Dirty Talk - power and control

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  No I wouldnt say dirty talk usually has anything to do with hating women. A lot of the time it is the girl who wants the dirty talk, so lets hear from some girls about why they want it. I think some girls like to play the slut in the bedroom, and guys enjoy that too. And often times the guy will do it on the assumption that that is what the girl will get off on. I enjoy a bit of dirty talk, but certainly have no hate towards women, and would only do it if thats what she wanted. In fact the part I particularly like is when the girl talks dirty to me, about how dirty she is, thats a real turn on.

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Wilds, I think it all depends on context. I see four scenarios, 1) As verbal abuse. Said to elicit a negative emotion. 2) As a joke or term of endearment (mmmm). Typical Aussie humour. 3) General swearing as a part of normal conversation. Some more than others. 4) As part of sexual play. As part of a consensual (hopefully consensual otherwise it would be abuse) sexual scene to heighten sexual pleasure. If some one is being abusive I generally ignore their language after all the power of words is in your head not in the other persons tongue. If you are secure in your own skin nothing that any body says matters. Those that are your friends will ignore the words and those that don't know you ..who cares. It's impossible to be universally loved and be a real person. For me some dirty talk is good during sex is long as long as it doesn’t dominate the experience. To be used like a spice, to improve the flavour. Too much and it will mask the taste underneath. General swearing I find a turn off. I think that swearing should be used sparingly so that when it is used it conveys the full emotion in what you a trying to say. Ed xx

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  I enjoy it most when i can feel and hear how much the guy is enjoying it. Im more for the "fuck babe thats awesome" or the sporatic grunt when you hit their magic spot wherever it may be. Ive never been called names and dont think its for me. I guess i would try it once as with most things, perhaps if the role play was pre-planned so you would know he is enjoying himself more than ever and its more about releasing the aggression,tension,experimentaion to say those words out loud without fear of a sore nut sac (or whatever the reason) rather than a degrading experience for the woman, To me being naked and intimate with someone is a nerve-racking experience for me, we all have our hang ups, mine is my body so I dont think being told "suck it you dirty slut" would encourage any sort of arousal from me.... But hey, some women love it, different strokes and all that but personally i couldnt sit there naked and vulnerable whilst being called nasty names, when i am already feeling insecure i dont need a man yelling or barking orders because if you werent insecure before hand you would be once the deed was done, he had it all his way and the only way to satisfy him is to follow a list.... What does that say about his need for your participation.... Only my opinion, ive never had it happen.

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  I'm usually the one with the power and control wild, haven't met a man who's been able to get me in a position where he would even have the balls to speak in that manner. would like to see one try too ;) take back the power woman, tie him up, make him get on his knees and lick your feet

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Some women love being called names and the nastier and dirtier the better.. it gets them really turned on. Others find it difficult to deal with. I'd test with something less harsh first or maybe ask if she likes that sort of thing.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I love being called a slut and a whore in the bedroom. It makes me so horny!!! As long as it stays there its great...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Are there men who like dirty talk? I know women like to be ear-banged as well as proper-banged, but thinking that a guy would enjoy the experience of trying to split his concentration is ludicrous. Women are the ones that need constant, multi-sense stimulation, guys know how to keep our eyes on the prize.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Ofcorse. Some women love it, others hate it. Are there men that like dirty talk from women? Yea, definately, I do. Though mostly as part of the prelude to foreplay / seduction routine. Though, I'm not into the abusing side of dirty talk. That is, I don't like to use it in an insulting way even if a girl asks me to.

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