the evil of manipulation and entrapment of a lover ? we all know of some body who was entranced !? When every one around them could see the wrong why cannot they ? Why could they or you not see the ways of the one you loved was hurting you deceiving you destroying your spirit your individual character and making you there own ?? Is this the act of evil ? Or just the power of a mind uncontrolled by the overwhelming forces of love lust sex ? desire destiny fate ? fear insecurities ?maybe greed evil unknown abilities of the effects one person can have over another ? Or where you naive to the fact of your hold of lust , mesmerising power hypnotic effect you have had over another ? Or another had over you ? Why do ones in love never see the pain caused by the ones they worship love and adore ?? Is this a part of the discovery of true love ? Personally i have been entrapped by a woman i believed i was not in love with, but i loved as a person who i cared and felt for her, even felt sorry for her, so the more i felt for her and wanted to help her, not change but to help her make better decisions in her life to better her future as choices now will reveal your future path and that i think is the key! The key i did not and never could hold for her, As changes and choices are made by individuals alone from there own life experiences and journey and creation of there own living and environment they are around, in apart of, good and bad. So the more i felt she deceived or just in my eyes made choices i believed were wrong but now i know obviously were choices she had to make to create her own written fate or destiny whatever it would be, was not up to me to choose decipher stop or change as it was not my life to do so but not realising that at the time i was perplexed at the lies and deceit and the bigger it got the uglier we give ! And in doing so i created a manifestation of exactly the person i would despise to be almost like a switched role looking out into a world of fear and negative destructive forces that i detested furiously and was trying to protect her from i simply became ! So at the same time manipulating my own existence and life to caste whatever it was i was caste to be ?? and in the end it was to look in at my self and see that in fact i was the one the manifestation of exactly what it was i was trying to protect this woman from !!!!!! The only way i would ever help this woman was to get out, get away, break free, break the bond i thought i had and break the destructive nature of the power of ones own my own manipulative mind for to lie is wrong but to lie and trick yourself is a path to self destruction and self destruction reaches out to who ever is the closest, as they will if allowed be destroyed as well be it family, friends, lovers, self destruction will not discriminate when one cannot accept there own truth it can and will destroy all within reach personally ! mentally ! Physically ! Spiritually ! and it was not until then i realised you can never not only change another but also cannot make another change there own destiny ideals choices for if you do in turn it will be your own character spirit that will in fact change and more times than not it will manifest into exactly what it is you distaste and desire never to be !! And until each individual understands and accepts there own truth good and bad they can never be helped or change only helped when they themselves change ! That is the answer i feel .we can only ever help another once they themselves have made there own changes for there own reasons and if we truly want to help, then it is time to help and to help is to simply be there. Any way just a thinking out loud :-)) - Posted from rhpmobile

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MsSuperFoxy

12 years ago

I am sorry this is what happened to you. I think you need one of thems little boxes with a pretty bow around it. Would you like one? I can send you one??? The kindest thing one can do for a loved one is to set them free, to make their own choices for happiness. I know as I have done that with my own flesh and blood I know it's hard, but in the long run, if one is happy it makes me happy, just gotta let it be just that. Foxy xxx This is why I choose not to fall in love. I hear too many heart breaks stories and it's kinda scary in a way, as to me; love is kind, caring, giving and gentle - it is not suppose to break the heart. :(

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RHP User

12 years ago

Sorry !!!??? Why to experience life ! Its not about being sorry its about self-awareness and personal growth and knowledge of who i am and my own journey nothing to be sorry about or regret ,and it was a few years ago but i posted it after reading narcissist post as it may reflect others journey in similar ways and yes its personal and raw but they are the best subjects . - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

12 years ago

For the one man I found true love with is my best friend...... We met, 2weeks later he moved in, 21/2 mnths after that we were engaged and then 3 months later we were married......... 24 yrs later we've had our shitty moments, close to divorce at least 4 times.......... My grandmother told me two things that I follow, 1. If you have an argument, work it out together, if you feel you have to leave, then it's not worth it. So it's up to you to face it....... 2. Don't ever try to change the person you love, if you don't love them how they are, then what makes you think they'll be better later.

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madotara69

12 years ago

I love the way you look at me I feel the pain you place inside You lock me up inside your dirty cage Well I'm alone inside my mind I'd like to teach you all the rules I'd get to see them set in stone I like it when you chain me to the bed But then your secrets never shone I need to feel you, you need to feel me I can't control you, you're not the one for me, no I can't control you, you can't control me I need to feel you, so why's there even you and me? I love the way you rake my skin I feel the hate you place inside I need to get your voice out of my head Cause I'm that guy you'll never find I think you know all of the rules There's no expressions on your face I'm hope that some day you will let me go Release me from my dirty cage I need to feel you, you need to feel me I can't control you, you're not the one for me, no I can't control you, you can't control me I need to feel you, so why's there even you and me? I love the way you look at me I love the way you smack my ass I love the dirty things you do I have control of you I love the way you look at me I love the way you smack my ass I love the dirty things you do I have control of you I love the way you look at me I love the way you smack my ass I love the dirty things you do I have control of you I love the way you look at me I love the way you smack my ass I love the dirty things you do I have control of you I need to feel you, you need to feel me I can't control you, you're not the one for me, no I can't control you, you can't control me I need to feel you, so why's there even you and me? You're not the one for me, no Mado Tara xx

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RHP User

12 years ago

Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' This is why I choose not to fall in love. I hear too many heart breaks stories and it's kinda scary in a way, as to me; love is kind, caring, giving and gentle - it is not suppose to break the heart. :( Here here!!

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RHP User

12 years ago

Quoting 'Bigocean72' Sorry !!!??? Why to experience life ! Its not about being sorry its about self-awareness and personal growth and knowledge of who i am and my own journey nothing to be sorry about or regret ,and it was a few years ago but i posted it after reading narcissist post as it may reflect others journey in similar ways and yes its personal and raw but they are the best subjects . - Posted from rhpmobile Agreed more people should speak from raw personal experiences, if it helps another person dealing with the same or similiar thing its worth it :)

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tamworthguy46

12 years ago

Complicated little story that Big O.......I don't know if I have my head completely around it, but it sounds an awful lot like my ex marriage, although I could probably add a couple more quatrains to it lol. In a nutshell, we do have to simply walk away from those relationships, before they destroy us, no matter how hard we tried, or thought we did ? The outcome will unfortunately be always the same.....we will feel like a fool, no matter how smart, forgiving, compassionate, strong, and lots of other emotions that we have invested in that person........and they will probably find someone new to start the circle again ! Hmmmm Wisdom, you can't buy it , but you can learn it ! Love and peace Tam

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RHP User

12 years ago

Thumbs up my man . :-)) - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

12 years ago

Everyone is entitled to be themselves whether you agree with it or not. You love/not love people for who they are not who you want them to be. Sounds like you were codependent to me. But I think you already know that.:) Xxviolet

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gazpacho

12 years ago

Don't we all crave for love from another? Women. You can't live with them.. or without them. They'll happily surround themselves with people who make them happy... they'll take from you all you have to give because it makes them feel loved... comforted, happy, supported... warm and cosy... and then they'll happily fuck other people instead of you... discard you, for all your hard work worth nought in the end, little or no reward, thrifty love in return.. feed you just enough to keep you at their side... Women fuck with our heads and we seem to enjoy this treatment. Other cultures have a men's hall... and a woman's hall... men and women do not live together. In amy ways, that's completely natural... like keeping ducks separated from chooks. HugsGazpacho

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RHP User

12 years ago

What a place to be in. Umm not happened to me but to my g/friend, and sounded so much like the same. Destructive to herself and all those around her. Now sad and lonely person. Sad really :-( and really people didn't want to be around that stuff. That was a sad story which I read a few times to get my head around the story line.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Bollocks. You can equally apply all those things to men as well. There are people that manipulate and there are those that do things out of the goodness of their how heart without expecting anything in return... just because they love you.

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gazpacho

12 years ago

Quoting 'Meeka100' Bollocks. You can equally apply all those things to men as well. There are people that manipulate and there are those that do things out of the goodness of their how heart without expecting anything in return... just because they love you. Even though that is possible, what I've described is a selfish human condition whereas what you've described.. well let's just say that such beautiful minds are very rare indeed. :) HugsGazpacho

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RHP User

12 years ago

Quoting 'gazpacho51' Even though that is possible, what I've described is a selfish human condition whereas what you've described.. well let's just say that such beautiful minds are very rare indeed. :) HugsGazpacho Well yes, you could be right there. I suppose we all want something or get some sort of satisfaction from everything we do. Even Mother Teresa had her agenda.

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RHP User

12 years ago

It sounds like limerance to me.....a form of attraction,entrancement,a state that mimics love but is an illusion ...sometimes it is a follie a deux....intense and overwhelming....sometimes it is just one sided.... It can happen to anyone at any time..x Auntie

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Lovinit28andKC72

12 years ago

In life we all do things, some good, some bad, some in the moment, some after considerable consideration. But at some point in time we did exactly what we wanted to do at that point in time and as we grow, we learn, we find the things that we want to do, change. Things will stay the same if one doesn't move forward and allow oneself to be free of the past and someone is only ever treated the way that they allow themselves to be treated and vice versa..... My story as scary and as beautiful as it is to some, it's my story, changing/evolving/growing all the time, as I change and grow. I would never in my wildest dreams try and change someone and now I know I would never allow someone to try and change me, because now I know I'm pretty fucking awesome..... Thanks for sharing part of your story, personal growth is an amazing, life changing thing.......💋

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