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Do you suffer fom FOMO or FOGO?
September 27 2015
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aussian43
10 years ago
I am basically an introverted person, so it is no surprise I suffer from FOGO. Never been very good in groups, but have improved over the years. I used to go to meetings for work and be talking to a group of people with a bright red face. No client ever mentioned it, I always wondered what they thought. Not so bad at it these days. The more people in a group the quieter I will tend to be, don't have a problem one on one, but get a handful of people in the group and the extroverts will be dominating.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm totally FOGO, so much in fact that I wonder if I'll regret all my time at home when I'm old. (I'm totally guilty of FOMO when it comes to the fora though, and not afraid to admit it).
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RHP User
10 years ago
But its more of a desire to meet new people and catch up with friends rather than the fear Im missing out on something. I love dressing up, going out and socialising. I cant afford to go out a lot so when a M and G or one of the Socialites events comes up, I make the most of it. And we are going to get the next Ladies Day organised soon.......
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RHP User
10 years ago
From wikipedia: (various quotes) "Fear of missing out or FoMO is "a pervasive apprehension that others might be having rewarding experiences from which one is absent". ... FoMO perpetuates the fear that we have made the wrong decision on how to spend our time, as "you can imagine how things could be different"... From the perspective of psychological needs, FoMO results from low levels of psychological needs satisfaction.... A study by Andrew Przybylski found that the FoMO condition was most common in those who had unsatisfied psychological needs such as wanting to be loved and respected... Fear of missing out (FoMO) refers to the apprehension that one is not in-the-know or one is out of touch with some social events, experiences, and interactions."... Nearly four in ten young people reported that they experience FoMO sometimes or often. FoMO was found to be negatively correlated with age and men are more likely than women to report FoMO. This is hard for me to read/write/admit (and I'm doing so through tears) and possibly detrimental to further contact... but I'm going to write it anyway. I have felt this way and even recently come up with the "fear of missing out" term on my own, only now (thanks to Freya) realising it as a recognised label and a common issue. In particular, the idea that "FoMO results from low levels of psychological needs satisfaction" is particularly relevant. In my case, I only had my first girlfriend/relationship last year, before that I had only women as friends or very limited dates despite many different and varied attempts at meeting singles. So only recently has my need (among others) to 'touch and be touched' been at all satisfied. This issue only affects my thoughts and feelings in private. When I'm around others, I feel (and come across as) comfortable, confident and accepted/accepting, especially among those in this scene. So just as Freya put it, I have been attending anything I have been invited to, perhaps taking on a "don't say no" attitude. While this can be a good thing being proactive and all (and I have had some amazing experiences and fantasies realised over the last year), obviously there might be different underlying factors for some people. Reading through the different topics on here, especially topics like "avoiding the emotional", it is apparent that everyone is a product of all their life's experiences up until the present moment. Things from the past that affect the way they interact or think is normally described as "baggage". Everyone has some, it just depends on how much it weighs them down. Obviously many people that have been through bad relationships and/or messy breakups have this kind of baggage. Having not had these bad experiences (at least not until recently, but it remains that my relationship and breakup was very amicable), I guess one could come to the conclusion that FoMO (fear of missing out) is the baggage one may get from NOT having had relationships and related experiences over an extended period.
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RHP User
10 years ago
We go out when we want, stay home when we want. Not overly concerned with what others are doing with their lives or if we're missing out on anything. Oh and btw Koko...if you could refrain from having ladies day on the 5th December it'd be nice as Mrs3 is thinking of her having her 40 & under bi-ladies pool & spa soiree on that day.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I could be a bit of both or none at all depending on how my mind is at the time. Generally though I just have a need to get out at times and it has been nice to meet some lovely genuine people. Beautiful honesty by the way country and I guess I can relate as I had a very contradictive and kind of screwed up childhood that took me a long time to figure out how that affected my ability to have free happy sex and/or relationships. I guess sometimes we all have to bite that bullet and put ourselves out there if we can
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RHP User
10 years ago
That was a very moving post...When I was much younger in my late twenties I definitely think that I had a lot of FOMO now it's probably a bit FOGO. I am naturally more inclined to introversion anyway. .a balance in life is always a good thing and from reading your posts you seem to be embracing life .Hugs xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Roger that..... xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
my daughter noticed and was aware a close friend of herswhen winter approached he became depressed, withdrawn to the point he could not go out and socialise with any friends, would stay home sob and cryyet in summer months he was perfectly fine and okayanyway there is help out there ...she spoke with a specialist and arranged a meeting with the first 10 sessionscovered by medicare.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not so much of a fear but normally really introverted but I have to admit that RHP is bring me more into the FOMO.......slowly but the change is there.
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RHP User
10 years ago
But I do go through stages of being unmotivated and happier to sloth it at home.Will pass up invitations to go out.Generally the winter months. Then I get my groove back and go the total opposite and want to attend everything going on.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'The_3somes' We go out when we want, stay home when we want. Not overly concerned with what others are doing with their lives or if we're missing out on anything. Oh and btw Koko...if you could refrain from having ladies day on the 5th December it'd be nice as Mrs3 is thinking of her having her 40 & under bi-ladies pool & spa soiree on that day. "Claiming the date" are we? I thought that was just a bush community thing so no one stepped on anyone else's toes re functions and availability .Nice to see everyone being amicable!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just a nice balance, though working long hours I tend to be more ICBF.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm more a FOGO but it' because I'm happy in my own little environment, not a fear. I'm surrounded by stuff I'm familiar with and have my little routines. It would be nice to have company sometimes
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RHP User
10 years ago
Funny you mentioned that. I have just started the series. Will see what all the fuss is about.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Im bit of both but spring and summer just brings out the best in everyone I think. That has something to do with vitamin D doesnt it? I think I watched a documentary once on how people suffer depression more so through winter. But I do relate to the ICBF.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I do way tooooooooooooooooo much thinking lol Problems of a empty nester.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not interested in competing or being observed. at all. Never have been never will. Depth and intimacy is always what I desire... It seems that all men fear this so I'm committed to going it alone. - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
10 years ago
I don't feel sorry for missing out on anything in general. For example, we have a huge celebration happening in the shopping plaza today to celebrate the Chinese Moon Festival. There are stalls selling goodies and food, entertainments and many other activities, plus one of my friends is running a food stall at the festival, but I rather stay away from the crowd and went shopping, as well as seeing a movie instead 😛😛 I do not fear of going out either 😊 in fact, I love getting out and about whenever time permits, especially travel. I will travel at any opportunity. I also like making a trip down to one of my favourite fashion shops just to chat to the staff as I have been their loyal customer and we get along well 😊 Although I don't like going out to over crowded places much, I certainly do not like staying at home either. Hence, I say I don't suffer from either FOMO or FOGO 😊😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Lol inspirit, I resemble that remark!
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RHP User
10 years ago
is being set upon by the masses of horny women all wanting a piece of the stir!!!! Not that I can blame them really; it's just that I can't seem to afford the hire of the ropes etc to control the line :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Nice open genuine post back yonder. And i can say you are a nice genuine person and great to chat to in person. None of your fears are evident each time i met you. Thanks for being the real you when you are out . We enjoyed your company. Annie
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RHP User
10 years ago
... a couple of months ago linking both as being adverse affects of social media.
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madotara69
10 years ago
Kind of goes like this FOMO, FWB calls, FUBAR, FOGO until FOMO Mado Mado Tara xx
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