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Discretion
July 06 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
Whenever I see the word discreet I instantly think the person isn't single, but that's me. For those confused why spell check didn't help them out: discrete is a proper word, it just means something totally different.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yesterday and today,I have been contacted by "single" men who offered me a "discrete" liaison....one showed me his pg face pic and then immediately closed it...single?....I doubt it xQ
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DynamicCouple36
12 years ago
We think that the intention, when it's used on here, is to do something in a sly and or secretive manner ie to play around behind ones partners back. Ie discretion is a must !! Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
That are ashamed or just don't want people knowing they are on a sex site perhaps. Like if you happened to bump into their mother they don't want you telling her that "your son is only my fuck buddy that I ordered from the internet." :P More likely they don't want their friends to know.
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RHP User
12 years ago
One man thought that I lived in a nursing home:-) ....he said that even at my age,I deserved some "discrete" pleasure xQ
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RHP User
12 years ago
2 words Attached and/or Embarrassed Well 4 if you count - and/or
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RHP User
12 years ago
Because I have small children and I don't want them telling stories about me for news at school... Xxviolet
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
Not wandering around telling other playmates or vanilla friends that you met this person who worked at x or is the cousin of y etc, in other words if someone gives you identifying information that you treat that as an act of trust and behave accordingly.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't need to be discreet, I am single and if I want to be on a sex site, I am more than entitled to be on one regardless of who knows. However, discretion is surely an unspoken rule just as if you met anyone in the real world, surely after a first date, you aren't shouting it from the rooftop until you feel this person may be worth telling everyone about.
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Seachange73
12 years ago
this topic has been raised in the forum many times. I have discreet in my profile for the same reason that Violetincredible has mentioned and for work purposes. I do not want to have my face recognized by clients and colleagues as they are very conservative and my Intergrity will come into question. I know it sounds ridiculous but that is how the corporate world is. That is the world I inhabit and I have to work with the system. What I do in my private life is separate from my work life. It is very annoying and disappointing to see some posters can't see pass that and to pass judgement that we are sleazy or married or some other ridiculous reason. No, I am not any of those. Just managing my risks when it comes to the safety and happiness of my kids and my job. Think what you will but please consider that your experience is not universal and keep an open mind. Thank you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Bully for you Ralf! You are lucky. :P Some people come from very religious backgrounds, or have very conservative families, or maybe they work somewhere where their career could be damaged if people new they were on a sex site. Could be lots of reasons. Although I admit I too will immediately assume they are cheating on a partner.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I can't remember who mentioned it recently, but someone from a small country town was saying that thy had been exchanging messages with this couple and after only a few emails they asked her if she new this other couple that also loved in this country town. They actually referred to them by their real names and said how they were swingers. Now she had not even met these people yet so they had no idea if she would keep this sort of information to herself. So some people don't actually understand that you are not supposed to reveal people's identities like that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's not always the doom and gloom of a disingenuous person. We saw a thread about 18 months ago regarding reputation. We've seen other threads that raise people's right to privacy to enjoy the lifestyle they wish whilst protecting their business, or whatever.... You can't do that if you've got people spreading the word or coming and going like an international airport. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
If i saw "discreet" on a profile i'd think possibly cheating single playing around & would check up on them a bit more.. Be detective.. But also some people have jobs where they don't want recognised too & need for privacy is necessary.. Go with your gut feeing i say - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not everyone is bound by the same etiquette. Still, I find it a little condescending. If you meet and discover he/she/they are publicly well known or the local Sunday school teacher Then it just goes without saying that you won't be posting pics with you and them or pinching their arse in the aisles at Woolworths. I would think on a site like this discretion is assumed. Yes, I know the old adage about assuming !!! Q good to hear men are prepared to visit you and pleasure you in the nursing home hahaha.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I no longer have any pics here...I work for a Church based organisation ....I don't trust anyone else to be discreet...just me xQ
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RHP User
12 years ago
I might be single and looking, and I don't mind who knows... But I don't advertise a face pic due to my work situation.It might just be me but, I have worked hard to get where I am, I don't want to take the chance and risk that.I am not a travelling salesman but I am a professional and could be anywhere between Darwin & Melbourne, And whilst not in the public eye as such, I am mixing it with managers and owners of high profile businesses. I value my clients and their work standards, Whilst what I do after work hours is my business, I would want to add any adverse comments from their clients..It may not happen it could just be me but......If your interested enough I have a face pic and more. Discrete to me is like not bragging and just keeping your trap shut.Am I wrong ?Jasson
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RHP User
12 years ago
i do assume that when single people say this it means they are actually attached...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Agreed
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'GooeyBliss' Not everyone is bound by the same etiquette. Still, I find it a little condescending. If you meet and discover he/she/they are publicly well known or the local Sunday school teacher Then it just goes without saying that you won't be posting pics with you and them or pinching their arse in the aisles at Woolworths. I would think on a site like this discretion is assumed. Yes, I know the old adage about assuming !!! Q good to hear men are prepared to visit you and pleasure you in the nursing home hahaha. I put forward this sentiment awhile back, particularly when it comes to people with kids and certain jobs. I'm sure most people are aware of the need for discretion when it comes to private sexual activities, and those that aren't or don't care won't be stopped by someone specifying it in their profile.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I actually couldn't give a sh*t I am not discreet at all, so if you are with me, and you ask me to be discreet Im outa there!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Melbourne_Babe' I actually couldn't give a sh*t I am not discreet at all, so if you are with me, and you ask me to be discreet Im outa there! As a lawyer you don't care? So I suppose you might not be interested in a political career some time in the future? You just never know what is in your future. :)
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Seachange73
12 years ago
Quoting 'Melbourne_Babe' I actually couldn't give a sh*t I am not discreet at all, so if you are with me, and you ask me to be discreet Im outa there! Interesting. so how come you don't show your face in any of your profiles at all? Hmmm. Are you just being shy or discreet?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lmfao.... Objection counsel ??? Overruled lol Yep....I've watched too much Perry Mason lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I show my face pic to those I meet up with, not sure what you mean? I am discreet to the thousands of random weirdo's out there, but that wasn't the theme of the post. Certainly not as I read it; and meeka, Im in 1st year corporate law, nill interest in politics, thanks again for your presumption though. Im pretty sure some people on these forums have Asperger's the way you take everything so laterally ;) So to clarify to the angry people, when I meet someone on here, I am not a quiet little pussy cat - I want to hold hands and do date like things. Is that better for those who needed a full explanation of my intent in my post to the thread starter? Are you satisfied now meeka or do you have further questions of me? And lilyorchard I am being sensible, not shy nor discreet.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Melbourne_Babe, I wasn't having a go. That was a legitimate observation. Sometimes you don't know where your career may take you, so although you may think it is being overly cautious, to me it might be the smarter thing to do. But if you are just talking about holding hands and going on dates with guys...... who are not your husband ....... and being on a swingers sex site and you know for a fact that it will never bite you on the bum later in life, well cudos to you sweetheart.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I didn't realise a political career was so offensive. LOL
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid'Think what you will but please consider that your experience is not universal and keep an open mind. I didn't mean to imply I'm right when I think "not single" when reading the word discreet. Reading some of the replies, I realised I don't have that thought when reading women's profiles, just men's. So I guess I'm both biased AND sexist.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'lilyorchid' Think what you will but please consider that your experience is not universal and keep an open mind. I didn't mean to imply I'm right when I think "not single" when reading the word discreet. Reading some of the replies, I realised I don't have that thought when reading women's profiles, just men's. So I guess I'm both biased AND sexist. I rarely read a woman's profile, but yes what Lilyorchid said did make me stop and think re: jobs and children. Being self employed and with no kids I must admit my thinking never entertained your (@Lilyorchid) situation, so thank you for pulling me up on it and please accept my apologies as I certainly did not mean to offend.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I just don't feel the need to write it in my profile. I wouldn't go out and name anyone in public about what we may or may not have got up to, what the hell for? I would love to see the reaction anyone would get from me if they brought up the fact that I indeed have a sex life. I don't care if it is someone at work, or school, in the street...it is nobodies fucking business what I get up to in my own private life if I am not affecting them or my family. If anyone dared tell me that my job may be in jeopardy or custody of my children because I had sex and it wasn't illegal then they would face my fury. NOBODY has the right to tell me that I cannot be on a site like this.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Did you know that some fields of psychology still work under the assumption that people who are into BDSM are mentally ill. Maybe, people are not so worried about being online as in not wanting to publicise their kinks, because a lot of people just don't understand it and make all the wrong assumptions. At the end of the day, there are legitimate reasons why someone wants to ensure secrecy or discretion. It's dirt that can be twisted and used against you. Whether you are trying to enter the political arena, or you have a public profile or maybe one day you are in a divorce and fighting for custody of your kids or having men in your everyday real life assuming that you are an easy lay. Could be loads of reasons
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RHP User
12 years ago
If they tell you and it's up front. Why care. If not for you that's cool too. I am discreet because of my job and just my privacy. I have been married a long time. My marriage is my business. Not all who are discreet are sneaky. Just private - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
12 years ago
And have no care about discretion why not give your husband the facts so he can make an informed decision about whether or not HE wants to remain with you? Just curious because either way I don't give a s%^t either. I just feel sorry for him.
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RHP User
12 years ago
to the people/person you're liasing with. That is, will not divulge the situation unnecessarily or show flippancy. Keeping things private. Respectful of anothre's wishes..Don't know what you are all on about? I can get with what's being said but it's too sworded in my experience. Interesting nevertheless.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lol.... Just....lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
12 years ago
Quoting 'Melbourne_Babe' I show my face pic to those I meet up with, not sure what you mean? I am discreet to the thousands of random weirdo's out there, but that wasn't the theme of the post. Certainly not as I read it; and meeka, Im in 1st year corporate law, nill interest in politics, thanks again for your presumption though. Im pretty sure some people on these forums have Asperger's the way you take everything so laterally ;) So to clarify to the angry people, when I meet someone on here, I am not a quiet little pussy cat - I want to hold hands and do date like things. Is that better for those who needed a full explanation of my intent in my post to the thread starter? Are you satisfied now meeka or do you have further questions of me? And lilyorchard I am being sensible, not shy nor discreet. It's Lilyorchid btw. But thanks for clarifying and yes you are being sensible. I get it now. Sorry if we take things laterally, as I am a lateral thinker.... My job training. . I don't imagine you a quiet little pussycat at all, on the contrary. Although I have seen FB memes posted of cute little cats touching paws. Good value for laughs. Ooops, Sorry for digressing. I think your diagnosis of Asperger's is incorrect as this disorder demonstrate difficulties in social interactions and non-verbal communication, both areas of which I excell in. Cheerio
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Seachange73
12 years ago
I believe that Melbourne Babe and her husband have an open relationship and he lets her take on lovers, as per her previous posts. We are all here for a reason and she has hers. In her defense (I cant believe I'm doing this), she does not have to justify anything to us on what is going on under their roof as it is none of our business what happens between her and her husband and where they are heading with their marriage. In fairness and respect to her husband, our opinions on the dynamics of their marriage or her husband should be kept to ourselves as he is not here to defend himself. But Melb Babe, sometimes you type the most stupid things that may not be a true reflection of you. I believe you are intelligent young woman who just has keyboard turrets. If I was your mentor in real life (I had fantastic ones as a young corporate graduate), they would teach and show you to think, pause, think again and then speak/type what you had in mind. This has come handy at work and real life in establishing integrity and goodwill among my peers and the community. Just a thought. . Go well in the future. Back to work for me....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry Lily, couldn't help myself. I totally agree with your last two posts.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I could use those mentors! ;-)
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Seachange73
12 years ago
Haha. Thanks for correcting me. I shall remember the spelling forever. I had a mental block on the spelling of Tourretts. I am not perfect afterall. Haha. ;) Gracias chica! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Think twice, speak once. Where's the fun in that? Most of the corporate bosses I have deal with quite like mu spontaneity. I often dob myself in for a mistake but then I talk my out of it. As far as discreet goes, isn't that what you use make sue deconcrete is level?
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Seachange73
12 years ago
Haha. Not all of us have your gift of the gab and your charming wit. Haha. Aren't you ob your bike yet ticking off the UN List you have mentioned earlier? On ya bike! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with everyone who 'touched on' being on the down low, I am a church girl and married so have more to loose than most! Thats why I ask for discretion is a must! Dont judge me! Its my choice, my life!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Apart form the married, some people in some professions who have needs and lusts the same as everyone else don't need to be recognised - if you were a teacher, man or woman, you wouldn't want it to become common knowledge amongst your colleagues in the staffroom or at school committe meetings that you were into bi, gangbangs, swinging, kink, etc etc etc Even though your private life has zero to do with your professional one and you are well able to cover your responsibilities, trying to explain all that away would be dreadful if you are in charge of children, or a responsible adult in some senior capacity. you might be able to brazen out the sniggers and knowing smirks, but the ramifications for your career could be terminal or at least serious, no matter how unjust or ridiculous.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with Harrison68, i too deal with the public daily and 95% of them women (guess what I do lol ) , i do not want my professional and public standing compromised by a handful of people not adult or discreet to keep the reasons why I am on a sex site and furthermore in my industry/community everyone knows everyone and i am not willing for all i have worked hard for to be jeopardised. I am a responsible totally single dad in the weekdays and discretion is paramount.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
And at the end of the day it is their business. I haven't been around much lately so am not aware of the "open nature" of the relationship and either way still don't care. But yes some posts do not paint a positive light: keyboard Tourette's indeed!! Lol
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' And at the end of the day it is their business. I haven't been around much lately so am not aware of the "open nature" of the relationship and either way still don't care. But yes some posts do not paint a positive light: keyboard Tourette's indeed!! Lol Yes. you have been MIA for a while. Hope all is well. Welcome back and missing your posts... Get back on the saddle and whip it. Lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
discrete... one on one. hide the cameras. trust the person you are with and yes i am married or in long term relationship or more important than your average guy. and a bit of a dick. where as i prefer more:)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I used the word discreet once as the lady lived in a small town & I valued her privacy. Did not worry me as I am a single guy but you have to be sensitive & have consideration for other peoples circumstances - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I loved Devo when that song came out. 😊
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RHP User
11 years ago
I went to their concert, it was great, long time ago - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' I loved Devo when that song came out. 😊 Now whip it Into shape Shape it up Get straight Go forward Move ahead Try to detect it It's not too late To whip it Whip it good Totally out of context of the subject but hey....once the tune was ingrained, just had to let loose LOL
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' I don't need to be discreet, I am single and if I want to be on a sex site, I am more than entitled to be on one regardless of who knows. However, discretion is surely an unspoken rule just as if you met anyone in the real world, surely after a first date, you aren't shouting it from the rooftop until you feel this person may be worth telling everyone about. Ditto here.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ive enjoyed reading this forum. For me I need discretion because of the small town mentality that is around me. I am a professional woman who is easily recognised by many in the community. I don't want people talking about my fetishes and desires in public.I am very careful about who I choose to meet up with and usually play away from the town for fear of being recognised and having my career ruined. As well as being a single mum and I want to protect my child. I am single and am open and honest when I meet face to face but I am also very cautious.
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me its about not compromising my private life and my work life. I think everyone is entitled to that, and it doesn't mean they are married. Even if they are, I think its important to respect the fact that they have asked for discretion.I guess their are a lot of married men and women on RHP, and I have no problem with that at all. This is an open site and everyone is entitled to join, regardless of their situation.I don't think anyone should be judge, jury and executioner.... if you have any doubts or its not for you when someone asks for discretion, then don't get involved, BUT don't judge people who do ask for it.Perhaps as some have said, they have jobs, grown children, live in small towns, have friends on here, have recently separated, aren't confident, are shy, are married, a multitude of reasons they may ask for it.The important thing is to be honest when someone asks
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you lilyorchid,single,attached or married everybody has their reasons for being on here,discreet or not.I agree with lilyorchid don't judge if you don't want to be judged and don't assume,you might assume wrong.I find,you get respect if you give respect.Cheers
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RHP User
11 years ago
Very good point! I guess a lot of people out there are a bit more open with social media like FB and Y Tube and don't mind posting their private pics everywhere or saying they enjoyed a threesome on the weekend in their status update on Monday, however like Violetincredible said, the last thing you want is your kids seeing something at school or your work getting emailed naked pics of you. We've heard the whole "Can't show you pics because of work" which is complete BS. Unless you're someone well known like George Clooney or Katy Perry I'm sorry but, you're just not that special. Be "discreet" with other people's information; as GooeyBliss said, Discretion is assumed along with a little common sense. We've met all walks of life on here from all facets of business, military, doctors, Lawyers, Police Officers, Marriage Counsellors, Kindergarten teachers and how many of them do you see on the cover of the news each day? None. We get the "discretion" but yeah, it can be over used.
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RHP User
11 years ago
..by others, I'm single and do not "need" to show discretion..but i do in life just as a matter of course. Using discretion is something that just something fits in with my personal moral and ethical code. I'm content with the public pics i put up as i feel they show the real me and are nothing to be ashamed of. This is another public forum, after all. I wont post any any comments or pics i won't stand by. When I'm not single again, i won't be on here.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'goodnevil' discrete... one on one. Definition of Discrete: Individually separate and distinct.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Room21' I don't think anyone should be judge, jury and executioner.... if you have any doubts or its not for you when someone asks for discretion, then don't get involved, BUT don't judge people who do ask for it. Is it a coincidence that a lot of men who mention the word Discreet in the profile are (in my experience) the ones who say they have no pics of themselves to email? Or even better: I've had quite a few say they don't know how to (either upload photos on the site or attach them to an email) and asked if they could they exchange nude pics via text instead! Sorry, not falling for it. Even if it were true, I would not be interested in meeting someone with the IQ of a bush turkey.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That I expect discretion of ANY description is when my kids call; or I call them; as I choose to not involve them with my life on here. Outside that I'm ok with people recognising me down the street etc. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Hahaha. Bush turkey!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If ya have to push it..... ya pushin it up hill.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting Jason_Leslie Discreet “We think that the intention, when it's used on here, is to do something in a sly and or secretive manner ie to play around behind ones partners back. Ie discretion is a must !! Lol “ Real funny….I see a component of your profile is seeking an attached woman 18-50 so I don't understand your forum posting. Unfortunately there are and always will be snake oil merchants in any walk of life but I am sick of the stereotypical forked tongued militia sticking the boot into the married and attached segment of this site.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just like your 98 years old Qefenta
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RHP User
11 years ago
Discrete for us to contemplate playing. We are a married couple and working in very professional roles in a small mining community. Hence, if you're not playing under the radar then your likely to lose your job and reputation to boot. It's just not "the done thing" in our circle or community. Don't really understand why "single" people must enforce discretion though? Your single!!! Live it up!!! Fuck everything that walks and let us married folk live vicariously though you lol. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I always ask discretion don't want the mother of my kids to know my secrets
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RHP User
11 years ago
I prefer discreet encounters for a number of reasons. My job..can not afford to lose my license to practice my profession. My job.. don't need my patients knowing im on here. My family .. don't need my children finding out or identifying me here My interests .. having been a candidate for local..state and federal elections or an interest in same..don't need to risk votes by people working word of mouth. My reputation.. I wish to preserve it.. Im single and do "live it up "---discreetly. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I work with 80+ consultants. I do have a face pic in my public gallery but I'm hoping that if any of them come across me on here they would be enough of a gentleman not to mention it ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
A common theme on here ,agree piccys can cause a dilemma in work place,that's why I don't have any! Married ,discreet different kettle of fish!Apparently current murder trolled these sites ,one cannot be too careful!Man and women doesn't live on bread alone lol
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