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Connection vs Attraction
December 06 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Couldn't have put it better myself. Seems to be what alot (not all) men just don't get!
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RHP User
16 years ago
This is the easiest question I've ever answered, Missy. Connection. And you've already explained the reason why!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Whilst attraction AND connection are the ultimate, we're all not ken and barbie :-) I feel connection is what is needed for great sex Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Then there's the ultimate connection with the gendarmes following an escapade of dogging... which is becoming increasing popular with the RHP set :) What about modern dancing? It's hard to tell who is your partner until it lapses into a session of dirty dancing... to unexpectedly find the person behind you has an erect penis. The masked ball always had a surprise factor... lucky we don't live in the era of powdered wigs, boned bodices, bustle pads and 50 million petticoats. A time when it was the fashion for all men to be effeminate. It was also a time when a quickie was an impossibility. Though I understand that drawers were not often worn in this period. Otherwise a trip to the toilet would have been more torturous than getting into that attire. We have so much to thank for the nudist movement.... though glory holes a frowned on.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I like searching for connections. To stumble upon an anonymous lover in a dark garden path on a hot summer night, no words spoken initially, there has to be an attraction.... And then it's just sex... but to find a connection in the midst of that, sensing a connection, sensing that there is something linking you spiritually... well that's rare and absolutely memorable. That's where it's at. That 1 in 500 encounters. Hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
Attraction helps make for some stimulating sex.A connection makes the stimulating sex more memorable!We both will take Connection over Attraction any day as if you connect with someone they become far more attractive than if you just think they're hot but can't share even a fleeting bond with them.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Interesting though a number of men freak when that word comes out in discussion.. They think it means committment up front... of course the enlightened ones dont.. Im not sure what other word can be used to stop them getting all crazy I think first we taste with our eyes... so I suppose that is attraction... however its not going to remain that tasty without the connection........ Now anyone for a taste test ??
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RHP User
16 years ago
If it is only attraction then it wont last long , were connection has a longer chance of lasting the distance. i had a realationship that was just attraction but she could not hold a convertation so it only last to months so it has to be more than just attraction.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sometimes its hard to explain a difference between connection and attraction... The most incredibly successful womaniser I've ever met was as ugly as sin, had body odour, was married and didn't keep it a secret, was always broke so the women paid, otherwise he borrowed from one woman to take another out. Was the least trustworthy person imaginable. Remarkable he never ended up in jail for all his debts and misdemeanours. His reputation was no deterrent for the average woman... Only one treated him with scepticism and politely avoided a physical or social engagement... but then she was the Managing Director's secretary. Yet this chap had the most incredible charm... the woman would flock around him to be entertained by his wit. He got to snog every woman at a party regardless of his personal hygiene. Encountered a similar situation with a musician in a band. He wore the same cloths day in and day out, never washed and his socks stood up by themselves. He even had a number of teeth missing. We gate crashed a society function populated by many of the cities fashion models, to find he was infinitely popular with the throng, otherwise we would have been tossed out on our ears. I never cease to be amazed by this attraction to people who connect owing to charm and personality over good looks.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Miss_Honey..To me there's has to some attraction.....to peek my interest...then looks can fade with out a connection sothe connection is important ..for me to have trust...makes for greater sex..xoxoxheymummaluv ya posts..
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RHP User
16 years ago
Love the concept of your taste test - I'm up for it ;-) Seriously though - you are right - most people use their eyes first and the brain second... I guess I'm different, you'll mostly find me chatting to women that the ken dolls don't look at because I love a good chat and I find the best connections there... not saying that looks are not important, but I taste with my mind first and eyes second. Wayne x
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RHP User
16 years ago
For me personally connection is part of the attraction :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Connection for me 100%, it really doesn't matter to me how hot someone is because if I can't connect with them then it's all pointless really both in a physical sexual way but also emotionally too - there is no way I'm going to open myself up to someone if I dont get that "vibe" from them.I've found out in recent times that an intellectual connection is really important to me, to be able to talk with someone about a myriad of topics is such as attractive quality to have in a relationship or in just in a casual sense. I find myself being more and more attracted to really smart / ambitious types someone who values knowledge and the drive to achieve something.Physical attraction can be better initially because a lot of the time thats how you end up talking to someone by a quick glance & smile across the room or whatever but it usually peeters our to no attraction once you've chatted with them for 20 odd minutes and realise there is 0% connection.
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RHP User
16 years ago
a little bit of both is whats needed.... or its a waste of time.....if someone looks sensational, with a sexy body etc, but has absolutely no social skills, they arent gonna get anywhere with us....
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RHP User
16 years ago
If I'm not attracted then I won't be in the mood for it, but a cheeky connection makes someone sooooooo much more attractive than they already were - and way more likely for things to head in the bedroom (or back alley, middle of field, beach, horizontal or vertical surface) direction.
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RHP User
16 years ago
How great ya look....if there is no connection...zippo...the old bugga hangs his head in shame...but as soon as the connection fuse is lit....well...what can i say except.....he's up and dancing a merry old jigoh..err...just in case ya wondering..."HE" is this cute ol' hair i got just by me right nipple...grins...ya wanna see...????Jose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Gotta agree with the connection, if there is no connection then there isnt really much to work with. Maybe a useless one night stand :-P
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RHP User
16 years ago
I find that while at the start I need a mixture of both as the connection builds the looks get better and better.. or vice versa if the connection fades the so does the attraction to looks... thats prob about as clear as mud but thats my two cents Pete
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