M55 F51
Breaking the ice at first meetings
September 09 2009
Comments
-
RHP User
16 years ago
We just have a drink or two and then ask if they're keen. eliminates lots of bullshit and time wasting and everyone is happy really!
-
RHP User
16 years ago
I believe we have you to thank for the dice manouver... Kilee & Trev
-
RHP User
16 years ago
I have met up with several contacts in the past 9 months, & I've found that the best way to get things moving, after the drinks & conversation, is to simply step forward & touch the girl softly, preferably on her shoulders or arms, in a non threatening way. Everybody loves a gentle shoulder & neck massage, in public or private (& I enjoy doing it), & I think its the best way to break the ice. A bit different in a couples situation I know, but handled in the right manner, it lets the other party know whats on your mind. At the end of the day, its what we all want, it just needs that first move.
-
RHP User
16 years ago
When we were together, 4 hours of drinking and chatting would have driven my partner absolutely crazy! If we were already back at ours or their place, then there was the expectation that we would play... so if nothing was happening after 20 minutes or so, he would get me to "make the first move" with the other lady... sitting closer to her, touching her arm, caressing her thigh, etc etc... and that always seems to shut everyone up pretty quickly :-) So I guess we were always the forward, pushy ones... didn't get any complaints though :-)
-
RHP User
16 years ago
We were with a couple chatting / drinking in their lounge room when the other guy got up and announced that he was leaving the room and when he returned he would be naked. There was a few seconds of silence followed by clothes coming off from the rest of us in the room. Certainly broke the ice :) K.
-
RHP User
16 years ago
My wife just likes to be kissed intensively. Guess this shortens the conversation anyway!
-
RHP User
16 years ago
We find that meeting in a hotel lobby lounge for a drink is a good way to start. You usually know within minutes if there is any chemistry. If you are still drinking after an hour...there is chemistry! or...you are very polite indeed! lol!If there is chemistry, we usually enjoy sharing dinner somewhere with our friends and at the end of dinner, there is always someone suggesting a coffee or a last drink at their place/hotel room. The expectation is then to play, and it usually takes no more than a few minutes for us all adults to break the ice by simply making sure the room is warm enough for some of the clothes to fall to the floor! Excellent fun usually follows!xx
-
RHP User
16 years ago
or know one quite knows how to break the ice, Hub and I start kissing each other, and it doesn't take long for our friends to get involved... I'd be interested in hearing more about the dice manouvre! sounds like fun...
-
RHP User
16 years ago
Upon request. The dice game. Easy. Get a dice, everyone throws. The person who throws hihgest gets to say what one other person needs to do. If 2 people throw the highest, both get a go. Our favorites; - Take off a piece of nominated clothing (undies normally with teeth) - Kissing, licking and groping - if people are nude enough sucking breast or cock after that thing normally just happen and the dice will feel lonely. But the imagination of you all should play a big part in it. Jumping nude on a trampoline is good!
-
RHP User
16 years ago
We use the blender - gets the ice nicely broken :) Add to Cocktails - and presto
-
RHP User
16 years ago
Me, i just come right out with it.. you want to play.,,, nothing like beating around the bush about it.. xx
-
bluelight_taxi
16 years ago
I agree with" meandher" be up front and get down and partyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy I used the dice once I threw the dice accross the table got a six ripped my clothes off then realised I was standing on the crap table at the Burswood Casina ..no luc that night as they threw me out Peter
-
RHP User
16 years ago
Getting naked works well if you are brave and can handle the rejection if that turns out to be a really bad judgement call :P Andy will generally start playing with me, rubbing my leg or neck etc...this works well with other couples as then they can start with each other too and it can progress from there. We don't have a surefire way to get things going, though I do think in a couples of ffm situation the girls gettingt hings started can be a good non threatening way. Truth or dare is corny but works...I would love to stand up mid conversation and remove all my clothes...We were chatting with another couple on msn and Andy had the cam on. I was in the bathroom after having had a shower but had no towel...I did not really want to be naked on cam so after much fussing he got me a towel, I wrapped my hair up in it and sat infront of the camera...I like doing something unexpected, it can lighten mood and is good for laugh, because honeslty, if you can not have a laugh at this kind of stuff it takes away all the fun. x Sal
-
RHP User
16 years ago
have stuck around for long enough, I just get naked.... that sorts it out.MrsF xxx
-
RHP User
16 years ago
This is a good topic, i love sitting back at the club and watching how couples do this..Is is a fun thing to watch. Over our 18 years on the scene, there is many ways that we have seen couples do this.Usually and the most common for the MMF thing is for the hubby to approach the guy and ask him if he wants to play with his wife. That usually goes down pretty well and starts the ball rolling.With Couples we notice a lot of couples chat and chat and chat and then it gets to 1.30am and then they finally get the courage up to go to a room and play.It seems that there was a lot of time wasted and the play could have longer and more intense if the couples would just get to the point.If you are interested in a couple and at a club, tell them asap, that then gives them time to think about it, tell them that there is no pressure and you will leave them to chat about it and if they wish to play with you both, to come and find you and you are more than happy to go up to a room with them.That way there is no need for an answer right now, the other couple can talk about it, and if you dont have them come up to you sooner or later, just take it as a polite NO and move on to the next couple or single.You see wasting time at a club is a big thing, if you have wasted 3 hours chatting to a couple or single and then only to be told NO, you have just wasted your whole night.Go on take that step, tell them what you want , be very precise, FFM, MMF, Ladies only play etc....and then walk away and leave it with them.Then the choice is theirs and you can still flirt with others until you find out either way whether they want play or not. If they have not approached you with in about 30 mins.......go NEXT..lol
-
RHP User
16 years ago
Yeah have done the 4 hr thing...but was a single lady and i wanted to feel secure....it worked very well...anyway did the spa thing...the girls got it going...and that's the way id like to do it again..it's non threatening and the boys really did love to watch:)..L*
Boards
-
Hot Topics
Topics: 15119 Comments: 88291
-
Girls Ask
Topics: 1417 Comments: 10254
-
Guys Ask
Topics: 2519 Comments: 11672
-
Couples' Corner
Topics: 2506 Comments: 9772
-
Swingers Lifestyle
Topics: 1005 Comments: 5236
-
Fetish & Fantasy
Topics: 1302 Comments: 5788
-
Hot Travel
Topics: 782 Comments: 1993
-
LGBT
Topics: 170 Comments: 869
Forum help
-
Something related with that
-
Going somewhere & want to hook up?
-
Hasn't that topic been posted before?
RHP's popular dating tool
-
Where the heck did that topic go?
Discover what RHP is doing offline
-
RHP member's RL secrets
reply
like
Share