Do they know?

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  But do know we're swingers. Child 1 was 18 at the time and apparently heard me on the phone to a FB. He accused me of having affairs till hubby said that he knew. Our son struggled with that and questioned why any man would 'let' his wife do that. I think I went from mother to whore quickly in his eyes and he didn't speak to me for days till I forced a discussion with him. He had some tough questions but I'm always happy to have the tough conversations. He still wouldn't understand I think, however we have this silent truce that he won't ask too many questions. He did say recently 'it's great that my parents still love having sex with each other ... ' he stopped and looked at us and corrected himself saying 'my parents love sex...' Lol Our daughter found out at 14 years old because our iMessage accounts were linked. I did get a very saucy message from a friend that we had MFM/MMF with, describing in great detail what he wanted to happen on our next play. My daughter asked to talk to me privately, she told me she's been recieving my messages, I was mortified:( I asked if she had questions and she asked 'do you still love dad and does he love you?'. I said yes to both of those and she walked away happily! She's a cheeky thing and will often say, 'don't have too much fun will you?' If we're going out! Her openness has allowed us develop this amazing relationship and the idea of discussing sex and sexuality is never difficult with her. I know hubby laments the fact that he hasn't been able to achieve the same openness with our son. Mary xx

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  DynamicCouple36

  9 years ago

  We choose to keep RHP and this part of our life, private from our children

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Nobody in our family or close friends know about my lifestyle and huby letting me. Except for my best friend, who I met on here. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  At 9 and 3 I guess I'm lucky I'm a way. However because of medical issues I had, bed rest pregnancy and then a sick little one for the first two years of his life - I was pretty house bound. When I started going out to meets, swingers club and playing my daughter would ask me not to go out. I felt sad that she thought adults didn't have a life outside the home! She would say "Mum why do you go out all the time?" In reality it was usually only once a week. When they are older I have no issues being open and honest with them. I grew up having a very negative view of sex and my body - and I don't want that for them. Mary - that would have been horrible at the time! But it sounds like you handled it so well and that you have a beautiful relationship with them. When I went out with some RHP friends the first time, hubby picked up Willow and we went to Hellfire. He wanted to play taxi service which meant having the little ones in the car. Our toddler didn't bat an eyelid buy my daughter was fascinated with what I was wearing - fishnets, pvc top, mini skirt, knee high boots and a dog collar. I told her we were going to a costume party lol - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Yes my kids know I'm a naughty naughty girl, and the age of said company, all good, they don't want to know details but that's discretion anyway. But yes, they know I have no morals but they love me all the same 👌😉

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  MissBishere

  9 years ago

  They know I am on a "dating site" and I go to social functions (m&g) I think they probably know more then I think they do. I am considering going to Sydney to meet someone from another site and I let them know that and they are ok with that aspect of it. I guess we don't discuss if mum is having sex with these men. At 17 and 14 I think they would have worked that bit out by now. We have a very open relationship though and discuss pretty much anything. I hope that continues.

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  Cq_cplPlay

  9 years ago

  Having younger children i dont believe they need to know about the site nor the lifestyle of swinging, however they do know about the lifestyle of BDSM, fairly second nature to them in what we do let them see or hear.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Knows,she is thirty two and calls RHP "those sex people"..She does have a dry sense of humour 😂 Q

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Nice one some progress, small step for man, giant leap, well you know you go girl

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I was out to lunch with my parents and my daughter one day. We were talking about something, can't remember what, but I needed to use my phone, and as I flicked the screen on, a very hot vision came up which my daughter saw she just laughed and kind of rolled her eyes with a shocked 'Mum!' haha lucky my parents were sitting opposite, it was never explained to them

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I second that I_Touch My children just wouldn't understand,they both have lead a very shellted life . I have tired to talk about sex and relationships they say stop it I don't want to know .I really thought up until recently I thought my daughter was going to be a nun true .I call her Staffy from Ab Fav lol So no they just wouldn't understand which is sad .I would love to tell them how happy my life has become from living this lifestyle .

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Saffy not Staffy lol

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'Pink_Sprinckles' I second that I_Touch My children just wouldn't understand,they both have lead a very shellted life . I have tired to talk about sex and relationships they say stop it I don't want to know .I really thought up until recently I thought my daughter was going to be a nun true .I call her Staffy from Ab Fav lol So no they just wouldn't understand which is sad .I would love to tell them how happy my life has become from living this lifestyle . there's no formula or right time for everyone, my kids never wanted me to talk about it either, and why i still can't talk about it except for the odd reference to some guy I was talking to or a guy I saw, but nothing sexual, they just don't want to know, and fair enough. All they'd have to do is read the forum if they wanted to know For me, it happened kind of by accident, I caught my son at a time when he was wanting some extra freedom, so we did a deal haha I allowed him to live the way he wanted to, and in return, outed myself to him and said I'll give you your space, if you give me mine, at short notice, meaning if I called and asked he and his mates to clear out of the house, they had do it without question, because he always had mates staying with us. First time I rang, I was at the beach, had a quick hook up, knew my son had leftovers from the night before, the phone woke him, but they were all out within 20 minutes . I told him I hooked up for sex with young guys not much older than him, he was 17 at the time, he looked at a picture of a fb and said 'Cool' Kids can surprise you sometimes. Once they get to a certain age, they just want to live their life without us being involved, they want to bring in the friends and lose the parents all part of the natural evolution, so I just timed it right, and then let him leak it to my daughter, one will always tell the other, you only need to tell one

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I'm very open anyway about sex because it's everything to me, but not suggesting what I did would be right for everyone. There may not ever be a right time and you might not ever need or want to share that part of your life, and that's fine, whatever works for you

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  MsSuperFoxy

  9 years ago

  I am sure your son will grow up to be a very good man. I give you credit there on being a great role modeling. I think that's what it comes down too it, parenting is not easy. Our children are smart and can pick up on our behaviours (they know and are not silly). They learn from who we are as a person, than what we teach them. I am so glad, I have such an open and honest relationship with my child. Nothing is ever closed off topic. She says to me, "As long as you're happy, that's means more to me than anything." Weither she knows I am on here or not, doesn't matter. We do what whatever, makes us happy. Some of my choices, she may not like; goes vice versa. Thats ok too. And yes, she's met (some, not many) people from here. They have to be in my special inner circle for that to happen. Ms Foxy

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  MsSuperFoxy

  9 years ago

  I feel the same way. I grew up with Monogamy, being the only relationship out there (white picket fence and all that). One thing I vowed was to teach my daughter, there's many many types of relationships to choose from. I believe if I only said there is just monogamy for her, then I felt like I was denying her of relationships that could be for her and make her happy. I can't deny her if that. She needs to make her own choice, just like I do. Ms Foxy

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  madotara69

  9 years ago

  Try teach meaningful principals and advise, help with the choices they make, support them through the times, good and trouble, mistakes, choices. There is only one thing that forms that bond, honesty, it's not always the easiest decisions to give honesty, accepted same in return, eg; we don't want one of our kids lying in a gutter all fucked up and too scared to call for us. They can call us. So yes our kids know the truth to any question they ask, anything they are able to understand to reason. We have nothing to be ashamed of here or anything, and everything is of their concerns, we always know where each other are. Truth hurts, yeah sometimes. Mado Mado Tara xx - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  But yes my son (male half) is over the age of 20 and is well aware how we met (another site) and is aware we play with others. He finds it amusing and asks us if there are any girls around for him.

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  madotara69

  9 years ago

  for most of us, middle aged and reality is... RHP is a ~sex site~* and the app, for appropriately well behaved dirty fuckers that had to grow up with analogue sex, VHS, Beta, Ribald and if ya had sex, which we all did, pretty much everyone knew about it, (small world) but we have got the moves and when it didn't matter about all these new age, 'preferences' all needed was a smile and be nice, chances for.. what were they. Fingering, pashing, one night stands drunken sex with whatsie face, remember names it was 'going round with' (boyfriend girlfriend) but short lived and 'Dropped' and back to the networking with whoever you'd hang out with, 'the full circle', chicks never squirted, some 'gushed', there was about three positions, 'on yer back', up against the dunny door, or on the bonnet, (fuck in the backseat at the drive in movies), pretty clicky, (clique), had to have a car, be cool, loudest girl cumming and car rocking on it's suspension, about as good to anything the best in the whole wide world, Then there was 'night clubs' who didn't have sex then ? *~sex site~, remember filling out the entry pass and tits, arse, pussy, cocks, orgies, swinging pics chocka's up the missus's, standard to see DP, deep throat and a cock in each hand, ~grins~ from ears to ears, analogue to digital, either fuck yeah this joint RHP rocks (in our case) lets go honey, find some hot guy or couple, unicorns galore, trannies...like kids in a candy shop , we'll fuck them all, send a message out (first time mfm, dp, threesome) within a few days, then received hundreds of messages, flirts invitations to gang bangs and group sex parties, swinging couples and men, heaps of men, we had landed in heaven, then found the 'chat rooms' cammed up, especially a night it was Tara's birthday, 69 songs, four post bed with curtains, lights, fan, sexually explicit sexual aids, guys giving us shows for Tara stroking their cocks, even cum for her/us, her us did too (go fifo workers in isolated remote regional country) made their night, made ours a memorable occasion. Reckon the more the merrier women members here in RHP, have a dabble at going on cam and masturbate with those lonely fifo workers out there having a go with little to fuck all else to do, safe sex live streaming cyber masturbating is as erotic you make of it, with him/them/her (real people) real orgasms, all from the comforts in your home, click a button, find a friend, cum... with your favourite song playing in the moonlit candlelights with a romantic blend of oils burning setting the mood, fuck it, let go and blow yer tubes writhing with passion, sing to him to tighten the grip and go for glory, hypnotised by a wet pulsating pussy a beautiful woman lusting to blow as he shoots cum one load after another up into the air for her eyes only, or everyone else's voyeur'ing if it tickles the fancy. Yeah all the teenagers we know, know RHP, they don't pay for memberships and more so hit the dating sites looking for a bitch to smash (three minutes in missionary, move on, um see you round ) Totally different worlds apart, more chances of finding the teens around a bowl of Brussels sprouts than the oldies sex sites. They want the real thing like Facebook and friends friends for bitches to smash and girls call each other and guys bitches too, in a sea of selfies, old apart from the new, unless a cougar are you.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  The babysitters ask far more questions than the kids! 😬 My son is too young to care much about anything as long as he's accommodated. My daughter is a clever girl, I'm quite sure she knows a fair amount of our lives. She's made it very clear that she wouldn't want us to date other people, ever. That shuts down the conversation that I occasionally try to broach when I think I've tipped the velvet too far. C'est la vie. Perhaps we will get bored with shagging around before she changes her mind? I prefer a reasonable amount of honesty. I wish for my children to know me, perhaps not follow in my footsteps though. -longest xx - Posted from rhpmobile

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