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Date cancellation
June 17 2015
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
If you look back through some previous forum topics on this you have done well in that it wasn't a No Show. You received a message.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It was a no show 3 nights earlier took excuse dumb. Me - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Remove/reduce the sleazytalk... Nothing worse than building expectations. I suspect that you would find that 75% of people who actually meet on this site, will have some form of intimacy with each other. Often not on the first date, but in my opinion if someone wants to meet you they are LIKELY to have such an encounter. I have learned though, that sometimes the buildup is so steamy that there is almost a barrier in place when you actually meet, even if you are still attracted to her... For me... Minimal sleazytalk, meet as soon as practicable... Zero expectations... This is a chat over a drink... Anything else is a bonus... Hp xo Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lots of reasons, some people just lead others on for sport, males and females, some are attached and some just chicken out. At least you got a message, many just stand you up, some will even check you out before saying hello and walk off if they don't like what they see. Nasty game this at times. Best insurance is a Skype conversation so you can see if what you see is what you get, by the time I meet someone I am at least having phone chats so the likelihood of a set up/fake is minimal. In short, be more diligent. Better luck next time.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I won't really speculate on what you may or not may not have done wrong..... But..... It may be very disappointing to be on the receiving end of that; but I'm sure it happens a lot....all you can do is rip the head off it yourself, maybe taste it for quality and coaching purposes and go find another fish 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You do get caught up in talking the talk .I will change tact in future hopefully for the better - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Has happened to me a couple of times. Im sure its happened to most of us. Just forget about them and move on. On the plus side, the people Ive met have been fabulous. So no big loss.
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RHP User
11 years ago
about meeting people based on the messaging that happens before hand. The online chat is what makes me decide whether I want to meet someone. Any red flags, differing ideas of what's appropriate or one too many WTF?s will make me cancel a meeting. I figure it saves both parties a disappointing and pointless date that will likely go nowhere anyway. There's nothing you should do differently, be yourself always, that way you will attract people who will actually like you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bar322man'I'm fairly new here has this happened to you, organize meet date over a week lots of dirty sexual chat an flirting back an forth and at the eleventh hour told the meet would be to sleazy, just a thanks good luck then blocked. I know everybody has a right to change their minds, but does this happen often. Im not sure about the communications beyond what you've stated, but... assuming the person was actually real .... I have highlighted what I expect is the reason. To much pressure on one element of your communication..... the hot n heavy. The often used excuse that its a sex site so it should make a difference.... has been proven wrong time and time again. Excessive horny talk without creating the underlying elements of trust... enough to make a decision to meet you inevitable conclusion.... will result in flaky behaviour. Im also suspect you didn't verify them via phone call...... and use that opportunity to build the interest via non sexual banter. Everything is a learning experience. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interested to hear probably won't be the last person this will concern. Obviously will think with big head an not the smaller one from now on
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RHP User
11 years ago
People that do the hot and heavy talk before meeting are amateurs. Or only in it for the dirty talk and have no intention of meeting. After you have been on here for a little while you realise that building up the expectations like that is not worth it prior to meeting the person. Also, after a while you get bored of the dirty chat and only really like it from people you know and have been intimate with already. Getting dirty talk from a stranger looses all its appeal after the first time really. Be classy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Life is a game, we play as we have no option to not play and the rules are not defined. We build expectations, they are yours alone. You create them based on what you are told and your hopes or fears, you are responsible for them. If they differ from reality it is easy to place the blame else where, but the blame is yours if you let it get you down. The date is an expectation. It is how you deal with the difference between expectation and reality that matters. Cut off and blocked, can hurt. Some more than others, no point fixating on it, no point in laying blame. Move on and try again. The worst thing you can do is try to find reason, that you can never know. If you think you know you are most likely wrong. Better to keep the spark that drove the expectation alive and leave the what could have been as just a future event that will not be, something that could happen in a dream, something if you let it easy to forget.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We've been messaging (Texting) one couple from RHP and had planned to meet up, then we had a death in the family the day prior but we kept the meeting as it was local and it took our mind off things plus it was only for a couple of drinks to meet. If we didn't have this death we would of stayed longer but unfortunately we couldn't and this couple understood, now we keep texting and will catch up soon when all our lives permit. We are the sort of people if we say we are going to meet up we will, move on and find someone else to message and get the vibe with. If someone really wanted to catch up they will make the effort, maybe they just chickened out and couldn't go ahead with it, don't take it personally.
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' After you have been on here for a little while you realise that building up the expectations like that is not worth it prior to meeting the person. Also, after a while you get bored of the dirty chat and only really like it from people you know and have been intimate with already. Getting dirty talk from a stranger looses all its appeal after the first time really. So true. I really have eye-roll moments from guys who i really havent connected or had a proper chat and they just launch into dirty talk. lol. Sigh.... I just lose interest after that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' People that do the hot and heavy talk before meeting are amateurs. Or only in it for the dirty talk and have no intention of meeting. After you have been on here for a little while you realise that building up the expectations like that is not worth it prior to meeting the person. Also, after a while you get bored of the dirty chat and only really like it from people you know and have been intimate with already. Getting dirty talk from a stranger looses all its appeal after the first time really. Be classy. i used to think that getting someone to talk about their fantasies might tell a bit about them as a lover...and if they are willing to put a little effort into interacting with me, before we play (talking about single guys)...maybe there's a better chance they will put some effort into pleasing me too...i admit it might be a slightly weird approach, and by all means it hasn't always worked out...lol but the way i saw it...if we get down to sexy talk...and their reply to my question of "what would you like to do to me" is " i imagine shoving my cock down your throat till u gag, before i stuff it in your tight little ass" versus " i would kiss your body all over, starting from your ankles all the way to your lips...working up your body until you shiver in ecstasy and beg me to stop the teasing and take you"...that might indicate what kind of lover they might be..a selfish prick who just wants to fuck and leave...or a man who truly takes pride in pleasing the woman he is playing with... i admit this approach has failed me once or twice, so it is certainly not bullet proof...lolbut as part of a couple, playing with a single guy is not something we do often...and although with the right person an MFM play can be absolutely magical...a selfish lover can truly make me question why am i doing this at the first place... i admit it is a learning curve for me, trying to read people and their intentions on here...trying to get a glimpse into another person's mind...but i believe the mind to be the biggest sex organ...and an erotic and imaginative interaction of what may be once we meet, can truly work me up or turn me off... but suppose at the end you don't really know until you try
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Ahh good point and good distinction between erotic talk vs dirty talk. yes. I prefer erotic talk if that is the case. but SOME men can't string 2 sentences together? what to do what to do? lol they awkward silences when they run out of something to say (3rd sentence or so, teehee) are always replaced by unsolicited cock pics... lol with follow up message like ' See what you do to me? u make me hard babe just talking to you.' or 'Do you like my cock? It's big huh?'.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My lady friend had to cancel Thursday's meeting and now I have to cancel Monday'sOh well we're both used to going without
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you want a one nighter, go to a club. You can get all worked up with one another (possibly aided by some liquid social lubrication) and just carnally enjoy till the early hours of the morning... and possibly before breakfast too :) But if you're looking for friends with benefits (or more), remember the friends comes first. Until you meet, a good gauge is to determine if you would say the same thing to your female friends. If not, maybe tone it back. Plus dirty talk is so much better when she's naked beneath you begging for it... otherwise she'll just find her fingers can easily replace the thought of going further with you. Always leave her wanting something... otherwise she quickly realises your dirty talk is for your own self gratification.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'VerticalDancer' If you want a one nighter, go to a club. You can get all worked up with one another (possibly aided by some liquid social lubrication) and just carnally enjoy till the early hours of the morning... and possibly before breakfast too :) But if you're looking for friends with benefits (or more), remember the friends comes first. Until you meet, a good gauge is to determine if you would say the same thing to your female friends. If not, maybe tone it back. Plus dirty talk is so much better when she's naked beneath you begging for it... otherwise she'll just find her fingers can easily replace the thought of going further with you. Always leave her wanting something... otherwise she quickly realises your dirty talk is for your own self gratification. Well said . I totally agree about asking yourself 'would you say that to your female friends' never thought of it that way. Leave the dirty talk until later.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' Ahh good point and good distinction between erotic talk vs dirty talk. yes. I prefer erotic talk if that is the case. but SOME men can't string 2 sentences together? what to do what to do? lol they awkward silences when they run out of something to say (3rd sentence or so, teehee) are always replaced by unsolicited cock pics... lol with follow up message like ' See what you do to me? u make me hard babe just talking to you.' or 'Do you like my cock? It's big huh?'. Yes. Very good point! But let me tell you, it's not just the men that struggle to put a couple of sentances together... ...errr ....ummm ...Oh, by the way, I think you're very pretty!
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MissBishere
11 years ago
have mentioned above.... Too much dirty talk and I start to feel like I am just a hole for his self gratification particularly if it's before we have even met. I don't mind a little as a build up but when it becomes what every message is about I just start to roll my eyes and not always reply or my replies become short one word answers. and yeah I have cancelled because of it or cut contact because of it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love dirty talk and pics from someone I know and have been (or want to be) intimate with. But I run a mile from strangers that just go straight in for "I wanna fuck your tight wet pussy". So perhaps your "lots of dirty sexual chat an flirting back an forth" might have freaked the other person out. At least you got a message to cancel. Hope you find what you're looking for ☺
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