Can Males that can't read turn off potential "friends"

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  If you can't follow a simple instruction not to contact us , why oh why would we want to have anything to do with you at all. Would it be worth as a single guy about to send a message to a couple or single girl who has said in BIG LETTERS DON'T CONTACT ME..... is this why I am in fact a "single male" ????? because I can't respect other peoples wishes!!! Is this in fact going to make me LESS attractive??? This goes hand in hand with the single guys contacting couples and single gals claiming to be "a couple" only to be a single guy masquerading to be a couple or a guy from a couple who's partner has NO idea what they are doing. We had a discussion about this with a friend, a single girl who has left RHP and closed her profile for many of these reasons! PROOF again it doesn't get you anywhere. As a couple we have a simple rule if any single guy contacts us we simply copy thier name straight into our block list. (go to your lists , then block list , then add them in there). Oh and we agree messages like "if I lived near you guys I'd f#%@ you" is not attractive!!! And Mr looking2try3 say thanks but your not my type big boy!!! lol

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  I think it's one of those 'you can't lose' kind of mindsets. They've said they don't want you. By sending them a message the worst that can happen is that they don't want you.. Nothing to lose, so give it a go.. I weigh things up on an individual case basis. Sometimes they say they aren't after me in their profile settings, but their description says otherwise. The flip side of this argument is that some single guys (and I can only really talk for myself here) message people that they just think look cool. They respect the fact that you aren't interested in doing anything sexually with them (at least at this point in time and perhaps never) but are still interested in being friends. I know, it's a big revelation for a lot of the couples and even single ladies here... but some of us aren't here solely for a sex hook up. And another thing kind of relating to your original post.. I find people that can't be bothered to spell out words such as 'to' , 'your' or 'are' a pretty big turn off. If someone can't spell at all (and I'm talking 'atroshusly') it turns me off too. Yes, I'm an intellectual snob. :) That's the end of my rant :)

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  I think you are generalising as I am sure there are couples and females that do the same. Fact that single males males are about 60% of all profiles may just make it mean they do it more. In response though I think there are a few types that do this; 1. The people that will just message every profile they come across irrespective of that persons wishes 2. The people who make a mistake 3. The people that think they are that good you can't say no 4. The people that have run out of suitable profiles to message that match 5. The people that like previous comment are just touching base, not really expecting anything in return I think that covers them

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Meah, you are on a swingers site with your bits on display looking for sex. So people are going to knock on your door. It could be worse... right. Anyway, what's wrong with a bit of harmful banter and flirting. Live and let love, bebe.

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  single guys just dont get it i invite anyone to look at our profile read it and see if in any way anyone could misunderstand it??? and would you belive we still get messages and flirts?????

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Yeah, it'd be pretty hard not to understand that one. Although, I'd be tempted to message you and say that I thought you had a funny profile and it made me smile. Bummer you get so many jerks. Maybe I should make my title FUCK OFF SINGLE LADIES AND COUPLES! and see how many messages I get. Can't be much less than the very few I get as it is. LOL.

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  most of the people on here are lying in one way or another anyway. Ergo, it makes perfectly logical sense that if so many people are lying about everything else, then they are probably not being completely honest about what they're looking for. I suspect (although I haven't been recording any stats with which I can prove or disprove my suspicion) that I've actually had better luck trying random and/or evidently mismatched hits than I have with people who have posted profiles that are a very close match to mine. All too often the latter either ignore me completely or are rude to the point of laughable, despite the fact that I am (usually :P) polite, can actually spell, and can construct sentences. As someone else pointed out this is a random sex search site so you should expect to be hit up regularly, especially posting the profile pictures that you do (well duh!). You have complete freedom to ignore, block, flame, etc in response. That said, I think its far worse that you be rude in response to someone asking politely despite your profile saying otherwise, than it is for them to ask. As long as the question is phrased politely, have some courtesy and respond in kind - a torrent of abuse makes YOU the offender. On the other hand, if they're rude, go hard!

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  and to add abit more why would a bloke send us a friend request????

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  We get the odd message from males or a complete mismatch. We dont really have a problem with this we just send a polite note back saying sorry we are not interested which has allways been accepted. Sometimes when message and get that answer back, we re read the profile and wonder ....where is the mismatch? We find that more frustrating but we just move on...its no big deal

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  I agree with Blasphemor, some guys (myself included) message people to say that they like their profile, even when they know and are not expecting to get anything/anywhere from it. There are cases where I message/flirt people purely because I liked their photo and wanted to compliment them, but didn't want anything at all out of it, friendship included. Just purely sending message/flirt to give a compliment. Also, I agree again with Blasphemor about people's spelling. It is absolutely horrid to read some of the profiles that are up on here, and generally seeing near illiterate speach patterns turns me off straight away, even if the person is what I would class as "hot". That's my 20 cents worth...

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