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Common courtesy messaging.
November 02 2019
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sweetas_j
6 years ago
I’m guilty of this! Sometimes I just lose interest, or things fizzle out, or I’ve met someone else in the meantime 🤷🏽♀️ I’ve copped so much abuse after sending messages stating I’m not interested. I’ve been called everything from a shallow bitch to ‘you’re too skinny anyway’ that sometimes it’s easier to not reply and dodge the nasty response.
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teamaj2
6 years ago
GFT This subject has been broached a few times on the forums . It’s disappointing to be talking, things seem to be progressing well, then silence . There is any number of reasons why this happens . It’s happened to us and we’ve been in that situation as well . For us , being part of a couple , where two people have to be comfortable and feeling the attraction etc - one of us may for whatever reason change our mind . It maybe something that’s been said in chat , a change of heart about the initial attraction ,we don’t feel whomever we are speaking to is seeking what we are after - so many different possible reasons . Any number of ‘Real life ‘ situations come up and RHP must take a back seat - hence our reason for no longer being members at the present time . Things happen in life and people choose to change their mind about whom they are speaking to . Is it rude not to let the other party know . Rejection is a hard pill to swallow . I agree ignoring or blocking seems harsh . Voicing a change of heart is also hard . Both let the other party know a meet up is no longer going to happen . It seems cliched to say but it’s truly not personal . Goodluck here on RHP , GFT . The right people find each other at the right time and it’s always worth the wait .
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RHP User
6 years ago
People have lost interest usually. Happened to me many times and I have had lost in some too. If something drags on a bit the initial anticipation fades. Other than that people just are too busy. My partner and I fall into both categories.
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
Sadly... that IS them saying they're not interested. They don't owe you anything more. I don't subscribe to it and if I've been chatting to someone and don't want to anymore (various reasons, usually I'm bored of them as they're not engaging enough)... I will message saying so...... often followed by a sooky/spiteful message from them. Sometimes easier to just not message at all or be courteous so as to avoid the nasty replies.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Her mind is made up. Sadly, there is nothing you can do to change it. People do not have to explain themselves to anyone they have only just exchanged messages with, as their should be no expectations or pressures for anything. I know myself I get pressured all the time with messages from this site for "possible fun" (sex) because of people's mind set. It shits me to tears because in my mind it is more than that. What most forget is, what's ones "common courtesy", is not the same as another. It varies from person to person as per sliding scale. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
It was hard for me to understand this when I first joined here and other services some years ago OP. You learn to just deal with it, and you actually anticipate it.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Sometimes change of mind sometimes the moment has passed. Most of the time the other party has shown their true self in the messaging, a departure from their initial effort for the first few messages. As an example, l had a Facebook follower trying his best to get something started. Several months of messages. I'd agreed to meet toward the end. But he worked night shift 6 times a week. Too tired or he had his kids on his few nights off. Just too hard even though he was infatuated with me. I thought what was the point. If l met and liked him, the process of getting together was a huge mountain. So l blocked him without explanation. I hadn't met him. I owed him nothing. Online dating makes you hard and gives you a resting bitch face. But it's not them, its you.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Unfortunately until the person is standing right there in front of you, nothing is guaranteed. And even once they are, it’s not always a sure thing you’ll get what you want.
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Sawadee
6 years ago
No matter who you are ' respect is ' and always will be a 2 way street.. Social media has alot to answer for ?
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RHP User
6 years ago
I have found this and I understand the change of mind or the dreaded “drag on to long” but I do like to be told if they are not interested and anyone that does spend the time to tell me gets a thank you for at least replying and hope everything works out well for them . So guys if it isn’t meant to be it just isn’t , be nice and who knows karma might kick in and someone will be nice to you to Just my 2 cents worth
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Curved4FunTime
6 years ago
Guess I’ll just put it down to experience. Rhp chats/meets can be so fickle I guess. If I’d of got a “sorry changed my mind message” I would have been totally cool with it. But I get that some people out there will be aggressive and nasty. So a little lesson learned today. Thanks guys GFT
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RHP User
6 years ago
Even though the vast majority of "No thanks" are responded to with vitriol and hate, I still try to send a message if I'm not interested anymore. I'm not sure why so many guys take a thanks but no thanks as some personal invitation to throw abuse or insults. If you've only been messaging here on RHP, it's easy to send the default template. I do expect more if we've been on the phone or met in person - an actual sentence saying something along the lines of "thanks but this doesn't work for me" isn't that hard.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Trying to understand this really doesn’t change the outcome that has already presented itself... Dwelling on it is not a positive use of ones energy.... Mr Dragon
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RHP User
6 years ago
That’s the nature of this game. You would like to think that everyone has these amazing manners and morals, but in reality they don’t. It’s happened to me and I’ve done it to others, doesn’t mean I’m an ass hole. Interest gets lost, time gets wasted, if you decide you are done? Your done? I’ll take something from this and give common curtesy in the future, but I’m guessing that i won’t get the same in return. Don’t take it personal.. move on
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Sawadee
6 years ago
Just because rhp is a sex site 'does'nt give anyone the right talk down to anyone. ? I see a 2 fold problem here.. Those who think they're above the person they're chatting too and those who lose it when they get rejected.. so what do you expect ??? What a lose lose combination.. ? Truth is ' this appears to be the way of the times . ? The me generation ' are alive and gaining momentum.. Gone are the days when respect was considered the norm ?
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RHP User
6 years ago
Thing is mate sometimes some women get "PeaCocked" which is all glimmer takes there eye due to the fact they have say 20 options laid out before them. This is due to 2 facts 1. Its hard for a woman to be NSA deep down and 2. Us men have to work for it . ie I dont have a full inbox overflowing because im getting hunted down.lol What I do and id say you do is that you put the time and effort in to attract her attention and if its not recipicated then cut her loose and move to next and hold your head high that your a respectable man and respects himself to strive for a greater mate....
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RHP User
6 years ago
For us and this is a blanket apology it has purely been because we both have been unwell last few weeks on and off and the sheer number of msgs we have to respond to. So anybody reading this that has messaged us and you haven’t heard back sorry.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Having been around on site for a number of years has taught me to treat all and sundry like I've been treated. There is no common courtesy by single males, so what goes around, comes around. Suck it it up. Reap what you sow.....
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
KlyMax.... sorry Dude, got to disagree on 2 points of your post. Most active members here do NOT get "PeaCocked".... alot seek more substance than an external facade which (in my experience) is usually all that person can offer anyway..... swipe left. And as for, "Most women cant keep to NSA"..... maybe you've met some Stage1 Clingers in your time on RHP (better vetting required on your behalf) but neither my hubby or I would agree. And we've both been on these sites nearly 10 years, amd both quite active. NSA doesn't mean quality or connection (a level of) aren't required though...... we've all got hands and toys and other options if a random root in a public Carpark is all thats offered lol
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MsJonesy
6 years ago
If you are connecting well via message, then it seems obvious to meet when both parties are happy. If you change the messaging style & content, for instance go from polite chit chat to get to know each other to straight out "do you like the look of my cock / I want to smash your pussy" (note - not implying you do this OP, just general observation), then some women will immediately stop responding. I do. I don't particularly enjoy that type of chat with someone I don't know....because I have no idea if (to use the same examples) I like the look of your cock - in person is much more fun - and I never enjoy having my pussy smashed 😜
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teamaj2
6 years ago
Ms Jonesy I wholeheartedly agree with your sentiments and this has definitely happened to us . It may not even be such a blatant change in messaging style but for many number of reasons we have a change of heart . I just wanted to say in the years we’ve been on here I could count on one hand the times that males have been abusive /rude in response to our no thank you . Most do respond back with a thank you . To all those lovely men out there I’d like to say thank you for being decent , gracious and as I usually say in our message we wish you good luck on RHP and in all your endeavours.
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