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Damaged Goods
May 12 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
Once bitten twice shy. But then again I may be damaged goods. I have been divorced for 5 years and have not had a full on relationship since then. I just think I am fussy....but who knows. I will wait to see what others say. x
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RHP User
13 years ago
That fish place has a section in profiles that asks how long your longest relationship was..... It always amazed me how many people in their 40-50's said their longest relationship was 2years ! WTF ! That to me is "damaged goods" Hp xo
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RHP User
13 years ago
Most people are very conformist, they are the "sheeple". And i'm my eyes any form of predjugement or generalization is plain unfair! No person's situation can be compared to a chart. Things happen, good things and bad things and we all react to it differently.In short: F*** 'em ! Your life, you do what you feel is right!
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sweetgem
13 years ago
After a divorce! We just have learned to be more cautious and choose wisely again after the first lesson learned! Well, in my case anyway lol I have been divorced for 2 years and am enjoying my new found freedom, because I now have more life experience and skills to do the things which I didn't have a chance to do in the past. However, I wouldn't say the rest of the world is fucked up either lol it's just each to their own and there are always naive people out there who would jump to conclusion quickly and make judgmental call without finding out the truth first :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Smart!!! Just because we won't settle for just anyone, doesn't make us "damaged" it simply makes us AWARE!!! Then again, I can't talk I run at the first thoughts of it getting serious - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
What a terrible term, it sounds like they can't be fixed and should be thrown out. Personally I don't see why being single for a long time has anything to do with being damaged. When meeting people I pay attention to how they speak of their past relationships and ex-partners instead. If you can't talk about either one without put-downs, profanities or general negativity, I find that the real issue.
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RHP User
13 years ago
At 40 and never married, am I damaged? Or just fucked up?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'd love to help fuck you up :) Up xo
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RHP User
13 years ago
How fucking boring !Small town syndrome, fuck a few married women and their pets, take pictures.Put a letter in the local rag bragging about your sex life.Do burn outs around the roundabout if there is one.See if you can root the vicar.Sounds like the place needs a shakeup !Yes mate the world is fucked up and it is up to us to keep fucking.
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RHP User
13 years ago
people who rush into another relationship soon after one is over are "damaged goods" so many people do it and I ask why? I've been single for 2 and a half years now and I am far from "damaged goods"
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RHP User
13 years ago
Or just sensible...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit'people who rush into another relationship soon after one is over are "damaged goods" I think that not wanting to be alone is a choice, not being able to is a problem.
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RHP User
13 years ago
my long term relationship was for 25 years, in this time I was a daughter, sister, wife, mother, aunty, worker and even though I enjoyed this time....(all except the ex - I still enjoy), this is now my time....I have been nearly divorced for 5 yrs and my life has changed immensely (for the better), I have a great job, kids, grandies, friends and the occasionaly FWB....so I don't see myself damaged, just see myself as being ME firstly and damn enjoying it...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Fuk them and what they think. What anyone thinks about us is none of our business.It hurts the head ...this thinking thingSo forget about it and just do what you're doing.We are all a long time dead.Some people are just jealous etc and who is anyone else to judge anyone on how they live their lifeNuff said
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RHP User
13 years ago
For your comments/opinions and thoughts as for being Damaged Goods. As for my FWB I would not say she is damaged goods in any way quite the opposite given the shit that her Ex put her through. As I said it was a comment that got me thinking about how some people may see someone that was not in a relationship for what ever reason including myself.50zkool got to love the small town syndrome where if you fart in the wrong direction everyone knows about it, that's why I got the hell out of bum fuck nowhere lolMz-Devious yep its a term I have heard before used against someone a long time ago and didn't really pay that much attention to it as it sounded more like returning a faulty toaster to Kmart than a person.
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RHP User
13 years ago
She is normal. I know how the small minds like to work from my own experience. People love to gossip after a divorce and pick the bones like vultures. Especially in small towns where the two parties have grown up and lived their whole lives. I divorced in 1998 and left my home town the following year for this reason. I was like a goldfish in a small bowl and had to swim to bigger waters or I was going to croak it. I haven't looked back since. It's a big world out there. Tell your friend to look for the big picture and not to let the rumour mill and shape shifters cast their doubts and shadows and spoil the potential of this vulnerable but necessary transition for her. It's like she is shedding skin. You do eventually grow a thicker one even when it seems like you are nowhere further along. Then a breakthrough!I gave the small town bullshit the 'middle-finger' years ago.
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RHP User
13 years ago
you have to find yourself first and all. I am still single after 14 years going on 15.Nothing wrong with it.Ok the first 10 my boys still lived with me but since 4 years I am on my own. And I can say one word which comes in my mind "FREE" never been so free felt so free or thought so free.Is this damaged, I don't think so.........its showing, you don't need a second person to rely on you show the world you can do it and you are brave not to bend down to this fucking rules people make up.Also look around you many are mostly jealous of your freedom. Towns, they are a pain, but can also be a pleasing, just don't let them rule you.
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RHP User
13 years ago
If someone is in a relationship because others think it's the best thing for them, they're doing it wrong! I've known a few women in my time who were held back by bad relationships where the male was stifling them (and they were stifling the male as well), but when they divorced they bloomed into independent, confident and self-fulfilled people. Some of them went on to forge better, healthier relationships with others, and some remained single. I think it's better to remain single than get into a relationship with the wrong person and damn what anyone else says.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Gotta love the way some people think (or don't think as the case may be). I've actually never heard the term 'damaged goods' applied in that way, although I have heard it before and absolutely hate it.I've been single for 3 years now and have no intention of changing that anytime soon, because I still have a lot of work to do on myself (not to mention all the sexual exploration I still need to do...). I've done the 'rush into another relationship to forget the last one' crap and I've definitely learnt my lesson about that now. But apparently it's better to be so afraid of being alone that you just dive into another partnership - even if it's for all the wrong reasons and is doomed from the start - than to take the time and not make the same mistakes again?? Just shows how ridiculous these mindsets are and that you shouldn't pay them any attention at all.
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RHP User
13 years ago
as "Damaged goods" in some circles... IF you call me that.. you had better be sucking my cock at the time.. OR out of Range... I can SHOW you what DAMAGED is. Let me quantify that statement.. and/or add some substance to it. The THREE girls who were recently taken out of THAT house in America.. If you met them in a couple of years times.. and DID NOT know who they were.. you might call them DAMAGED goods.. because, they will carry scars for the rest of their lives.. I POSTED a poem I wrote some time ago called - "The Brothers house" Tell THOSE boys/men that I wrote that poem about that THEY are "Damaged Goods" I recently rode with a number of people who STAND UP for Kids who have been abused.. Those kids have been through SHIT, that I KNOW a lot of YOU reading this will understand AND guess what??? "Many (if not all) of those kids will carry scars for their lives..." So.... "To REMIND you - who understand what I m saying, AND to enlighten those who DO NOT know.." I would DARE you to stand up and tell these fellas, or women who rode that day that these kids ARE or WILL become "Damaged goods"
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RHP User
13 years ago
If you are happy being single why worry. There are others that think everyone should be attached or married, alternatively some people who are may not necessarily be happy and they have to justify their relationship by putting others down, by that I mean having a go at singles who are quite happy to have non commited relationships. I am happily divorced and intend to stay that wa by choice.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Relationship Jumpers is probably a better term to use.Relationship Jumpers are not for me! I think they still have a lot of Psychological issues that are not dealt with from their last relationship.100% of the time they have not dealt with the ending of their last relationship.If you enter a FWB/NSA or any relationship with them they still have their "crap load" of baggage.I also believe it is because they dislike being alone or unable to cope with feelings of a breakup. To me that's unhealthy.It's like pickup breadcrumbs.Normally any sort of relationship with a "Relationship Jumper" does not last long.Most of the time after a break-up ones head-space is not in a healthy good place.I agree with Ms.D being single is a choice!!FOXY
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RHP User
13 years ago
but I keep on going and put the past as far behind me as I can I like to think of myself as a bit of a cracked cup In some cultures an object that has a flaw in it is percieved to be beutiful and cavey, when you rode that day you rode for me and my siblings and others that were left in care thank you
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RHP User
13 years ago
and quite often feel like I'm held together with old and faded sticky tape and string, often only just hanging on by my fingernails...There's no shame in admitting that things are tough and that you wish they could be better. It is often said that "there's no use in complaining as no one listens" that can be true but there's quite often someone who will.As for whether your single status is because you like it that way or are to scared to get back on the horse is no-one else's concern but yours. Everyone is different and we all try to find peace and happiness in our own way.
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RHP User
13 years ago
*hugs*
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50'*hugs* And for you.
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RHP User
13 years ago
No such thing as damaged goods! Put it all down to life's experiences that make you the individual that you are. Shame that we are all born individuals but somehow get caught up in conforming to what society expects. I does not matter what others say about you, the important thing is how YOU feel about yourself and what the little voice says. I say - Do what ever makes 'YOU' happy!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Your post made me all warm and glowy, good on you sir!! Not enough people stand up for these kids and do write then off as "damaged" Having scars and being damaged is not the same thing!! As for the subject in general, pfft call me damaged if you like it's no skin off my back!- Posted from rhpmobile
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