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Comparisons - when words hurt 😕
July 27 2013
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sweetgem
12 years ago
I don't know why would people want to compare Cheekyarses, only they know I suppose. I find comparison is quite offensive if it is not done in a teasing mucking around way. Like there was a guy who, awhile ago, compared me with those porn stars, that was an insult to me.- Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
Unique yes, though we all share feelings Cheeckyarses. I think people who offer themselves as whole are offering honesty, which leaves openings for snubs from people not so honest. There is a lot of trust given, all sorts of feelings are effected with these unique values.It is important, I was once told, to remember this.Unkind words and thoughtless snubs, are but the echoes from a small and frightened personThat helps to put perspective to the real questions hiding within a snubAny way you are amazing, we are also told. It is good to remember things that are worth remembering, and who cares for what is not?Mado
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RHP User
12 years ago
There are two reasons for making hurtful comparisons like that: To make the person saying them feel superior To make the person hearing them feel inferior A person doing this is not someone who I'd want to be in contact with. Next!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Cheekyarses,I am sorry to hear you feel this way...It really does hurt only if you let them.They do it because they can - cause they have got away with it prior.It's their "behavior" - they own that.It's bad morals and ethics..Unless you stand up to unacceptable behavior, they will continue to do it.Most of the time it is because they are not happy within themselves and know who they really are.I have just read the book "LIFE CODE" by Dr.Phil.He talks about BAITERS - They are people who I choose not to be around.FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
We can't control what others do - we can only control our own.Actions speak louder than words!!FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
Many people are shallow. Or insecure. Or conceited.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You cannot control what people do or say.... .....only your reaction to them. We ALL make preference judgements..... we like what we like. I see little point in comparing though. If you don't like option X, go with option Y that you DO like, and any comparison you'd ever make will be a positive one. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
who are uncertain about who they are,who are insecure,will sometimes feel the need to cut another down....it is the amount of importance that we give to what they do that affects us...as D.G said,we can't control anyone other than ourselves...still ,unless we are Buddhas,it still can hurt. Mado
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RHP User
12 years ago
One persons starfish, is another's greatest lover. Everyone is different and likes different things. People that say these things to hurt others is immature and not a very nice person. NEXT!
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RHP User
12 years ago
People actually write/say that sort of thing? What a load of crap, ignore the fools, probably just spiteful jealousy... A man I admired very much in my youth once told me that you will find people with money seldom talk about it, it's the ones who are full of shit and don't have any who generally do.. I found through life experiences that he was pretty much on the money (pardon the pun!) Ignore, delete, next and unfuckenbelievably rude My 2c worth....
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' We can't control what others do - we can only control our own.Actions speak louder than words!!FOXYSome people think they can control others thoughts, and some are very good at doing just that. Sometimes our actions can be deceived, which is what had been intended. Often being the experience for being once bitten, twice shy to it. It is fair when the truth hurts, though trickery will hurt ones pride. Differant kinds of hurt will lead to differant types of actions, so I believe we must look at the deeds for our actions.I think you are right, it has lead to thought for what you have said, that is all.Mado
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Cristal_1990' find people with money seldom talk about it, it's the ones who are full of shit and don't have any who generally do.. (...) My 2c worth.... I see.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I second that
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madotara69
12 years ago
You 98?, you haven't been gone that long.Mado
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JessicaRabbit
12 years ago
I think it's natural to compare, but these don't need to be voiced to the people you're comparing. I've stupidly put my foot in my mouth by making offhand comparisons then wished I could take them back. Think before speaking. Lesson learned. Jess xx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' We can't control what others do - we can only control our own.Actions speak louder than words!!FOXYSome people think they can control others thoughts, and some are very good at doing just that. Sometimes our actions can be deceived, which is what had been intended. Often being the experience for being once bitten, twice shy to it. It is fair when the truth hurts, though trickery will hurt ones pride. Differant kinds of hurt will lead to differant types of actions, so I believe we must look at the deeds for our actions.I think you are right, it has lead to thought for what you have said, that is all.MadoI see exactly what you are saying.I understand and agree.Yes there are people out there who want to control others and are very good at that.I look at behaviors and question "what are the triggers for this behavior? Why are they behaving like this?"When other persons behavour is inappropriate, by choosing to trick another into misleading of information - that is not right - very unethical, can be very cruel infact.Of course that is going to really hurt someones feelings/emotions/pride/confidence.If someone is hurting, sometimes they do actions and make bad choices, cause they are hurting deep inside.Sometimes they become someone they are not, and are not in a good head space or frame of mind.They are not being HONEST TO THEMSELVES nor are they respectful to others.Sometimes their actions are not intended to hurt others, I just don't think they don't realize what they are doing until someone says..."Your behavour is inappropriate, I don't like it - it hurts me"I guess it comes down to how we treat others and how we want to be treated. FOXY
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
Thankyou all for you input - I must clarify that this topic is not about me or mr cheeky - a good friend of mine has been compared by an ex play friend - belittling her in saying that his new girlfriend is everything n more, more then she could or ever was. I know ppl who continuously talk about how they have amazing lovers n no one could match them / I take myself out of that equation n don't even go there..... Someone once told me to choose my words like I would choose what clothes I was wearing - maybe or maybe not!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am sorry to hear of that situation.I too have been down your friends path - it really is hurtful/painful and cuts deep.Some people can be just plain mean and really insensitive to other peoples feelings.Lack of empathy and compassion I call it.Please let her know "It's not her"HUGS Foxy x
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RHP User
12 years ago
As pretty much what everyone has offered already is that people who do to be hurtful are not someone that you want to be around. My thoughts are that while it is hurtfull now it may better in the long run as it will give your friend the chance to find someone who does appreciate her for the person who she is. Cheers,W
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madotara69
12 years ago
I think there is a difference, now Mr cheeky shouted from the roof tops that he feels you are amazing, not for comparison as it surely meant there is none. Your friend has just found out that she was more than the new playmate will ever be,she just did not hear it for what it is. Small and frightened people will throw a snub, it will be what they fear, and a weak excuse for what they have lost.So who will be the lucky guy that gets everything from your friend, maybe he will be the guy that has no need to compare his self and keep her friendship alive.I do not feel sorry for your girlfriend, she is the winner for sure.Maybe she will get a guy like Mr cheekyMado
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your friend is probably more than this persons new lover. Sounds like the one saying it was hurt and rather than deal with it like an adult, tried to hurt your friend in response. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's honesty.....however, I don't agree that those that make such remarks should drop names. I think that's just a way of manipulating people to get what they want. Instead, they should be aiming for helping that person in a constructive way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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