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Comfort levels

February 01 2007

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I have talked to a few couples on RHP who would love to experience a group event or swingers party but feel self consious about their body size or shape...particularly the women. Often times the more athletic and slim couples are very specific in the body types they are looking for and this is perfectly fine...every one has their preferences and they are entitled to them. However those of us with more ample proportions can be a little intimidated by this and tend not to register interest for gatherings and parties. I would love to hear from couples who would like to get together somewhere for such a gathering with the clear understanding beforehand that no one will be judged or rejected based on wether they are ample, large or cuddly. This gathering is not just for larger people and please don’t take offence if you are a sexy size 10...I mean no disrespect and if you would like to join us then yay!...more fun for all. I just think it would be a lot of fun if everyone could truly relax and enjoy each other’s company without feeling like the odd one out...lol. Anyway...I’ll throw it out to you all and come what may! Carpe Diem!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    Possum I think this would be a great fun night just so long as your going to let a skinny guy like me come along. Mike

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    Of course you can Mike...I know you like a little extra flesh. Tallbabe I hear you...and I guess most of us have something we feel disadvantages us when it comes to other people accepting us...at least in this setting. It’s interesting isn’t it that you and I are at the two extremes of the spectrum and yet we can experience a similar problem. Could be something to discuss over a few wines one night...:) My intention for organising this get together would be for no-one to feel excluded...quite the opposite in fact. My reason for making the post was to invite people who are completely ok with all sorts of body shapes, sizes. heights, weights, "hotness" etc to get together in an atmosphere of fun and mutual respect so that everyone can relax. I think if people who would normally feel intimidated or self-conscious knew that their fellow fun-seekers welcomed them then some great, uninhibited pleasure would follow.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    Things that make you go hmmm.....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    There have been a few days recently when I thought ’too hot’ was a bit of an issue,.. and sometimes my coffee can be ’too hot’ and that’s a buggar... Now a body that’s ’too hot’,.... what a bastard! lol On the issue at hand though - I think get togethers of all shapes and sizes are a good idea, so what not the participants too? Just have to hope everyone leaves judgements and preconceived notions behind if they choose to attend.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    Maybe Tall Babe can’t find a lady because she thinks and states out loud that she is "too hot..." just a thought... in my opinion being humble opposed to arrogant is one of the hottest qualities a person can have..... goldy xxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    Goldy, Exactly what I was thinking, and I applaud you for being braver than me for saying it. There is no such thing as "too hot" because the attitude that goes with it shadows the beauty. The Viking

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    Too hot is entirly a subjective matter. There are a few hottie in this post alone and tall isnt one of them...No offence hun...you just dont do it for me Now poss...viking...goldie you are all hotties. Mike

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    its not about hotness its about spark......

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    Hi Everyone, As the female half of a couple i feel i can add my 2 cents worth. We attended a party in yangebup through a known group around 15 months ago. We went with open minds and i personally was very much looking forward to it. With our age gap we tend to encounter problems normally. But at this party this became the biggest issue. I can safely say the death stares i was given were horrible. Im 21, but i am no megan gale. Im not tall, not tan, and not exactly skinny, however i am happy with my presentation. The age gap between myself and the other women especially at the party became an issue from them. I was made to feel uncomfortable, and it was obvious (through what i witnessed) that men were made to feel punished by there wives for merely looking at me. So i put it too you possum that this idea be not just for all physical sizes, but all physical AGES to feel welcome.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    Thanks for your kind words Mr Mike. xxx Also Viking, you seem like a really cool chick. Ive read your opinions in many of these forums and I like the way you think. I honestly think that a lot of this issue comes down to peoples attitudes and the vibes they give off. Steph, next time you’re at a party why not try befriending the women. I find if you are warm and friendly to people, even those that see you as a threat will often soften and you will probably find you are laughing together by the end of the night. Tall babe, I wish you the best of luck although I still think the reason you’re not getting the desired attention is your attitude and ego opposed to being "too attractive." This attitude Im talking about comes through clearly in your answers to this post. But, each to their own. Possum, Good idea by the way for your party although I think these prejudices you speak of are ingrained in people and they are probably not even conscious of them. So making a rule that "thou must not judge" may not work. The moral of the story is- everyone has something attractive about themselves and if they know what it is and truly believe it, they will be attractive to others. (apologies for sounding like an episode of Full House) Also... as made clear by a vertically endowed creature we know... At least if no one else will love you, you can always love yourself. You gotta laugh..... Cheers, Goldy xxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    Sounds like a great idea, good on you for thinking of it! Hope I can come along if you need any single guys

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    I have been told tonight that rhp used to host regular social meets at a well known pub in northbridge. Well possum why don’t we get back that interaction. That sounds better than this cyber connection. But beware there is a danger of meeeting a real & normal person. Possum I support you let me know if you want help.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    Goldie with her Uncle Jessieesk comment. It does sound etherial but it is true. The more you comfortable in your body and with your own looks the more that feeling is transfered out. You get the feeling of people in their posts and how nice they are. Mike

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    Goldy, As always, a well thought out and articulate post. I agree with everything you have said. Thank you for the compliment, it is returned in spades. Viking

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    19 years ago

    You’re such a sweetheart, bless you. A personal invitation to the Viking’s birthday bash is hereby issued. Will let you know when, but you have a couple of months to build up your strength. Kisses, Viking. P.S I just wish that more guys appreciated us the way you do.

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