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Couples.... um, err, ah... maybe??

July 07 2013

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Lately i have received a large number of hits from couples, quite a few flirts and the odd message (disappointingly no FF couples damn it! lol)... And its got me thinking. When i filled out my profile couples never came in to the equation, i was strictly interested in meeting up with women only! The thought of meeting up with a couple, would put me way out of my comfort zone, but then again i have stepped out of my comfort zone a couple of times lately, with better than to be expected results. Even whilst writing this there are a raft of questions going through my mind.... " how would i feel being with another mans partner, with them watching?" "would i be able to preform under that pressure?""i'm not bi,so would i even be comfortable being naked in front of another guy" " meeting up with one person can be nerve racking enough, with a couple i have to endear myself to two people" " if i totally ruled it out, would i be being ignorant?" At the end of the day i guess i'm hesitant because i'm not sure i'm in the right head space? but then again, is there even a right head space to begin with? Its not worrying me at all, i just like to think of myself as open minded.Can anyone relate to what i'm saying? Have you been in a similar situation? What did you do? And how did it turn out? I would love to know what happened! thanks p :)

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I have been in your situation before 1 on 1 with a couple, heck we do 2 on 2 with a couple too, but its the same as soon as you have a couple you have an unknown factor, the guy. With out situation we know each other we're buds there is no drama we 'get each other' so we don't have any of the aforementioned issues. But when you add a dude, we have to be very careful that he's comfortable too. Always reading her and him, we have been lucky all our plays have been fantastic successes but performance pressure can affect them too so you need to factor that in too :)In an MFM situation there will be a fair chunk of 'downtime' for you where you may be focused on her and she isn't focused on you so you'll need to be 'ready' when you need to be. so keep that in mind. if you want more specifics just buzz us and we'll help you out with any questions mate!Good luck, when you get a really great couple who are comfortable with each other and in love and just love seeing each other pleasured... its very very fun!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Too many variables about your head space and theirs. Only way is to be honest about your personal expectations and communicate! Nut out your worries with them and judge by their responses. You can get lots of the fears out of the way before the meet.   Great advice from 2 Guys (wished I lived in Canberra).

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    You say: " if i totally ruled it out, would i be being ignorant?" You sound almost apologetic to me for not being convinced you can have sex in fron of another man. That's like me worrying I'm not kinky enough to be here because I don't like sadomasochism. You have your boundaries, and only you can decide if you are comfortable enough with an idea to try and make it reality. Just my 2 cts.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Its the same when single girls hit on us couples, or Bisexual couples, or Bi guys / Girls, hoping they convert or desperate because they cannot their ideal.   Don't even entertain anything that's not on the same page.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I am relatively new to the swing lifestyle, but as a female I have been amazed at the respect level amongst genuine players. As in any tribe, there are always the drongos, but generally, you might be surprised at how welcoming, encouraging and respectful of your boundaries swinging couples are. Only you will know if or when you are ready to explore that for yourself. If your experience is anything like mine, your life will be forever changed.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    ...be at least turned on by the idea, of two men pleasing a woman...do you ever watch MFM porn, for instance?we have not had a great amount of experience with having single men join us...my man is straight as an arrow...but as long as he knows, that our guest is only getting his hard-ons by looking at my naked ass...lol...he is fully comfortable with the presence of another male...i believe for those few men, who WE played with...the idea of seeing a woman go crazy from all the attention TWO men can give her...was a huge turn on...i think they also enjoyed watching us (me and my hubby)...it was like live porn in front of their very eyes...and they were allowed to join in!you would be there to help fulfill one (or two) people's fantasy...and that's sexy!in our view, at least...as long as you are there for the right reasons...i.e. wanting to pleasure the lady of the duo...and not just to get your rocks off...it's all fun...you have to remember that you are a guest...respect the rules and boundaries of the people who invited you...respect the fact that you are NOT the alpha-male, as you would be in a one on one situation...and the rest usually just fall into place...we have had men who had performance issues...just a little bit to begin with...nerves can get to anyone...but the great thing about having another guy around, is that when you are temporarily not up for the task, so to speak...the other guy can take over...and according to some men we met....watching a woman living out one of her wildest fantasies of being wanton, naughty...melting from the ecstasy of having two lips ,four hands and two cocks to please her...and being a part of providing that pleasure...is super sexy!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    ...be at least turned on by the idea, of two men pleasing a woman...do you ever watch MFM porn, for instance?we have not had a great amount of experience with having single men join us...my man is straight as an arrow...but as long as he knows, that our guest is only getting his hard-ons by looking at my naked ass...lol...he is fully comfortable with the presence of another male...i believe for those few men, who WE played with...the idea of seeing a woman go crazy from all the attention TWO men can give her...was a huge turn on...i think they also enjoyed watching us (me and my hubby)...it was like live porn in front of their very eyes...and they were allowed to join in!you would be there to help fulfill one (or two) people's fantasy...and that's sexy!in our view, at least...as long as you are there for the right reasons...i.e. wanting to pleasure the lady of the duo...and not just to get your rocks off...it's all fun...you have to remember that you are a guest...respect the rules and boundaries of the people who invited you...respect the fact that you are NOT the alpha-male, as you would be in a one on one situation...and the rest usually just fall into place...we have had men who had performance issues...just a little bit to begin with...nerves can get to anyone...but the great thing about having another guy around, is that when you are temporarily not up for the task, so to speak...the other guy can take over...and according to some men we met....watching a woman living out one of her wildest fantasies of being wanton, naughty...melting from the ecstasy of having two lips ,four hands and two cocks to please her...and being a part of providing that pleasure...is super sexy!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    You are so true in what you are saying sensualtimestoo i have been with couples and enjoyed it emensely

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    You nailed it to a tee... This is the way it should be done. Jay... QUOTE :you would have to..... ...be at least turned on by the idea, of two men pleasing a woman...do you ever watch MFM porn, for instance?we have not had a great amount of experience with having single men join us...my man is straight as an arrow...but as long as he knows, that our guest is only getting his hard-ons by looking at my naked ass...lol...he is fully comfortable with the presence of another male...i believe for those few men, who WE played with...the idea of seeing a woman go crazy from all the attention TWO men can give her...was a huge turn on...i think they also enjoyed watching us (me and my hubby)...it was like live porn in front of their very eyes...and they were allowed to join in!you would be there to help fulfill one (or two) people's fantasy...and that's sexy!in our view, at least...as long as you are there for the right reasons...i.e. wanting to pleasure the lady of the duo...and not just to get your rocks off...it's all fun...you have to remember that you are a guest...respect the rules and boundaries of the people who invited you...respect the fact that you are NOT the alpha-male, as you would be in a one on one situation...and the rest usually just fall into place...we have had men who had performance issues...just a little bit to begin with...nerves can get to anyone...but the great thing about having another guy around, is that when you are temporarily not up for the task, so to speak...the other guy can take over...and according to some men we met....watching a woman living out one of her wildest fantasies of being wanton, naughty...melting from the ecstasy of having two lips ,four hands and two cocks to please her...and being a part of providing that pleasure...is super sexy!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    thank you....glad others feel similar to us...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Thanks for all the wonderful advice and wise words of wisdom... I do like mfm porn, and as a lover I am very much a pleaser, thinking about it, after reading all the comments, it is something I would try down the track, I really do agree with the comments about getting to know the couple first at least to the point were your both on the same page...... Cheers p- Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Knowing what you want and saying so sends the right message to everyone and if the invited reads it right he will be rewarded anyway. Personally' I find it interesting to go along with what turns the lady on and what the hubby feels comfortable with .. the way it should be...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Jay_Me' Knowing what you want and saying so sends the right message to everyone and if the invited reads it right he will be rewarded anyway. Personally' I find it interesting to go along with what turns the lady on and what the hubby feels comfortable with .. the way it should be... so true...i believe the best policy is to be upfront from the start about what we want...and hopefully, if i am lucky...our profile will actually be read , and understood by someone who wants to meet us...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Yes' no point in meeting a couple if you dont understand what is all about.When a couple decide they want to add some excitement to their relationship , its usually done after much deliberation and soul searching , once they decide its usually about the enjoyment of the lady first and foremost. Of course theres gotta be something there for the invited otherwise whats the point. Everyone will enjoy the moment if your all on the same page.. Not that hard really... Jay

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