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Do template intro messages work for you?
June 06 2015
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
They dont even bother with templates for me unless "Hi. How you doin?" is a template? I think i would appreciate a template message if it could resemble a paragraph. Do any men know what paragraph is?
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RHP User
11 years ago
You can always tell if it's a template message. My observations of the characteristics of the template messages I get are: - it does not refer anything specific in my profile. Usually will just say: I read your profile and you are the type of person I'm looking for. - says how great he is in bed. How he can go for hours and he can breathe through his ears. - tells you that you won't be disappointed - gives you his number, Skype, email, kik, home address - invites you to check their profile out and open their private galleries. - sometimes, it will refer to how hung he is with his 11 inch cock. When I get one, sometimes I just delete or reply with my template reply. The best template messages are those that writes a whole novel (without proper punctuations so it's so hard to read) about their fantasy of being in a hotel (this varies, sometimes it's at their house, others, it's at mine). Me, already naked and they come in and depending on the fantasy, a massage, rope, blindfold, toys, etc are involved. And that it will last for hours and hours. And that he will quietly slip away These types of template messages just crack me up. I did ask one if it's ever worked for him, and apparently, it does!
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's really not that hard to write a good intro message....I do believe I wrote one for meander that I published on here so I'll just allow that to stand for my response 😊
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Copy paste. Try it for us........
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've been looking as I published in a thread a while ago.... But I can't remember the thread 😕 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Here's one: "im not that far from you and im free over the weeekend, if you woud like to hook up please contact me :) hope to hear from you gorgeous !" That was literally it. What made it worse was the fact this was his fifth message to me. I'm guessing it must work somehow. If out of every 200 women one says yes, that's a win, right? As for my response: I blocked him, but I do have a template response similar to yours.
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RHP User
11 years ago
"Hi"
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir'I actually don't think it's that hard....it can be as simple as this.... Subject: it would appear as though...... "Hi there meander, I was strolling down the street just 10 minutes ago, and to my most pleasurable surprise, your profile pic allures my attention. Unfortunately for a little long while reading about your insatiable appetite to discover your lovers bodies for hours I didn't see the bike rack....needless to say the nurses got quite a laugh at the local Emergency Department. I am though a little concerned about the monkey sex after seeing some of antics at the zoo lol 😊 So a little about me. I'm a local guy that enjoys conversing over the odd Shiraz, exploring some new quaint little bars that offer a cosy corner to settle in as I learn more about the person I'm meeting or just simply enjoying an intimate dinner for two with my existing lover. And I think I know just the spot that we could go to share such an awesome night..... I'll enjoy reading your ideas when you reply.... Chris." Not rocket science eh??
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' "Hi" At least that came from the heart. Considering it takes less time to type that than copy/paste it, I doubt it's a template message.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm all for Template Messages for Template Profiles. Seriously, take a look at some of the female profiles on here, there's as much thought that's gone into them as the messages that people complain about. I've not once used a template message, any of mine that are written and sent are of their own merit. Just a shame these threads are all too common, yet the naming and shaming of template profiles is not. Just my 2 cents worth.
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RHP User
11 years ago
because that is a far better response than I get to some of my witty, well crafted and spell checked personalized original messages.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with you there. If someone has nothing more than a template profile, I think sending them a template message is perfectly appropriate.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I usually block or immediately delete the templates without even reading a thing. When I receive messages that have obviously been crafted by an Author & even if they contain appalling grammar, I will always politely reply because at least a genuine effort has been made. That's certainly worthy of a polite response & thats what i stick to. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SaTala' You can always tell if it's a template message. My observations of the characteristics of the template messages I get are: - it does not refer anything specific in my profile. Usually will just say: I read your profile and you are the type of person I'm looking for. - says how great he is in bed. How he can go for hours and he can breathe through his ears. - tells you that you won't be disappointed - gives you his number, Skype, email, kik, home address - invites you to check their profile out and open their private galleries. - sometimes, it will refer to how hung he is with his 11 inch cock. When I get one, sometimes I just delete or reply with my template reply. The best template messages are those that writes a whole novel (without proper punctuations so it's so hard to read) about their fantasy of being in a hotel (this varies, sometimes it's at their house, others, it's at mine). Me, already naked and they come in and depending on the fantasy, a massage, rope, blindfold, toys, etc are involved. And that it will last for hours and hours. And that he will quietly slip away These types of template messages just crack me up. I did ask one if it's ever worked for him, and apparently, it does! Maybe your friend that writes a bad romance novel wins favour on sympathy grounds.Take a kick in the guts...cue moist puppy dog eyes...Cunning, very cunning...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have about 5 standard rejection templates. Work a treat. :p
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Seachange73
11 years ago
give us an example of your template reply. do you point out to them that you know their intro message is template?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I send the template out to everybody with only some rate exceptions.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Looking for a BF - u nsa Read my profile Not my type Rain check Not enough to intersest me Sorry too busy (I would have used this one 90% of the time)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi, your message is important to me. Please hold and I will get back to you when the first available opportunity arises"
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RHP User
11 years ago
From the heart - You do know a man's heart is the shape of a ....... oh never mind.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My templates: - Not who I'm looking for- Don't meet my requirements- Thank you very much for the compliment- Thanks for the compliment, but not who I'm looking for- Thanks for the compliment, but don't meet my requirements And a special one for couples who clearly ignored the fact I'm not looking for them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
... saying they get tired of sending messages with no reply, even if they refer to a woman's profile. As a thought - I kind of get why they would send templates messages at times. Especially if they think they may be batting above thier weight. It really seems men have a lot to compete with in here and I guess some times you don't really care what you send. Also as another thought most men are in here just looking for sex. I am not saying I agree or disagree - just a observation. Meeka - Thought you weren't looking on here. Just an observation form a previous post of course
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am looking for the one hence I get zero messages. Win win really. :) if I did start online dating again (which I never will cause I hate it. ) I would as some templates. As if! Dream on! Hideous cock Thank you I agree my arse is fuckable Yes I know I am a bitch. :p
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RHP User
11 years ago
Doesn't bother me if they use templates. In fact it's probably a smart thing to do, but the template has to be good and their profile needs to capture a woman's interest or they will never get anywhere. I don't like the ones that are describing themselves like an newspaper advertisement and hate the long ones that are dribbling on about all the stuff they would like to do to you. I can't even bring myself to read those.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' ... saying they get tired of sending messages with no reply, even if they refer to a woman's profile. As a thought - I kind of get why they would send templates messages at times. Especially if they think they may be batting above thier weight. It really seems men have a lot to compete with in here and I guess some times you don't really care what you send. Also as another thought most men are in here just looking for sex. I am not saying I agree or disagree - just a observation. Meeka - Thought you weren't looking on here. Just an observation form a previous post of course There is a fair bit of truth in that Inspirit. A lot of times you see a profile with one picture of SFA and an interesting profile. That's not so bad but it's hard to make compliments about their looks. I'm guilty of only having one public photo but at least it's my face. (I need to get some sexy tasteful photos up there). Some have plenty of pictures with SFA to even figure out where to start. I keep trying with original messages that reply to the profile but I find the hardest to work out is whether it was my picture, my profile description or my message that turns them off. Most of the time you get nothing. I've had a few responses lately so maybe my messages are getting better.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' ... saying they get tired of sending messages with no reply, even if they refer to a woman's profile. As a thought - I kind of get why they would send templates messages at times. Especially if they think they may be batting above thier weight. It really seems men have a lot to compete with in here and I guess some times you don't really care what you send. Also as another thought most men are in here just looking for sex. Many guys here have said similar things and I can definitely see why they'd think it doesn't matter how much effort they put in if they keep getting the same result anyway. I have no problem with anyone making a template for the "about me" bit in a message. However to me most templates read like the men who wrote them barely checked my name, let alone my written profile, which I personally find a complete turn-off.
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I am looking for the one hence I get zero messages. Win win really. :) if I did start online dating again (which I never will cause I hate it. ) I would as some templates. As if! Dream on! Hideous cock Thank you I agree my arse is fuckable Yes I know I am a bitch. :p Hahaha... PMSL.. fuck that is soooo funny.. would like to hack into your iPad/laptop and see the messages behind them... Devastating I am sure.. Lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I really am not impressed with template intros especially when the same person sends me the same template intro several times. Its just a fishing expedition to see who bites. I tend to ignore them. A message with a simple introduction will receive a reply of the same ilk. A meaningful and interesting intro will always receive the same kind of reply also. After all if someone has spent their time constructing something original then, to me, that warrants my time with a response. I don't use any templates either. LG
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RHP User
11 years ago
I once received one from a guy who was clearly used to contacting couples. It was peppered with "you guys." I responded that I'm a single woman and he had used the wrong template. His response "oh soz, so you interested?" Um, computer says No!
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tylannister
11 years ago
For devising the name 'Hideous Cock' as a template response!
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RHP User
11 years ago
that's the one thank you 😊😊👍👍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do generic copy paste messages in most cases sometimes slightly tailored if there seems like a good reason, Why! I glance over a profile for commonality and interest if there's something great, I wont study the details deeply on a profile as i find some people like to generate a pre conceived opinion of themselves, Id prefer to actually speak to a person to find out about them rather than study their profile. Then when you look at the hit miss ratio especially when looking for unicorns or nice couples i just dont have the spare time to waste studying profiles and creating tailored messages when 90% will be ignored.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My understanding is that it's a numbers game strategy (which must work or they wouldn’t keep doing it) used by those that are here for nothing other than sex, which is, well, clearly not about you (the royal you that is), in which case … too easy ... NEXT!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'delvin71' A lot of times you see a profile with one picture of SFA and an interesting profile. That's not so bad but it's hard to make compliments about their looks. Some have plenty of pictures with SFA to even figure out where to start. Wether it's one or the other, on the whole, it's very telling in terms of reasons for being here I think. A pic of SFA, from where I’m standing, ultimately helps to avoid generating what I’m not looking for. One of which, as an example, would be somebody being attracted physically first and foremost. That, to me, indicates that we’re not here for the same reasons & any further communication would be wasting both his time and mine.I wouldn’t say that it’s necessarily a case of batting above the weight, but it’s been my experience on the odd occasion that I’ve had a face pic on display, men don’t hesitate to contact me. Having said that, it’s fair to say that these same men would not approach me in real life (and there's nothing in that - it's just that men generally just don’t, it’s the other way round in that I generally approach them).
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had to google that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Hi, your message is important to me. Please hold and I will get back to you when the first available opportunity arises" You can set up auto-reply through your settings. How's this? Hello, This is an automated response to say thank you for your message. If it appeals to me, I will get back to you as soon as I'm able to. However, if for whatever reason you are not who I'm looking for, please take my silence as a "No thank you, but all the best in your search". x Meander *Do not reply. This is a system generated email.* (... and if someone does write back you won't have to feel bad for not reading their retort.)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Keepitsimple72' I once received one from a guy who was clearly used to contacting couples. It was peppered with "you guys." I get those from couples quite regularly, to a point where I'm wondering if some are just pretending to think I'm a couple.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seriously ? If you can't think of something nice about yourself, why would anybody else be bothered. ? Not even worth a mention in my book....
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RHP User
11 years ago
You write it yourself and save it as a template. It isn't a generic one written by RHP
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RHP User
11 years ago
FIGJAM You know you want it This bird is gagging for it I'm a sure thing
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RHP User
11 years ago
" I loved reading your profile; it sent a shiver down my spine...especially how you wrote "I'm not giving you my life story on here" which is really attractive to me as I'm sure we can write our life story together. I wanna get married; buy a house; look after you and all your kids....errr...btw how many do you have?? I even want to meet your parents; even if they're no longer here with us....my condolences if they have by the way.. So...apart from that...do you like stuff?? I have lots of stuff at the moment and am thinking about starting a school for drop kicks, losers and yobbos just like myself...btw does it matter I only have 3 teeth?? Oh and my ex wife is my second cousin which is a grey area...but I still think she's pretty hot... Cheers, Chris. PS. I would love to move in as soon as possible as I have no job and I smoke icecream. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Dear Chris, Your message is important to me. Please hold that thought as I will get back to you at the earliest opportunity." PS the wedding contract is in the mail. Please sign and return with verified copies of your bank statements.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Templates reflect lack of creativity but it depends how they are used. The simplest and the most common one I get is "hi" and if i do respond with a "hi" which is all the effort it deserves I often get "how are you" as the next message. Which of course has me hanging on the edge of my seat with my bra strung over my head in anticipation and excitement But a short polite template designed to get me to look at their profile (as most of us ignore flirts due to the number we get) may get my attention provided they have actually gone to the effort to write a decent profile description. But if you send a template and your profile also consists of templates and you don't have any pictures then you are pissing into the wind and I am not a fan of water sports.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wrote a message a while back & got a "Jeez, thanks for sending me a template message" reply. (Or words to that effect) What I didn't understand from that reply was that (a) I didn't use a template (and I wouldn't)... and (b) I'd written about things she had mentioned in her profile. Brings about an interesting topic. How do you initiate contact without sounding like a dick, or being too generic when not a lot of info is (often, not always) given? ...and....
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RHP User
11 years ago
received your correspondence re: marriage contracts... Wtf is mr happy the strappy?? Is that our son to be?? Chris. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
..... that the originator of an first contact usually talks about him/themselves as a means of intro (what else can they talk about ..... nice bum through the fishnets Meeks ?.... ).... and given that we/our attributes, our personality and experience don't change from one month to another (.... at the risk of being disingenuous) .... then I cannot see the problem with a well crafted template of the things that do not change/ then personalised ....... it would be impossible, if not tedious, to rewrite a new version of the same information each time ..... the reason for the first contact ... is to intro the sender (hopefully cleverly .... and please please please make it aproapriate) .... to prompt a conversation that might be taken further .... ....... what you guys are bitching about is that it did not specifically address the criteria of your profile, and therefore amounts to junk mail one finds annoyingly in ones letterbox ...... worse still sent twice ... which I have been guilty of, by not checking the history of sends ...... .... Using a template .... is not unlike .... ' do I know you from somewhere' or ' its busy in here tonight ' ? ...... just a device to start a conversation ..... easily shutdown if you didn't want to proceed ...... ( until you have had a few more drinks...?)
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RHP User
11 years ago
You play reversee.....no info or effort in their profile....no interest needed to be given in my book...unless you see them in the chat or posting in here...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Dear Nameless / Nom de plume / Name, address, kik, phone number, social media account, Consider this receipt of your lacklustre / tepid / intriguing [ circle one ] message. It has been redirected to the sorting house for consideration. It will then be removed for circular tin filing / briefly pondered / replied to with the attention and enthusiasm it instigated [ circle one ]. Wishing you the best of luck (needed) / a more suitable recipient of your next message / a lovely rainbow filled day [ circle one ]. Persona non grata / Me(h) / Me [circle one].
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RHP User
11 years ago
A template can work and it can be a good thing, the basic information about what you like, are into and seeking can all go nicely into a template but you still have to attend to the details like reading the recipients profile and tailoring your message to suit, it's not hard and done well the recipient is none the wiser.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's what I said. Quoting 'Ulysses42' ....... what you guys are bitching about is that it did not specifically address the criteria of your profile, and therefore amounts to junk mail one finds annoyingly in ones letterbox ...... Sorry, no. That's a whole different forum...
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MissBishere
11 years ago
based on more than just whether its a template message. So receiving a template is not a straight out no from me. how its written + their profile + their pics will determine if I continue chatting. and after a few messages if what if they are looking for doesn't meet with what I am looking for then its a no from me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for enlightening me... I thought it was a standard rhp template... Goes to show ' you can learn something every day..
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm going out on a limb here and say that the use of a template message is ok. A crap message is a crap message wether it's a template or not. It's about what it says. The same goes for generic profiles that say nothing about the person (ie, it's hard to craft a personal message when the profile is bland). Let's face it, girls get a lot of messages and guys get a lot of rejections (or nil response). So why not use a short snappy template message that saves everyone a lot of time and effort? For me I like to use a couple of different short templates for the initial hello with something added that shows I've read the profile. And if the profile is really interesting then I'll write something off the cuff. Is it any different than meeting in a bar and saying 'hello nice to meet you, I'm Jamie'. Template! It's about being genuine and the follow up (and lack of talk about your cock!). J - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Typo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would get RSI if I typed continuously to people and when posting responses in forums. however I found a way around this by pressing the microphone button and speaking with my voice the computer converts my voice to text. Now I can comfortably give unique messages to people and say what I want without the hard work of typing. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have come across incidences where the person just simply does not have adequate people or communication skills. And building a relationship with them seems impossible. they seem to be only interested in their cock and do not want to know who you are as a person. I find these kinds of people really disappointing. - Posted from rhpmobile
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