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Divorce Party - cool or not?
May 19 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
But I did go out to dinner with the girls to celebrate! Whatever you end up doing, Enjoy!!
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MissBishere
12 years ago
I celebrated it for sure with some friends. Had a three day hangover but was worth it. Just enjoy it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Divorce is different for everyone, I just felt a bit numb really. I didn't want it to be over but it was, I wasn't happy but I was also at a stage where I wasn't sad. My marriage was a big part of my life, gave me three great kids, some good times, he wasn't all bad and although I think my ex is a complete fuckwit now, I still don't really feel the need to celebrate that I am single and free. For some it is a celebration though and a form of closure so I certainly see the appeal and if you think your divorce is a good reason to kick up your heels, then go for it!
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
I had the biggest party of my life...I called it the next chapter party, with my closest friends, plenty of drink, yummy food and I never looked back.....💋
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RHP User
12 years ago
My divorce came through last Thursday....I had a cup of tea lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
If there are kids involved I wouldn't do it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
No disrespect intended to the OP, but I always find these should I/shouldn't I topics odd. If you want to eat a cheeseburger, you don't ask others if you should. OP, if you want to.... As Nike says.... just do it. And do it well :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
My first one was weird..... She was 82, was married at 19, caught her hubby doing it with a friend at the function, up and left. We were neighbours, she called us in and said her hubby had asked for a divorce, lol 63 years later................ Second, was a religious friend, where the rabbis have to decree thee divorce, the entire family (around 50 ppl) were there to celebrate her 'release', I know, interesting word..... The third was a friend in the US, she was from a royal background, where she had to get a dispensation from the pope, so as to legally marry another person (being of non royal background)........ For each of these, there was a large gathering of friends and family to celebrate a new beginning............. For the third one, the ex was even present as they were still good friends.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Consider it a phoenix rising from the ashes. The fact you and your ex are still amicable is wonderful, I'm sure she wouldn't begrudge you closing this chapter and starting anew. Maybe you could talk to her about it and she might decide it's a fantastic reason for a rebirthing party of her own? I hope you are both well and happy and continue to enjoy a peaceful parting of ways. 🎉 Here's to new beginnings!! Be happy Twisted 😃 ~ ya ole mate Indy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
A true friend will throw you a divorce party and party like it's 1999! Congratulations...and welcome to the singles club! All I know is....my divorce party will be much more fun than my wedding!! And a lot more alcohol. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
You're a bit spesh, aren't you? ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
12 years ago
I definitely had a series of celebrations when I received my divorce certificate! I celebrated because it was the day/time I came back from hell, reborn from the ashes and regained my new life! So it was worth celebrating in my book :-) However, I didn't do anything wild as a vanilla bird lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
What exactly is the celebration ? A piece of paper ? Call me cynical but did your life not get celebrated after your seperation, why do people have to wait for a legal requirement to rise again, me for one wont be having a party when mine comes through, my chapter with the x emotionally ended when the seperation started, but each to there own, and party hard if you feel the need. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
You can also have a annual devorce day in every year that follows infact you should really invite your exwife as it is her party aswell !!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I'd celebrate a silver service high tea divorce party with you. :) I'd even hire several naked men,to pour than tea................. from their spouts! LA LA LA When they get all steamed up, Hear them shout! Tip me over and pour me out! Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigocean72' You can also have a annual devorce day in every year that follows infact you should really invite your exwife as it is her party aswell !!!! - Posted from rhpmobile and invite the in-laws or the outlaws!! OH bugger it ....just invite the people who attended the wedding as well, and the priest who exchanged the vows!! Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
"Uncoupling" Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' I'd celebrate a silver service high tea divorce party with you. :) I'd even hire several naked men,to pour than tea................. from their spouts! LA LA LA When they get all steamed up, Hear them shout! Tip me over and pour me out! Foxy Next time I have a party, you can organise it!
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RHP User
12 years ago
why not party as much as possible from the separation date, i know of one naughty minx that has done so and has had a blast doesnt look like she is not going to slow down either. maybe after the 1 year comes up. FREEDOM!!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
To you then celebrate,but what are you celebrating?....Independence and freedom to do as you wish are certainly worth celebrating...the conscious uncoupling as Gwenyth put it.....but perhaps there is also a need for reflection on what is lost xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
And a Tim tam??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I attended my divorce hearing in Melbourne. Then afterwards I noticed my now car advertised.... Well....as it panned out, the cooling off period for the divorce occurred on the 21/12. I picked the SS up on the 24/12. ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been wondering the exact thing! I (miss) have finally reached the 12month + 1day mark on the weekend so papers are being lodged within the next few days. I'm a mixture of excited, relieved and a little numb... Weird combo!! But I also always imagined celebrating this new stage with a "yeah go me!!!" party! Like others have mentioned, it's technically a divorce party but it feels odd celebrating such a thing, so I'll be celebrating with a "thank f&@k that's finally finished" shindig!! P.s congrats on your divorce! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've never been married myself so clearly im no expert. My only experience was with a friends divorce party. She had been looking forward to it for months but on the actual day she had mixed emotions, felt down and the party was called off.As it's been stated, and from what I read above, it's different for everyone. Here's a thought, as it was a amicable divorce, could you have the party together?.........
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RHP User
12 years ago
I attended a RHP party to celebrate my divorce. An awesome night. Celebrate anyway you choose. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
any excuse will do
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RHP User
12 years ago
We had a street party in celebration of my divorce. I say we, because myself and my five children were finally free from a loud mouth abusive Guy. I say we because the neighbours in our lovely coldetsac street were finally free of having to listen to the loud mouth abusive Guy that was my exhusband. We were all so thankful and happy.. we celebrated with a street BBQ and drinks.. 1999 was a fabulous year for a celebration. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I am not divorce yet...after almost 8 1/2 yrs separated and have gone our separate ways, have own lives etc, baggage packed and put in a box, one would think I better do something about it..... To be honest I don't know how I would feel....a loss? joy? sadness? happiness?? acceptance?? I've heard when one signs divorce papers and receives them, it's like grief and loss in a way. Is this true? Foxt
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe I'm a bit of a sad sack and, I hate to be a downer but, not for me... I certainly did not get married intending to divorce and it remains one of the great sadnesses of my life that I was not able to make my marriage work. I would not like to still be with my ex and I'm relieved it's over but still feel like I wish that I'd been able to make it work- for the sake of my kids as much as anything. I'm looking forward to the future now and I'll be celebrating my successes as they arise but I won't be celebrating my (and his) big failure.
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precious142
12 years ago
here......but - I did spend nearly 4 pleasant hrs in an exclusive jewellery store.Came out with my "divorce ring" - 2.5 carats set in a nice chunk of gold.......... tell every one I picked it out and he paid for it!!!!! (bless him)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I didn't feel any grief.... I felt empowerment. Confident. As I knew that I was giving my ex wife a chance at a whole new chapter of happiness. What she does with this opportunity herein is all up to her :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
if everyone was truly that miserable in their relationship that it warrants such a celebration after getting rid of a person they shared everything with?? I was married to a drug fucked, alcoholic, pathological liar for a husband and I still didn't think him leaving was worth partying over. Maybe the difference being who initiated the leaving, it wasn't me in my case. It makes me wonder if it would be the same with a friend you fall out with, I don't imagine that would be cause for celebration? I am just thinking out aloud, no judgment, just my stupid head going around in wonder mode.
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RHP User
12 years ago
In my case, yes, it definitely was worth celebrating. The 8 years I was married weren't all that bad, but I realised early on that I should never have married him in the first place (I accept the blame for that one) and the last 2-3 years together were that miserable, that I had very dark thoughts about how I could get out of my situation. Luckily I got the courage to walk away. Best decision ever.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I walked out of the court room alongside of my ex and actually felt a mix of emotions. We both said is that it, just like that, Divorced, ok so we said catch you later and went our separate ways. I felt happy, sad, eager, drained, but most of all stunned that the divorce was much easier than getting married. I felt like celebrating but in the end I just had a nice dinner with friends. The actual divorce official day falls on ANZAC Day because of the one month and one day rule (got me stuffed on that one because it wasn't one month and one day for me to be legally married). I say that if you feel like celebrating then get out there and do it. OP do it in different ways, so you really need to do what you feel comfortable with in the end. My divorce involved children and I felt that having a big celebration would be wrong because I was seeing my children less and how can you celebrate not seeing them as much. They are my world at the moment and each day I have them is really all the celebration I need. Just my comments.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Like Stir, I did everything I could to make my ex happy but she just ran out of puff. She has another chance at happiness, has another bloke in tow now (who is actually a decent bloke) - my only hope is he sticks around when the hard times come, as I did. I did NOT want to stay in the marriage 'because of the child'. Neither of us would have been happy, and believe me when I say kids pick up on those tensions and become unhappy themselves. So, no winners. We have our son week on, week off, and he understands he's loved by both parties. We even both live in the same suburb so he can walk to school! Robustly single, I have a different attitude to relationships now, but no longer have to come home from work to sentences that start with 'You never' or 'You always'. So yeah, closure. A party sounds better the more I think about it! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't see a problem with a party but to label it as a divorce party seems a little tacky to me. But as I said, can't say I have ever even had a real break up (never had a serious girlfriend) so can't really offer a comment.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' I'd celebrate a silver service high tea divorce party with you. :) I'd even hire several naked men,to pour than tea................. from their spouts! LA LA LA When they get all steamed up, Hear them shout! Tip me over and pour me out! Foxy Next time I have a party, you can organise it! I love loud music and a JD n Coke or 3............or a white wine.........
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Take your ex wife out to dinner. It was fun while it lasted. That's something to celebrate about, together. HUgsGazpacho.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I attended a "ditched that bitch" party.....
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Well..............errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr you did ditch the mermaid for a wabbit! Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Did it myself and had a ball - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is a defining point in your life.... an 18th, a 21st, a marriage, a 50th...... It is a turning point in your life and the result of a decision. For you it should be marked in some way. If there are kids, then that needs to be considered, but as you said, it is not about bagging the ex, but it is about starting the next phase of your life. The issuing of that piece of paper is the official close of a state of being and the opening of the next. Perhaps celebrating is not the right work, but marking its significance is right an proper. I think!
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On_Safari
12 years ago
That's a beautiful suggestion. Then Twisted can have his "New Chapters" party. No one here has intimated that what has been shouldn't be reflected on and I'm sure Twisted and his ex have had these moments. My not yet ex hubby and I sometimes do. The thing here I find most uplifting is the "friendship" that remains between them. My ex has gone through moments of hate for me for leaving him not once but twice!! I think his next moment will be when I push to back date our seperation and commence divorce proceedings which I hope will be swift. I want nothing, will take nothing. I just hope he finds happiness again and will understand I've done the right thing for all of us. Staying together for the kids would only have affected them in a bad way.....our kids, like Twisted's, know they are loved by both and that their parent's do care for each other and have done what they needed to to be happy. My Ex knows my heart, he ultimately also knows I want us all to be happy and loved, it's just not with each other as a married couple. I know it's not normal in a divorce but I don't see why they have to be all rape, pillage and hate. Twisted, have supper with your ex if she's up for it then party hard with your mates mate if that's what you want to do. As you've said, you are coming back into your own in a good way and the people you love know that. ~ Kisses Indy, my shout when/if you ever come down our way x
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RHP User
12 years ago
.. and it was a great way to celebrate what was a long drawn out much anticipated divorce!! I even had a live band in my backyard.. :-D We didn't bag the ex at all.. But there was a lot of toasting to the fact I didn't have to deal with him any longer.. As long as you are having the "party" for your own reasons not because it's expected or someone else suggested it then I would highly recommend one.. I mean why not??.. We celebrate engagements, marriages and other milestones.. Why not one for a divorce.. Even funerals have a resemblance of a party... The best part of mine was.. The lead singer wishing me a "Happy Divorce" after everyone else had left ;-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had a divorce party, hired a spa for the weekend. First night had a toy boy come and do a strip for myself and a couple of friends, fucked him that night. Second night had a party with friends, the toy boy came again and so did I - a few times in the spa and a few more over the course of the night. I did it as a taking control of my life again thing. Wasn't so much celebrating the divorce but celebrating me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
While I write all this down.... Weekend, spa, replace toy boy with smoking hot stripper... Geez that sounds good! - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
12 years ago
How boring!! Lol but it's your party ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I will totally throw a party, and you're all invited!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Remember' there was a time when you adored her. No need to make a big statement. Let bygones be bygones and put your energy into something positive. To my way of thinking having a divorce party is belittling action to the both of you.. Remember the good things and don't dote on the bad.. You said it was amicable leave it that way....
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think it is the dumbest idea ever. Not sure about you guys tho I did love my husband and being divorced is not a celebration for me. Sure, I am happier and so is he though the splitting of the family unit is always a hard pill to swallow. I loved being married and all it encompassed and I do miss it. Throwing a divorce party shows bitterness to me. I just don't get it - maybe some one can shed some light on it for me. What's to celebrate - a failed marriage?? Hmmmmm. I do appreciate the fact you move on as I have tho in some circumstances have you really?
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
See, It's not that hard... Under the hard exterior is sweet softy.....
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perthangler
12 years ago
i agree just move celebrating a divorce is like celebrating when love dies.thats not a cause to celebrate
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perthangler
12 years ago
should read ' just move on'
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RHP User
12 years ago
In Japan it's becoming quite popular to have formal divorce ceremonies complete with a celebrant and family & friends attending. Kind of like a reverse wedding where they smash the rings with a hammer at the end then all go out to lunch.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree yes party on. your starting over so start with a party.. I would of if I wasn't busy with kids after my divorce 2 years ago ..but I cant talk as I havnt even been laid in 2 years lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
A late starter again - sorry... Twisted- I'm definitely with you mate!. Mine will be 14th Sept and I'll be throwing a big one.You're invited too buddy.. To the "no" votes - don't get me wrong - Ex and I are still good friends and great parents to our 2 teenagers, but our paths just drifted too far apart. For me, it's not so much a celebration of the death of our marriage, but of freedom and a new beginning for both of us.
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RHP User
12 years ago
yes definitely have a party and celebrate!
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