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Can a person die from a broken heart
May 25 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
When I worked in nursing homes I remember two couples. In both instances they were still very much in love...used to sit together, hold hands and cuddle. When one died, their partner passed within a few weeks in both cases. They simply couldnt live without each other.
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RHP User
10 years ago
For some, a broken heart sees a person living as an empty shell, void of that which once was a fire within them; the going through the motions on auto pilot, yet dead inside. Love. When real, is so powerful.
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
We have known several old couples, that had been married for decades and were "joined at the hip" as it were. With all of them, the one died shortly after the other. Maybe the death of a beloved spouse, and life long partner results in one feeling as if a piece of one is missing, and that one perhaps loses the will to live? And that because of this one perhaps simply gives up?
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RHP User
10 years ago
...had been married to my Great-Grandmother for just on 65 years when she passed on. He did not appear to be heart-broken as such however at 92 years of age, began telling the family what an incredible life he had lived and felt he had accomplished everything that he wanted or was cabable of doing. Within just a few months and in what appeared to be extraordinarily good health, he simply went to sleeo and never woke up. The brief coronor's report state ''Age'' as the cauase of death and notihing else could be found. In discussion, the very large family and even the family doctor agreed that he had simply willed himself to leave. He was a strong man and I believe very capable of that as his honest to goodness real name was... Leroy Brown!
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horneycouplewa
10 years ago
My sister in laws father passed away and two day's later her mother did, they had their funeral together.. It was beautiful
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have also heard of old couples who lived a lifetime together in bliss, passing away days apart of the other. I guess they lived as one and were incomplete without the other. Summer, that's so sad yet so beautiful *Big hugs* - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'solokitty' For some, a broken heart sees a person living as an empty shell, void of that which once was a fire within them; the going through the motions on auto pilot, yet dead inside. Love. When real, is so powerful. Like Solokitty said, you can die inside, but you can also literally die. Well, it has happened in some cases, where the heart actually develops a tear. So you can figuratively, and literally, diw of a broken heart
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RHP User
10 years ago
I met a man and I was so surprised we fell in love at first sight,I used to laugh at people who said that happened.We were together for only three months and he died in a car crash and it was not his fault.This drunk blood reading of 0.195 and he came out with a broken leg and left me with a broken heart.I may have been 59 but no heart problems,I dropped in the bank and died 4 times the paramedics said.Cardiologist could not tell why my heart had stopped so many times but my Doctor said it was a broken heart not sure if he was right,but not taking any heart medication and had no problems since except still missing him.So yes I do believe in dying from a broken heart now.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wish I had a partner just like that but sad to saytwice I thought I had it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Argued like buggery for most of what I can remember . Yet when my Nan passed away my grandfather seem to fret and passed not too long after.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I believe people can lose the will to live. And if it was already weak to begin with..?21 years ago, my father died of a terminal disease. Less than a year later, his long-since widowed mother...already frail...followed him.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'helmet60' I met a man and I was so surprised we fell in love at first sight,I used to laugh at people who said that happened.We were together for only three months and he died in a car crash and it was not his fault.This drunk blood reading of 0.195 and he came out with a broken leg and left me with a broken heart.I may have been 59 but no heart problems,I dropped in the bank and died 4 times the paramedics said.Cardiologist could not tell why my heart had stopped so many times but my Doctor said it was a broken heart not sure if he was right,but not taking any heart medication and had no problems since except still missing him.So yes I do believe in dying from a broken heart now. Im so sorry for your loss :(
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sometimes it certainly feels that way......... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sorry to hear about your pup passing on. *bear hugs* (unless that's stranger danger stuff....)
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prettypimpin
10 years ago
look up stress-induced cardiomyopathy or takotsubo cardiomyopathy.it can also happen with positive experiences like intense joy.sorry for your loss...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' I believe that losing the will to live can be very powerful sometimes, and I think the same goes for just being ready to die. Maybe your dad was calling your mum? And sometimes people hang on until they're told it's alright for them to go, I've seen that quite a few times in my work. Maybe not quite on topic Chev, but my dog was on his way out yesterday and looked like he had some hours to go. My ex rang in a panic, demanding he be taken to the vet, put on an IV, etc. He quite quickly agreed though that it was the best thing not to patch our boy up again, and that it was time.Our dog passed away about two minutes after that conversation, it was like he was waiting for both of us to be ok with him leaving. Maybe your mum's wish to join your dad was just stronger than her wanting to be here. I hope you are ok. - sorry to hear your much beloved dog passed away - hugs to you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've known couples like this as well. The one that's most vivid, the wife had health issues for decades so everyone expected her to die first, but she kept going despite the odds. When they were well into their 80's the husband became ill and deteriorated over a few weeks and then died. His wife passed away less than 24 hours later. She had stayed alive for years just to be with him. When he was no longer alive there was no need for her to be either. It's really quite beautiful to have a relationship that close.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Prettypimpin Exactly .......I'm a prime example of that...I developed cardiomyopathy, specialists think its viral,but as I told my private doctor at the time..."see.....I told you he broke my heart"...
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RHP User
10 years ago
The same as prettypimpin.....but without the tech terms..... I think anxiety/stress has a huge impact on people's physical health. More so than that of a broken heart, or else people wouldn't survive after the loss of their first relationship. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes, One of my grand mothers died this way. Her son, my father "borrowed' her bank book to buy something for his car. They had similar signatures & he forged hers to siphon everything out of the account! He should have gone for fraud.She died not long after!
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RHP User
10 years ago
The loss of a furbaby is heartbreaking, I was sorry to read of your loss. A hug to you. Love my furbabies to death And to Helmet, my condolences to you as well. On topic Yes I believe one can die from a broken heat. Some souls simply cannot exist without their other half because for them it is not existence.
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RHP User
10 years ago
padma died of a broken heart when anekin turned to the dark side so i say its possible. jokes. but in all seriousness i say people dont die from a broken heart well not interliy because of it. id say being miserable lowers immune responses and blood pressure etc.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I had an interesting discussion a few years ago with a few friends who were Drs and yes, one can die of a broken heart. Reading accounts from some of you about couples who die within a short space of each other made me teary. I remember an elderly couple from my neighbourhood who were often seen walking together hand-in-hand. I first saw them when I was in Primary School and continued to see them until my Secondary School years. I remember being starry-eyed and thinking to myself that I would so love to be in a relationship like that - lasting, enduring love. Where I live right now, there was an elderly Chinese couple who used to rise up at dawn to do their morning walk in the compund, and you could hear their footsteps shuffling along. I happen to speak their dialect and I remember their faces as they looked up at me as I greeted them. When the elderly lady passed away, the old man became solitary and he would spend hours in his apartment, staring into the wall. I would look into his window as I walked past just to be sure he was alright. He became a living shadow and all joy was stripped from him. He seemed to withdraw into himself and sometimes, when I greet him, he'll walk past as if in a daze, lost in his own world. He was the embodiment of grief over the loss of his wife, whom he loved greatly. Last week, I saw people clearing out his apartment and realised that he had passed on. Although I do not know them well, I am filled with grief at their passing on. Fast forward to today and I'm a bit shaken at how far I have wandered from my ideal. Several failed relationships later, I've lost hope in everlasting, pure love. In many ways, I feel that the pervasive attitudes, challenges and dilemmas of our modern day life no longer provides a conducive petri-dish environment for love to take root and slowly grow and thrive and multiply in intensity. We have become a generation focused on instant gratification. We have become so obsessed with ourselves that our narcissistic tendencies, with little or no regard for the feelings of others around us, is ever-increasing. We no longer stop and stay in relationships long enough to work things out, make personal sacrifices in the hope that given time things will improve. Copping out, ghosting, using and abusing, fuck them then dump them... these are behaviours that are so common now, no one bats an eyelid when it happens anymore. The response to all that is typically, get over it and then learn to fuck them and dump them too. What all these do to our hearts, our souls, our spirits is quite unfathomable and rather sinister. Physiologically, when we get a slash wound, our bodies work hard to repair the damage, fight any potential infection, and create new tissues to seal the exposed area. What you'll then see is a scar that stands out from the surrounding area because it looks tougher and sometimes, the scars aren't subtle but rather they are very obvious, like keloids. Imagine our hearts as it goes through life - we get hurt, we sustain a slash wound to the heart. We grieve, we cry, and eventually we "get over it" but the scars may be massive keloids. Sure the wounds are no longer exposed, but keloids are extremely tough and fibrous and sometimes, it affects the elasticitiy of the surrounding tissues because keloids aren't supple nor flexible. The heart continues beating but the scars and keloids prevent maximal contraction and recoil and as a result, cardiac output, ejection fractions, myocardial perfusion etc are all affected. When blood circulation is compromised, the entire body's circulation is affected. When we become jaded about love, or when there is no love in our lives, we are impacted in a myriad of ways. When we give up on love or reject love altogether, we see life through sepia tones and the brilliance of the full spectrum of the colour wheel no longer exists. A battle-scarred, wounded heart may be invisible to everyone including the owner of the heart, but it beats with a sombre cadence. As we sashay in our sexy clothes and drum out an uppity beat as our stilettos pound the ground, our hearts may be playing out a requiem that is unheard by everyone around us. And so, modern day life goes on and ... eeeeewwwww... my cat has just drooled onto my keyboard! I know he enjoys his massages but eeeeewwwwww!
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RHP User
10 years ago
...an epic post Peony. If you have that dream, then live it. Quoting 'PurePeony' ... my cat has just drooled onto my keyboard! I know he enjoys his massages but eeeeewwwwww! I am a dog person for very good reason....they may drool but never on my keyboard. Be well .......
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'MidnightCruisin' ...an epic post Peony. If you have that dream, then live it. Quoting 'PurePeony' ... my cat has just drooled onto my keyboard! I know he enjoys his massages but eeeeewwwwww! I am a dog person for very good reason....they may drool but never on my keyboard. Be well ....... There is an old movie where some bloke had a bulldog that would drool and then shake its head vigorously so drool got everywhere, so drool may end up on your keyboard that way! The key issue is to exclude the drooling breeds. ;) Whoever heard of a cat that drools?! :P I've had about six cats or more in my life (not all at one go, of course!) and none of them drooled. Munchkin is an exception. Whenever I stroked his head and face, he'd drool onto my hand. LOL!!! :P Just like people, every cat and every dog is different but they all need love! :D
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RHP User
10 years ago
A mastiff ... French I believe. That bad boy did put there hurt on a muffin.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'MidnightCruisin' A mastiff ... French I believe. That bad boy did put there hurt on a muffin. Turner and Hooch! Thanks for that! ;) Hmm... the first sentence I understand but your last sentence ??? I wonder - if we ever meet, will my response be full of LOL!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
...Tom Hanks gives the dog a muffin which is disgracefully consumed. If I didn't have a Rottie at the time I saw that movie, I would have gone right out an bought a Neapolitan Mastiff!! It helps to know... the big dawg!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'MidnightCruisin' ...Tom Hanks gives the dog a muffin which is disgracefully consumed. If I didn't have a Rottie at the time I saw that movie, I would have gone right out an bought a Neapolitan Mastiff!! It helps to know... the big dawg!
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I believe it's quite possible.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
His Dad was his Mums carer.....they were both getting on and she was in hospital having taken a fall and he was in for a flu. She died of natural causes, Jonesy got the call at 10 to say his Mum had passed, 2.5hrs later his Dad stopped fighting too. It was ile he didn't need to keep going anymore because he wouldn't be leaving her behind. When Jonesy got to their home that afternoon the Cat had passed as well. Not the first I've heard of the Furbies going with their family too. My parents will be married 56yrs this October. Mum is Dads carer at 81. She cares for everyone.....still sharp as a tack. Heartache and heartbreak, both painful. But in this scenario I think a blissful release and a reunion elsewhere. Somethings are still a blessing in disguise even if it hurts those left behind. 💕
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RHP User
10 years ago
Was enjoying your post PurePeony...till the cat drool 😝
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not quite on topic but.. don't go watching 'The Notebook' anytime soon...movies are real right? 😜
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RHP User
10 years ago
... Is an awesome movie based on a real life story. Wife sustains memory loss, long-suffering husband status by her side and tries to romance her tenderly until she regains her memory of him and of them together. I wish I had been born in a different era. Today's FB / FWB scene where one keeps multiple partners on rotation is not everyone's cuppa tea. I dislike the idea of being part of someone's harem. In our desperate attempts to keep things casual and not become too attached to anyone, we develop FB rules like, do not meet more than once in five days, do not call except to arrange for a date to hook-up, keep more than one FB so you don't grow too attached to one, etc. I have had relationships with men who upheld old-school values and when I had to return to the dating scene, I was frankly stunned and taken aback at the new rules of dating. Sexual gratification only, leave everything else by the door; no interest in learning more about you unless it's related to sex, thank you! I think that in the near future, not too many shall die of a broken heart because relationships will be so casual, so transient, that no one might grow attached enough to anyone to love deeply enough to experience the intense, earth-shattering grief of losing a dearly beloved partner.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Argh! I actually hated that movie. :-P Too cliche, too unrealistic. Or maybe, I'm too cynical... :-P
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RHP User
10 years ago
... I look at my bank account, my heart breaks from grieve and shock, and I feel like dying. The sensation of near-death is more acute after any sessions of retail therapy! :-P So Yup... One may die of a broken heart! LOL!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I honestly believe so, so its a yes from me
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Seachange73
10 years ago
I have seen it before a few times with some people i know of. Two of them elderly and the other middle aged couple. It is very sad but also it shows how strong the bond it between them that losing their partners is like yanking a big chunk out of their life, their life support. In the end, I think they know something we don't about being together again in some other place where there are no physical limitations to them being together, spiritually. Yes, soretongue, I love 'The Notebook'. I think that is the only movie that made me cry heaps because it was just beautiful. Other soppy chick flicks, nah. JMHO.
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RHP User
10 years ago
One day I want the note book love but for now I'll enjoy waiting for her. If I ever die that's how I want to go of a broken heart when my partner dies. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
10 years ago
PurePeony 👍🏽 soul sista perhaps? 😂
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RHP User
10 years ago
... The pleasure would be all mine if we are indeed soul sisters! ;-) * cue Tom Waits' "How do you Mend a Broken Heart" as soft background music... I used to love Michael Bolton's "How Am I Supposed to Live Without You" but maybe with age, I've mellowed and now found it too "emo". LOL!
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Grouse33
10 years ago
Which is comforting. Like most people, I've had some pretty dark times and have - for a moment or two - just wanted to stop existing (passively, I mean - I'm not talking about self harm). I'm still here which may very well be a testament to poor willpower, or a stronger urge to keep on going than I sometimes thought I had. Which makes our ability to will ourselves to die supremely merciful. How awful would the alternative be? To be aged, and to have lost your mobility and your life partner, yet to have to keep on going even if you didn't want to.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes people can die when they loose a spouse or a child.They feel such overwhelming grief . But conversely there are also people who suddenly come into their own if their partner was very controlling. I wonder if women fare better than men when they become widows after 60 ?But that is probably a separate topic..good topic Chev Q
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