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Compliments or not compliments....
February 28 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is a compliment Mrs.Cheeky? 😒XxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
I find it hard to accept compliments because of my age. I put some pics up in Amateur pics and got some lovely compliments, but I'm still thinking to myself, I'm 51, too old to be sexy!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do question the way some 'compliments' are put across. I know there can be back handed compliments and your example does sound a bit like that. Without the second part, the first part sounds fine.
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Justdoingstuff
11 years ago
I think he was saying that it explains why you look so good, due to your job. Fitness instructors are very sexy ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
At my age , you tend to grasp at straw dogs. Most men do not come up and insult a woman while shopping. Most are to terrified to compliment a woman they don't know in case it back fires . So if guys come up and tell to me in the supermarket how you going you old slut. I yell back meet me in Isle three un five minutes. And bring butter. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are never too old to be sexy... I think it is a terrible societal stereotype that makes people dislike themselves as they get older and has them wasting years living in the past. You are never going to be as young as you are now again. Flaunt it you are sexy- and with your experience you know how to ride that sexiness... Xxviolet
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6exxy
11 years ago
Don't look too hard into compliments. Breathe in the love and reflect the beauty 😘
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RHP User
11 years ago
And to answer the question... No I'm terrible at compliments... Never know how to take or answer them :/ Xxviolet
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jollyrog
11 years ago
never to old to be sexy, if you are your are, and probably you will be sexy to different people
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've learnt to take a compliment with a simple thank you but it took ages. I've also learnt not over analyse it too much... generally you can tell by the tone whether its a backhanded compliment... and I find women can be experts at delivering those. Been at the receiving end of quite a few lol. But I get very wary when overly complimented on here before the person has met me or even spoken to me. I feel like I'm being put on an unrealistic pedestal, and I worry I won't live up to expectations :/ I'm secure in my looks and personality, but I also know that I'm no super model with a brain like Einstein's. Koko, I get where you're coming from but it's absolutely ridiculous... you are one of the sexiest women I've ever met, and there are plenty of forty year old women who don't even come close to you xx Much love, Elle xx
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
I am inspired by the women who are older then me on rhp - especially Freya, Koko, Peachy! Love learning from older women in so many aspects Can't wait to meet you all x
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RHP User
11 years ago
This interests me ,, looking forward to response - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Woman are their own worst enemy, maybe not all but they can be so hard on themselves, as i am the other half i should know. Darling you look great in that, it really brings out the colour in your eyes, and the one you hear the most, do i look fat in this. Look i love my wife we make a great team, and i would be lost without her, she really is my soul mate. What they don't see is if they are confident, carry themselves with direction, take the lead, don't be shy and make the first move without second guessing themselves they in the eyes of most men would come across more sexy. Having said all of this i would just like to say, my wife has all of these qualities as she is looking over my shoulder wondering what mischief i am getting up to. Love ya bub xx.
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP you have worked hard to get the body you have... why not accept appreciation when it is given. My attitude is very positive and the fact he said "wow" at the beginning makes me think it was meant as a compliment. He also mentioned fitness ..... wow + fitness = appreciation of your hard work = compliment. Simple really. Sometimes taking things at face value is how they were meant to be taken. Smile and be happy someone took the time to tell you so. LG
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RHP User
11 years ago
and Spankthatbum, I accept compliments without over thinking it. I used to be more self conscious but I now realise that I am sexy to some. I know I am not sexy to everyone and that is fine just as not everyone is sexy to me so if someone is going to tell me something positive, I am going to let them :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
A compliment. Believe me it WAS. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It was a compliment.maybe it wasn't.A compliment or not...Its just his opinion...the important thing is Mrs Cherky.what you think about you..I know it's hard not to react,to either positives or negatives.but how much weight should you give to total strangers opinion ..trust in the opinions of those you trust .Hugs xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Believe it is a compliment.... I always keep in mind all people have internal, ideas, beliefs, critical thinking skills or no skills people are all on different pages,,,,,, till you get to know the person more
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
I would like to offer more complements to women, but there is the confidence thing, and I would hate them to think it was some sort of ironic insult, oh and probably wouldn't consider being complementary to a woman under 45 in case they thought I was some sad old perve.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi cheeky, that sounds hands down like a compliment to me, and to say it in a supermarket takes a wee bit of courage from the complimenter too. I don't meet women everyday who take fitness very seriously to that level, so when I do it always impresses me. Sometimes I get compliments for stuff that I don't always agree with, but I just say thank you, as I don't want to discourage someone who took a risk in saying that. After all they were trying to be nice
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RHP User
11 years ago
I tried to read this thread multiple times....but I kept spontaneously cumming at the end of the first paragraph so I really have no idea really....but those small short....*kersploodge* Oh Jesus....there I go again.... 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If I am made up to go out; I can take a compliment well. But if I am in sweats, no makeup, hair a mess I query why someone would compliment me as I haven't put as much effort into presenting myself as well as I can. But I guess people find different things attractive. And Koko. You're one sexy lady 😉
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RHP User
11 years ago
Damned if we do, and damned if we don't.The key to a compliment might be in the tone of voice. All women are beautiful, and to praise by way of a respectful comment is a validation of that. Then again, the sleezy remarks - and they stand out like the proverbial 'dogs @#$%&' are rank. Cheers
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you for the compliments, especially from three very sexy women. Sometimes people seem to be very confident, but inside its often not the case. And, yes, to answer the question, I think it was a compliment, Mrs Cheeky. Im sure it takes a bit of nerve for a guy to approach a stranger to tell her she looks good......it makes me wonder, though, do guys readily accept compliments?
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RHP User
11 years ago
always said "Accept a compliment...graciously, as the person is obviously saying what they really feel" Mrs C I think it was a compliment.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Men are no different than women with receiving.... Some men have been hurt, and compliments can be part of the hurt they experienced and hence they wouldn't receive compliments well. Some men take compliments with grace and appreciation... And some men even use it fuel their narcissism.... Once again my bet is its the same for men as it is with the ladies... - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
to look at it. One, that it was a compliment or two it wasn't which meant that he was trying to diss you because he could see the effort and the result you put into your body which made him feel inferior and therefore the need to bring you down to his level. Which you should take as a compliment as well!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Can be tricky these days, suspicion and political correctness etc, it's just as likely to blow up in your face. I always try and establish some eye contact and get a little smile first, just to be sure. As for receiving them, makes me feel damn good actually, and even when I smell sarcasm I over emphasise the positive, just to piss 'em off.
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RHP User
11 years ago
grrrr .. no wonder men shut up and say nothing !your over analyzing it. accept it with the grace it was given .. your a gym instructor of course you have a tight well toned bod in a pair of shorts heavens, on a building site they would be falling off scaffolding
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MrandMrsBrady
11 years ago
I too am a fitness instructor and I have had random people say very similiar things about my legs etc..I always take it as a compliment when someone notices enough to say something because a. It means they are impressed & b. it means my hard work has paid off and I can be a role model to the people in my classes... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I know some ladies hate this...but... ...sometimes the no make-up, just been to the gym, sweaty, no effort look can be really sexy. If a guy compliments you for it, you've pulled it off!
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RHP User
11 years ago
...and to be politically correct. If you don't receive a compliment doesn't mean you haven't pulled it off either...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I read the "compliment".... and maybe because Im not the target market... I simply didn't see it. And because Cheeky didn't 100% see it as a compliment... it missed the mark. So if it missed the mark, it wasn't effective, and if it wasn't effective..... I guess, it wasn't a compliment to the person it was aimed at. There are certainly better ways he could have shared his thoughts. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
As the male half, I have to agree with earlier statements about men being too scared to compliment, much less insult. As a general rule in society, we are made out to be uncaring heathens, void of concern for how our behaviour affects others. While it can be true at times, it is also very untrue a great many times s well. Personally, I avoid flinging compliments very often for the reason posted here. So many women simply will not allow the receiving of a compliment. Think about this... People say "it's better to give then receive" and so we tend to act that way if we view ourselves as "good". However that is simply bad math. It ought to be 50/50. If someone gives, another has to receive, or it is wasted. It takes humility and confidence to accept a compliment. Those are sexy qualities. Breathe, relax,smile, and accept. Then maybe pay it forward another time.
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MrandMrsBrady
11 years ago
Maybe some people just don't know how to communicate effectively ....eg once a random younger male commented " pffhour cougar!" As I walked past. now in his mind that was intelligent effective communication ie him complimenting me so I let it pass ( I am not a fan of the term cougar but that's another thread) even though it was somewhat borderline... Also women being women will pick up on any negative in a situation or conversation and cling to it even if the rest was positive so there is no winning there for makes or other females really And finally a little self promotion never goes stray had I not read this post I would never had clicked on cheekys profile...seems to be plenty of confidence there can see more in their public pics then our private ones... Mrs U - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I believe it was a compliment / pick up line. Very rarely do men give a lovely woman that they have never met before a compliment just for the hell of it ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
We humans have trained ourselves to use compliments to gain something, and the insincerity shows.So we (women particularly) are often response-trained to be suspicious of someone being so complimentary so quickly. IF compliments were offered merely for the sake of offering them.... the person giving them would become far more comfortable offering genuine compliments, and the receivers would notice they're being offered without agenda. Heres something I do every day.I walk up to one stranger each day and offer random compliment to make them feel good about themselves... and then wish them a great day. You'll feel just as good for making their day that little bit brighter. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
I learnt long ago to just say thank you and smile. If you get too many it sort of loses its impact, still feels good, but hey you don't have to blow smoke up my arse, in many cases they want something and think they are buttering me up. Some people are just hopeless at giving complements, and their motives are totally transparent. Complements come in a wide variety of flavors. One I liked was in my surfing days and i would work home from trig point, every now and then a school bus for an all girls high school would come down West Coast Hwy and all these girls would hang out the window and wolf whistle and yell out at me. Have to say as a guy it felt good to have a bus load of girls whistle at me. That is a good complement, it came with no pretense, or ulterior motive, I was 34 and these girls were way to young for me, but I waved back and blew them kisses. Then there are complements that are given but the person giving them is unaware that they are giving them to you. When someone sees my work and says something nice about it but don't know i am the author, that feels good as it is honest and again without pretense. There is also the simplest complement of just a broad smile when you meet after not seeing someone for a while, or even a day. It feels so good and you return the favor without thinking and without intention by smiling back in return, or did i smile first and they smiled back.. Ahh who cares it feels good. I am a sucker for compliments, as long as they are honest and are not laced with needs.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Everyone i think deep down loves a complement as long as its intent is just that, a compliment. A compliment to seek gain is not entirely without merit but one must be extra careful when buttering up, as a miss placed, dishonest, or shallow compliment can do more damage than good. I see guys at clubs, parties, and even on-line try to give complements in an effort to win favor and many just crash and burn. It has to have 100% truth from your heart in it or its just lame. Nor do you want to hit a raw nerve by complementing something that they are insecure about. If there was something that you found appealing and attracted you to them, then go ahead and say it, if on the other hand all that got you to talking was the fact that she is breathing then it may pay to hold off on the compliments until you know a little more about her, and even then its best only if you resist the obvious ones. Well placed and honest compliments work wonders, and it is an important social skill to have. People like others that give good compliments, and you make them feel good about them selves. Everyone has something special and unique, something they take pride in. Find out what that is and talk about it. That in its self is a compliment, to show interest. It is good to complement everyone, not just the people you want to root. (most forum regulars know this but it is directed to the lurkers). As this is and Adult dating site many see the compliment as a way to get into the pants, and as the mind is invariably stuck in sex mode the tendency it to have a sexual bent to the complements. Ironically this is often not the way to get favor, "great body", "nice tits", "cute arse", will only work if A: they are already drooling all over you, or B: they actually have a exceedingly nice bits. Women are interested in the mind and if you show interest and compliment them there, you will be much more attractive to them than just another monkey ogling over flesh.
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Seachange73
11 years ago
You are a sexy gorgeous warm woman with a kind beautiful heart. What a combination. You always see the positives in oif and defi itely a worthy person to meet. I count kmyself lucky. Take it all in, say thank you and smile hou sweet smile.Take care. Xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
"Squat queen" what he was really saying - "god damn, nice ass" Take it as the compliment it was and don't overthink it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
A remote?! Lol 😄😄😄 who'd rather watch telly?! lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
The feeling is mutual, you know that! See you when youre back in Perth xxxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Receive the complement and be in gratitude that your body is attractive to other bodies...no judgement! I love it when people show up as they really are (no makeup and normal clothes), what makes us think we have to spend time masking our authentic awesomeness...woman's magazines and Photoshop? I think this man recognised how you honour your body by keeping fit and commented on it, good on him :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
when you see the sun set at night and you say that's beautiful why because it's real . Just all of us in way we are all beautiful because where real. People don't realise that. Life is simple. So why do we question it.
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
Thankyou heaps everyone xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
A simple "thank you" with a smile is a great response.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Have any of you seen the experiment (on Fb or elsewhere) where women agreed with compliments men gave them? Typical example: Guy: You have great legs. Gal: Thanks, I know! Guy: Wow, you're full of yourself, aren't you? They're not that great, you know. I was quite amazing how many men withdrew their compliment when the woman agreed. We're just supposed to be grateful? When I receive a compliment I will always say thanks, but I do think that some men's perception that we somehow owe them something is totally wrong.
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
the way we have become In society. A guy compliments a stranger, it's assumed he hitting her up. If its a him, he must be gay. A women compliments a stranger she coming onto him maybe, if it's another woman, totally fine or maybe she's a bitch. A guy offers a compliments a child, he's a paedophile. So we have turned into characterless missiles, going from A to B. Mmmm. Nice arse you have.......
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander'Sheesh, DG, we should call you antagonistlad."Yeah, I know."
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RHP User
11 years ago
dooche bag! Umm as long as u like urself and are happy with ur body rude comments shudnt knock u off. Did u take a look at him? I'm sure he wasent anything special
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Hawt1
11 years ago
And you have a very nice sexy body and fantastic legs As for that guy... maybe the tone of his delivery was wrong, he might of been nervous (but I doubt that), he might of been dishing out a compliment (somehow I am not sure of that either), to me it sounds like a neutral statement of fact as he saw it. With the content of the words, nothing for you to worry about, being fit is a good thing. Having just finished a work out you would of been pumped... lucky guy to have witnessed it. I like a bit of definition on a woman Koko, you did also impress me as a sexy woman, I would of taken you home after that meet and greet
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joanne1991
11 years ago
You wouldn't believe the problems associated with an age not what you look like lol
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Aristippusx2
11 years ago
I would prefer to admire a woman with individual character lines than a fresh faced bobble head. Mr A
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