F46
Body Insecurities
December 15 2018
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RHP User
7 years ago
Has anyone ever tried to organize a meet for the ''plus-sized'' only? It seems to me that such an event would be at least reasonably popular, and would help alleviate such concerns.
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
Okie, there are BBW parties down this way...
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Curious CT, at these BBW parties, are ALL attendees BBW/BHM?
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RHP User
7 years ago
yes guys do have body insecurities thats why when you go to the gym it is fully of guys we are always told that bigger muscles and a six pack are better but no i don't think guys let it hold them back as much as women do.
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
sure we do ,it’s not only women that suffer the glossy mags ,and those perfect in achievable body’s that are not normal mr b
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atomicblonde
7 years ago
I used to have a lot of body insecurities, until I met an amazingly hot guy that became my regular playmate and he absolutely loved my curves. This guy was smoking hot and I thought he could have had any girl he wanted. We ended up having an exclusive relationship for some time and the sex and attraction was beyond anything I’ve ever experienced. It did wonders for my self esteem and now I think if people don’t like me or my body it’s their problem not mine. Many men find women with curves or plus size women desirable so you shouldn’t let it stop you from attending events. The ones I’ve been to have had all shapes sizes and ages, variety is the spice of life! Xx
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
OP. I haven't been to those events specifically, but I do know that most events consist of average Joes and Janes, you could have picked them randomly off the street. There are many private events and groups for elite bodies, but our insecurities won't be a problem there because we won't be in attendance in the first place. I am happy with my appearance with my clothes on. Yes I would still like to lose the flabby areas underneath, for general attraction even though I know it should not be an issue. And even though I know it has not been an issue for those I've met and the parties I have been to.
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MissBishere
7 years ago
I’m sure men do suffer from body insecurities and sites like these no doubt make them worse. I think it’s about finding that person that absolutely finds YOU attractive.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I find my partner absolutely stunning! But for some reason she is never happy with her body . I really find this frustrating even thou I’m always offering praise to her .
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'allfouradventure' I find my partner absolutely stunning! But for some reason she is never happy with her body . I really find this frustrating even thou I’m always offering praise to her . I had the same years ago, girlfriend was large but I loved every inch of her body. Getting her to just relax naked was quite the task though, let alone anything else.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I usually work hard on my body but ensure I do now that I attend events so I do not feel insecure about myself. In my opinion, people need to feel good about how they look and then others will find them attractive because of their self confidence.
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
Women who are insecure could try a look at things like Burlesque dance. In my experience, most are average Janes with plus sized bodies, but are able to release and tease, and feel and look both confident and sexy.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I agree with CT. Everyone should do something that makes THEM feel sexy and good about themselves whether it dancing, running, fitness etc or somethig like gettig their hair and nails done, a ew outfit, midlife crisis car or something different that works for THEM.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I think everyone has something they aren’t exactly comfortable with. Height weight girth, what have you. Personally I think the main thing to remember is that you are you- totally unique. Love yourself and the world will follow, if they don’t then that’s the worlds loss.
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RHP User
7 years ago
As a curvy woman, I have been subject to undesirable comments, however I embrace my curves with confidence... Theres no shame in being curvy... Ladies, I understand the hesitation but if you have partners that adore you, count your lucky stars, theres not many of them around... M
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Thanks CT, I was more curious as to whether or not MEN had the same level of insecurity as women? I see alot of male profiles and very few are sporting the Adonis-Esq or GymJunky physique..... do the average joes, even the husky gents with quite a bit of upholstery feel insecure about their bodies, in what way that effects them and does it hinder them from doing/trying anything?
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RHP User
7 years ago
I'd say, men may have more issues about cock size. Reading the forums it appears most men think wolman like 8 plus inches.... Not true fellas.
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
FFF. I don't think it hinders us from doing anything if we want to. I think there is pressure to look like the Adonis, although that pressure probably comes more from in ourselves. I'm not fit enough to attend some of the adult parties that I know a lot of single women attend, and I have sometimes thought about keeping an eye on my shape, perhaps so that becomes likely after losing some kilos. However that's probably a fairly vain reason to keep in shape. But then again you could also say that any reason to keep an eye on your health is a good one? In public, I have no real reason to feel insecure about my appearance underneath, except perhaps that I am very white or fair coloured except for the obviously tanned areas. I am certainly told that I need a tan topless or in general underneath. So I do feel some pressure but I don't get myself into too many situations of new people seeing me without my shirt on even. I don't live on the beach...
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RHP User
7 years ago
My brother weighs close to 130 kgs after losing over 20 kg. He is self conscious of his weight although his wife calls him fatty in jest
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nightingale8
7 years ago
I spent 5 years researching body image and there is an upward trend of both concern and body image disorders for men. Looking at the physique of toy action figures from the 60s til now is quite telling, with figurines now with bodies ratios that could only be achieved with steroids. My partner is more conscious than me. It doesn't stop him from anything though but is more about fitness and increasing sex appeal. Said he'd even be a life drawing model if I organised it. Happy to organise a private session 😄
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
In reality, no one will look and say jeez you need a six-pack. However lots of people will say jeez you need a tan. But in my opinion, you only need a tan for the same vain reason you think you need a six pack.
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Thankyou CT and Inspirit..... I honestly never even considered the endowment issue..... or the Tan hehe...... up here CT I'd probably think you were a British Backpacker😋
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RHP User
7 years ago
She's one of my favourites. I like her for who she is and the effect she has on me.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I remember chatting once to a lady here who opened her pg only to reveal a mass of gym going bodies... Ones first question was always going to be ... “right...exactly why is it we’re talking when you’ve got access to such prestine bodies??” And it wasn’t just men either... Yeah...that kinda didn’t end all that well...the lesson learnt there was to allow the other person to accept you as you are, for their own reasons....whatever the fuck they just happen to be...
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
IMO everyone is their own worst critic when it comes to their own bodies. Each and everyone one of us (male/Female), all have perfect imperfections, which makes us visually attractive. I believe when one has self-conscious thoughts about their body, they think they are on show and people are scrutinizing it. Reality is, not everyone at a club is doing that, but that’s how people feel if they are self-conscious about their bodies. Having self-confidence (accepting our naked body) overrides those thoughts. :) Ms Foxy
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PnJ_1975
7 years ago
I’ve alsways read comics from childhood through to now that’s where I got my issues from. I work in the HPE industry and I have and still have body issues. On Saturday night I was in a room where my physique was one of better in the room (geez that sounds pretentious 😒) and I still was reluctant in taking off just my shirt. OP Yes guys do suffer from Body Issues the answer is that cliche dance like no ones watching and it doesn’t matter how you look on the outside because even those we consider “the ideal body” are usually insecure inside. Beauty is a state of mind.
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RHP User
7 years ago
But a stereo typeThe kind where the only single guys that attend are desperate. My flirting skills also have a lot to be desired. It tends to be , "just stare at someone you find attractive and hope they are braver than you" Mmmm, we are back to desperate again?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yep i have been lately one of my holdbacks here bit of a beer belly but slim every where else my wife is also critical of her self but i think shes hot as fuck The thinking behind this is that our play dates would sertainly enjoy her rather than me onthe eye
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RHP User
6 years ago
I have let my insecurities stop me from attending events but I have discovered no guy seems to hate me as much as I hated myself. In fact, I am lucky enough to get lots of attention, they see something I don’t... so I won’t be letting my weight stop me from exploring any longer. I went to my first event last night and I am going to another one tomorrow. If someone doesn’t find me attractive, so be it. The next guy more than likely will...
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
I would also like to know is, do guys ever get mentally exhausted when their lovers/partners are always complaining about their bodies. I mean we rarely hear men complaining or putting their selves down like women do. To be honest, if my lover constantly made negitive daily put downs/ comments about his body, it would drain the absolutle f*ck out of me, that I would run. I could not handle the wanting positive validations all the time, would drives me bonkers. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Fuck em! If they dont like it, stiff. They miss out and can get f*cked. Go get em Tiger. Ms Foxy
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Home_Eric
6 years ago
My answer is definitely yes, I have a lot of body insecurities and it is indeed something that holds me back sexually. I say this even though I am told that I am attractive, and I have the good grace not to doubt people's sincerity when they say this (it's always so lovely to get compliments after all). I basically fit somewhere in the middle of what you could call the conventional / mainstream / vanilla attractiveness bell-curve but I still question my looks a lot. it doesn't stop that self-critical voice and the sighs at the body hair, the silhouette, the features that you'd just like to "fix". The body-positivity of some RHP members has helped me adjust my feelings a lot though and that's one reason I keep coming back. I have a feeling that, if I do become more sexually adventurous these doubts will fall away quite rapidly. So maybe the answer to FFF's question is that sexual exploration can help your own body-image - provided of course that it's done with the right kind, relaxed and accepting people.
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Home_Eric
6 years ago
Thanks for the question FFF. It's a good in that we guys don't get asked much
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RHP User
6 years ago
Nailed it, we’re told to communicate our feelings and open up but the moment we do, the roller door goes up and no one wants to know. A guy can only communicate feelings and insecurities only when it’s clear they are in control and part of a larger plan, just venting or being vulnerable is treated with contempt and indifference. I used to be a bit weedy so I exercised and beefed up a bit. I used to be self conscious about an average penis, but it’s served me so well I no longer care. Cock queens can have there peccadilloes I have more substance.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Recently returned from a long holiday, ate so much of my mothers awesome food, just saw myself in the locker room mirror. All I want to do now is hide somewhere till I'm fit again.
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