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Courtesy,------ it's not hard and it doesn't cost anything to give, , but is valued when received
November 14 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
No thanks.
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Naughtydouble
11 years ago
You may be over reacting just a bit boss yes its rude !!! But really where not in a meeting this is a site with as many pretenders as particapants no reply is the same answer as a no so enjoy the ones that say yes 😊
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Hottie1
11 years ago
Is often the lack courtesy. A number of previous forums have addressed this very issue and as a single bloke, many would tell you it is incredibly difficult on this site to actually get someone's attention. BUT I agree with you, common courtesy doesn't cost much. It is easy to create a template response that you can simply reply with. Even template replies are problematic for single women on this site, many a lovely ladies of the forums have often said that many men get aggressive, demanding etc., when women say 'thanks but no thanks' . I don't think it's easy for either sex unfortunately, but good manners always go a long way. Mary xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Shouting out, to ask for courtesy...... seems paradoxical. Welcome to RHP communication..... where no reply IS a reply. As has been said a billion times before, when a woman in here offers the "no thank you" reply.... she often gets abused, hounded, pestered for reasons why she wasnt interested.... it can go on and on. My advice...... drop the expectations that everyone must respond to you.Man up, move on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
A forum on this exact topic is posted about once a week, have a look around. Now honestly, the fact that you're writing in capitals, a bold font and you use the word "F....ING" multiple times might be considered rude too. No need to yell. Be glad you dodged the rude people here sooner rather than later, and go for the pleasant ones.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sooooo many forums on this topic, I am still completely bewildered how much this upsets people. How can you let someone that you've never met, and probably never will, have so much power over you? Bizarre behaviour.
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
is stated on your profile. You don't seem to be easy going with a post like that. If your messages are of similar fashion then we've solved your problem about not getting responses. Ah. Job here is done!!! That was easy.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
as mentioned, this is a topic that comes up ALL time time in here. Now, you can rant and swear and shout as much as you like...but the thing is that you cannot and never will be able to control everyone else's behaviour and get them to do what you want or what you think is right (something I think we all forget at times). And I completely agree with Funlover, I have no idea why so many people get their knickers in such a twist about this. If you don't get a reply it generally means either a) they're not interested in you, b) they're very busy with their lives outside RHP / in hospital / have skipped the country because they're a wanted felon, or c) the profile you messaged doesn't belong to a real person. I don't see why people get so worked up about not receiving a reply with regards to any of those situations. Plus, if you're one of those who thinks that people who don't reply are rude, awful people then you can consider it as just another way to filter out those who you wouldn't be interested in anyway
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RHP User
11 years ago
Irony.... Posting about how discourteous people are using aggression, intimidation while calling other people "F....ING RUDE." Here's a tip.... Go F.... YOURSELF!!! :p Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
The OP's profile pasted for all the women that will be swarming now after your little dummy spit:- "Discreet and Sensual................. I'm a very easy going, respectful and fun loving guy who after being in a long term relationship is looking to explore new sensations and experiences, whatever they may be ;-) Just ask and we'll see ;-) If you want to know more send me message, if a guest you can send flirt and I'll be sure to reply :-)" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
As some of the ladies on site will surely tell you, they may receive up to 100 messages per day. Guys outweigh girls by up to 15 to 1 on this and other sites. If, in some crazy bizarro world I got 100 messages a day from all sorts of people I'd soon get tired of crafting 100 responses. Take a no reply as a no thank you - that's all you need to do. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Twisted_Mister' As some of the ladies on site will surely tell you, they may receive up to 100 messages per day. Guys outweigh girls by up to 15 to 1 on this and other sites. If, in some crazy bizarro world I got 100 messages a day from all sorts of people I'd soon get tired of crafting 100 responses. Take a no reply as a no thank you - that's all you need to do. - Posted from rhpmobile Yep spot on..... ===============OP mate understand you are frustrated. Need to do a take two on the bigger picture like olmatie above here articulates v well... Stay Calm and solider on.... SA
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RHP User
11 years ago
hey mate i think maybe its not you mate dont worry , its just probally more likely that Adelaide is not fun :-// - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
For fuck sake. SENSITIVE twats shit me. Maybe you need to get a f..king life and get over your obviously bulging sack before you cum in your panties. Seriously. .. what did you expect with a stupid rant like that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree, it's not hard to reply, even if it's in the form of a free wink just to indicate that someone is not interested. Most people pay to be members and they have taken the time to express interest, so the common courtesy of a reply of some sort should not be considered a big ask.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Inspirit... I have a little surprise in my panties. Wanna see.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Given the vast array of personalities here - both real and otherwise - best not to let a deafening silence get you down. There are a myriad of reasons why one may not illicit a response from a messagee, and a myriad of threads covering the same topic. Why let an anonymous collection of electrons ruin your day? After all, until two-way communications are established, that's what a profile really is! Note: absolutely no offence intended to the real people behind those anonymous collections of electrons!
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RHP User
11 years ago
good rant lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think... Therefore I am! Now that i have established I exist I think the best and most effective way to counter rudeness is with politeness or at least no reaction
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think... Therefore I am! Now that i have established I exist I think the best and most effective way to counter rudeness is with politeness or at least no reaction
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RHP User
11 years ago
You live in Adelaide.It's only people in'Adelaide who are fucking rude.. the rest of the country is extremely polite.Perhaps if you move you might find some manners too. Ms Manners aka Freya
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On_Safari
11 years ago
But nay I ask you this.....does every girl/person you approach in real life respond to you with courtesy or in the fashion you would like? If the answer is no then you've got to expect it to be no different in cyberspace. As everyone's said no answer is sometimes the equivelant of a face to face "no thanks" or "fuck off". Cop it on the chin and move on....it's a bit like all the blokes who send "wanna fuck?" messages, or your hot what do you think of me flirts and they have no pictures! Like WTF? Consider these people as time savers because they ruled themselves out for you. Now run along and play nice. Good boy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Baby wost dar wittle wolly pop GROW UP YOU RUDE LITTLE..... Who walks into a room yelling and cursing because they cant get their lolly popped. RHP is for ADULTS looking for adults, so take a deep breath and apologize to lovey ladies and hansom men, as courtesy should be compelling you to do after that aggressive rant.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Silence IS a response. It means no thanks, or at least no thanks for now. It's not at all hard to interpret. And while an earlier post in this thread. about women getting 100 messages a day is perhaps a slight exaggeration (??) I have at times (some years ago when RHP was newer on the scene) received around 50 a day for long periods. No way am I going to spend the 1-5 mins per message to read every profile, and respond in person to every message - 1-3 hours a day? No thanks. If the writer doesn't match what I'm looking for, has written drivel (very common), or I'm otherwise not interested or just too busy, I won't bother replying. I could go on and on about the lack of courtesy shown by people who send messages when our profiles clearly don't match or when it's obvious they haven't even read my profile. But I can't be bothered. Life's too short to get my knickers in a knot about such things. Fortunately RHP offers a middle of the road option for responding to messages - the auto-reply. A guaranteed response for every person that messages you. BUT ... even that's not good enough for many. I've used auto-reply before to meet the courtesy demands of others like you, without having to spend precious time responding to crap messages. But then I've just been bombarded with complaints because my response wasn't personal or whatever rubbish people have wanted to complain about. Seriously, perhaps have a think about the other side before shouting in capitals at everyone for not meeting your expectations. And perhaps remember, as I said earlier and others have also said, silence IS a response. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
a message this week, no hi or hello.... just hey do you have any pics? Like where the heck are the manners now days? Is it now that I am on the other side of 30 that I see all of this? They simply got a sorry, I am not interested.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I DONT KNOW WHAT WE'RE YELLING ABOUT!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I used to send the ' no thanx ' but seriously the amount of guys that would take that as 'she must want to chat' has changed my stance ... I now find it less rude to not reply than to have to explain my 'no thanx' - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
What everyone else said + 1 Next - Posted from rhpmobile
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6exxy
11 years ago
Another RHP victim. While it is not a joke or funny IT IS THE NORM HERE. Man up, move on and save your feelings for that lady that gives you hers! People do not behave here the same as they do in public. There are far more men and the ladies here will exploit that to their advantage.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'BallsDeepWA' Most people pay to be members and they have taken the time to express interest, so the common courtesy of a reply of some sort should not be considered a big ask. You pay for membership for the right to send messages to people, that's it. It doesn't give you any special rights to expect a reply back.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've noticed that most of your comments are quite bitter with regards to RHP and the women on here, might be time for a break hmm?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting '6exxy' Another RHP victim. While it is not a joke or funny IT IS THE NORM HERE. Man up, move on and save your feelings for that lady that gives you hers! People do not behave here the same as they do in public. There are far more men and the ladies here will exploit that to their advantage. If people behaved in public as they did in here the police would be very busy. We do not flash our bits in public, we do not ask random strangers for blowjobs, we do not accept wolf whistles as acts of courtesy, we do not stand on street corners asking passing strangers if they take it up the arse, we do not shout abuse at people if the don't wave back to you. We do not stand out side peoples houses waiting to be let in just because they accidentally gave you a sideways glance. We dont sit at home writting sexual explicit letters to random street address, based only on the fact that at some time a woman has expressed the fact that she is a sexual being. I will not blame all men on here but RHP does seem to attract more of the dick heads, and many act in ways that they would never do in public the Jekyll and Hydes . I put the blame on those men. I know over a dozen women that have joined RHP only to be so put off, disgusted, or plain frightened, by the rude, aggressive, and down right insulting behavior of men on here that they never come back, and I feel the shame of suggesting it to them and apologize on behalf of those dicks. I no long suggest this place. RHP victims are all the women that don't come back and the men that do show courtesy. If there were less cry babies like the OP then their would be a lot more women on here. I know that for a fact. Will those dick heads that spoil it for all ever grow up.
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RHP User
11 years ago
hows that make you feel bit better? Bahahaha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Every male in here goes through the same thing some are successful some will never meet any one although it is harsh women do have the upper hand in here but if you keep ranting about it you are not doing yourself any favours or any other guy in here.think of it this way if you were bombarded with hundreds of useless winks and hi how's it goings by members that cant be bothered to read a profile every day, and you had to spend hours responding to them, would you? I don't think so just because you have paid for something doesn't guarantee any thing. its like taking a woman on a date just because you have paid to take her out doesn't mean you are going to get lucky by the end of the night most women just want to have a good night out not a sexual one. my 2 cents worth is get over it if it bothers you that much you need to move on. if a woman is interested in you they will contact you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Please get a life! Once you get one, I promise you will not care about who responds and who doesn't. The people who don't respond to you probably have a life, or they are not interested, or both...
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6exxy
11 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' I've noticed that most of your comments are quite bitter with regards to RHP and the women on here, might be time for a break hmm? First thing is I need no more of a break than anyone else. How are most of my comment quite bitter with regard to RHP and the women here? Please explain?
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6exxy
11 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' Quoting '6exxy' Another RHP victim. While it is not a joke or funny IT IS THE NORM HERE. Man up, move on and save your feelings for that lady that gives you hers! People do not behave here the same as they do in public. There are far more men and the ladies here will exploit that to their advantage. If people behaved in public as they did in here the police would be very busy. We do not flash our bits in public, we do not ask random strangers for blowjobs, we do not accept wolf whistles as acts of courtesy, we do not stand on street corners asking passing strangers if they take it up the arse, we do not shout abuse at people if the don't wave back to you. We do not stand out side peoples houses waiting to be let in just because they accidentally gave you a sideways glance. We dont sit at home writting sexual explicit letters to random street address, based only on the fact that at some time a woman has expressed the fact that she is a sexual being. I will not blame all men on here but RHP does seem to attract more of the dick heads, and many act in ways that they would never do in public the Jekyll and Hydes . I put the blame on those men. I know over a dozen women that have joined RHP only to be so put off, disgusted, or plain frightened, by the rude, aggressive, and down right insulting behavior of men on here that they never come back, and I feel the shame of suggesting it to them and apologize on behalf of those dicks. I no long suggest this place. RHP victims are all the women that don't come back and the men that do show courtesy. If there were less cry babies like the OP then their would be a lot more women on here. I know that for a fact. Will those dick heads that spoil it for all ever grow up. Man up means let it go it's not worth the hassle. Yes less crybabies is what I'm talking about.
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6exxy
11 years ago
xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Let it goooooo... let it goo oooooooo
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't you love the way men are so supportive and understanding of one another. Testosterone fuelled cock blocking frenzy.
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Plain280
11 years ago
Found it, click ah thats better! No more rants been there done that with odds of 150 to 1, statistics will tell you that you would have to be special to get noticed. ahem click. Now where were we
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6exxy
11 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' I've noticed that most of your comments are quite bitter with regards to RHP and the women on here, might be time for a break hmm? I will stand up for what I think is right even if I am standing alone. I will help those that are in need when others push them away. I will encourage those that are down on themselves and in need of a helping hand. My comments are not bitter however if the truth hurts, I'm sorry. Most of the time I take the high road on a woman with bad behavior. As I said to Meek100 I'm not some little boy you can run over and tell to go away.
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RHP User
11 years ago
As I have said in many posts on this subject, i think it's courtesy too I have sat here and replied to umpteen msgs with a "thanks but not thanks" on many an occasion and yes, i'm a busy person, before you assume i have unlimited time on my hands.. Its simple courtesy and i would expect the same in return If someone takes the time to write to me, i will acknowledge that every time
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RHP User
11 years ago
I actually agree with you. I try and answer all of my messages (the exception being the extremely crude first messages) and wish there was a "thank you" flirt to send to people who send me flirts. I would find it very deflating if I was a guy taking time to send messages to people who look like they would have something in common with me, only to receive absolutely nothing back. It takes a few seconds to type "Thanks, but I think we are looking for different things" or similar, its just common courtesy, and thats how I was brought up. Yes, its your choice to reply or not to reply, but I think it gets very easy to become used to getting lots of attention on here and just scrolling over new messages with disinterest. There are lots of lovely women on here, so hopefully you message one of them and engage, good luck!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love your straight forward approach, sooooo hot sososexy
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RHP User
11 years ago
When we first joined up to RHP we were inundated with winks and emails. trying to reply to them all would have taken a few weeks! I don't find it rude to not reply to people who CLEARLY don't match what you are looking for but persist in sending you constant flirts and emails.This on it's own helps sort out the people who actually took the time to READ your profile but alas some people can't seem to go past the pretty pictures.I am guilty of not replying for these reasons
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RHP User
11 years ago
We were so inundated, as a reason. . People don't match, I totally get it. . But we never had a fraction of the difficulties I read about when we were on here as a couple in their 40s. . I do think it shows class to make an effort for people who have made an effort for you, you know, especially like making sure they match before they contact you. . We found it hard to say no in the first weeks, but it wasn't our style to leave people hanging. So we set up a one size fits all template that we could send in a few seconds, and that worked just fine. . Getting messages in reply that were grateful to at least recieve a reply at all was payment aplenty for doing what we thought was the right thing. :-)
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