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Does sex and alcohol mix ?
May 13 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
Personally sex when sober is much better. More aware of whats going on and more connected with your body. Though we are not big drinkers to begin with. Tim
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RHP User
14 years ago
Has always been a terrible disappointment. They usually go soft repeatedly, fumble around, or leave me feeling like I've been chewed up and spat out. On the other hand, the warm fuzzies that can come from 1-2 drinks can add a little sumthin sumthin to the experience :) On a recent post a woman (I think) said a drink or two can loosen a woman's inhibitions and make it easier to orgasm, if she usually finds that tricky. I'll let you know next time I get a chance to try it out ;) There are exceptions of course, and drunk fumbly or maybe aggressive sex possibly rocks sometimes. Rare though, I would think x
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RHP User
14 years ago
Not the best course of action...no! Having said that.....in my younger days, I had some awesome drunk sex.
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RHP User
14 years ago
In my opinion, people are simply ugly after one too many drinks. One or two to unwind and have a laugh, but I draw the line at that - sobriety doesn't impair your judgment or the sensations going on around you...and if it turns out to be an amazing time, you will remember all the details the day after ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
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RHP User
14 years ago
Alcohol makes you more likely to have sex, because it decreases inhibitions, but it also decreases the sensitivity and the bloodflow to men's and women's bits. Leading to the problem men can have with staying hard or getting hard in the first place. Women are also more likely to experience dryness, pain, an inability to orgasm and other sexual problems after having a lot of booze. And of course there's the problem of people doing things under the influence they later regret. If they haven't been drinking it removes that possibility. If you're looking for something that can make the experience, the excitement, the bloodflow and the erection more powerful, I'd advise trying the opposite class of drugs to alcohol. Yes, alcohol is a drug, and it is a depressant, which means it depresses or slows down the central nervous system. Try the opposite, try stimulants. I'm talking legal and safe here of course. There's caffeine, herbal supplements like ginko biloba and ginseng, yohimbe. Happy Herbs and similar stores have various herbal preparations intended to increase everything and even Adult Stores stock "virility coffee". Damiana, while not a stimulant, can induce some of the warmth and arousal that people use alcohol to achieve. And now the common sense disclaimer: I'm just a guy on a kinky forum, not a medical professional. Consult your doctor/pharmacist and follow directions on packaging of any herbal supplements before use. Do not use if you have a heart condition, are pregnant or breastfeeding, or have severe anxiety. But then alcohol is worse for all of those things anyway.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I definitely agree with all your comments and definitely works as an icebreaker for close/one off encounters or a romantic gesture for couples..I've definitely felt less awkward and more confident.."lil_bit_angelic " Looking forward your feedback
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sometimes, a glass or two of something yummy can enhance the experience....but drunken sex is ugly...or so I have heard.
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RHP User
14 years ago
A lot of the answer comes down to the calibre of both the sex and the alcohol, as well as the people involved.
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RHP User
14 years ago
so it's not just me that can't keep it up if he's sozzled?why does that not make me feel any better :-Pthough it does give me the chance to show off my "watch me put a condom off a soft willy trick"~golf clap~
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RHP User
14 years ago
....its how ugly people get sex...
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RHP User
14 years ago
I've had some wild times whilst off my trolley. Generally with people off their trolley too. As long as there's plenty of water available to keep re-hydrated during the exercise, I'm an fan.OK, so "off my trolley" may be an exagerration as it's rare I get that tanked I'm close to passing out or throwing up, but enough lubrication to drop those inhibitions, for both parties.Of course, you need to be able to handle the consequences of your actions - my inhibitions are always close to being dropped with the right encouragement anyway so it's very unusual for me to regret anything done whilst sloshed.
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QLDtwo4fun
14 years ago
Consider how you react to alcohol. If your a two pot screamer, give it a miss before sex. If your a regular drinker, one or two probably won't hurt. Sex is about sensory perception, anything that inhibits your senses will inhibit your ability to respond to your partners, or for you to maximize your enjoyment.
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RHP User
14 years ago
is never to be spoken about Hugs
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RHP User
14 years ago
your not bouncing of walls (mmm think u know what I mean here) or slurred speech, so talk as you normally talk and walk as you normally walk when sober its fine with me not saying it is needed or not just saying the limits Before the internet and sites like this people went to pubs and clubs to find a partner more often than not...so in a lot of cases more than less would probably prefer a drink before hand...saying that I am seriously considering to try out the shopping centres and cafe bars just for an inner different approach and to try some thing new, new turf will bring new lines and direction
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RHP User
14 years ago
Heedless,you just made me laugh so hard, I choked on my coffee.I have visions of you as the Mall Stalker,or the Coffee Club Cassanova.I shall follow this new career path of yours with interest. I do hope you wont need a 'Get Out of Jail Card' to go with the Frequent Sipper card!!x Hugs H or judy-ruby
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RHP User
14 years ago
The sexy cocKtail drinks mix The droopy cock : All that is required is a carton beer and a bright idea. This cocktail does not need to be mixed as the swivel stick never gets hard enough; The limp noodle: Only affects male drinkers , its a energy drink cause it makes them try to reach top performance with equipment that is just not working. Folding it in half and trying to push it in, can be a side affect for both men and women. The droopy cock and the limp noodle combined can cause premature speculation. The browsheet. This is when you think your at home and fart with a follow through, the Yellow sheet is another version of the same cocktail The charmingchuckler: Mix booze of any kind or alcohol with carrots. Dance around the nightclub to mix and wait till you get back to the woman’s bedroom to partake of this delightful mix, best when hurled into white carpet. The optical illusion: most common cocktail enjoyed by both men and women. Make sure you leave the hotel or nightclub before the fluoro lights go on or it will loose its affect The slippery dick. If a man has to many of these his cock will keep slipping out The fuck frenzy: this is what attracts bees to the honey, a woman has one sip and her mouth and pussy open to all and sundry. Most bars have stopped serving this as blow jobs in public were of concern to other patrons.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sometimes it is great ...lets ppl that dont normally be adventures ...go crazy
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RHP User
14 years ago
For us, we find it quite alarming if our playmates get drunk and in an ideal world we'd like to put a limit on how much alcohol gets consumed...clearly that's not possible as we are all adults and we understand also that it is not our place to do so! We find that intoxicated people are unpredictable and become increasingly less sexy the more they drink. We like to play with people completely connected to themselves and alcohol limits your ability to do that. After all, we become attracted to the person during sobriety and it is that person that we want to play with, not their intoxicated alter ego. But, having said that, I enjoy a glass of wine or two (but no more) but I'd never allow myself to get drunk. And assuming we really like the person sober, it wouldn't be enough to prevent us seeing them again (unless it was every time).
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'InAdditionTo' For us, we find it quite alarming if our playmates get drunk and in an ideal world we'd like to put a limit on how much alcohol gets consumed...clearly that's not possible as we are all adults and we understand also that it is not our place to do so! We find that intoxicated people are unpredictable and become increasingly less sexy the more they drink. We like to play with people completely connected to themselves and alcohol limits your ability to do that. After all, we become attracted to the person during sobriety and it is that person that we want to play with, not their intoxicated alter ego. But, having said that, I enjoy a glass of wine or two (but no more) but I'd never allow myself to get drunk. And assuming we really like the person sober, it wouldn't be enough to prevent us seeing them again (unless it was every time). well said..... we see the same.....that alcohol makes people and situations unpredictable. people do things they dont usually, and behave in ways that arent who they usually are. we meet people when they are sober, as thats when they are at their best.........in our books.......and we try very hard to not have alcohol around when we play...at least not in any quantity.......
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Hesione' Heedless,you just made me laugh so hard, I choked on my coffee.I have visions of you as the Mall Stalker,or the Coffee Club Cassanova.I shall follow this new career path of yours with interest. I do hope you wont need a 'Get Out of Jail Card' to go with the Frequent Sipper card!!x Hugs H or judy-ruby I am 100% honest here, I really am think of it if I manage without being thrown to the wolves to chat up a nice willing lady at either place, and leads onto something other than a slap in my face, yiiipppppeeee (don’t mind a slap any way, thick skinned) I'd probably get on far better than saying a few lines about my self on a site, that’s for sure at least you have the chance for counter attack, here you read and move on, ha I don’t even know what mood your in when you look at my profile so how can I even start to write some thing to catch your eye, nor do I now your personality...when you see some one you can tell if they are closed or open to conversation, if they would take it as jest and light fun (giving me an in) or if they would call security It’s the element of surprise dear Watson element of surprise!!! No that’s it will start a new thread on this and see!!! (got me all in a fluster now)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Half the sex I have EVER had, I ONLY got because the girl was drunk... cavey (moonshine)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Oh the memories of drunken sex in my youth- all nighters, amazing! Now that i am in my late forties a few drinks is fine to relax but thats it... With my ex I had a 6 pack rule -any more than that and she was on her own :) Age sucks!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' Half the sex I have EVER had, I ONLY got because the girl was drunk... cavey (moonshine) You are one sexy critter, moonshine Joe, Women would have to go there wide eyed with anticipation. And get up out of the sheets intoxicated and breathless and a little unsteady on their feet.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Moonshine,a small fib perhaps caveman? I justchecked my Shorter Oxford. I suspect TR may be correct,unless you are a figment of our collective imaginations.X Hugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
No alcohol is NOT good when mixed with swinging or sex! Many ladies are very unhappy about lack of performance after a guy has a few drinks in the club scene..lolLeesa
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RHP User
14 years ago
is ok in my books. Though I have been guilty of having too many and then having the dreaded brewers droopordeciding I would rather just prefer to party on, and fuck the sex!Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
I love a few drinks like most ppl.. but Im also one of them ppl who roots and roots and roots and roots and still dont cum if I have alcohol and I hate it...usually the lady Im with thinks it her and then I find myself trying to explain its not.. Not that I drink alot or heavy, but it only takes a few drinks and something goes haywire.. Good for the fems who love a long hard session, but not for those who expect the hot white stuff after 10 minutes.. Awww well ?
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Hanna_ybbn
14 years ago
I personally think it depends on the individual and how they hold their liquor - For me it's usually by the ears....just sayin'Hanna xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
My opinion and from experience, when I have had a few drinks pre sex it gives me a sense of being invincable and anything goes. The sex is awesome and unbridles, but in moderation as if you over indulge sometimes the bed can spin and might get a bit messy...............
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hehehehe....nothing like a woman with a sense of humour Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
Alcohol is a depressant so can dull the senses somewhat and that includes orgasms. The best way to experience every little sensation during sex is to be alcohol and drug free. Keep in mind that some painkillers can also dull the experience.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'MistressT' Alcohol is a depressant so can dull the senses somewhat and that includes orgasms. The best way to experience every little sensation during sex is to be alcohol and drug free. Keep in mind that some painkillers can also dull the experience. nor in our bedroom....we agree with what you say.........
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RHP User
14 years ago
In our case she likes to have a wine before hand (usually just one) and another afterward with the other lady, he does not drink at all before or during play, but may have one afterward. We would walk away if either of the other couple were alcohol affected. We feel the same way about any form of drugs also. Just not our thing at all really but each to their own. We are there to have great sex and fun, in our opinion there is no point if you can't remember it afterwards!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well not druck and falling over in a mess thats unattractive full stop even if you are a super model ........but I read in a earlier post that a six pack is a perfect amout .............Ps....i never ever have problem getting hard and staying hard for a good long romp......but again have nver really tried ..when drunk and dribberling mess ..as i said it unattractive ..full stop!!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
But if I do and I have a but too much by accident, I'd rather it is with someone I have known for a long time..mind you, some of my friends call me Lady Chatterly when I am in that state... As I get horny as, that and chocolate have that effect.... So I don't have alcohol or much alcohol when I first meet anyone just in case.
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RHP User
14 years ago
We r all adults n i think as long as all in context all cool
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RHP User
14 years ago
I wouldn't recommend drinking more than a glass or two as an ice breaker. Drunken dick heads really are the biggest turn off. And ladies please don't drink to the point that you can't talk, have loo paper on your shoes and then vomit on your man.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'City_Kitty' In my opinion, people are simply ugly after one too many drinks. One or two to unwind and have a laugh, but I draw the line at that - sobriety doesn't impair your judgment or the sensations going on around you...and if it turns out to be an amazing time, you will remember all the details the day after ;) As odd as this might seem coming from an Irishman i would have to concur there.
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RHP User
14 years ago
It was a battle but I beat it. Now sex is better then ever.
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RHP User
14 years ago
having a few drinks before a night of fun sex is fine in our books helps you to relax a little especially when you are meeting new ppl you just need to know when enough is enough i pesonaly have no problems with the droopy in fact my wife wont let me drink to much port before a night out as it has the opposite affect on me and the old fella just wont go down and before you think it it is not me just tooting my own horn the wife is right here next to me and i have just been told drambiu has the same affect and is a lot cheaper than viagra a/a
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RHP User
14 years ago
I would say no because it does not usually feel good the next morning and there isn't usually any recollection of events. Sometimes it feels embarrassing.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I've had a couple of drunken sex experiences with people I trust - we didn't set out to get drunk but one drink led to another... From the bits I remembered I know we had an amazing time but the sad thing is I couldn't remember it all. A wonderful session of great sex is something I think about happily for days afterwards so I feel deprived when I can't look back over all the enjoyable details and smile about how good it was. I've vowed to limit myself to just a couple of drinks beforehand in future.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Why is everyone here equating "drinking & sex" as being "drunk sex" - a small but very important distinction! Would we want to have a threesome with a girl that's stumbling and about to barf? No. One that's had a few glasses of of wine and is happy and giggly and having fun? Yes.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sometimes a drink or two can relax the two parties. When I was younger nothing like having a few drinks and having an afternoon session of games, but as I have gotten older my body has put a stop to that. For now, a couple at the end of the day just to relax then a satisfying multi orgasamic session just to top the day off is for sure the way to go now.
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RHP User
14 years ago
ment that much to so many maybe your just squares
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RHP User
14 years ago
Firstly. Thanks mikeandshel "...it's how ugly people get sex..." I don't do txt speek but,,,,FFS that had me ROTFL, PMS That goes up there with "fuck puppets" As for alcohol and sex, a little bit goes a long way. More than a little bit, nah.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Personally for me, My performance is not great when i am drunk. I am sloppy and uncorodinated, worst of all fall asleep quite easily.Saying that however sometimes drunk sex in the alley way can be a lot of fun, its good for those naughty times. I dont mind a glass of wine or two..But my best sex has been when i was sober, and the partners have had a lot better sex when i was sober too
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am not a big drinker so usual 3 or 4 drinks see's me stumbling about but yes 1 or 2 drinks seems to take away my edge, and have experienced some of the most mind and body blowing experiences after having just a couple of drinks.I find that although i enjoy sex heaps when i haven't been drinking i find myself being conscious of my body and what it is doing, i have recently discovered the ability to squirt and as this is a random thing i often find myself concentrating on trying to make it happen, which then of course doesn't happen.So having had just a drink or two i have found that i can reach this peak quite easily and gives an amazing feeling for both myself and partner. So for me its a yes but in moderation :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree. Having sex after drinking too much is not good. I go limp repeatedly and do not get much enjoyment out of it. I prefer to remember the experience and be able to please my partner.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Love drunk sex, M stays hard for ages, remember everything ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I don't mind a couple of drinks to loosen everyone up, get the inhibitions down, one or two glasses of wine. A little light-headedness can be fun :D. But don't come to my house with a bottle of rum, drink half the contents and then expect us to find you attractive!
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RHP User
14 years ago
sober or a couple of drinks eg tipsy is fine, but to much is not good. I've never yet had the problem of my penis going flat because i'm overly intoxicated, but prefer to be sober or tipsy.
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RHP User
14 years ago
A few drinks ( 2 ) just to get everyone relaxed is OK.. But drinking to excess gets things pretty ugly.. We both like a relaxing wine or 2 and leave it at that.. Who wants to waste a good time just because you indulged a lil too much ? Talking from experience here, had one too many one time and kept going and going for what seems like hours. The girl thought it was great ' loved a good session ' but when I finally reached orgasm' I was stuffed.. never ever did it again, these days I savour every minute...Mr JJ
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RHP User
14 years ago
Drunken Neanderthal sex has its place, but I prefer sober sex. Although I have had some wild all nighters after having one to many drinks...😉
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RHP User
14 years ago
:D
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RHP User
14 years ago
As The dead Kennedy's song goes - too drunk too fuck lol I never bother mixing the two - id rather give my number and suss the person out when I'm straight as well - nothing worse than beer goggles!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
couple of drinks dosnt hurt anyone , in some cases ive nown to be harder for longer , some accashions dont even cum after 3 or 4 hours of love making , you tend to explore with your partener or woman than you would if you was not drinking , depends on the person , persons ,so sometimes it dosnt hurt every now and then ,
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RHP User
14 years ago
It doesn't happen very often, but by the gods there's something electric about wanton dionysian abandon! Boozed up and boisterous. Disgraceful, messy, unco-ordinated, flailing, droopy, giggly sex, where you roll around and one of you kicks over the half-glass of red from the bedside table, and you howl in laughter through black-stained teeth (and later, at black-stained carpet)!"Uhrmmm... what are you doing?""Ungh... I'm riding you like the wildcat you are, baby.""You realise it's not actually in? That's my thigh.""...!"Sure, not usually the bedside manner I'd bring along to a playdate, but occasionally it's fun to unchain the inner hedonist and get destructive! Waking up to that god-awful stench with a pounding headache, unidentified bruises, missing shoe, and the hazy yet smugly-satisfied knowledge that last night was fucked up, you know that you're alive*!If you can't enjoy the odd hilarious booze-addled romp then you're doing it wrong.*Admittedly you then stand up too fast, wince, and wish you weren't.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am not much of a drinker and have had plenty of "experiences" whilst completely sober. I know that I dont need to drink to feel sexy and aroused but that first couple to give you a flush is a nice warm feeling most people enjoy. I remember a time we played as a couple a while ago- went out for dinner and a couple of vinos before hand, everyone in good spirits, including myself. When we got back to hotel, someone had brought along a bottle of burbourn and poured a couple of mixers while we were all getting cosy in the spa. Shortly after I was offered another one by our host (who i'm sure was probably pouring doubles or triples!) to which I replied "sure, why not" I was feeling comfortable at this stage if not a bit thirsty due to all that heat going on in the spa- what I really needed was a glass of water ! Half an hour later I had my head in the toilet, puking my guts up (like I havent done since I was in my teens!), felt disgusting and made a real ass of myself in general saying and doing stupid shit and i I know that would never have happened if I was pouring the drinks myself or had none to begin with. Hugely UN-SEXY! Basically i ruined the mood for all involved which was never my intention. We were with a really nice couple who we have had a great time with before and who we are really keen on so I felt terrible the next day and apologised profusely, luckily they were ok (but havent heard from them since, so who knows?!) I will NEVER let that happen again ! Extremely bad experience ! We have a new rule now of 3 drink limit when "partying" and always pour your own . I would be mindful to watch your glass too as when theres a party going on, glasses, clothes and bodies everywhere, you are not really monitoring how much you are drinking cause it can get a bit wild with the whole "whats yours is mine thing" - you can take a sip here and a sip there and not realise you have finished your own and a bit from everyone elses glass too. And make sure there is plenty of water handy to replace all that horisontal working out ! Anyway, always a personal choice- but always better being able to remember the kinky fun you had the night before, not to mention the details of every sensation ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'neptune_drift'It doesn't happen very often, but by the gods there's something electric about wanton dionysian abandon! Boozed up and boisterous. Disgraceful, messy, unco-ordinated, flailing, droopy, giggly sex, where you roll around and one of you kicks over the half-glass of red from the bedside table, and you howl in laughter through black-stained teeth (and later, at black-stained carpet)! "Uhrmmm... what are you doing?""Ungh... I'm riding you like the wildcat you are, baby." "You realise it's not actually in? That's my thigh." "...!" Sure, not usually the bedside manner I'd bring along to a playdate, but occasionally it's fun to unchain the inner hedonist and get destructive! Waking up to that god-awful stench with a pounding headache, unidentified bruises, missing shoe, and the hazy yet smugly-satisfied knowledge that last night was fucked up, you know that you're alive*! If you can't enjoy the odd hilarious booze-addled romp then you're doing it wrong. *Admittedly you then stand up too fast, wince, and wish you weren't.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think having 3 or 4 is fine :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sometimes it's good sometimes not , I don't think being totally munted is good but then again had some pretty funny sessions with the wife like this , but in general I think being a bit pissed is ok , I don't suffer from any lack of hardness , in fact it makes me horny and hard as hell , I also last a lot longer , So for me having a few drinks mixes well with sex it is also nice to have sober sex
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RHP User
13 years ago
Statistically the later in the evening 2 individuals meet somewhere for food or drinks the more likely of there being sexual intercourse. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
When I saw this topic I was about to dig out my previous post, but then saw this was actually the same resurrected thread. My position remains the same, so I'll just let my that post and my profile pic speak for me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'neptune_drift' Sure, not usually the bedside manner I'd bring along to a playdate, but occasionally it's fun to unchain the inner hedonist and get destructive! Waking up to that god-awful stench with a pounding headache, unidentified bruises, missing shoe, and the hazy yet smugly-satisfied knowledge that last night was fucked up, you know that you're alive*! If you can't enjoy the odd hilarious booze-addled romp then you're doing it wrong. *Admittedly you then stand up too fast, wince, and wish you weren't. What he said, and welcome back Mr Drift. Speaking of positions, I certainly hope to wake up tomorrow in exactly that one. But with a missing stiletto boot instead.
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RHP User
13 years ago
When i said to the gentleman concerned....."You'll have to be on top cos i know i'll fall off!" I may have been slightly under the influence .........
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Lifes_great
13 years ago
Alcohol and bad decisions......always been a recipe for getting lucky!
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RHP User
13 years ago
No unexplained (nor explained) bruises this morning, but I did throw out my hip.
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RHP User
13 years ago
A tall slender brunette I dated 3 years ago... much Jack Daniels an 80's karaoke DVD and some funny costumes :) Without alcohol..... Highly unlikely Although the possum that crashed the party was probably sober
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RHP User
13 years ago
when the wine bottle's empty you can use it for other purposes
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RHP User
13 years ago
And then this big bruise just appeared on my chest.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'd still be a virgin......'nough said.
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RHP User
13 years ago
A little bit of alcohol can definitely enhance the experience....... champagne isn't called leg opener for nothing
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Lifes_great
13 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23'when the wine bottle's empty you can use it for other purposes I'm so going to your parties
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