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  Seachange73

  6 years ago

  I would suggest you guys visit a swingers club I'm your city and observe if not participate with other players in attendance. Being in the club would expose you to the lifestyle without the pressure to play witj other couples or the rigmarole of organising a meeting with other RHP couples who may ghost you. If you are comfortable watching naked strangers play or even participating in the play with respect, then you can go forward and approach other couples to meet and perhaps play. Ask others what makes them comfortable and we're if it suits your level of play. Define your rules and boundaries before engaging further. It helps the other people too if they're amenable to your desires and boundaries. Best wishes.

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  Seachange73

  6 years ago

  I just saw you're from Melbourne. There's shed 16 in Seaford. Visit the place to observe. Dip your swinging toes, so to speak.

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  teamaj2

  6 years ago

  Hi 2 Newbies Everyone is new at some point , nerves , insecurities and being uncertain about boundaries etc is totally to be expected . Your boundaries and rules will perhaps change over time . You both write your own rule book , this is your journey together . As was already said , I would agree going to an event would perhaps be a good start . There is no pressure to play . You can chat to other like minded people , observe and yes of course you may decide to play . An event would allow you the opportunity to play with others close by with no pressure to include anyone else . We’ve not been to Shed 16 . Our first event was Allspice , which we still attend . It’s friendly , there is a great music , a bar and a play area upstairs . We’ve not attended but I believe Bay city has couples nights and I’ve heard that is also good . Good luck in your search. Ax

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  ...are a good start unless of course you're really ugly then forget it. ʗɱ

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Thanks everyone, appreciate the responses, I think an event is the way forward. Slightly exciting, and nervous. Think an event where there is no pressure to play with others till we found our feet is a great idea, thank you

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  You might want to consider a smallish event. We started out with Saints to us timid, docile first timers it felt like going to a madhouse with naked clowns( including us) swinging from poles tribbing...lol!

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  FlirtParties

  6 years ago

  If you are not quite ready to see people naked and playing around in front of you then perhaps try a social meet and greet event and some light play parties. We host a variety of events especially to help newbies feel comfortable coming into the scene. Our events are listed in the RHP events pages.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  A couples only club or event like FlirtParties are great. Clubs have less pressure than house parties and are usually cleaner. Shed 16, Wow and Bay City Sauna have lockable rooms where you can play alone or with another couple. I would not recommend places with single guys to begin with.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  For an men experience, Shed 16 on an event night would be perfect. Many man to choose from and most are super respectful and polite. There is just a 12 to 1 ration between men and women. This could work for you. The venue itself is spectacular.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Hey newbies welcome to this amazing world 🌍 We could’ve written this same post just 6-mths ago! Still fairly new to the lifestyle ourselves, but can honestly say it has been the best thing for our relationship. After initially being disheartened after attending a dodgy establishment, we were ready to call it quits and close the door entirely! Then we came across an event listed on RHP which was out of town. What a perfect opportunity to dip our toes and suss the waters away from our neighbor hood! We still recall knocking on the door to the appartment where the private meet and greet was being held, thinking what on earth are we doing here!! We were so nervous, but so excited at the same time. We were greeted by awesome hosts who have made us feel so incredibly comfortable from the get go! We met some lovely couples and still have regular chats. If it wasn’t for that awesome night I think we would’ve definitely called it quits. Fortunately we were very lucky to come across an easy going experienced couple that we instantly connected with, this really helped our journey. We haven’t looked back. Our advice is just go with the flow. Enjoy the moment and don’t take things too seriously. You will change your mind and discover the things you thought you wouldn’t want to do, are actually pretty amazing! You never know until you try! It’s all a bit of fun. Highly recommend you come along to a FlirtEvent (they host regular catchups) and meet other like minded couples. Here’s some helpful info on the blog we found useful. Good luck and we might just see you out there! Bree & Brad 💋 https://flirtaus.com/blogs/news/what-to-expect-at-a-flirtparties-meet-and-greet-social-event

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