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November 09 2009

There's something about the presumed anonymity of the internet that enables us to talk about stuff we might only discuss with our closest confidant.... or not at all.   It's certanly worked that way at least for me, and I've managed to openly discuss very private stuff that I've never told anyone face to face. Baggage I've been carrying around for what seems like my whole lifetime has been aired in a public forum, using a pseudonym and an unrecognisable avatar... lolz not here on RHP obviously... I mean, it really is a secret.... but the relief I got from sharing it with other people who held the same dirty little secret was extraordinarily rewarding and I know that it changed my life. That's why I'm the dirty little fukr I am today. :p   The interesting thing about it is, then meeting people in the "real world" who know your dirty little secrets. There's an instant connection and understanding, a different conneciton to the one you have with your "real world" friends. On line you might only see facets of people's personalities, but you can see deeply personal facets that form a bond like no others can.... and it's addictive, I think.   Obviously the internet changes the way we communicate with others. Has it unlocked any doors in your personality?   Hugs Gazza

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Gaz, how did you know I used to live in Holland?? Seriously though you are right. Humans are made up of different elements. We have an intellectual side, emotional side, spriritual side and sexual side. If you take out any of these, the person is not a whole being. I have found that friends with whom I can discuss sexual things with, i feel closer to and I seem to trust more. With other friends, I can't discuss everything, and I always feel like there is a barrier there to a degree, and I find I am not letting my true being through. That is not to say that when I am with the friends I am open with that I am constantly discussing sexual stuff. I just feel closer to them in general, and yes, I guess the internet has unlocked doors in my personality and I am therefore able to take that out into the real world!!!!!!!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    The internet has definitely opened up some doors in my personality.  More precisely, RHP.  If it wasn't for RHP, I would not have met some of my closest friends, had some bloody marvellous sex, cringed through some hideous experiences, opened my mind to swinging (and now can't imagine life without it), and most of all, met Speed.  Quite literally, this place has changed my life.  I'm just very thankful I've had such a positive experience.   Trixie.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Yes, it has happened to me that I've been very honest on line with certain people and then met them and felt so liberated and free that they know so much about me. It's great to be able to be yourself and have people accept you for you. It's a fantastic feeling!   And taking a risk in my "real" life recently, I let a couple of my kinky things slip to a girlfriend I've known for years... and discovered a very kinky kindred spirit indeed! Yay! :P

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Gaz - have always enjoyed reading your perspective. I have found facets of my personality have been bought to the fore simply by being able to reveal myself (online) in ways I would normally not do in real life or with my circle of friends / family. I have also discovered a lot about myself sexually, and begun to enjoy experimenting and learning about what turns me on. Customer69 - your post explains it well. I also love being able to flirt, chat, share experiences without fear of being judged by people around me (not overly worried whether an avatar likes me or not).

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    No, it hasn't made a difference.  I've almost always been brutally honest, open and frank, regardless how personal or taboo the topic, or who I happen to be talking to at the time, friends, aquaintances, colleagues, a random stranger sitting next to you on the tram whom one strikes up a conversation with.   It makes me so thankfull having liberal parents, whom I was always free to discuss any issues or topics, to not fear what other people think, to be honest to yourself and others and to do what makes you happy, not what other people expect of you, but in a responsible manner. To never be ashamed of anything unless one acts in a way that deliberately harms others. To view sex as part of life and an appreciation/love of life, not anything naughty or dirty . And no, I'm not perfect, but I'd like to think I'm a good person, all things considered.   It can be hard, on rare occasions I feel like I'm losing a one man battle against the massive army of conventional expectations, it feels like people want to shackle me when all I want is to remain free and be me. I try not to let it grind me down, but I do have my weak moments. It can also be lonely, because of what I am, intially people don't see me as girlfriend material, I don't fit the old fashioned mould of the "nice" girl one takes home to mum - until they get to know me and are mystified about why I've never had a boyfriend. That's why I was so pissed off in a previous post when someone I valued highly was treated with such disregard over something so trivial as having sex on a first date. In a way, it's a reflection of myself, my friend and I are two similar people.   Being unconventional is both a blessing and a curse.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    We are most definately different people for having spent time discussing in here many things we would not normally discuss with our day to day friends.   That being said, we have made some really great friends through the likes of RHP and online chat... People who we have a special connection with that we can discuss all sorts of subjects that are normally taboo.   With this we are able to grow as people and as a couple.   Our relationship is now stronger than ever before and by choosing to participate in typical RHP activites we have grown as a couple who now communicate far better than we ever had before.   (Not to forget the intimate times we have together are sooooo much more fun... hehe..)   So thank you to all our special friends and hello to all the ones we may meet in the future.   Mr&Mrs Av...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    lol Mikle... after a few drinks I can get a little mixed up too with the "two worlds".. hehe. MY son's 21st for instance all the norty school girl uniforms appeared and .. yep... I got out my wooden spoon... caught myself just in time ..... and spent the evening getting around the party having to spank myself under control.... hehe.   Hugs Gazza

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