M56
Can you believe this!!
June 02 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hun, im so sorry that has happened 2 you... Its simply nasty behaviour... She doesnt want you, and she doesnt want anyone else 2 hav you either.... I dont see anything wrong with the way youve handled it... Infact i think youve been extremely considerate and thoughtful... Dont retaliate and stoop 2 her level.... Simply ignore her, or youl remain foolish alongside her.... She will hav nothing, unless you give her something.... Goodluck sunshine xo
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RHP User
16 years ago
That is disgusting behaviour...and i really admire how open you have been in sharing. That wouldve been difficult. Im so sorry that your gf ended the relationship with you, as it is clear you really did feel for her. What you ex partner is doing is not unusual, but such a quality thats so unattractive and bitchy. Many women get bitter, and although i have never been through such a break up that would make me this bitter...i have seen many of my friends become this bitter and act this way. Good luck in finding love again. I hope it works out. But most of all tthank you for being so open and sharing. Its never easy to do that. Hugs and kisses Mrs Shy xxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Have had a similar experience myself, where one of my exes was dating a partners ex, and she decided to tell my partner at the time that I was cheating, simply because her partner at the time had shown her my profile..... I had already told my then partner about my profile, and he knew it was inactive. Some people have serious self esteem issues, and because they are so unhappy, they don't know how to handle other people being happy either. It is disgusting behaviour, but the best way to handle it is just to ignore it. Eventually they will get the message!
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wannabyummymummy
16 years ago
I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you, i agree that this was your news to tell and NOT your ex's, her behavior was childish and selfish and i would think motivated by pure jealousy! just because she doesn't want you doesn't mean that she wants to see you with someone else either (which is very sad for her).If i were you i would not stoop to her level and retaliate (tempting as it may be) these things seem to have a way of coming back to bit the offender on the butt anyway.I cant imagine how i would feel if this happened to me but hopefully with time and trust the lady that you had formed the relationship with can move past it and you can be together, if you are truly meant to be it will happen (what can i say i am a romantic at heart) best of luck
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RHP User
16 years ago
Lolz.. Here's the best revenge... tell her you forgive her for it. Next time, dont tell your ex who your girlfriends are. Jeese. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
wow to still be bitter and twisted 12 months on...your ex has some major issues there its amazing how some people, although they end the relationship, are still the ones that have trouble when you move on....but yeah it is a case of not wanting you, but not wanting anyone else to have you too normally on these im the first one to say stand up and give it to the ex...but if i know woman at all, the best thing to do is be nice, be kind and ignore it....i know this sounds strange but dont show her it hurt....women cant handle that type of thing, expecially bitchy, nasty ones good luck single1 i hope your gf finds it in her heart to trust you....oh and stay off facebook lol roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
yeah - so not cool mate, but be a real man, and take the high road. Dont' stoop to her level. Don't do what she did to you. relationship breakups have a way to make you hurt and turn bitter... getting sucked into that can really affect you long time. It hurts yeah.. but get back on the horse and go for it. I had an aunt (2yrs older than me) that decided a few years back to post on my facebook wall about my marriage problems pleading with me to not give up on it... and to wake up to myself.... that post was visible to all of my 300+ friends on facebook, most of which had no idea of my marriage problems... suddenly I was fielding questions from people I didn't want to know about my personal life... so not cool.... take care dude Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
The last gf took almost a year to meet my ex wife. We were at a Royal Crown Review concert and my ex turned up. Creepy. Lol. Even more creepy she stalked us. Every time we went out to the smoking area she turned up. Then she started to tell my gf everything about me. Lol. Guess what. Gf. Already knew. I'm at least honest. Well I'm not a swinger. Far from being a sex fiend. I like this place as judgements are few ( unless you behave like a dickhead). Re that poster yesterday on a tribute to lost loved ones comes to mind. Mrs P how on earth did that get in. Oops I'm no better. I'm pointing out a dickhead. Lol. Back to what I want to say. Do you regret your lack of openess about your former lifestyle. I guess that the gf would have had troubles anyway with most of the truth and you could see that. Hell exes can be a right bunt sometimes. The story I give above. Was after four years of her making it obvious that I couldn't live with her any more in that four years she had even had a kid to someone else. Some exes are just plain evil. Lol. Sad that they can't let go. Big manly dude hugs single. Fab.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thanks everyone.... Comments where all pretty much the same. Fab, yeh i did think of that later. But we had only been together for a short period of time. I had stopped doing it. I knew that one day i would want to tell her, but just didnt think it was the right time. It can be a bit confronting to someone who has never swung, to be suddenly told by their new partner that they are a swinger. Remember the "outside" community and the press portray some of us as this deep secretive pagan religion, that has sex instead of going to church...lol Anyway next time i either make sure i keep the relationship secret from the ex, or maybe just tell them straight away. I can just imagine it now, first date, candlelight, nice dinner, soft music....Oh and by the way im a swinger!!! LOL...That would be one for you tube!! Anyway hopefully she can get on with her life now... Cheers....
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RHP User
16 years ago
That's the only thing I can think of. That way she does not have ready access to information about you. I struggle to understand behaviour such as your exes. Regardless of gender, we can become bitter when relationships end. We have to be responsible for our actions that result from our feelings though and poking one's nose into an exes new relationship is totally unacceptable. Cheers WTG
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RHP User
16 years ago
Or sex while going to church... jsut saying.. well.. you know... being the inclusive thinker that I am I wouldnt want to discriminate against the alter boys l..... Quoting 'single1_4fun' Remember the "outside" community and the press portray some of us as this deep secretive pagan religion, that has sex instead of going to church...lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
It amazes me how exes can be such "bitches" when they see their other half happy. I agree with WildTastyGypsy on removing her from FB...but the problem there is...if you have mutual friends..she can still see your statuses. You say that this girl and yourself are still friends..this is my advice only, but, have you tried to sit down with her over a coffee to discuss this with her again? Now that the dust has settled (so to speak), why don't you have a coffee with her and tell her face to face that you really like her and would like to talk to her about it! Don't let her get away unless you try everything you can! I had a guy that I loved for many many years but was always afraid to tell him in case he rejected me. He got killed 4 years ago and I found out from his parents that he spoke about me often and even spoke about me the day before his death. Both of us were so afraid of rejection from the other that we never told each other how we felt. Don't do the same...at least if you sit down and have a conversation and let her ask questions and process where she wants to go from there you will know! Don't just take it all from her past hurts ... some women want to see how much a guy cares by fighting for her. You care for her, you want her...tell her. xFunlovingx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree with nice guy about not stoooping to her level and also with Mrs S.... but .. when is the right time ... too soon and you risk her running and not trusting and too long and you are being possibly dishonest .. maybe that's a forum topic on its own .... seems such a shame though when everything seemed to be going well... ps .. are you coming to drinks single1 ? Sassy x
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree with nice guy about not stoooping to her level and also with Mrs S.... but .. when is the right time ... too soon and you risk her running and not trusting and too long and you are being possibly dishonest .. maybe that's a forum topic on its own .... seems such a shame though when everything seemed to be going well... ps .. are you coming to drinks single1 ? Sassy x
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yes it would be an interesting topic!! When is the right time to bring it up? I was really looking forward to the drinks nite, but have to go interstate on business..leaving today.. Hope i can make the next one...
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RHP User
16 years ago
hey single1 deleting her from facebook is a good idea and even if you have mutual friends there is a way to still block her out im not sure how to do this...but i know for a fact you can do it, so have a play with your privacy settings and you might be able to work it out i know you can also just block her so she isnt deleted but just cant see what you have written so have a play, but if you cant work it out let me know and il ask a friend cause she has done it all good luck roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Or sex while going to church... jsut saying.. well.. you know... being the inclusive thinker that I am I wouldnt want to discriminate against the alter boys l..... Quoting 'single1_4fun' Remember the "outside" community and the press portray some of us as this deep secretive pagan religion, that has sex instead of going to church...lol hey stalky there was nothing wrong with being an alter boy ,,,,,,,although now i know why priests didnt have alter girls ,,,,,,,,and as for sex in church ,,,,, wait until the hyms are being sung its not as easy to get caught , andy
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thansk Roxy and Mrs P. Yeh i have sinced tightened all my privacy settings and deleted anyone who has a connection to her. Mrs P, oh believe me i so wanted to retaliate....but i know that it will not do anyone any good... Ultimately the real shame is that is destroyed our relationship completely. At lease we had been getting on ok for the sake of the kids... Thats the real sad part of relationship breakups. The innocent victims, the ones that have no say in it..are effected. Cheers
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