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Don't get angry just go to parties
October 10 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
Good for you Chrisjm!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes Chrisjm, Thats what we have decided to do, not so much for the aspect of not being able to meet other couples privately, just after finding i too difficult to and time consuming to go through the process of meeting other couples, making sure we both like them and they both like us, etc etc. Also after attending a party, we like the voyeuristic atmosphere of it, and lets face it, if we don't click with another couple we have ach other to play with!
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RHP User
14 years ago
thats really kind of you to think of other membershow did you find out about these?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thanks RuleBreaker, I appreciate the compliment. I know just how difficult it is for some people to meet others. There is no point in getting angry and sending abusive emails women wo don't reply or won't meet you. It is not going to get them to change their mind. If people don't like you, they don't like you, move on and get over it. If you have a look in the events section for the city in which you live, you will see the private house parties listed there. View the party details and if you like what you see, put yourself on the guestlist and the party host will contact you later with the details. If you need to know anything else, just send me a message. I went to a party last Friday organised by a group from Brisbane who hold parties in Sydney at least twice a year. I had a great time and you will too if you respect others. I am going to the Gold Coast next month for a week. I am going to wait until they organise their next party in Brisbane and i am going to be there. Can't wait.
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RHP User
14 years ago
And there is no guarantee at parties either. People are still VERY picky at parties. When we used to go i had a lot of fun but said no thank you a hell of a lot too. I saw a lot more women i fancied than guys.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Absolutely ChrisJM, totally agree...I much rather the social evenings etc etc.... You can willingly go to the functions/parties/anything and feel no pressure...the good thing is, everyone else is there for the same reason..Stacks of fun and great friendships can be built. Cheers to you!!! xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree with you all. You all have made valid points. The party I went to last Fridat had 5 women attend, and I only got t play with 2 so there are no guarantees of course and no means no so backoff gracefully if it happens.But I think people are more likely to play at parties because they can see who they are paaying with and feel more secure because they are in public so to speak. At the same party, there was a couple there in the early 30's. I asked the husband if I could join in with a couple ot the other guys that were playing with his wife and he said OK. We had a play and I made sure that she was comfortable on the bed. When we finished we had a bit of a chat and moved on. About 20 minutes later to my pleasant surprise, she asked me if I wanted to play again which I did. We were joined on the bed by others and jhad a great time. When I left, I thanked her for letting me play and she said I was a sweet guy. I was really chuffed. A little respect goes a long way. Thanks BlackStilletoes for the positive comments. I actually met you a few years ago at a meet and greet night in Parramatta. Regards All Chris XXXX
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RHP User
14 years ago
And not just for swingers. If you have an interest in BDSM I always recommend a play party as an introduction. It's a good way to dip your toe in the water without getting too wet. I met my partner at a play party.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am not into BDSM at all and I can't really see myself getting into it. However I respect the right of others to enjoy their sex anyway they want to. Whatever turns you on. Play parties are good starters and a way of breaking the ice. The problem for first timers is to come to terms with being naked in front of other people and having sex with other people watching, some who are fully clothed. It took me a while to pluck up the courage to go to parties because of those reasons, but once there, I couldn't believe how easy it was and how comfortable I felt. You just get caught up in the moment and you can't help but want to join in.
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RHP User
14 years ago
It's lovely reading such a positive outgoing post! Congrats. Yes I thought it was you although didn't mention it, because I didn't want to be mistaken! You do bring a lovely friendly element to the room and I am so pleased you are "out there" and enjoying life. I call it Living with a captial L.. xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thanks for the compliment, I really appreciate it. I love reading comments from the regulars such as yourself, Meeks, Stalky and others. It feels like one big happy family. I try to be positive when I can and while not beating my own drum, I believe that I am a friendly guy who is easy to get along with and I like meeting people in these situations. I have received some very positive comments from people at the parties that I have attended which is very encouraging. Over the years, I must have sent messages to somewhere between 50 to 100 women and I have never had a positive rsponse. Women are spoilt for choice and they will always find someone younger, fitter and more appealing, so I have resigned myself to the fact that I will never meet anyone privately. While reading a lot of the forums, I notice that this happens to a lot of guys, some who are younger, slimmer and fitter than me, so I suppose there are a number of reasons why certain guys can't attract women and it is not always appearance. We must learn to realise that it is not personal and to get over it and move on. There is no point taking out your frustations on women who won't meet or reply to messages, they are not going to change their mind. In fact it will discourage them from replying at all to anyone that they won't meet. I am trying to get other guys to realise that there are more benefits to this site than trying to meet someone privately. The attitude of people at a party is totally different to someone you are trying to meet privately. If you treat people with respect at a party, you will get to play with people that you would never meet privately and the experience is unbeliveable and very satisfying. To be quite honest, I don't think I will ever send another message to a woman asking for a private meet, those days are well and truly behind me. Party time, bring it on.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Agree totally that abuse is just wasted energy. However, the majority of private parties I've seen appear to have a strict "no single guys" rule and the attitudes that go with it. Point in case, a playmate of mine (now more than that) was invited to one, she wrote and asked if she could bring me and attend as a couple. We chose not to put up a couples profile for now. The response was as though shed asked to take a crap on their table and feed it to them with a spoon. "NO single men blah blah" plus some other stuff not worth repeating. Youd think being a single man out there was the same as having a sixth finger or some disease. Perhaps they should remember their partners were single men once also.. Kudos to those that do invite single men. Particularly CI who's attitude is refreshing in comparison to many others.
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RHP User
14 years ago
brisguy, I agree with you totally and there seems to be a lot more parties in Sydney that cater for single guys than anywhere else. Adult dating sites are very difficult for single men and I have no time for people who discriminate against us. The party I attended last Friday was actually organised by a group from Brisbane who organise parties in Brisbane every month and in Sydney twice a year. Mate, I had a ball and I am going to Brisbane for their next party in November. Their profile on RHP is 'welovegangbangs". Send them a message and ask them to put you on their mailing list. I might even see you there. Good luck.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Agree Brisguy, single gents get a bad wrap and it is so sad, i wonder what they do when they go on trains or public transport and there are single guys there...must be scary for them all..lolWe have now done our singles nights fortnightly at the club and we always welcome single guys on a Friday night to CI.( Just register on the event with a face picture and you are in)Our patrons love our single guys and come to the club to meet them.But i think it has a lot to do with the fact that we select them for Friday's parties.Having said that the Singles nights ( we saw the need for them to have their own night ) , Guys just turn up ...you are welcome always, but be quick as we limit the numbers at the door and we would hate you all to miss out, we limit the number to match the ladies that are on venue. We open at 7pm on each second Thursday the next one is 20th...Guys $50 each...Gals $20....a great night and we have a DJ on too.Singles are awesome and everyone is usually looking for one...whether it be single female or singe male...Couples International.Bryan, Leesa and John
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RHP User
14 years ago
couplesinternational, congratulations and well done. You must be the only club that I know of that holds parties for singles. I do visit Queensland at least once a year and I would love to go, but unfortunately, I am too old to attend. Keep up the good work.
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RHP User
14 years ago
its ok so i am i..lolLeesa
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RHP User
14 years ago
Does that mean that I can attend even though the preferred age group is 20 to 45? I would love to attend. Regards Chris
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RHP User
14 years ago
No sorry i would never take your money as the ages that attend would not suit you sorry, It is not about money , but about supplying a venue for a much needed secton of the lifesytle.Hope you understand as we know you would just waste your money if you were to be allowed to enter and that is not what we are about.So sorry we may do one for over 45 guys one day, but our times are limited as we work too much.Guys and Gals dont forget, no bookings just turn up and have a great night out meeting other singles,, the next one is this Thursday 20th October and we cant wait to see you all there again!Leesa
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RHP User
14 years ago
Do you really not cater for the over 45's CI?? Isnt that a bit strange considering you are both 47 & 59 so technically you guys shouldnt even be there lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
We are talking for the SINGLES night ONLY! And yes we should be there we run the club to make sure it is safe and secure.The age limit is for the single guys on a SINGLES NIGHT!!!!!! not every night..lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
I will say it again!, why would be take your money if we know you wont fit in.....simple, but if you want us to take your money and for you to have a bad night cause you dont fit in....well i suppose something could be arranged. I know i would not go to a party that was not suitable to me and i would thank the people who held the party for being honest enough and not money hungry enough to take it if they knew.Leesa
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sorry i pushed enter before i finished, Kate you say on your profile you only want guys 28-34 and you are around the age that attends our singles nights. SO i suppose i dont need to say anymore .Have a great dayLeesa
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RHP User
14 years ago
As a single woman, I am looking for single guys and it amazes me that there is a common theme through these sites that bag out the single guys. I have to keep swatting the married guys away even though it is stated on my profile that single guys are my preference...please be kind to them, and everyone else on here. single guys are LOTS of fun ! I do try to reply to peoples messages but truesly i am swamped by so many and after reading 4 or 5 words in a message, you flick to the next one until there is a decent message to read that makes you stop and want to find out about the person behind the message.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Agree singles guys that we have meet here at ci are awesome!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
thanks for the heads up 99% of emails dont get replied back , and its all polite , not like all the other shit and pics dont do anyone justice , its in the flesh that counts
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