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Can’t orgasm with my boyfriend
October 14 2019
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RHP User
6 years ago
Oh shit I feel for ya! All I can say is just keep trying and maybe don't put too much pressure on you both, just focus on it being an enjoyable experience for you both. it could be the fact that you feel an emotional connection to this guy and you want it to be special so you can't relax where as with a random hook up you don't care so you just let it go. As with most things communication is super important. Make sure you don't make him feel under pressure to perform and keep on trying different things, what are his oral skills like? I've dated some girls and never been able to make them cum through penetration despite being a good size however I've always got them off by going down and I was cool with that. I can emphasize this enough tho, don't fake it! He can't improve if you fake it and if he finds out you are it could crush his confidence! Anyway I'm the male half of this couple, I'm sure the ladies of this site have lots more advice. Best of luck x
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RHP User
6 years ago
I don’t think it’s uncommon at all, I’ve always had trouble orgasming from penetration alone, it does happen sometimes but it’s rare. It’s all good though, either one of us (or sometimes both) will provide me with some clitoral stimulation which will have me writhing about in orgasmic pleasure in no time. Adapt & overcome 😉 Ms Phoenix.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Well the good news is it sounds like he wants to make you orgasm and you know your body fairly well. As you know orgasms are a very personal thing, and many women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Sounds like you are lucky that if someone is hitting the right spot with a large penis you are able to orgasm from penetration. (If I have understood that correctly). Have you tried using toys during penetration? A clit stimulator or something like a wii vibe couples toy could make things really fun for both of you. Basically, since you know you can orgasm, it’s now experiment time! Which is pretty damn fun and might open up some real experiences for you both! Have a talk with him and check out things such as couples sex toys, a penis sleeve, heck even a good old fashioned electric toothbrush (thanks Dolly Doctor.) yee ha, it’s time to see just how many ways you can orgasm! Sending good vibes 😜 (ah puns!) and hope you guys are coming along nicely soon! Cc
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Sawadee
6 years ago
The very fact you can orgasm with a big cock must tell you something ? Seems that physically and mentally' the look and feel of a big cock works for you . That's just the way your wired ?. As far as not being able to climax with your BF , thats a shame as it seems your trying ? But maybe you're trying too hard ? There's times when no matter how hard i try , i just cant cum .. Mrs Sawadee has never been able to cum with penetration yet can cum quite easily with toys ? Her very first boyfriend gave her a hard time because she couldnt cum , and i think that scarred her forever. But i think If you go in fearing you might not cum , chances are you wont.. ? Good luck ...
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
You've answered your own question. You can easily orgasm with a big cock but your current man is average and nowhere near orgasming.
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FredAndGinger2
6 years ago
You're over thinking it. Get really drunk together, grab all your favourite toys and have lots of fun together. It doesn't matter who or what is inside you when you orgasm, so long as you are both involved and having fun. Need experienced help? Call us ;)
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boxestotick
6 years ago
And wait for the inbox full of studs, willing and ready to make you cum. “Ya just haven’t been with me sexy - I’ll make ya cum in 2 mins!!!” (Insert dick pick).
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Mask_007
6 years ago
Really good advices in hear. Good luck.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Thanks everyone! Yes, he is trying and it’s very nice 😅 we will keep going soldiering on then!
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think you've answered your own question already.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Don’t self pressure yourself , everyone’s different :)
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RHP User
6 years ago
As sad as this sounds google it and find some tricks and techniques and positions to try. And don’t sweat it to much as long as you both enjoy it then eventually it will work out.
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LissnJules
6 years ago
What about orgasming from oral?
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Orgasmdonor
6 years ago
Make him eat you and tease you Orally first until you cum then jump on when your swollen and juicy and cum again
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RHP User
6 years ago
Try reverse cowgirl he will get in much deeper maybe its the position
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RHP User
6 years ago
Ok, so many of the suggestions in here just aren’t addressing your very personal issue And it’s YOUR personal issue Here’s why Point 1 Can you orgasm on your own? If Yes, then your mind and body “work” and move to point 2. If No, then you need to address that first... probably through solo exploration, minus pressure and hang ups that company can illicit Point 2. If you have orgasmed with other people, you also “work”.... generally speaking. Proceed to point 3. If No, the it’s either a case of (a) their poor technique, (b) poor communication, or (c) your mind has simply not engaged enough to allow you to go there and believe that you deserve it. Point 3. If your orgasm was clitoral, that’s pretty standard as most people “train” themselves that way through years of masturbation. If you WANT penetrative orgasms instead/as well, and you already have those through solo play, then that too will require practice/play (training) with your partner to develop the techniques and the mental bridge to permit that to happen. If you don’t have them... either solo or with others, it’s more likely that you have yet to create that mental bridge. Now I realise there will be people who don’t agree with me for a whole range of reasons. But.... they’re also free to offer their own view. 😎
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RHP User
6 years ago
I'll help
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RHP User
6 years ago
Are you apply any clit stimulation? If not i would recommend some , sometimes your vagina just needs to be trained
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