Car crash in slow motion conversations

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Yep. Then shake head, walk away, drink something soothing.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Normally that’s me directing and driving the spectacular car crash into the tree... have learnt some hard valuable lessons way too late recently. Whilst the lesson has been learnt I have also sacrificed and most valuable people... for gods sake people don’t do the car crash conversation!!! Ever 🙂

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  You win some, you lose some...what really matters though is you don’t use the negative ones as a means to think you’re not worthy...but in reality that it’s just not a match for both of you equally...

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  And yes I realise that’s not the best advertisement for me given that this site can potentially be a bit judgy lol but life’s lessons are sometimes learnt the hardest way and I’ve learnt mine...

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Hahahaaha, this is a daily real life struggle for me, it’s a sauce of great amusement sometimes laced with just a little bit of shame 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I was guilty of perpetually upsetting someone the other day, all my fault, but boy did I do a shitty job of getting things back on track. Lets use the expression "full scale derailment with no survivors", I just got straight off on a bad foot which I again accept responsibility for, immediately opened both pgs, second one has a tasteful full frontal. She's full sapiosexual, which I like, but she informs me I've started badly. I follow up with what I think is light hearted back and forth conversation. I'm on the ropes regardless. We start talking now and she ends up disclosing some stuff which I can relate to, we at least have that in common and I try and lighten the mood with some life of Brian style gallows humour, except I'm playing to a pretty tough crowd now, theres a pause and I have to explain the joke. My comment draws the same distain you might expect if you were the guy who had just run over her cat. We get back talking. I'm not saying it's frosty, but I may need mittens. Somehow we carry on talking, she discloses something personal and in a way might seem unique and unfair, like she's being persecuted by the universe itself. She's not, because I know three women in the same situation!, strange but true... "Thats more common than you might think" "Just stop typing....: "I'll get my coat"

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I was guilty of perpetually upsetting someone the other day, all my fault, but boy did I do a shitty job of getting things back on track. Lets use the expression "full scale derailment with no survivors", I just got straight off on a bad foot which I again accept responsibility for, immediately opened both pgs, second one has a tasteful full frontal. She's full sapiosexual, which I like, but she informs me I've started badly. I follow up with what I think is light hearted back and forth conversation. I'm on the ropes regardless. We start talking now and she ends up disclosing some stuff which I can relate to, we at least have that in common and I try and lighten the mood with some life of Brian style gallows humour, except I'm playing to a pretty tough crowd now, theres a pause and I have to explain the joke. My comment draws the same distain you might expect if you were the guy who had just run over her cat. We get back talking. I'm not saying it's frosty, but I may need mittens. Somehow we carry on talking, she discloses something personal and in a way might seem unique and unfair, like she's being persecuted by the universe itself. She's not, because I know three women in the same situation!, strange but true... "Thats more common than you might think" "Just stop typing....: "I'll get my coat"

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  funtimescouple1

  7 years ago

  We can't forensically work out what's wrong with our messages. We always have the courtesy to respond to other genuine looking couples and we are always appropriate. Along the lines of 'love your profile too, do you want to arrange to meet up'? Most of these made the initial contact with us but often no response when we reply. Many of these couples continue to look at our profile regularly. Either not really genuine or can't make the step to actually meet we suppose? We don't bite!

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Wise words Antichrist

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  AnnieWhichway

  7 years ago

  Most causes are an attemp at comedy within messages. Everyone's humour is different. Hard enough to convey normal conversations but chuck in some tongue in cheek lines and the air bag will soon inflate

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I’ve fucked up conversations and I’ll own it, I’m not proud of it and I hope never to do it again but I am human and do have faults and flaws I just need to learn and not repeat... So if you crash - whether caused by your own actions or others - you may walk away with a few scraps and bruises or you may get taken away on a gurney to be patched up but you’ve got to get up and move on. It may not be your first choice but it may be your only choice...

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  And if I’m going to crash and burn I’ll be doing it some damn fine honey birdette so be sure to check me out as I do it 😉

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  countrytouch82

  7 years ago

  I'm not doing too badly, although the usual ending of a potential match via conversation or after a date is something along the lines of "you're a lovely guy but... (insert various issue)", the last of these just a few days ago. As for a car crash, I do not always choose the best words and sometimes they get misconveyed or misunderstood further, and if I'm not seeing the problem clearly or judging things properly my attempt to rectify can just dig a hole deeper. Once, after two successful although quite platonic dates with someone, a ploblematic text conversation ended with the words "good riddance" from her. My mental "car" certainly "crashed" very much for a while after that. Communication imperfections were cited in my previous but still very amicable parting of ways from my g/f. Considering no one is a perfect communicator, it does make me wonder how couples do form and stay together considering this. I do know of those in long relationships that have certain dodgy views and say certain things that would create a car crash conversation ending with many others. Obviously an established bond can overcome these issues but during dating it seems a very thin tightrope sometimes.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  We are all just crash test dummies on the highway of life.

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  horneycouplewa

  7 years ago

  I'm with you avixen, lingerie or at the very least no panties ;) I think, no I know... that due to the good the bad and ugly with messages I am moody. I am very intolerant these day's to being screwed over by time wasters etc. Can have the long most amazing messages with incredible sense of humor back and forth but doesn't go any further, not a connection as such other than just that..... but it's such a nice change and one never knows. Others seem like all is going well until its time to say right let's meet.....nudda, zilch, nope, nothing. With hubby being FIFO, we both jump into messages and say who is messaging ..... on occasion we roll eyes at each other as to why did one of us say that...hahahaha. After all we don't have esp. With so many varied personalities and steps of where individuals are at it is hard to differentiate, especially through text. I am very much a bad one to try and say what I mean via a message .... or a forum post :/ Can those trees be avoided , probably not.....At the "T" junction...fuck it go straight

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I hear that 99% of conversations in here take the same crash & burn route (a) Hi, love your profile Followed by (select your option from below) - what’s your kik - can I see your photos - want to play And often..... a forum post about why aren’t messages being replied to 😄

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Much better to meet sooner rather than later .It's only then you really know if there is a connection. Hugs Q

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I love a good conversation. Conversation with substance, insight, humour, topical issues, banter, even a row! I always start from that place and know quickly, from the reply, if I'm getting it reciprocated or if it's going to be like pulling teeth. I've learnt a few things on my journey. Couples are not for me. They are for each other and I can't be the third wheel. I cannot start something with anyone that starts a potential connection with 'want to meet up'. I have also learnt that my second private gallery is of no use. Whilst others may enjoy a peek, as do I initially, I have learned that I then sour quickly because I realise the thrill, the chase, the slow-burn reached a peak too quickly. So I've learned I'm not playing that card anymore. I've also learned, what I've always known, that I am a very content single woman. I will only venture off into 'la la land' to lose time with someone when I want to, when I feel the gravitational pull to do so, when my schedule allows me to and when I find someone that is okay with being vulnerable with me as I will be with them. And even then it has to be more than just sex. A lot more than just sex. So, as a result of my wants and desires, I am always going to crash and burn with most. The reason I don't reply to most messages.

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