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Butterflies in my stomach 🦋
September 11 2019
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
The calmer and easy going i am and same goes for Mrs b the more likely good friends is the outcome ,or the person or people are fantastic at making you feel at ease and you know where you stand and maybe where it’s heading but generally in the early stages the more tongue tied ,awkward ,shy , nervous ,with stupid comments trying to be funny the more likely we really like someone and start overthinking everything ,second guessing everything ,that’s why it’s always good to never say never until you get to know the real person and the idiot barriers are lowered to see the real person or people Saying all that I can think of 2 amazing women that still turn me into a mess of butterfly’s and stupid as soon as they look at me and we start chatting ,lol Mr b
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RHP User
6 years ago
Who said that? When you meet your soulmate you feel calm? I met my soulmate and it was earthquakes, fire and brimstone. My soul caught fire and it’s still on fire.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
A soul mate gets you, is a mirror of you. Your thoughts, feelings, mind and body. Souls mates form as one, have deep mutal respect for each other and the love is meaningful unlike no other. It is a beautiful thing and rare. Do they make one calm? No, because it's not the other that makes one calm, it is your own true self that does that. If one has experienced a true soul mate/s they just know without questioning it. It is bad juju to question it or be obsessive over a person. The mind body and soul blending as one is very magical, I know as I have experienced. No dark spells will do that. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
If you're just having those feelings of butterflies in your tummy, just wait till you experiece soul fucking. 😁 It will blow more than your f*cking mind! 😂🤣 Ms Foxy
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FredAndGinger2
6 years ago
Our philosophy is to spend time with the people who treat you well and make you feel good and where the feelings and benefits are mutual.
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
Ive never subscribed to the word "soulmate". But I have met my Person. We met when we were 13 years old. First Day of high school. And there was no inner calm.. it was electric..... literally. He reached to shake my hand (yeah we did that back in the day lol)..... and we gave each other a static shock...... when I'd pass him in the halls I'd get goosebumps and turn into a giggling mess. And I still get the goosebumps and giggles (the GGs hubby calls it) EVERY time we pick him up from the airport on RnR. I've never come close to feeling like that with anyone else and Hope to never want to either. I've got my Person and I'll happily stick with him until were dead and buried.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Weird. I had the opposite where time stood still. 🤷♀️ Ms Foxy
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Is not something you instantly feel It develops over time. It's nurtured. It's tested. It grows within each and can be separate to sex and romance. It can be as best friends. It can be confused by lust. But nothing to do with your magic shit
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SSExplorer
6 years ago
What I have found personally and in observing those close to me is that any and every kind of connection can happen in many different ways for different people and one way or another is not an indication of the depth of connection. I have felt instant deep connections and then developed the same connections over long periods of time. I don’t believe in a singular soul mate, there’s no destiny there. You are just given chances in the people you meet and if you’re open at the right time then the connection will blossom. Mrs S and I hit it off instantly. We just loved talking and chatting to each other and soon found us not spending an hour without some form of contact. Our first date was electric, just holding hands in the cab was a whole body mind fuck :) 1st sex was a blur which lasted around a week lol. Circumstance meant we then jumped feet first into a commitment. It’s been a crazy ride but also I’ve never felt calmer in myself. I’ve also never had anyone who just gets me, she doesn’t always agreewith what I’m thinking but she knows what I’m thinking with just a glance and she can often pull me down from outer space with just a few knowing words. So I feel we are soulmates or maybe better term would be life team mates. I really feel we are in a team for the rest of our lives, we have to work together to get our team across the line and it’s an exciting goal to strive towards. I have loved deeply a number of times but never before have I felt so at home in my own skin in front of another person.
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RHP User
6 years ago
SSExplorer... Twin Flames ... They are never severed. I believe we can have many soul mates and not just of the opposite sex. Lifes weird.
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RHP User
6 years ago
B.O.B I agree. I had countless crush and had all the teenage symptoms. But that was 5 years ago. Now I see men I like and I am calm, feeling like we’ve known each other forever. But there’s this one man that makes me go crazy!! 😂 and I don’t know why. Can’t even look him in the eyes for too long to not start doing things to him.
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nightingale8
6 years ago
My inner cynic hisses every time it hears mention of a soul 😄 I'm yet to find a convincing argument for what even is a soul. We're all just stardust strung together for a while, with a vague concept of personhood and ability to self reflect long enough to lament our separation from the wider universe. Those we love along the way give us glimpses of what it is to connect again, and true connection being in those moments we lose all sense of ego, separation and existential loneliness. There you will find your "soulmates". Haha time for bed.
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RHP User
6 years ago
SSE, Totally agree on multiple soul mates. All of my dates have to have the level of self control I set. Which makes me feel safe and calm. No sex on the first date 😂 even if we wanted to. There’s nothing sexier than a man who respects his schedule and never let any chick make him late for any meeting for any reason. I was chatting way too long to one of my dates and we started to almost lose control towards the end of our first date. He got a meeting after, so we made sure our temptations were under control. I don’t deny it would be awesome for men to cancel their meetings for me but that is only a short term excitement. If they continue to do that every time, then that’s a BIG turn off 😁 am I weird?
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SSExplorer
6 years ago
Pixie, Mrs S and I set many rules of engagement initially as she was a very, very inexperienced woman. We had a plan to resist each other and distance apart helped that but then all it took was for us to touch hands and we both knew our schedule was not going to last. We are 2 kids down and still cannot resist each other and I’m often getting to work just on time as we have distracted each other. I have been in lust many times and feel this same lust for her but there is this other side that is really calm. I feel the strongest love when we are at our unsexiest and I look at her and appreciate everything she is. I feel that soul connection in every moment but especially in the simple knowing looks she gives me when I’m off in my own world. I also have a few very close friends who I am soul mates with, we tend to connect deeply the same way without the sex :)
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SSExplorer
6 years ago
Nightingale, the Soul is just a concept, an abstract noun to describe something we can’t readily see. Like “Air” we kinda know it’s there right but I’ve never seen it! You are correct we are stardust but even more correctly we are all Light. If we go deep down into our subatomic selves we are just wavelengths and vibrational energy. It’s freakin amazing to think that at this level the difference between us and a lump of steel is very little. So light interacts to form a lump of metal or a rock or a plant or an animal. How freakin far fetched is that! So it’s not really that crazy to think it can interact to form the strongest repulsions and attractions between two human minds. What about that little pebble you find laying in your path that you feel so compelled to pick up and take home with you...why that little fragment of rock? I have none of the answers but love the questions!
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RHP User
6 years ago
SSE, What a lovely story! And now you’re on RHP together! That’s even better!! 😍 So there are multiple soulmates but she’s the one? At this point, I don’t know. But I feel like I don’t have the one and never going to? 😅 at the moment I think of men as books. Lots of interesting ones, ones that can teach me so many things. If I like a book, I would read it, study it, highlight it. But then, believe it or not, I finish it 😭 (so a guy runs out of things to excite me. And I am ALWAYS keen to learn NEW things!!) Will I come back to read this book? yes. Will this book stop me from reading others? No. Do you reckon I haven’t found THE one? Or I would just always be like this lol and then I wonder who am I gonna have kids with? I loveeeeeeeeeeee kids.
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Sawadee
6 years ago
You wont know that until many years away when you finally realise they are still around and are " still the one" ? Besides soul mates are earned , not a given and only after years of being together . We are now at a stage where its a cruisey comfortable relationship yet open enough to allow each the freedom to be individuals while maintaining a strong bond at the same time. In our opinion theres no such thing as a casual soul mate. Acquaintance, friend , fb , fwb , bf ' yes ' Soul mate No.. As far as finding it hard to make eye contact is concerned . This is a sure sign your into the guy. So dont be negative , open up and enjoy the feeling..
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RHP User
6 years ago
Sawadee, I can’t even differentiate if my feeling is like/love/lust/crush/obsession or just someone I admire so much. I know I like him for sure but I do others too. I just don’t get butterflies from anyone but him.
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RHP User
6 years ago
My feeling is that a true soul mate can only be one person and you just feel it. Connection can be obtained with multiple people but the soul mate, that feeling, it’s for one person only.
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Sawadee
6 years ago
Your answer lays within the butterflies .. this is nature's way of letting you know someone special is on your radar. Its the butterflies that make you gooey and unable to concentrate.. Go with the flow and see what eventuates ?
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SSExplorer
6 years ago
Pixie, Yes she is the ONE for sure, that’s why we had a family so fast, we both also love kids! (They do change your life though as there’s no more self, it is all about them!) I guess that’s a part of being in here, to explore the “self” part of us but in reality we get very little opportunity to actually act on it. Have you found the one? I hope not as I like how you are looking at things. Read as many (or as few) books as you need to. With this in mind don’t think you have to research too much. Us humans are pretty simple, we want a few things at different stages in our life and no matter how special we may think we are there is very little that separates us. There is only one distinction you need to make, good people or bad people. You want to try and hang around the good people more than the bad. Further to this some good people will be bad for you specifically so just because someone looks good on paper does not mean that they are good for you. Will you never find the one? I think you will...get it took me 40 odd years and I had a few “almost the ones” along the way. Enjoy your journey and do take care of you, you have already seen how nasty people can be even just with anonymous words and judgement. If you ever have a spare pm send me a message. As you can see I don’t mind the odd long winded discussion with interesting souls but these forums aren’t often the best place.
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SSExplorer
6 years ago
Lof85, I once thought like you and was on the eternal search to find this elusive soul, harder than finding a unicorn it is! My romantic brain thought there could only ever be one, so of course that first love that fails was hard to take and took me around 5 years to get over. Then I fell again and spent another 10 years with someone I loved so deeply. We lived in each other’s pockets and loved it. I thought we were going to be together forever but in hindsight there was something so small but deep within me that wasn’t connected to her, parts of her would bug me which were really insignificant but I couldn’t shake it. When we parted I truly thought I wouldn’t find another. But the bridge I didn’t jump so life goes on, I threw myself into activities I’d always wanted to do but was too busy coupling to do. Life was really enjoyable but yeah a bit lonely. Then along comes MrsS and I have all the love and none of the niggling bug, it’s calmer, it’s easy, is this the ONE? Now she’s younger, she thinks if o don’t make it to a miraculously old age she will never find another but realistically am I so damn special that there’s no other soul she can connect with? I think not!
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RHP User
6 years ago
SSE, of course I have spare msg. Who would I send them to? I signed up for premium for nothing. I never approach anyone 😂 Coz normally I don’t get turned on by 6 packs or muscle if I can’t see their face. And normally nice people don’t have their pic displayed. Anyway thanks so much for the all the advice! X
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
But it's not outwardly obvious. The main thing I notice ( and its only been twice in my life) is I just can't stop thinking about them and when I see them or any form of communication from them, I get little heart leap and yes some butterflies as well. I hope I meet a few more before I clock out. I don't know about soulmates but its clear we are just destined to have some very strong connections with some people in our lives. I toss around the idea we are all one at the core of it and maybe everyone we meet, good or bad, is predestined to teach us something. The mysteries of the universe.... so many to ponder.
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